What kids can teach adults about asking for help

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What can we learn from children about being better humans their first they loyal to their friends fast to defend quick to apologize to forget. But as past kindergarten teacher always a kindergarten teacher at heart I want to share with you a surprising lesson I learned from them about being asked for help I love human behaviors, how we act differently in different situations and environments in these kid five-year-old's with their adorable cheeks the perfect height to give one morning to an almost a competitive love or high fives were so interesting. My first class was called the Mars Class I attend students and each were so full of character but there's this one kid I'll never forget. Let's call him Sam. Sam behaved like he forgot he was only five he was so independent not only did he know how to tie his shoelaces but he knew how to other his shoelaces to. He also never took home a dirty thermo because he would clean it after his lunch and if something happened and he needed a change of clothes who would do so very quietly discreetly by himself. He didn't ask for help much himself, but he was the one that his classmates went to for help. Above. Things like can help them finish the Kimchi because it's so spicy. He did ally showing any type of affection teachers in came across as the Cold Kit. If you gave him a good morning. Hong roll his eyes and make a funny faces to show discontent but also stand there and wait if you didn't his morning plug. He was so smart and reliable that even forget that he's only five. As a novice teacher I spent a lot of time to come more experienced teachers interacted with their students and I noticed something very peculiar. oftentimes, when Kids Fall Day don't start crying immediately, they stand up puzzled as if trying to make up their mind, you know what just happened is as big of a deal enough for me to cry this is her what's going on. Usually kids will be okay until they love is with adults when that they trust in? No can do something for them. Is Lock then Bieber stabbed in tears? When I noticed this I so wanted to happen to me because to me that meant you had earned a kids trust and had proven that you're capable to help them with anything you are a hero to them. Week spent by of me just watching other teachers have kids run to them in tears in I'm watching in. Jealousy. Oh. Was I jealous of course I didn't want the kids to fall, but I really wanted that moment of validation that yes I had earned a kids trust enough to be the one to help them. Then it finally happened. It was a beautiful day. It was during recess at the indoor playground. The kids were playing in getting something slamming needed because teachers are forever limiting stuff in the teacher's room next door. Then I heard a kit yell teacher teacher Seinfeld down. So I went out to Pique Look Darren for Sam and there he was looking very puzzled as if he was trying to add double digits then he looked at me are is locked and then it happened his lower lip started to tremble at his tiny is starting to fill with tears. Then he bursts out in tears running towards me and it was glorious. I'll never forget that moment he let me give. Him a big hug into help him come down and turns out that yes he did trip over his own two feet. So there was one other four to reprimand. We check to make sure that he wasn't hurt and he overcame that with not a burns. It was in that moment Ali it didn't feel that I was there to help. Sam but rather he was giving me this gift this opportunity to help him. It is something very weird that I struggle putting down in words with his former ability in coming to me for help as if I could do something about it, you would think that gives me power but in that moment, no, it was quite the opposite and the power shift even more so to him. Being. Asked for help is a privilege a gift for you to do something for someone especially when it's coming from their place of Boehner Ability. With everything I learned from kindergarten or in teaching kindergarten, I went to conquer things in life festival were nine years and I landed in an association for project. Management professionals in a role that works extensively with volunteers. Working volunteers is a wonderful experience but there are some things I wish I had been warned about like how to set boundaries. It's very easy to fall into the rabbit hole of because they're volunteers late night calls. Yes. Because they're volunteers have day jobs, business trips that are almost exclusively only on weekends yes. Because they're volunteers have day jobs. Not. To Pat Myself on the back but I got quite good at my job as thriving off their relationships building. And the best way I knew how to judge whether I earn someone's trust was if they would come and ask me for help I loved it.

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