A highlight from Brooke Shields on Learning To Compartmentalize


I was going to have to. I'm Carly Zac and I'm Danielle weissberg. Welcome to 9 to 5 ish with the skin. We've run into so many questions over the years and had so many moments where we needed advice and we got it from women who'd been there. And that's what we're bringing you at this show. Each week we're helping you get what you want out of your career by talking to the smartest leaders we know. Because we know your work life is a lot more than 9 to 5. All right, let's get into it. Today, our guest is Brooke Shields. She has been a household name almost since birth from doing her first commercial at 11 months old to a Calvin Klein genes campaign at 14. She achieved notoriety through blockbuster movies in the 1980s, like the Blue Lagoon and endless love. Since then, Brooks becoming a Broadway actress starred in sitcoms and TV dramas, written two books and raised two daughters. And now, she is starring in and producing the upcoming Netflix Christmas movie a castle for Christmas. Brooke, we are so excited to have you. Welcome. Oh, thank you. Thank you for welcoming me. So before we get into the conversation, we like to warm up. We're going to do a lightning round. Quick questions, quick answers. Let's do it. What is a secret hobby or skill that you have? My secret hobby is needlepoint. Oh, that's a really good one. I am needle pointing a backgammon board. Like I have to be on the set doing something like some kind of craft or something. Okay. What is the last show that you binge watched? Oh, I haven't seen it, but I heard I would really like it. Oh, please, Rhonda walk. Okay, my next question, you have starred in many things that are beloved shows and movies of mine. But one of my most favorite roles you've done is when you were on Broadway and you played Rizzo in Greece. Oh my goodness. How old were you? You must have been a baby. I was a child, but I remember vividly. What is your favorite line or song from Greece? There are worse things I could do. Fair. When was the last time you negotiated for yourself? About 20 minutes ago. Where did you negotiate? I negotiated someone's fee for a perspective job. How does taking time to slow down fuel you to move forward? I never slowed down in my life till more recently in the past few years. And the fuel that I get from just doing something healing for myself sometimes that can just be hanging out with a friend or watching movies or doing something where there's where the regular noise is stopped. I find that I reemerge from that even stronger and more powerful. I just it's almost like that time the energy starts and it starts building up. Okay, we're going to move into the meat of our show. You started working when you were you couldn't even walk. You were less than a year old. And then you became famous as a teenager. You've talked a lot publicly about what your family dynamic was and what a unique childhood you had. But what was your support system? How did you basically stay normal? There's a few elements that I think my mother set in motion. She never moved us out of the east coast. We never went and moved to Hollywood and pursued all of that, which is rushing to high school and basically only being educated onset. And I think that even just that element for sure gave me a perspective and a more grounded way of being in the world. And when that's all you know, regular great schools, regular high schools. I think you really do have an understanding that the world you may inhabit at certain times is not real. It's just not your real world. It's kind of crazy. It is something that you can go in and out of to a certain extent. And the other piece is my mom always made sure I had someone my own age around me. So I always had a partner in crime. You know, I never felt like I was the only kid in a sea of adults. And my parents never spoke ill of the other. I mean, they got divorced when I was 5 months old. My father's family is so the opposite of any way that I grew up with my mother or my working life. And I was talking about this today, I've got this movie coming out and it's coming out the day after Thanksgiving. And everybody in my life outside of my family, they're all going to watch it. And I know for a fact that I'm going to get to my family in Florida. And it's not even going to be mentioned. And it's funny because my feelings aren't hurt or anything, but that's how I grew up. My youngest sister grew up with not an inkling of what I did. And it wasn't until she got much older and friends of hers would say things like that's your sister. And it's so interesting that sort of power of that kind of compartmentalizing. And sometimes it's not good, but it really served me. You know, I'm going to go down to be like, no one's going to watch my movie, but it's okay. Well now because they're going to listen to this podcast. No, but it's like, you know, and I never hurt my feelings that actually just helped me understand that, you know, it's not everything. It's not the only thing. And if I sat and said my sister down and said, look, this is really important to me. Please watch it. They would watch it. You know, it's interesting. On this show, Danielle and I were cofounders and we're friends and we talk about how unique it is that ten years in, we're sorely friends and cofounders of a business. We've had people on here that also are cofounders and friends or work with family or work with spouses and just kind of the unique dynamic of bringing work home, home to work into your personal life. You and your mom in particular were infamously just this tight type duo for so much of your career where she was your manager. She was with you for all of your early success. I would love to understand how you dealt with that, both the good part and maybe the parts that you're like, I wouldn't repeat. Your advice to those who think about working with family or working with those kind of closer to them. You know, I think it's always brought no matter how you look at it and boundaries are the most important thing. On the one hand, I think family you can trust more than anybody. Friends, family. On the other hand, if money is involved, that's when it gets tricky. I think full communication has to happen. I was very enmeshed with my mom. I knew nothing other than being in this industry that I was in kind of it happened to both of us and not knowing any other way in hindsight. I think it would have been healthier to have a bit more of a delineation between my professional life and my mom, however the way she protected me in an industry that basically devours its young. You know, I never had a me too moment when all the other young people were, you know, I was she was so avaricious sleep

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