There Is Always Enough Love to Go Around

Morning Mantra
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Coach Sarah and this is the morning mantra. Hi My name is Sarah Axelrod. I'm run poach and a lover of poetry RETREA and I'm here to put the fun back in profundity. You don't have to be an athlete to be Hashtag coached and loved and if you need an anchor to hold onto as you move through a tough situation you've come to the right place. Last year. I published a mantra about the amount of love. I have to go around. There is always enough and I never want you or or anyone else in my life to forget that or cease to believe it. But if you need reassurance I get I used to believe a lot of things about love including the idea that needing it made made me lesser that asking for it diminished its value when I did receive it having to ask someone to remind me that they loved me. Felt like an admission of weakness and I was determined Herman to radically eight that weakness. It's been a long time since I really saw that assumption for what it was the product of pain and loss and need that did absolutely not make week or broken but actually untying the not that I tied myself into has been a much longer process and it is ongoing recently though perusing using one of my usual advice columns. I found myself reading these words. You are central Theresa whether you're aware of it or not was that emotion itself is weakness and that all things that blossomed from emotion our intern week or diluted were broke. Yeah you're right. Heather have released. It was my central precept for a long time. I was drawn to people who didn't seem to need anything. I wanted so much to be like them. I thought that if I tried hard enough to just grow my shell it would work. I wouldn't care about hearing the words I love you. They're just like words and words are cheap. Actually actually emotional. Distance was a sign of respect. A sign that this person looked at me and saw their equal similarly emotionally needless human woman. Yeah couldn't keep up that charade for very long and here's why I started making friends with people who express love and affection friends. WHO said I I love you? Who hugged gratuitously? Who helped space for me and cared about my feelings a lot that love the willingness with which it was given made me feel safe and hearing that I was loved even when I already knew it especially when I already knew it matter I used to hear and believe that if you say I love you too much the words lose their meaning meaning well not yet but I'll call you if it happens? My daughter for a three month period last year would ask me to read the same story to her over and over over again. This was before we discovered frozen called. I'll always love you by painting. Lewis and penny is a little bear. Breaks his mom's favor bowl and is immediately lately. Jittery about how she will react so before she sees the broken bowl he finds her. He snuggles up and he asks whether she hypothetically would still love him mm-hmm if he did something bad she replies without giving it a thought. I'll always love you. So he gives her a for instance would if he paints all over his baby sister. What if you punctures every pillow in the house their response is always the same? I will always love you and you're going to have to clean your shit up but it begins with that constant. I will always always love you. I suspected from the beginning that my daughter was requesting the story over and over again as a way of broaching the same question with me without having to ask me outright and then we haven't read it in a while it's refrain has remained an anchor for which she returns to when she hears a weary or corrective tone for me. But Mommy. Do you still love of me or more adorable. Are you still my loving mother. And the thing is that when she asks me. There's no need to think about what my response will be. And even though I'm not about to be completely redirected but ever I say next we'll begin with. I'll always love you and to get the

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