'Dude, I'm Done': When Politics Tears Families And Friendships Apart

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Now you have likely seen it or felt it yourself. Now A recent survey shows how the nation's bitter political divide is taking a toll on friendships as NPR's Tuvia Smith reports with political polarization hitting a fever pitch. Even decades long relationships are caving under the pressure. It's been happening everywhere on social media, and in really life did straight up there. Dude, I'm done Lose my number that Shimada Davis from L. A. I just hung up on my end, and I proceeded to just block them in every possible way. Joanie Jensen from New York. I hate families, everything but I just don't know and Ricardo de Forest from Florida, there among the many Americans dumping friends over politics. It's one thing to disagree about tax policy, says Davis. But this is deeper. It's about morality and justice. As a black man. He says he simply could not abide his friend of 25 years down playing police brutality. It's like if this is your attitude. I don't respect you. Now I don't because people are really dying. It's also that kind of moral absolute to Jensen, retired professor and sexual assault survivor who cut off a friend of 40 years who was being cavalier about the allegations against Trump's then Supreme Court nominee Brett Kavanaugh. He was going off flight. Oh, you drank the Kool Aid Cabin on boy. He didn't do anything. I said if this is his core ethics, I don't want that kind of person in my life Conservatives, Of course. Khun B. Justus, quick to spurn the liberals in their lives who clashed with their core values like life or the biggie for Ricardo de Forest Liberty. They sold our country out. This election is about the soul of what America is. He can be a free country. Andy, a socialist state to forest, a 61 year old steelworker cut off several cousins who he calls hard core Trump haters all they can do it. From the races on man bed on man raises, you know, blowing spittle in and veins popping out of their heads Yolk soy Latino, But I guess I'm some sort of horrible races because I like Trump. Ridiculous. We are seeing more political polarization today than at any point in modern history. Jocelyn Kiley, with the Pew Research Center says about 80% of Americans now have few or no friends across the aisle, and the animosity goes both ways. Democrats are a little bit more likely to say they'd end a friendship. But Republicans, maybe a little bit less likely to say they have friends on the other side, so it may not be all that differential. Everybody is doing this Tania Israel The University of California psychology professor runs workshops on cross the aisle conversations, she says. Both sides have big blind spots when it comes to the morality of their own side, and they all view themselves as eminently fair. And right. When I say all these things, I think I found fairly reasonable and see the other side as irrational. Just something wrong with these people. Whether conservatives like the forest or lefties like Joni Jensen, I said, Oh, my God, he really is brain. Wass. Everyone Tanya, Israel says could use a little more intellectual humility were flattening people out, you know, in terms of our view of them and not really seeing the full complexity of people on the other side. It's exactly what Georgia truck driver Jon Langford says his brother who's gay did to him. He went off on the sand. Essentially, I'm a racist and a homophobe. Just because I'm a trump supporter, knowif stands or butts. Ain't completely cut me out of his life, Langford says he's trying to not do the same and toe hang onto his friends. On the other side. I could assume that anybody that supports Biden is a firm believer that it's okay to murder a baby, but I don't From the other end of the political spectrum. Connecticut business consultant Jeff Maren Steen is also straining to stay friends with some trump supporters. Despite all the invective and insults, you know you live They're all the same or these ad hominem attacks. Maren Steen no longer talks to some of them with others. He just doesn't talk politics. It just feels like the healthiest thing for me to do at the moment. But, you know, I suppose the risk is that I'm just retreating into my own information bubble with people who think just like me. Indeed, experts say more conversation, not less is what's needed to heal the

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