Bruce, Team Leader, Indiana discussed on Mindfulness Mode
What is your best advice for leaders right now in the business world? Well my best advice is that leaders just need to be there for their people and they need to do whatever they can to help. Their people feel connected to to feel like they're part of a tribe part of a group, and that they're being supportive, because I think more than ever in our society, a lot of people actually when you get talking to them they. They feel alone. They feel isolated, and I think that it's so important that we make sure that's not the case in whatever company you're in whatever team of people you're leading, you want to make sure that people feel connected and that they're able to share and that they're. They're feeling comfortable, being vulnerable at times, and they're not going to get knocked down, you know. So good, and you know it's. It's interesting to me. you know I've been in the business world for a long time, and I know a lot of leaders and CEOS I'm amazed though at how many do not have a coach. And it affects them. I can almost tell who's being coached, and WHO's not. Based on their performance and their behavior and how they think. So I just think what you do is such an incredibly valuable service to our society. You an idea of. Who is somebody? Maybe you've helped? Were you know? That really did quite well. Well let me think about that for minute. Yeah, coached quite a number of people now. This woman comes to mind. She was in her mid thirties very successful. If you if you talk to her at a at a networking in Vander. Something like that you, you just think man. She's just got the world by the tail. She's put together. She's now in her case she was. A leader of about thirty people at our office, she works for a company in Indiana, she they have around eight hundred employees, and so she's got about thirty people that work under her. She's a team leader and so we started. In a coaching relationship where she started telling me about some of our biggest challenges, she just felt like she wasn't connecting with her people. She felt. So much. And frustration and this feeling of overwhelm that she wasn't doing her job. Right like she said to me, she actually she said she says I just feel like an imposter in my own company like I I'm just not really doing my job, but yet when I get my reviews, you know I'm getting good solid reviews, but I just feel like I could be doing a lot better and and I. have this. This incredible pain connected with with what I do, and I don't understand what that pain is all about and. So we got working together and after eight months of coaching, she, you know we were in a coaching session and she said Bruce I. Look back at my notes from the first session and she said I couldn't believe some of the the way I was feeling because I've almost forgotten. And she said I just now I feel so happy and I have a sense of satisfaction for the work that I'm doing. And she had been telling me that it had just been her birthday, and her team had put together a surprise luncheon for her, and she felt so loved and appreciated, and she said looking back. This connection all happened because of the work we did together. She said you know I I didn't realize what I needed to do to move forward and that I wasn't truly connecting with people and one of the things. She said she says Bruce. You are such an incredible listener. and. I know people have said that to me before because sometimes I. Don't say as much just I'm listening and I'm like that on the podcast you know I ask you a question and then I listen, listen listen. That's what really helped her. One of things I love about you. Bruce as I consider you a gentle giant. You're very gentle in Megan Spirit, but you're a giant in the effectiveness and the results that you can produce for people for leaders just like that. Something you said in there, too I find quite curious. It's you know people are feeling like an impostor. They typically call that imposter syndrome. Is that right? Yeah, that's right. Yeah and Man What a struggle! I've gone through it. You know there's been many times who am I to be running this big. who had to meet with this certain person and you know we often a lot of comes from small towns with small minds and stakes with us, even as progress in life, so what are some? What are some ways or maybe some thoughts on helping people through that imposter syndrome? Because really it's a self esteem issue, isn't it? Yeah, it really is. It really is and I. The first thing that I teach people is where they're at right now. WHERE THEY WANNA go, and then I teach them how to listen so that they can hear what those voices are in their head. You know you need to be able to be aware of what those negative voices really are. Because some people kind of get the feeling that you know that's voices, they're, but they're not really. They don't have clarity about it, so I teach people how to notice it. And then how to do something about it, and so that's the most important first step is to notice it and become a just a better listener of your own thoughts. Yeah and I know you've got all kinds of different processes methodologies to make all this happen. It's fascinating what you do because I know as a leader of always had a coach in my life in one way, shape or form. One of the most important things is if I have a coach I know that I'm going to have a sounding board. I know that I'm going to have somebody that I.