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Nearly thirty percent since nineteen ninety nine in this blessed America, there are now more than twice, as many suicides in the United States has homicides involve drugs, drinking or depression, losing a job, a loved one or stress but experts say there is no one two or ten causes have story today to begin a series of reports about some of the people touched by suicide. Hello. All right. Thanks. A new shift begins at uconn goes northside, fourteen at least district blue uniform should under bright white lights to hear. The latest alerts about robberies and other crimes. I eight as you guys work other Dan branch relief department chaplain speaks software coworker. Numale don't hesitate Trump. All right. Bless you work. Thanks. Seven at Chicago police officers who've taken their own lives in the past twelve months. Branco out to crime scenes station houses. If officers feel the need to talk to apprec-, if not a therapist across the country, at least one hundred fifty nine officers died by suicide in two thousand eighteen there is a nationwide to secure maybe aware of says, father brand that police officers twice as likely to take his or her own life as they are to be killed by aggressor, which thinking that's an alarming statistic. We've met with the group before women from different parts of America who care, a solemn sorrow h was married to a police officer who took his life. Christian Clifford's husband was officer, Stephen Clifford of the Nassau County, New York police just got the puppy. They look forward to having children one day, and may twenty seventeen. He wasn't responding to her text messages. So she drove home and I went inside, and I saw on a bunch of notes on his police identification, his driver's license everything lead out, very neatly methodically, and I ran down the hallway to our bedroom, and the door was closed, and it was a note on it. That said, I did it do not enter call nine one malicious Wales was married to officer David Swail for the Los Angeles Police Department. They had four sons. David Swailes had symptoms of post traumatic stress from his time in the US navy and their youngest son's second birthday, Melissa's Wales came home and found her husband behind their bathroom door. I remember just screaming over and over. I can't I can't. I can't Aaron Gibson was married to sergeant Clinton Gibson of the liberty lake Washington. Police, they were high school sweethearts. They had four children that even register in my mind that is dead. Nothing makes sense after that. So the cold record had recently, married officer John record of the Asheville North Carolina. Police he was a recovering alcoholic, but he drank the night took his life. She got a phone call from one of his lieutenants, and he goes, well, John is gone, and it appears to be self inflicted. I said, what are you talking about the night before? John and I talked about going to his concert for his favorite band him getting another tattoo. The women were drawn together over the internet because of the loss they still needed mentally share. They say their husbands felt more and more strain on the job police. No. They're not popular in many communities, the national conversation about race and policing has put their actions, under constant scrutiny that man slowly became a different person because of the work that day to day interaction of people yelling at him and calling him names throwing things at him malicious Wales, says her husband would go from one call to the next one crime or trauma to another than watch video from his body Cam at night. Not only did experience day, then you're re-experience it unloading at all. And I remember thinking. Looking at this man thinking, I don't know how you can do this and sadly. After so much time he couldn't Aaron Gibson head to leave her husband because of all the pain he turned on himself us under so much stress at work. So whenever he was home. He was drinking and he drank drank drank until he passed out, and I have memories of him, pacing, the floors, just pacing pacing, pacing back and forth. It was frightening. He never talked to anyone including me about it. And that was the problem, Christian Clifford and her friends say, their husbands, all put on masks to go to work. He was the joke star. He was the happy one. I was just getting messages from one of his co-workers how they still talk about him and how much they miss him because he was just always making them laugh are all our husbands were like there's certain personality. I think it takes to do job. They're very service oriented people, I think, to begin with we've discussed privately like a lot of our husband did suffer a lot of childhood trauma, that I think you've led them to have a good childhood. Right. They want to help families. John put everyone else first police officers. Ultra have the means to end their lives. At their fingertips. Their husbands used to go to use their service weapons. If they had to wait and figure out a way. Maybe they would have changed their minds, but it's right there. And as a mother of four boys that scares me, because our children are more according to research, more likely device aside. So that's always kind of in the back of my mind, because, of course, we're all human, we're going to have those stark times start moments. But. Would rather my kids learn to reach for a phone or feature something else instead of, but they say many police officers won't talk to a counselor therapist priest, even when encouraged by their departments Melissa Swailes says when she suggested it to her husband. I remember he looked at me and said, are you crazy I go to them? Not only could I lose my job. I'm coin to never promote other gonna bench me not to mention my colleagues might my brothers. They're gonna look at me as a liability. Nobody's gonna wanna work with me through their loss and grief. The women have grown to feel police commanders should speak openly about their own metal struggles and encourage officers to seek regular metal counseling they're all struggling and sorry. But anyway, any says are not they're lying to themselves like they're all dealing with something. Right. So they make it a normal thing, and it's okay to talk about it, then then they would all talk about it just like you would go qualify, right? All of our husband had to qualify monthly to shoot. Maybe that's just a normal thing, not because you're no you're not fit for duty. It's just because it needs to become a normal part of their culture and their teen. Their daily weekly you, I've now receive services from the police department, but I'm just like gosh darn it, it should be it should have been. You the four friends of spoken and checked on each other every day for two years. But this was the first time that ever actually met the market. All right. Where.

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