Amanda, New York Times, Johnny discussed on Overnight Talk
If you're worried about how connected your kids might be to their cell phones or tablets, or maybe if you've thinks as much ado about nothing or maybe yourself field, you depend on a little bit more than you. Should you wanna be part? Of the conversation. That's always welcomed here. WBZ? The numbers are six one seven two four ten thirty again, six one seven two five four ten thirty or the toll free number eight eight eight nine two nine ten thirty. That's always a toll free number here. Eight eight eight nine two nine ten thirty. Okay. Johnny. So before the break, we talked a little bit about the article that have been in the New York Times on in mid December. And it was based on a sixty minutes article where they're saying regarding how screen times affect our young minds. The jury is still out and I read a couple of paragraphs it helps us to appreciate that. They're doing some vague research with what they understand may be vague information or input to begin with. But I'm sure you have more thoughts about that. Well, you know from a psychological standpoint. And if you talk to any psychologists or pediatricians or there's lots of different ways of of measuring impact, you know. So from young children developing where now seeing studies you don't have to take a snapshot of their brain. We're seeing kids that are involved with screen time. More are not developing the verbal skills that they did. And they're not hitting those certain marks by meeting certain verbal skills. So we're really having to reevaluate what what are the ages. I mean what's going on here? Now. Sauce skills, you know, being able to interact being able to literally look into another person's face. So the social emotional impact that this is having just because time spent with your face in front of a piece of technology as opposed to your face or your interaction with another human. That's what we're starting to see is having the impact and we're going right up the line here. Now, I work with college kids every day. I mean, I go to schools and high schools and middle schools, and but the statistics now on college kids is this level of relationships. So sex believe it or not between the eighteen to twenty four year old are on a decline relationships are developing everything is sort of staying in this digit. Elise socialized realm. So things are superficial. You're kind of feeling this false sense of connectedness by being home alone. But interacting through social media. So we're not going through the process or through this period in history of digital socialization. We're changing the way that we interact and by changing the way, we interact. It is having these nuanced deficiencies in the human experience and so between building relationships building. Trust building intimacy, human development, social emotional connections being able and then don't forget the the level of trust. And the level of close relationships that you have with the people in your life. That is a direct correlation to your level of mental wellbeing. Your depression? You know, your ability to cope. So, you know, you're not, you know, we're not seeing physiological, you know, research on this. But we're feeling the impact. And they think that's what everybody is saying. We know this doesn't feel right? And so the the term that I'm starting to use more and more now is digital socialization. So we're getting away from the device or the technology itself to be able to talk about the process. This is what your behavior is doing. And this behavior is having this impact on your life. So if even if we just go beyond his heavenly days brain scans, you see so much empirical evidence in this is going off on a tangent. We can come back to a little bit later, but look at the amount of teen suicides contract. Tragic. Cyberbullying because the kids don't know how to either lay off it. Or don't understand the impact they are having. And you know, you gotta wonder after playing hundreds or thousands of hours of video games. The idea of sending a tweet to someone that's going to push them over the over the edge seems almost like make believe in some cases. I don't think they realize the impact on it. But there you've got real empirical evidence where time and time again kids have been driven to the point of no return why because of that negative socializing and the thing is the bombarded by twenty four seven. Twenty four seven and it's not it's not even just this overt cyberbullying. That's that's the blatant example. Right. That's like, that's okay. But it's sort of this. You know, the level of validation where I'm not relevant or it's it's an as self esteem. You know, everybody, we know that you're looking at your peers, and your friends, and you know, you're looking at these pictures, and you know, that their life is not like what they're portraying it to be, but we're just in our human DNA, it is in us to get our cues from other humans. That's how we become a person. And so it's just as chipping away at the self esteem, just gone. I don't look like that. I don't feel like that. The other thing is over sexualization of young teen, girls and Instagram. You know, there's you have eighteen year olds that are going on my God. I'm really concerned about my fourteen year old cousin, you know. That they're. The need for the attention is shifting the behavior to that. I will get the attention that I need because I need to be relevant. I need to be seen. I need to be her. And so, you know, which is pictures, which we had it's really sad. And as we've talked about before that's that's a conversation for another day, which is one of the many reasons why I think that the the Kardashian clan in general is just a paragon of evil, but that's another conversation. I love to get. That's the that's the start of all of this. They have set the standard that everyone is following an and I think the the the damage that they've had irreparable as long as they can put money in the Bank. Let's go to the phone lines. Again, if you wanna be part of the conversation. Always welcome to your six one seven two five four ten thirty six one seven two four ten thirty or eight eight eight nine two nine ten thirty. That's a toll free number eight eight eight nine two nine ten thirty. Amanda inland. Amanda, how are you tonight? Okay. Thank you. Danker your guest. I give her my respect for raising these important, social and emotional issues, and the implications that this digital technology is having on our culture, but especially our young people. And I think experience is that we are really in the middle of a title change for the human race with the addition of so much technology and the reliance apartment, and you both very eloquently talked to the addiction issues, and how you know, where where we're now making up to so that we can relax, and I know there's a psychologist on the north shore who is created an app to help people with anxiety, and that may be very very valuable for for folks. But by the same token being exposed to all of the microwave radiation that's produced by. The phone itself by the wifi by the cell towers is also affecting our physio elegy, increasing our anxiety levels. And so on the the the emotional impact of the technology is absolutely huge. And I wanna thank you for raising that side of it because that's really really important that the bigger issue, would you would you all talked about by raising this thing that we're not talking to each other. We're not having conversations with one another anymore where typing to one another or we're talking to the phone it types. And then send it off. You know, we we've lost, you know, like hugging somebody or you know, heaven forbid. Afraid of. And it's something that I think is been raised. We send we send a hugging emoji. Instead, amanda. Exactly. But the fact the fact that this next generation is been trained and intriguing with this type of socialization. It's in the reliant upon the technology. We're really coming upon this trans humanism wage. And so I wanna thank you for trying to serve humanity as as I've known it because the change is happening happening rather rapidly as your no, yeah. And that's the trick. Here. Amanda is has mentioned many times. It's not a matter of demonizing, the technology, it accomplishes a lot of good things. But it's it's a matter of keeping the technology in check in its place. So we don't lose our humanity. I always laugh there's an Jerry Seinfeld line where he says tweeting is is the web's way of saying I was going to call you. But didn't think you were that important. It almost becomes that. In in. You've said something that I talked about with Jani before how many times have walked into a small restaurant. And it's hysterical to me is just hysterical. And how can the kids not reflect this? When you see the parents doing this? I've walked into small restaurants in literally everyone in the restaurant. Literally, everyone the restaurant is looking at the screen. There's not a single person not looking at their phone. Walk into some of these restaurants. And and there's the danger, and it's just a part again as I is Joanie is so nicely. Verbalizing? I say it takes a while for the culture and the sociology to catch up with the technology. But in the meantime, man, this collateral damage. Yeah. It's socially the collateral damage. One thing John mentioned, I think energy say that there wasn't a physiological evidence to support the dangers of visiting. But there is an eye courage. You to look at the work of Deborah Davis. For example. That there wasn't. I just said in that article they were just sandwich out of the brain by Victoria, dumpy. I mean, there are so many people that are literally tracking the physiological impact. And then the other thing that you mentioned a really good point that you made me think of Amanda is the blue light. Also, I mean, we're narrow we have legislation that is just passing because you can't make you can't. I mean, the retinas are literally being damaged, and we do have some legislation that is passing through the school systems now on limiting screen time throughout the day. So we're making a little waves, you know, in their wherever we can Amanda hit the I hate to do this. I gotta take a break in a very very shortly. Because I'm I'm even I am overdo it, but. You you've made some good points in a and I appreciate the call and keep listening and call again. Thanks so much and everybody look into the wifi issue as well. Oh, yes. Thank you. We'll we make sure we touch on that before we go six one seven two five four ten thirty is the number six one seven two five four ten thirty or eight eight eight nine two nine ten thirty Johnny. You've got people talk, and we have the the phone lines cranked. We just had a call open up only because I let a man to go. We'll take a quick break. And then we'll be back to the conversation and your phone calls here at WBZ..