Mike Carruthers, United States discussed on Something You Should Know
But you ended tone to it, which is a nonverbal. Hi, I'm Mike Carruthers, and that's the difference. So it it's tricky. But what we're talking about is. You're verbal and nonverbal communication and the words may be fine. But you're nonverbal communication can be sending a very different message is kissing ever appropriate anymore. Well, who you talking about at work colleagues if you're interacting with people, and you have relationships with them, and you know, them you may want to hug and kiss them. But the difficulty with that is that you have to use commonsense. And unfortunately, common sense, isn't that common? Because Mike, I may know you, and I've known you for a long time. I see you. I'm going to hug and kiss you. Now, people are going to watch me huggy, kiss you. And now they're going to come over and think that they can hug and kiss me. Now, maybe all right for you. But it's not going to be all right for them. And you've already established a standard that you're hugging and kissing people. So you have to be very careful. There was a young woman who would hug and kiss her customers. And she was an exceptionally attractive young woman, and when she would go to their offices. She would hug and kiss him. And it was fine. But one night she was at a dinner meeting. And she went up to one of her customers and gave him a big hug and kiss in front of his wife was not. Okay. So you have to use some commonsense. Handshaking? What what's the what are the rules for who sets puts their hand out first, and who doesn't and what if they don't and just run through that. I get more questions on the handshake than any topic. I teach there is a new guideline in the workplace today. And that it is we are no longer trying to base decisions on how men and women interact based on gender but much more on rank or host visitor status. So the new guideline is that the high-ranking person should extend his or her hand, I to welcome the other person. But, but, but but it rarely happens because there's so much confusion around the handshake you give the higher ranking person a split second. And I mean, just a split second. And if he or she doesn't extend the hand you have to extend yours. The key is the handshake needs to take place in the US. It is the proper business greeting, and if you want to be taken seriously, you must shake hands and you must shake hands correctly..