Ted Dot Com, Quinn, Cancer discussed on TED Radio Hour
Doctors found out when she was fifteen but they didn't tell her they lied and said that she had cancer because that seemed like an easier option than finding out. She wasn't fully a woman. Kind of thing happens a lot where intersex people are lied to or kept in the dark about our bodies. It's rare to me and intersex person that hasn't been operated on and oftentimes these surgeries are done to improve intersex. Kids lives but they usually end up doing the opposite of causing more harm. Both physical and emotional. I'm not saying that doctors are bad. It's just that we live in a society that causes some doctors to fix those of us who don't fit their definition of normal. We're not problems that need to be fixed. We just live in a society that needs to be enlightened. Emily if you could go back in time what do you wish had been different about the way you were treated as an intersex person? What I really wanted was somebody saying. Hey like this is going to be okay. Like that's not a big deal and it's not my that life changing because that's the thing if they hadn't had all these societal experiences it wouldn't be that big of a deal even with small things like learning at an early age so most people are boys or girls but some people are in between and kind of learning that would have been life changing because it would meant. I belonged somewhere and as a kid. I never really belonged anywhere because I didn't belong with the girls and I didn't belong with the boys because that's all we knew. And so if I had somewhere that I fit in and then I belonged and I didn't just constantly feel like an impostor that would have been huge. You know I was actually there when you gave your tedtalk and I have to say your tone right now is just so different like you were so. Sassy and funny and you were like Yam ballsy and like you know. You can't help but laugh because what you're talking about and there's this moment in the Ted Talk. I remember it so vividly. Your Voice broke and you looked so surprised and you even said I think I didn't think I was going to get emotional and I feel like at that moment. I remember thinking like Oh there's a crack there and I hear it in your voice now and I wonder if that's what's happening as you're exploring that crack and that if that's the case that's sounds like a lot of work you're making me cry now. It's okay yeah I think that's the issue. Is that when you take humans out of the equation especially in a medical capacity leaves a lot of trauma? Unfortunately it's been within the last month that I've started really trying to dive deeper into that trauma and I didn't realize how much I held in my body. It's a lot but I also think like you said the fact that we can sit here and laugh about it. That's massive because for so long I couldn't talk to anyone about it and I'm aware of how much like how awful and how much that hurt and I don't feel that her anymore. Which is really good. And I think that's part of what has come from being able to laugh and talk and be very open. Is You know I was able to go from not tying anyone to shouting on the rooftops and you know like it was just so freeing. Quinn you can find her full talk at Ted Dot Com on the show today ideas on the biology of sex. I'm a new summer ODI and you're listening to the Ted Radio Hour from NPR..