Dr Morris, Anna, Rhode Island discussed on On Point with Tom Ashbrook | Podcasts
And if they aren't ready to note, they are ready. Let's get Anna in here from Warwick, Rhode Island high, and I welcome to the program. Hi, jane. Thank you. Go ahead. So I went to university in the fall of two dozen nine right out of high school, and I kind of just coasted through high school, and I had no real work ethic. But it was one of those, you know, gifted children who was so smart, and I didn't really develop any Bill hardworking skills, and I wasn't very mature enough to go to university. And when I went I I ended up being way out of my depth and developing some substance abuse issues and my first semester. I did. Okay. But due to my substance abuse issues, I actually was sexually assaulted and the second semester. I just I failed all of my classes, and I really wish that my parents had been able to see my grades. I feel like they would have been able to reach out to someone to help me when I had no real support system. I've known Anna. Thank you, Dr Morris. Another example of how parents can be. More involved should be more involved, but often often aren't or can't be right and one of the things I write in my book is how parents can detect if their student is suffering from depression or PTSD after a sexual assault. It is hard to know. But sometimes if students are, you know, seem less joyful, not they're not spending time with friends their grades go down as you mentioned that those are signs, and again having that open dialogue before they go to school is critical and saying you can come to me anytime, you can call me anytime is critical. So what should parents do if their child comes home announces they wanna drop out? What should they do? What should they not do Dr six hundred you first so minutes Kitson, I see who come home and under done by the first semester to want to prove themselves in their parents. They can do it so insists that the that they wanted to the back a second semester. And i've. Gene, virtually nobody to be able to cut a get it together to to emotionally or academically or just image. Image emotional maturity wise to do that quickly. So I think that if kids come home, and that they're basically done or they're overwhelmed. We tweet this as a gap here new we tweet this is let's think of something else to do. Because clearly colleges isn't you're ready for college. I think the kids we should tell kids that only like something like thirty or thirty two percent of the population has a college degree going back a couple earlier caller said I think also we should tell kids that it doesn't seem to matter very much where you go to college interns. Our success? We are how much money are that may make a happier. Yeah. Just an also that so many we should tell kids more about this. The the many successful people in this world who flock staff who didn't go to college who who had late trajectory like many of the callers that they have this idea young people as idea that that the the the path is success is the straight upward climb as just not true for most people Dr Morris. What would you add to that? I have a slightly different twist on this because I working with students who, you know, maybe a billion about college, and I often will bring the parents into the discussion. I think that it's important if someone comes home for thanksgiving or Christmas holiday and says I want to leave school is to for the parents to sit calmly with a student and find out what the problem is. Because there are some problems that are very solvable and might be sadness over break up, which usually people get over. There might be a more.