John Conway, Partner discussed on Fresh Air


Fit into a convention australian marriage john conway was already professional scholar he wasn't somebody who wanted a wife to make comfortable domestic environment for him he wanted a partner in thought of major intellectual tasks and that was a relationship that i thought i could handle i wasn't absolutely certain that i could ever settled into being they helping wife who's always typing her husband's manuscripts and managing somehow or the to create the right environment for somebody else to blossom early on into your marriage you realize that you both had a lot of mood swings you had always had depressions and you realized he had very serious depressions to and you're right about doing some of those depressions he'd become almost unrecognizable quotas though a stranger had replaced my sensitive and loving husband with someone obsessed by demons of rage tormented by suspicion it must have been very unsettling especially early on when when you saw changes like that and on wondered you know who he was becoming well you know i had grown up with a neurotic family and the thing that i think that gave me was the capacity to live through other people's moods and keep my own balance i wouldn't recommend that as good training for anyone but it turned out to stand mean in very good stead and my husband was open and direct about facing the problems he had to deal with with very deep mood swings that when he came out of them we would always be able to analyze what had happened and i gradually learned that at the at those points i just had to wait for him to reappear as his usual positive and constructive so that you know we all managed to live with somebody with acute physical ailments and those problems of emotional swings are no different he had shock treatments during one bout of depression what were the effects of that.

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