Turchin Keiko, Keiko discussed on Dave Ramsey


Of canceled plans you and I talked about this in a different light about four five weeks ago it's if it went up when people have real problems like losing their job and they're you know they're struggling literally to put food on the table it is hard for some people on how to say me to grieve not getting to go on a vacation I was promised you know I was supposed to be interaction Keiko's and I was pretty pissed about not getting to go to Turchin Keiko's syntax stuck sickness to this you know but you know but it's it's it's really feels inside of me uncool to be whining about that when there's people really got real problems you know it's like first world problem not shut up no that's like a one percenter problem so really shut up you little whiner that's what goes through my head and yet it is really good you what you're suggesting is with this disappointment this article and disappointment of cancel plans just it's actually valid for me took to grieve not getting to go on a trip I was excited about one of the worst things we've done as a society is to set up grief comparisons that my grief is more important in your skin we use it two ways I'm aiming each other and ourselves yeah yeah I'm touching myself but other people Jamie Doggett I'll get hate mail food but I just didn't hear that that's right in someone else's gonna sing you hate mail because I think it's going to make themselves feel better just not now and so when I think man I for the first time M. Easter means so much to my wife it's their big family vacation is when people come all and we celebrate Easter by ourselves this year alone but as a family we've never done that and so when we're setting up this weird zoo me thing and we're hiding Easter eggs for just us I think you have a somebody's somebody's sick right now here's the thing that doesn't make them any better there's not a there's not a sum zero of grief that I took from them right so gonna make them better and it's not gonna make my lost go away so the only thing you can do with grief no matter how big small whatever don't compare it to the knowledge it are you gonna I don't compare it doesn't solve anything then if you have somebody pass away in your life in somebody else's only sick it's not gonna make your lost any better to shame them for being upset too all pain is is a signal for something you loved all pain is something first sim is a symbol that you had something that matter to you let that be okay ingesting knowledge your grief however big small well it doesn't matter yeah but it just sounds it feels lacking in humility to grieve something like I totaled my Maserati you know it hurts you know no but I mean it's like you know that happened a few years ago I actually did do that but but yeah I mean the you know but that's not what a pompous but **** you know thanks to themselves what other people would have been just happy to have a nice car and you know and but I'm I'm not I don't like the car I was upset about it in total that's that's a lot of money that's right it's okay it's okay to grieve it's a it's not okay to rip your own nose in it or somebody else's nose and now since solve anything yeah and don't expect about understand you're saying it out there right you don't put it out there have a community that's the the third and it's super poor thing my grief is you have to work it out with other people and you can not grief by yourself it's got to be done with other people and so maybe you've got some other guys in your life that have mothers right is it will hurt with you you call me I'm proud I'm not so much a hundred there's conflict Twitter's going to wear me out for four days for this but because you're it really is the ultimate in whining I mean but but I I get that understands pompous and yeah but but but the point is I really like drawing that out that it's it's everybody grieves differently and it's okay it's it's not okay to compare your grave somebody else's for yourself or somebody on useless I can't let go then go over you shouldn't be worried about that I mean other people got real problems not only does that to somebody else and then not only do that inside my own head right and that's part of what this articles about dealing with the disappointment of cancel plans so we may just read article tomorrow night but then others there's other stuff other stuff in there okay all right Jeff good stuff and Johns put some videos on YouTube this YouTube channel has lost its mind yeah yeah it's it's John John Maloney at John alone it's there at Dr John Boehner Dr Andreas John won I couldn't believe how many people are are just tuning in yeah well I mean the old hello how much media consumption is too much any all that Allie is with us in Minnesota alley welcome the Dave Ramsey show hi thank you for taking my call I appreciate it sure your question for Dr John so yeah I had a basically a food addiction for fourteen years since my early teens I know it's an addictive pattern worry over Easter I'm I'm at work and I think about like that fast food place I'm gonna drive by on my way home I am at the grocery store and I passed by candy and that's all I can think about my turn to be strong and then I go to leave and I just grab your bag might hide it from my husband I've had periods of success without worry feel better and I'm eating healthy and I've lost weight and my spouse we've always been so supportive of me and encouraging and I am the nerd in the family you know I make the budget and we look pretty tight budget but I I just justified the moment I just ignore it like this is this is running on budget because it happens so many times a week or grocery trips or whatever and I can I just ignore them like I'll fix it later on it's obviously sabotaging that fell on I'm just wondering if you have any tips for long term hall I can overcome this that it's sabotaging our budget I feel yeah you'll call the time on just wondering if you had any advice on that where does this come from this one in your family Jim a traumatic your childhood no no I mean my family kind of snack then I I okay I mean I would kind of made fun of growing up just because I was a little bit heavier so but nothing really dramatic from my childhood K. so each you can apple different things here so number one I want to if you were with me I would hug you for a couple different reasons number one I love you I'm glad that you called and I know this is a hard phone call to make number two I have a regular shame session with my wife when she is doing the laundry and I've got candy wrapper shoved in my pockets I do health for a living right how bout this I'm gonna put you on hold and they're gonna catch you after the break because.

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