Listen: Secretary, Lake Lake, Rocky Mount North Carolina discussed on Phil Valentine
"And I will tell you this. She came from two parents who were the biggest racist on earth. And she wasn't and that was a choice. So if you're gonna make choices for all he's made bad choices far as poverty can't change that then we are do you want excuse the racist? Because that's the way. My mother was raised. And it was you know, it's in she chose not to be that person. She was the least racist personnel ever seen. But it was a choice. But it sure wasn't because she wasn't raised that way. 'cause exactly which and again, I'm not down to my grandparents, they ended up coming around least my grandmother, did you know after my father, scolded them. One time I've told her to start until you real quick we came this. I don't even remember what year this was. But I was fairly young. I do remember it though. They had had this. They lived in rocky mount North Carolina. They had a big entered denominational interracial church services city lake lake was the big lake which actually my grandfather helped build during the big during the depression is one of those, you know, busy work things will they put people to work and gave him a shovel and paid them to dig a lake, and that's what they did was. It's a huge pollen is what essentially work, so they had a big church service there. And we would always go to my grandparents house for lunch almost always for Sunday lunch. And so we came we live in Nashville North Carolina was about seven or eight miles away. We we drove over. And when we got there. They were both muttering and complaining about having to go to church where those inwards. And. I remember, my father said boys and my sister. Go sit in the car. And this is not going to end. Well. And we went and sat in the car, and he turned around and my grand bits from. My mother told me this later and said if you ever utter that word in front of my children, you will never see them again. And turned around and left, and we went to a restaurant somewhere in eight lunch. And that was the end of it. I never heard them say that again. As long as I lived that was a choice on. My father's part. It was a choice on my mother's sparred. Even though my mother was raised in that atmosphere. It was a choice for her to say, I'm not going to be a racist. Just like as a choice to say, I'm not going to continue to make stupid mistakes. And and and before the rest of my life. Well flash forward from that. And I don't know how many years later was my grandmother worked at she was a secretary at the local high school. And I'm came over to visit her one time, and there's a picture of this young black girl on her coffee table. And I said Bibi was what? Because who's then? Should that's my goddaughter? She had gotten to be such good friends with one of the teachers there, and that she had made my grandmother the goddaughter of this black child. I mean that was only five six seven years later. I would think maybe ten at the most what a transformation that was a choice on my grandmother's part to stop being ugly racist and to embrace people. So if you can stop being a racist, and it's ingrained in your in your whole upbringing. Why can't you stop being stupid and making stupid mistakes and get out of poverty, hold? You. Can't do that. Yes. You can. That's my whole point. Everything can be changed. If you want to change it at some point, you become an adult, and you have to own your own destiny. And if you don't then you're going to be poured the rest of your life because you making bad choices QuickTime out one eight hundred six one eight Phil we're back."