Early childhood sex education

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So so much to talk about when it comes to sex education that we really need a split this topic up into two smaller episodes. So this episode we're going to be talking about sex ED with younger kids. This is part one, and then you can stay tuned for part to in the future when will discuss sex education teens and young adults. So sex education with younger kids. So I feel like the number one question with this topic that I actually have heard people ask me people I feel like like this is just everyone's like top question is when should you start speaking to your kids about sex? Right? How young is too young or how old is too old I love this question my favorite question and there is no such thing as too young and I think that comes from people understanding that when you the moment you are holding touching, kissing your baby, you are teaching them about Zack's like that is the most critical thing like to understand that teaching A. Child, about sex is teaching them about their body feeling comfortable with their body understanding that loving touch could be really amazing as they get older using the correct body parts and needs for body parts talking about sex super comfortably when they're really young when it's not comfortable and then it develops as time goes on and getting books for kids even at age two or three about like body parts and taking care of their bodies and ready five or six and a little bit where babies come from. So you'll people are often shocked when I say start really on the are so many reasons to start young the younger you start. Better. Could I just ask a question though about the use of the term sex education in all of those areas because When you talk about hugging and kissing out of affection for your child to me that's not sex or that's something to be distinguished from sexual touch or body parts even though their sexual organs there they have other functions as well. I'm wondering why this all put under the heading of sex education because sex education starts with a really good sense of her own. Body and sexuality like that is just it's a basis for being able to have the tax and so understanding your body being comfortable with your body being able to talk about your body picking up the fact that those aren't things are not shameful at touch is important. Part of all this that is that is the building blocks the underlying building blocks for sex education. I think another super important point is that at the very young age often kids getting talks about like stranger danger and about like who who is it appropriate to? Reveal your body in front of WHO's allowed to touch your body. So all of these things which are really age appropriate for very young kids are like really the fundamentals of Lake consent and body autonomy which is not usually how we think about it but I think that's also like a like a real fundamental of of sex ed I'm really glad you raised that because I think it's the most understandable to people. You WanNA teach consent when they're older as the consent that we think of as consent. But already when you have a three year old and you insist that three year old kisses, uncle, Harry you're sort of giving a masjid may not want to. You know one of my favorite sex educators. That from day her children are born basically they have a choice. It's like wave hogger kiss or something or shake hands wave or kiss like an every time they meet somebody they get to choose how they interact with that person and that is she believes the bottom line of sent in the end I think that she's right and so it's the same kind of thing if. They grow up feeling comfortable saying the giant and Penis and vulva any no their body parts don't feel shame with them back is going to be one of the building blocks that helps them have a good healthy sex life. It's very hard to kind of go back and age you know fifteen or eighteen or twenty-one and say, well, you shouldn't have shame about those things because. They're not sample when you've been treating them shameful since the day they were born. Another really important thing. Sorry guys I'm really passionate about this topic. I think another really important point when kids are very young as like the first time you see your kid touching their own private parts, right unlike how that's like such an opportunity for parents to really address that in like in open affirming healthy way, I'll pose it as a question for Chevra. Like if you're a parent your three year old. Daughter is touching her vulva. How do you handle that conversation? So that's such. A common question might cause your kids are going to masturbate. You have raised the not to be ashamed of their body they're gonNA try touch their body does it's GonNa feel good to them, and the way you respond is completely setting the stage for how they're gonNA react to their bodies and even if you just sort of your lips and the big deep oh my God and then don't see anything that's a message getting press breast your children it's almost like. Messages are given even if you're not copying need to be aware of that. So it's absolutely essential that you are super comfortable with this which honestly I almost we jumped the gun because I feel like the most important thing about sex education for parents especially with little kids is to start becoming comfortable themselves. If you are lucky enough to be addressing this when your kids are really little, you're lucky enough to say, okay, I'm GonNa get past the hump of feeling uncomfortable with this. And you need to really be honest with yourself because I cannot tell you how often I see parents groups and they say, well, how many of you are comfortable time at and everybody raises their hand and then I how many of you actually talked about sex you gives none of them, raise your hand or of them raise their hands and I'm like well, why not amazing what we could ask and the kids are going to ask you need. To start this conversation and you need to be really comfortable and it's much easier when your child is two or three or four, or five or six to have these conversations and

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