Relationship to Food


Debbie first question. We're talking about relationships with food. But what does it mean to have a relationship to food. We aren't asking people to go out and marry a stock of celery or something. Right certainly not respond that way. It might drew. If you don't keep it in water you know. I would actually say that. We have varying relationships plural with food so when we attach a motion to eating certain items when we use food as a tool to punish or reward ourselves instead of when we eat for neuro survival and also win we assign strong positive or negative outcomes to eating food. All those things are not normally present. If you look at animals that there they eat. they're hungry the very simple right right so Is it something we're like. How does that begin. Is it something where we should start thinking more about how and why we instead of what we're eating. Oh you are so right it certainly takes both how why and what we eat to make helpful choices especially if you're considering the energy balanced manner but for many of us we need to take a moment and consider why we chose food no before you put it in your mouth and by by thinking. Why did i reach for that. You might be led to change even that choice or how much of it to consume so that leads us to the next question in terms of how do you stop that sort of negative talk. You have going on your head or the guilt that leads to from maybe eating that type of food i. I don't think that are self talk regarding eating or food lives in isolation all right if you look at your entire body environment life everything and we're being very holistic here. It's not an isolation. So i'll reference psychology today. They mentioned an organization that indicated eighty percent of one's thoughts on a daily basis are negative. So your thought about a meeting your thought about. Are you gonna make it home on time. Whatever were negative and then. I talked to a colleague kate bruno. She's a dietitian specializing in eating disorders. Out of charlottesville. Virginia and she said the way we treat ourselves is often an expression of underlying pain emotion. Self esteem self worth. And that's not just about eating the way you treat yourself in how you dress in the people relationships you choose so i think one has to really talk. Readjust the conversation that you have with yourself. In general about how productive you are how your projects are size about your appearance. There are many suggestions offered by psychology professionals and therapists and counselors to improve this dialogue. That we have with ourselves so one way is by rephrasing statements. You make about yourself. These internal conversations you have so for example instead of saying. I didn't eat well this week. You need to point out the successes. Well i managed to get in several good balanced meals instead of condemning yourself. While i just blew it with that night out you could say. I'm glad i was able to relax for a while and avoid those restrictions so debbie. I was wondering if you could touch on something i was thinking about. What are some of the negative signs that you would look for in somebody. That is really struggling with their diet. In this way. that's great One is certainly. If you're you know overhearing verbal comments out loud all these internal thoughts that are supposed to be internal right. That are actually out loud. A lot of times someone will be saying not to you directly but in your vicinity like. I shouldn't eat this this brownies. Bad for me. You know kind of language. But what i look for which oftentimes family members our loved. Ones won't know about so this would be more about you than than someone else but a red flag that we tend to look for if someone is eating in private or secret or or sneaking food than you know. There's a lot of shame and blame and That kind of negativity associated with it if they can't be honest with themselves to have it at the table and i think maybe maybe looking for some therapy or addressing that is is worth doing. I think sometimes dealing with issues especially for people who are on the younger side. It's very emotional and embarrassing topic to discuss especially among friends and family. I think what would be your best advice in terms of going forward with some uc's uc struggling with that. What would be your best way of finding them helper seeking out help for them. I i would definitely i know the term eating disorders sounds strong to anyone that oil. That's only anorexia and bulimia that's all clinically diagnosed blah blah blah. But it's not. I worked with a college athlete. That had gone away to another state and her coach basically put on temporary leave from the team because she was so overly this restrictive this. It's was on how helpful the foods were and so she wouldn't eat anything no didn't fit in her her paradigm. It didn't have necessarily to do with the calories or her weight. It was just oh i can't eat anything. That has an advocate. I can't eat anything that has colored. I can't eat anything and it. Just so her narrow became so small

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