A highlight from Encore - Dr. Fred Luskin - Try Forgiveness: It's Good for Your Health and Happiness



How did you even get interested in forgiveness as a as a project in a more personal sense. There were two two interest that converts one was. I have had a meditation practice since college. So for me. That's quite a long time ago. About forty years almost at form the good part of my life and so i wanted to do a dissertation study on something related to what of the spiritual qualities virtues. The forgiveness eight shows that in part. Because i had been very badly hurt by a close friend a few years before then and had struggled like crazy to get over. It struggled doesn't even come. i couldn't get over. It was a much better way of putting it at. I was just miserable. I was a licensed therapist. And none of us therapy stuff did me any good and the only thing that helps was by wife like said you know fred. You gotta do something. This is ridiculous so that not me. Somehow i stumbled upon the idea or right on. I just forgive this guy and it made a difference. And what i took was some of the strategies that i use to forgive that person and turn them into the stuff that form the cornerstone of the forgiveness project. Well interesting i know you did quite a bit of research dissertation and even since then forgiveness is one of those under utilized misunderstood qualities that appears to be really good for human beings. There hasn't been that much research but almost every research there is has been positive. It's an indication that the stress of not letting go of past troubles harms people's bodies and minds. So we've done research to show that it relieves depression and decreases stress anxiety and increases happiness. Other people have shown that it can reduce the experience of pain. We host sponsored a project where helps lower blood pressure. We've done number work that shows that it's helpful to people were. It's one of those antidotes to life. That is just under practiced so interesting because you repeat the several times in your book. I got it loud and clear that it begins with number one. You take something to personally number two. You blame the other person. For how you feel and number three you create a grievance story around that and you ruminate ruminate ruminate and never let it go. How do we begin to turn that around. Talk about a lot of steps in the book. But i think as you said like when you were having a hard time forgiving. This guy is so much harder temporarily. Forgive than it seems like. It's just so hard to let go once you've been trapped into as three one reason that it's so difficult is is very little cultural support for it. So most of our communities stay together to have shared enemies and so that that's one of our no tribal legacies of being a human being. Is we get support from others in a shared threat and so we retain a lot of that in our world when people are must like we know we align with victims of the. Speak the other reason

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