Listen: Michael Knowles, Erin, Cole Porter discussed on The Michael Knowles Show
"From erin. Hey, michael. I've been dating this girl for coming up on a year now, and I have to say that objectively she seems like the kind of girl I should be proposing to here we go, where's this going? But I find myself constantly with the urge to look elsewhere for female attention because I feel less and less attracted to her physically. I don't want to be the kind of guy that breaks up with a girl because she's not the body type. I'm looking for in a way, I'm thinking, I'm looking for permission. I'm permission to what permission to break up. Whether it's what you're saying. I'm twenty two if that info is necessary. Okay. You should break up with her. That's the simple answer, you should break up with this is what you I know you tried to put it in this nice language. What you just said to me is in theory. I'm in love with this girl. But in reality, I'm not go for the reality. Man. You're going to be married in real life to your wife, and you should be physically attracted to her. You really should. I got I want to tell any details at a school. You know? I don't want to invite you into my boudoir enough when I'm selling you purple mattresses sweet little elisa's, a real looker. You know? I mean, that's a that's a big deal. That's a big deal. Your man, you have red blood. You have to be attracted to your future, wife or girlfriend, you have to be attracted or that doesn't mean by the way that she's got to be a supermodel or she's gotta have one particular body type or this or that that's not how attraction works. You. Can you can find yourself extraordinarily attracted to some aspect of her personality that may be overwhelms? Physical attributes that you're not as physically attracted to. Okay, that totally makes sense. But there has to be an attraction, you're not a starting a business with somebody. That's not all you're doing. At least, you know, there's there's one part of marriage where physical attraction really matters. So you can ask your parents about that one. So you've got to be physically attracted to her that doesn't make you shallow. You'll be physically attracted to someone else. And it's not fair to her like, your pitying her like, you're like, she's a charity case or something. No. She sounds like a great girl. I'm sure this you'll meet some other guy. But if you really find that you run attracted to her then you shouldn't marry her now, maybe I don't know, maybe you're exaggerating. It maybe I don't know don't try to plan out your marriage on paper. Like, you're writing a doctrine like your. Here's the my this is what my marriage is going to look like, there's great Yiddish expression mentioned trucked lock man plans and God laughs Cole porter. Didn't sing. Let's do it. Let's be in a relationship where you have all of these attributes that I. Think will go well in a wife. He didn't he said, let's do it. Let's fall in love. That's what you should you should fall in love if you haven't fallen in love find somebody else from wiz -ly Hello to the extra Michael Knowles.."