DI, Jordan, Five Minutes discussed on The Jordan Harbinger Show
When you accept all things as they are, it doesn't mean, you're happy. Like, I wasn't happy. I was in a car accident. I wasn't happy. I got cancer. When you accept all things as they are you accept unconditionally? It's more powerful than happiness because happiness is an emotion, which is fleeting, right? We've all been happy one minute phone call change that like what? Oh, yeah. Right. So, but when you accept things you can't change and you live in the state of unconditional acceptance. It's it doesn't produce an emotional state. It's an emotional neutrality where it's neutral, it's in between happiness and sadness is a state of peace. It's a state of unwavering piece. It's it's a state of being where your motion neutral, and then you can go. Okay. I can't change it. So there's no point in feeling bad about it. Okay. I get that. I'm a smart person. And it takes training like I say do a thirty day challenge. And and at first people go how many when I speak on this raise your hand. If you think five minutes feels like kind of a short time, and you're going to be upset longer. And they're like, oh, I need more than five minutes, and I get like five hours to be pissed off right on and I go that's what I thought when I learned this. And here's what happened. I set my timer for five minutes the first time, and I'm like, oh, this is bullshit. I did Reverend by biometrics often like still mad, and then, but I went okay, I'm going to stick to. Okay. Deep breath. Can't change it. Okay. Still. I still have these resonant negative, you know, emotional, whatever. And then after I mean, it was literally a few days, maybe the third fourth fifth time. I set the timer. I set the timer. And I'm like son of I can't believe this lady cancelled the appointment. This was a huge needed this. And then I'm like bullshit, man. And I picked up my phone, and I'm like, four minutes and seventeen seconds. And I go what what's the point of being upset for four more minutes when I could just get on the phone and schedule another two appointments and make up for this. So it was extraordinary. How I went from thinking, oh based on my current paradigm, and my reality and my emotional patterns five minutes is not enough to within a week less than a week. I'm like, oh, I don't need five minutes. I need five seconds to like get mad, and they'd be like can't change it and move on. And so you recondition this. And that's why when I had cancer I was able to accept it within five minutes and not even though I'm still seventy percent chance of dying and leaving your kids. I'm like, okay. Well, if that happens, I have whatever I'll deal with that. I mean, I'm going to have to process this. But I'm not gonna let motion will be paint pain be part of the journey because I don't have to. So when you hear this sound. Four. And it's like, I don't, you know. And let me give you one more example Jordan for people to really understand what Di back into the two equations, but I mean, the two decisions, but the, but traffic is a great example, most people. Hey, Rachel traffic. Right. Of course. I hate traffic. I'm like, well, why would you hate traffic? Like, you can't change at the cars and funny. We're going slow. You can't change that you're gonna be late. Now, you can't change any of those things, but you can choose to accept all the things that are out of your control. And then just turn up the radio or smile and feel happy or focus on things you're excited about in your life or focus on your what you're grateful for whatever. And so I love traffic because it's a microcosm for life to realize that oh, I get to choose whether or not I enjoy the journey. I get to chew I can be upset over the traffic upset over the things. I can't change upset over the fact that he had cancer in fact that I lost my job. I can let these destroy me and made me depressed and angry or.