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And isolation And it's been especially bad for our kids we're talking about Family with David Brooks Whose article is called. The nuclear family was a mistake You know one difference between a nuclear family. Let's say and and a large number of people who come together to to live together for with a variety of connections is that they're they're at at the heart of the nuclear family was was a marriage and in fact when I was a kid they. They hadn't yet liberalized divorce laws so Divorce meant a trip to Nevada And it was really a privilege. The the poor just desertion instead of that A business now. People who come together in a variety of of of new forged ways haven't haven't stood before before their community and pledged themselves to one another what holds them together to people drift in and out Is it a different degree of association? There is a different degree of association. It's much easier to drift in and out in and they are definitely more fragile than marriages which are a little fragile. Any pretty proud and so I don't WanNa But I think people are looking but on the other hand I think the forged families are not just roommates and if you go on Pinterest or something and right in chosen families you see all these placards and other things for people who are in chosen families who say. The family isn't just blood. It's people who will be there for you unconditionally. And I do think a lot of these people who are in forged families chosen families. It's not quite as tight at tires. They'll blood tie but it can be a pretty tight tie And it's a sense of you know and if you go back and I mentioned this in the article if you go back through human history if you looked at the extended clans that humans lived in for most of our history. There were a Lotta `non-kinh there. They did kinship by being by eating together. And that gave them sense of kinship. They created kinship migrating somewhere together. They created kinship by being through an ordeal together and so our modern idea of kinship is not the historical norm for centuries and centuries and thousands of years. I'm just worried about the minute. We have left him. I'm I'm curious when you think ahead and another fifty years do you imagine a great for the formation of these of forced families re Recreated extended families And and a real diminution further diminution of the nuclear family Or do you suspect that it's you know. We're in kind of stasis right now. It's what's your view of wood. Will these situations like the one you're in be like you know the communes of the nineteen sixties or the salons of Paris at a different time or the or the main secular hippies and sixties but I would say one of the things when I spoke to so many families scholars for this piece family structures always changing. And there's no simple line you can draw through. It's always evolving and I would just say if you look at the history of family in over the last two hundred thousand years we're at the very extreme of smallness and so we eat at small tables and historically people have eaten at bigger tables with more people and I do think the trend right now and I think. The culture has shifted away from a culture of hyper individualism to a culture where people are really looking for connection and and I think they wanna find ways he heat at bigger tables. What what a Wonderful Image David David Brooks? Thanks for talking with us today. It's been a great pleasure to pleasure to be with you again room. Yes good to talk to you. A David Brooks his latest piece for the Atlantic is called the nuclear family Was a mistake. You can continue the conversation and get the point. Podcast at our website on point radio DOT ORG and you can follow us on twitter in find us on facebook at on point radio We're taking voicemails also for our Friday news roundtable and we want to hear from you. Do you have a question about? President trump issuing around of pardons or former DOJ prosecutors.

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