Molly Daley, Professor, Mullen Heather discussed on Body Cons Podcast
Hello lovely listeners and welcome to another episode in August sporadic series of body cons. Today's episode features interview that Molly Daley with Professor. The widows and she is an absolutely fascinating academic. Who Talks about something called everyday. Look them. What is how calling it out can help contribute. To a less looks obsessed culture so that's coming up in a minute. Uh. Every episode of Body Cons, we bring you something that we've been enjoying on the subject of body image over the last week or two and this week I am going to talk about an amazing book that I've been reading on I. Probably say this every time, but this book is extraordinarily. Every page floors me. But called I. Never said I loved you by Rick, Amata and he. Should definitely include a bit of a trigger warning because he does talk about eating disorders he has suffered from those himself, and he does go into detail about our and by yourself home, so do tread cautiously if those are triggers view he also talks a lot about mental health and especially masculinity, which I think is really fascinating subjects, and obviously relates quite closely to the work that we do in as well. Just going to read you a passage here about. Self worth and bodies. The only salvageable good is an old lesson. self-worth starts within. This means abandoning stories about ourselves. Others have asked us to carry. Let's finally drop the All beauty myths, which we've been saddled with a longtime there too heavy and far far too boring. There is no value one foreheads placed there, according to the color of our skin or the shape of on nose or the size of our chest. Regardless of what I believe to then beauty does not determine our fate. We're not objects with a specific utility like a sixteen millimeter wrench. We're not the split flap display of railway board, clocking through the preordained arrivals and departures of our days. I've also come to realize that traction is not the property of those label beautiful. It's largely the reverse beauty is what we project onto the attractive anyone. We find interesting who spirit speaks to hours confident in itself. It is a luster. The gays ads noticing what is already there. We are dazzling lights, the MB of the. Given temporary forms, so we can watch each other dance. Oh, my God! Isn't that amazing? I. I've couldn't recommend it more. Onto the interview! I have not heard this interview, but I asked me to give me a few pointers, so that I could introduce it to you, and she describes it as Super Meaty. and. The clothes beauty ideal and the impact that it has on society. Before I hand over to me I should say the audio on this interview is a little bit patchy. Mullen Heather recorded this over the Internet and it wasn't the best connection. As the Department of Philosophy at the University of Birmingham and I've been working on issues of justice and women's rights or around twenty years. I've the last five to ten years. I've been increasingly looking at issues of beauty and body image and my big. The topic is perfect May. Ethic ill on what I try point tat when we're thinking about or do you Megyn the unrealistic? Demands is hostile. What's going on the value? Frameworks shifted increasingly bodies ourselves. We value the outside mold we used to on as if something about the inside, and that means that things that didn't use to be as important has suddenly become incredibly important identity to who we are to. How feel about how alive going and yet? We haven't had this recognized in the public debate, and it's crucial twins astounding wine. This of Cook so played. Why would got what I? Think is a public health issue and academic body and scientists. And how we address, this is really hard because we've never had A. Job Ideal before we've never been in such official him virtual coach. The image speaks loud in the word. And lots of the things that we used. To address an appearance anxiety to address bullying. Just don't work anymore and yet. We're not taking it seriously enough. We often don't have enough funding to research on it. Could beauty seen something? That's quite trivial, quite individual, and somehow we've allowed this perfect storm. Develop had this terrible crisis body regions itchy this great ball, destroying our young people and yet. We haven't got chills to address it properly. So, one of the things that we need to focus on, he's away from putting pressure on individuals. It's not about just about resilience. It's not about how y'all supposed to feel. It's also changing coach, so we have a mall. Body kind culture, and that means thinking about what we all collectively do. So what we do! We jumped fully neier, but one of the things that we can do is think about how that's framed. So the everyday look his campaign aims not just to focus on individuals coping with Watson on except the horrible culture, but changing the culture by calling outlook them. Semitism is appearance discrimination so negative comments about how people's bodies should never be okay, so this slocum we use his body shaming his people shaming. And if I'm writing my arguments, my reception path that may so our bodies become, must sounds than those kinds of negative comments about bodies, billy devastating in a bit of fun evening may be normal. They are destructive equity. They stay with you and you stop people doing all kinds of things so often when we have these conversations, we talk about ways that we can build resilience within ourselves. Omay Dry and create this immunity to this constant pressure. And that can lead to feelings of guilt if you don't if you still feel bad, you feel like Oh i. know that this thing exists, but I still feel. I still don't feel good and not let ads like another pressure Gill and a layer ill. The you know any injuries messages. So. I'm really interested to kind of chat with you. Some of the research she did for the book and talk about why some of these messages a damaging on a societal level, so we know kind of the individual that they can have. But how are they holding us back? As a as a culture, I ruled on as a society. What would we gain and benefit from having? These conversations are not doing making a change to the culture that we're living in the so just to go back to what he said about guilt and shame right this guilt and shame all a at body image stir in in the language reuse immoral stuff, everywhere guilt and shame your moral emotions. So as praise and ward, so we used to be very proud of ourselves..