Four Ways to Improve Your Communication Effectiveness

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Hardest this heroes. Welcome to talk leader. This week's episode is titled four ways to improve your communication effectiveness. Now he's listened to this podcast for awhile. I suspect you're gonna hear threads of things i've said in other podcast episodes this episode. Is i guess you'd say a bit of a collection of ideas condensed into four takeaway concepts that really are a combination of multiple ideas. All in one place. Let's get started with four things. You can do or four ways to improve your communication effectiveness of the first thing you can do. Is you can spend some time and effort. Learning how other people might hear. See or interpret your messages that involves studying something like the disc model and we have resources a disc personality testing dot com have another number of podcast episodes related to the disc model. Those are all targeted at the idea. That if you can use some frame of reference other than your own to understand how other people might see things how other people might hear. Your message is then you can adjust your messages to better fit how they see and things likewise if you better understand how they see and interpret things you can adjust your interpretation so there you're using their language or their filter or their perspective as a way to view the word choice use the tone they use the body language that goes with their word choice tone the whole communication package so learn how other people might hear see or interpret messages. He might add to that how they might hear see or interpreter messages other than you intended them and it really comes down to understanding the difference between you and other people and be more aware and intentional about understanding those differences on the second thing you can do is not to observe your perspective now. This one's kind of hard to describe. It's it's the idea of taking a sort of an out of body experience observing what's going on trying to objectively view the situation you're in to basically check your perspective to see if it's valid to see if you're being unfairly triggered triggered by something someone else said. You're getting irritated. Unnecessarily that kind of thing. I use myself as an example just to kind of paint a picture what i mean by this and tend to be very logical. Very linear very analytical. Very precise in my word choice made the i tend as a general rule in most situations to pick my words very carefully to say exactly what. I'm trying to say so the word choice. The word order means a lot to me. So i i will tend if i'm not careful to interpret others through that same filter. I will assume that their word choice was carefully chosen. In very particular i will be less accepting by nature less flexible to hear the emotion of what people are saying in preference to the specific words. They're using. I will put too much emphasis on words and not enough emphasis on feeling or emotion will observe your perspective means that i can understand about myself and when communication goes badly when i'm feeling frustrated when i'm feeling unheard when i'm feeling like i'm not here and the other person well i can attempt to step out of the moment and basically ask myself guy. Are you being to linear here. Could they mean something other than what you are saying. You are interpreting. Could they be hearing you in a way different from what you think you're saying. Could there be some sort of disconnect that is created by the fact that you're very linear and logical and analytical and that's not their natural perspective and stepping out for a moment is applying really the the first idea of learning how to identify how other people might hear see interpret your messages and take your knowledge of the difference between you and them to observe how you're engaging and how you're perceiving their message so basically you can question yourself and keep yourself out of the weeds so that you don't make assumptions about things based on your perspective an ignore. There's so observe your perspective think carefully about is my perspective causing this problem or is there something legitimately amiss here and then the third thing you can do is learn to listen very actively in the ideas to listen with the intent to understand rather than with the intent to reply. Listen with the intent to capture. The whole message is being said paying attention to body language and tone the whole communication package actively listening. It takes some effort. It takes some focus and maybe every single communication. You have doesn't require active listening but learn how to turn it on when it's necessary

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