Grammy Award, Melissa, Kansas discussed on 5 Questions with Dan Schawbel
One and come to my window throwing her career. She's received fifteen grammy award. Nominations and won two of them more recently. Melissa released her new album. One way out that has unreleased songs from the nineteen eighties and early nineties. We talk about the new album her childhood dealing with loss and more during this podcast episode. Unless i welcome to five questions hello well. It's great to have you here growing up in kansas. When did you realize that you could turn your music into a full career. I don't know if i realized it. But i hope for it. I watched artists on television. I listened to the radio. I had incredible drive to do it. And then when. I was about twelve and thirteen. I started playing in bands and i think the first time. I got aid like ten bucks for doing that. I went oh this is great. I can make money and do what i love. Yeah i find a lot of artists especially musicians. They're just doing it for fun to start. They're not like well. I'm going to do this. And like magically i'm going to be a millionaire and be famous because it's so hard to make it so it's more about the journey and that's something i always respect and entertainers because it is incredibly competitive thinking of competition. It's not something you can can a game you go in and you win or lose you just keep doing it loving it and hoping other people love it to you of course have both a huge community over the course of your career you were discovered in a gay bar yet. The record label you had asked in the meeting. What are you going to do about this gay thing. How do they eventually come around to accept you for who you are. They always accepted me for who i was. They had no problem. They knew of course from the day they met me because they met me in a gay bar in my girlfriend and they knew my life. It was just at that time. You didn't tell the public that you didn't say that nobody had said it out loud to anyone and so don't ask don't tell we just didn't tell anybody it was just a bar long beach not a gay bar along the and they said well as long as you don't flag way whatever that meant and four years later. I was flag-waving they were. They were fine with along fast forward to today. I mean it's completely. I always knew it. Would it would change. I always knew what you were just like looking at the clock you like someday day. Let's see twenty eighteen right but you've had a very very tough year very tough several years. He recently lost. Your son do opioid addiction and you beat breast cancer several years ago. How these experiences changed how you think about your life and career. I realized that life is just a way it goes up and down. And i'm not gonna let the down parts. Keep me down. I'm going to appreciate them as contrast so. The highs are higher and more appreciated. But i always know that. This is a dualistic reality. We live in good bad and black and white right wrong and up and down and you go through those things so that you can feel and appreciate more so you know. I'm not the only one who's lost people or or had a health crisis we all do. So it's it's foul. We take our next steps after that that really determines the enjoy ability of our own life. Music's really helped you to find what is very common with creative artists that when they're struggling that's when sometimes they can produce their best art or they use their art as a form of therapy to get through things i've read about you and your career. That's something that you've said after cancer just created the way. I wrote songs my whole ill. The subjects i wrote songs about completely changed and after las my son i really drew myself into all of my work from the past during the lockdown i i was streaming from home and i played every single song i ever recorded and it kinda got me back in touch with all of my past work that i'd done and that was really healing and speaking of songs you have decided to release these songs that your quarter many years ago today. Why did you decide to hold off until now it was never right. I didn't do it on purpose. It just didn't happen until now. I know that going back and looking at the songs understanding that back then i was more insecure about my voice not singing voice but my voice as an artist and some of these songs were very strong. They're very intense in milan. My music is but these songs were almost overtly gay kind of almost. And i wasn't out yet and they were very feminist. Based and i was. I was a little nervous and uncomfortable with releasing ben. Now they're perfectly normal. You know that sort of the way we behave now so these songs really fit right now. I love that and yeah. It is the perfect time to release these tracks and it is a very intense period but it's also can look at things good and bad and part of a good. Is you see more of acceptance of diverse groups of people like you wouldn't of you know maybe decades ago and what's your best piece of career advice best piece accrued by is to understand that this is a journey. You put the goals in front of you and you go for them with joy and passion yet. It's not the destination. I've had huge hit records but it was the journey to that. I remember in that. I enjoy and i would say damore sit-ups that's why i would say thank you so much for sharing your wisdom.