A highlight from Admit ; it's not OK.

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For this segment. I'm looking at Toxicity it's quite interesting. That most people find it so hard to admit that the i ain't toxic relationships with this be with friends at work or even parents. I think it's all the same. Unfortunately in most instances it's never outside that you can pick it and in some situations it can slowly creep up a new end even before you realize it's something that totally consumes you that if you point lead lead consider that may or may not apply to you. I mean i'm gonna professional sue. All i'm sharing is from experience or understanding that have gained over time my first point as it could be. What feels familiar if the connection between ibn love is meant allen knife. Someone who's been abused miniaturized that the other healthier ways of going about that ship. Let me see if i can simplify this point. Probably from sainthood so as a child One gets expedience abuse plus some prediction hand there and then the like blah as they grow up the gets just shit laugh with abuse and then they learn to shut down their feelings and then limb themselves and things about when bad things happen so this child gets tweet analyze that love. actually hats. Oris is had this child then grows up meets a partner who's emotionally or physically abusive than by this point. The doubt has lantau to shut down their feelings in wants and needs and then they keep leaving themselves for their partners. Devious and fortunately in other instances the partner made enforced this attachment bolton meeting between their kind acts and the acts of abuse. Which for this adults are excuse for that but not ease. That's how they loved him and it gets a point where it's now the victim who starts making excuses for their partner so in this adult later find themselves or hustled ina in an intimate relationship. They perceive the familiar feelings of shame and anger as love and care from this listenership. So that's how twisted he's gonna be my other consideration is it may be an attempt for them to heal logic behind his dad's by becoming an abuser a former victim contrite when do the abuse by taking the opposite position hoping that they can get it right this time my tied consideration would be corrupt. Someone could be feeling inadequate. People were abused as children may believe that they're not good enough or they don't deserve a genuine caring relationship so whenever they find themselves e aspects where someone needs. Someone actually cares for them. They'll go above and beyond to make distinctly. My foot went to ease. You could be trying to reverse the roles of power and control. this is by becoming an abuser. Someone who has been abused and played all of the more powerful puzzling. The leadership in an attempt to overcome that feeling of being powerless or powerlessness that powerlessness. They felt when they are being abused and finish this is not effective and they may repeatedly dominate others in an attempt to get over their weakness in an attempt to get over the weakness that the good str- experience as a victim. My next point is a strong faith. This is constant anger. You may not realize this but the reality is one tends to carry a lot of egg about what happens to them and abuse can be a way for them to express this anger so even if they even if they have pushed this anger out of their conscious awareness. It can come out in subtle or sometimes in in not-so-subtle ways within an intimate relationship or in their parenting stan. Another point of consideration could be for this passage could be an attempt to get the upper hand probably with logic that they would have a hat as before their huts people have been abused maybe relationships as output put as hunting ground where you'll be predator rather than the pre and one thing that adds to our smallest ease the occasions when the life feels way safer than the reality. Who's the painful experience. Sometimes validation from people who we don't care or sometimes it could be just event family or just sometimes own ego biz on that you may start idealising other people to the point where you make excuses and be out of your busy button as putting shot l.

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