Dr Paul Tobin, Llewellyn Hobson, Garth Brooks discussed on Gwinn F Lippert

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Is a food loose radio 1000. Okay with Falconer Lippard 92 degrees. As you know, Over the past few months on Sunday nights, we've been doing mental tune ups. With Dr Gala Welland Hobson and her colleague, Dr Paul Tobin. We are doing that again tonight during this first hour, and we're going to be focusing on family resiliency during these hard times. Let me remind you that doctor Gay Llewellyn Hobson is a licensed psychologist has been in practice for over 40 years and practices in both Norman and Oklahoma City and served many years as the medical director for behavioral health at Mercy Hospital. She joins us this evening from her of office in Norman. And let me remind you that she will be giving out her phone number. If she can be of help to direct you to someone to talk to About anything that is making you mentally challenged right now. So, Dr Hobson, welcome to 1000 Katie, Okay? Thank you. Mentally challenged is the right word for hope. Memphis right now or I Quinn. It feels that way. So that's why tonight We wanted to focus a little further on resilience. And really how How can we go forward? For what may be a while you and I next week, going on the talk about transitions and transitions generally take about five years to say that, but we may be in that so We need in the meantime, in terms of mental, our mental health, community and family health we need to focus on how are we going to make this the best? Most productive time And I have something to start with tonight and then I would have a question for you and usual. Oh, good. Okay. And You may have gotten Dr Tobin back on the line he had. I think I lost the connection. So I think I have him. I will not know. Until I try. You may have to try and get me a man saying he lost connection. Okay, So you know, got Garth Brooks, right? You know his music a little bit. Oh, yeah. I love Garth Brooks. I thought you probably did. So he has a song that a lot of people know called Winding River. Oh, I don't know. I don't know the winding river. Okay, I wanted to start with a little bit of say, saying from that because it's so feeding to what we're going to talk about tonight. And it goes even though we can't control the river, even though life is ever flowing, ever changing, ever threatening? Ever Madden maddening, maddening We must choose to chance the rampant and dare to dance the tide. But his love and I got this really a good way to start out thinking about this age that were in and out with the chalk later. Take a chance to talk personally a little bit about Conversations, grandsons, and I'm not getting to see very often, but it was feeling to this and the reason I did. That is because when we're kind of in what we're thinking of is a non linear age. And we'll talk about what that means. But things are not just kind of going A B T. So everybody's got to kind of have to stop and hopefully, young people, especially Kind of rewrite this time, so that makes me if they ask you a question, Alright? Okay. What happens when are fairytales go a ride. Oh, I cry will, And that is so true way. Do we have all of this habit? We cried more tears in this country during this time, and maybe in a long time. But it's It's kind of true that are that we go through life for all of us sometimes are fairytales go awry, and we don't really talk about that very much, But I think it's really important that we do that now, because what we're learning is that you go through life said Yeah, thanks. Don't always stay on the path. That we had thought there's their high points in our lives, and there's low point in her life and then they're turning points in our lives. Yes, And I think that's where we are. Right now. We're kind of a turning point. And what kind of forced with Cove it to really cope and deal with that so harrowing and help ourselves and our communities. But how are we gonna have a wee going to know? If we're helping our Children navigate this time, or that's a great question. Well here. I have a little bit of an answer to it. That maybe will help us lead into resilience. But the question is which Children navigate, navigate their lives the best No matter what their circumstances are, even if they're handicapped, or they have challenges, or they're the smartest kid or whatever they are. There's some some things that helped him navigate the best the best. So what would you think helps Children navigate the best in these difficult times thie ability to be spontaneous. Wow. Okay, That's a great answer like that, probably part of it. But here's the answer to that. Or at least one answer. And I'm reading a new book that you and I are going to talk about next week that I think will be very helpful. But here's the answer to that. It's the Children, the ones that know their family history. The best Risley. Yeah, and they've done studies about that. So they're the Children that no. Okay, what were what were my grandparent's like? And that was what happened in their birth. And were they immigrants? Or were they you know? Do they have a physical illness early in their life? That really shaped them? Some of them. Did you know, like Popeo? And so if Children no kind of history and are tuned in, like, what happened, How's your parents made? How did what happened here for when the second child was born with their trauma when the child Second child was born. You know that kind of story that families tell And what we know is that Children that they're talking about that hearing about bad and come and know their family history. I mean, you had to sit down with them like you're on. DNA show roots, although I like that, But you know it's good, though, if they know kind of a history kind of where they came from. And so that kind of gets me into this story briefly of why I talked to my grandson's about that this morning. I got to see them. Well, I can see why this This's an excellent answer. And let me tell you why. Because Your parents had to deal with Unforeseen circumstances and some have they made it through it. So that's why you are here. Absolutely. Yu just got Yu got it so perfectly, in fact, that picture Of the family that was dealing with the flu pandemic in 1918 where they're all they all had masks on. I got that out this morning at brunch distance brunch with my grand boys and said, Hey, guys, look at this. Even the cat head on. I know. Did they noticed that the cat had a mask on? Yeah, course they did. Of course they can love And so you know, I would. I had opportunity, they would say. You know, we all have and we'll we'll call it a term next week. It will explain further called oscillating family narrative. Ah, like the term it really says that yes, families have ups and downs. And Children over the years that are our best prepared for life is if they know that if they know life takes all kinds of different shapes that really we know from research that makes him better equipped. To face life's inevitable disruptions. Because we're boy were in a disruption right now, For sure this is called a disruption, so covet thing. And so our lives are not following the linear path and you know what? We're beginning to figure out Is that these? These transitions these non linear path are happening more and more frequently, too. Yes. So kids are going to need to just I'm going to need to become flexible. They're going to be neat may need to do all the things that Dr Tobin is going to talk about that has to do with resilience. And I am so grateful that he is your colleague and that he has agreed. Tio join us again. 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