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It's a food newsradio one thousand Katie okay good Faulconer referred here with you ninety degrees in Oklahoma City we've made it through another week yes and those things are opening up how is your mental health well as you know over the past few weeks Dr Delaware one Hobson has been joining me for our mental tune up and tonight we have a very special guest with Dr Hobson and we're going to be talking about how to be handling this cove it nineteen stress with all of its things so let's welcome to one thousand KTRK doctor gala well in Hobson licensed psychologist for over forty years she has a private practice in Norman and for many years served as the medical director for behavioral health at mercy hospital she joins me each week to make us all feel better so take it away Dr Hobbs Linden and appreciate always your introduction and what a beautiful day I hope you've gotten to get some sunshine in the outside is is everyone is listening to it I hope they have because that's so good for our mental health or physical health and getting through this because it is long as you're distancing from people so hi we are going to have a special guest tonight is going to help us with he is really full range of knowledge about techniques that are used to help in my many stressful situations he has lots of presentations but he's going to talk tonight particularly about how those techniques can help with disco that crisis so if you don't mind let me take one second go back and just review what we ended with last week we will go forward we like the old saying right yes Edwards live forward and so we talked about it but the last week so let me read something just real quickly and then we'll we'll talk a minute about empathy and go on need to quote name it may sound a little well I'll just read it I thought it was was really wonderful it's ten four beautiful I look for the good in others for beautiful lips speak words of kindness and for poise walk with the knowledge that you are not alone kindness in words creates confidence and kindness in thinking creates profound I thought that who represented it that the empathy towards others and that's what we talked about last week and you know that is very very helpful when you're thinking about how to handle this cope with crisis because Hey you know what I looked up the numbers we are up today as I guess we kind of expected with the re open I looked up and your mayor there no complicity in we took I think this is the correct correct at twelve point nine percent rising cases of this week we had our highest debut in on Missy Saturday two hundred twenty five cases that was a record yes today a hundred fifty eight cases locally I don't think any deaths over the weekend so that's lucky but I think there were a couple last week so largest single day rise of this virus so you know what we see in N. Y. United continuing every week to talk about business things that we can do to help or with all of our mental health conditions as we move through this to administer this but it these numbers are making my anxiety grow what's happening and we can warn but this virus is not acting like the flute no because it goes away in December for the most part yeah this is not acting like that so we have got to continue to to do all those things are recommending pap pap he again recommended you know social distancing I heard that from a local doctor friend of mine local the you know distance where may I ask you so things that were not being done really static group the best you can stay home if you can't the things that are getting recommended to us any minute in the meantime let's try to be empathetic and give each other a break because you know we learned last week that empathy is the action of understanding being aware of another's feelings and being sensitive to another person's feelings and they can help their experience in the world and right now the world cobit plus the difficult I hope positive re working of the way we've treated each other but it's it it's not an easy time so we need to introduce Dr Paul Tobin who's gonna join us here and talk about resilience and I'm motional maturity M. motional intelligence and how those techniques can help us and you chime in with me grand because I may not know all of doctor Tobin's background we we have been in a consulting group for twenty five years so we're definitely all friends but he is a licensed psychologist for at least forty years he has a large clinic in Atlanta one of the larger that I know of mental health clinics and he organizes and and manages that he also does organizational consulting so he teaches supposed going to bring us some really special information tonight about hello we can psychologically handled this well and you were asking earlier about his education Dr Tobin welcome to Katie okay St Gregory's university of central Oklahoma and Oklahoma state university I would say Dr Tobin you are well rounded I appreciate that and I had a short stint in Norman for a few semesters requirement issue so I think that touch base on on all the majors I think you have a cover you can have one of those flags that's right right we you know we use the expression emotional intelligence and emotional competency what are those things to me what we're looking at is a lot of self awareness and the capacity to understand ourselves and understand others and being able to regulate our emotions and support others John talks about empathy I think it's the timing of that is really good in terms of where where are we these days because there's another concept of or within that is that self care that relates to self empathy and being able to kind of lighten up on ourselves under chronic stress issues but that emotional competency there's a there's an element of kind of the individual and the larger we which is the self emotional awareness ourselves emotional competence and social competence in and it is getting into some of the social tolerance issues and we're also dealing with in today's culture so it's the gamut of kind of a sequential process of self awareness self regulation in assisting others to do the same whether that be our children is our neighbor B. R. co worker on a church in our community so it is really kind of taking a look at a framework in which we operate more effectively in managing intentionally what I'll talk about in our presentation moving from reactive business to a choice and responding more efficiently and more effectively in a kind and thoughtful way Gail would yell that correct Paul at all makes so much sense and what thing you pointed out that I I hope you will talk about some point is that every one of us to act so differently to changing circumstances and we're clearly in a big changes right call absolutely absolutely and yes to the inner psychologists were familiar with the developmental aspect of our emotions and talk a bit about this in terms of that reactive nous but fight flight and the third responses comma CAFOs inner deer in headlights and and that reactive Mr occurs one of those responses of fight flight or just frozen under heightened or chronic stress India everybody's different even within different systems we all play different roles in those childhood early family patterns are kind of handed down generation to generation sometimes they're attractive and useful other times maybe fifty percent of the time they're not and and so some of the good news and what we call positive psychology is that these things can change we can learn change or we can understand ourselves well enough to be able to be intentional about making more effective reaction to responses.

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