Listen: Mama, Santa Mary, Emergency Fund discussed on The Black Guy Who Tips Podcast
"To clean. I like kids right. I don't want to take it and so now you put yourself in a pigeonhole where the only fucking thing vein you bring to a relationship is how much money do you have to make me want to put up with this bullshit. That's terrible so that's why we're at this position and where women are like. I'd rather be single than strapped to some broke. Negative still expects to be like a king you know and that's why doesn't work the other way. Round men always get mad. The woman wasn't right and then what do you expect that to do. Cook clean raise the kids that want I'm GonNa do a fucking job. Not Unix begged her to just come in and be like well. If you wanna sit around the couch replace Sega Genesis. That's cool now you expect her to contribute in a bunch other ways but when men don't have money it's like well fuck. I don't have another trade so that's the that's the big part of it. Is that they hit in part is that that's so sad and like I said it most men will go right to that title and go fuck these bitches down one man it don't make no money instead of being like what else do. I have other than money because I'm GonNa tell you on right now. It's a lot of women with no money. Living just fucking fire was due to take care happy to take care of them. 'cause they prevent something else and I'm not just talking sakes you can get sex from anybody. USA anywhere especially if you're a nigger with some money you'd find somebody that'll fuck. You know I'm talking about. They are just providing the emotional stability support like I said the raising helping raise people's kids sometimes I even they all kids. You know like providing balanced or you know self-improvement stuff it takes a toll on women's lives to even be with minutes at relationships like literally it takes toll on on your lifespan right and they've done you know done studies that say that has a lot to do a Lotta Times women outlive men men and so a lot of times when men die before women in most no sometimes it's not always that that fact a lot of women when they get older they go on ovation's they start living life. They took them grandkids. They start doing shit and being about stuff other than being strapped to a God Damn Inc they no longer have obligations well especially. If a man is is GonNa be a drag Grech. My whole thing is going to be you know Ronnie from from the side like my whole thing is just gonNa me. Complaining woe is me and why you know like I say I had a conversation with a friend one time he was dating a woman who made more money now and her mom taught her car when she was younger like hey don't ever be dependent on a man and so one of the things he told her was take some money. Put to the side and you use that money for you things you WANNA do they. Whether Emergency Fund or whatever right we don't tell me to do shit like that. why none of us like I better have emergency fund the case my wife Star Tribune chip in and cut me off like well. None of us do that cubes. We're going to do that but anyway so she took some not even emergency side money that was her as she earned 'cause he made more money than him. She took it and it was like I'm GonNa go on vacation. Me and my girls are going on a vacation on beat or whatever and he was mad as fuck. Look like what how dare you have and I was like man. She go on vacation with me. I was like maybe you'd be sad. Girls going away but he he was more mad that she had the economic viability right to do a bunch of shit without him and so didn't need his input on it didn't need to consult him get his permission rats and so if fucked up the power structure relationship and they didn't make it like they broke up like he couldn't his ego couldn't handle at the time and eventually dissolve a relationship and to me that was the the biggest first step was that day of being like because I was like what what you can Ooh Ooh you win in you know like Mommy's holiday and this is a long time ago Mama told you and like why would that be a problem. You know what I mean like you. You know 'cause I'm like what did you think she is. She she going to the beach with another dude. She lied. Nam is just she got this money and you know I'll have that kind of money. I'll just put money to the sound like Whoa dimples the money to decide all right you know but that was the thing was just that power dynamic is fucked up because man. We want that that Patriarchy even when we don't deserve even even it ain't earned because that's the other thing too. There's plenty of women that really do believe in a hey you bring home the bacon. Take me I got you well. I'm out. I'm I in in my personal life. Don't mind if you open up that door for me. I don't mind if he wants me dressed a certain way I if you write like like type of lifestyle and I won't won't but the exchange is you make their money. There are some women like that. You know what I mean but the like if you're not bringing that to the table they not liked for you. Can you know this isn't me trying to drag me and who don't make money literally me saying Yo if you no you don't bring money to the table start thinking about what else you can bring to the table Diana. If nothing else to help you help yourself you what is tonight. It doesn't help behoove. You don't know how to keep your house cleaning. Don't help us to cook it. Don't help you to be handy on these things help you. I don't know necessarily do it on my I gotTa do this to get a woman but just doing it for yourself you know and then I think that helps so anyway man. It's just sad that is that way but yeah is leading the people be like why even getting married why waste my time and a lot of is men's bolt like lily. The structure is mental like they ought to be dominated. They can't be dominant. Women's like we'll have you can't be dominated book. I need you know I don't want to be dominated by nowotny. The end of the day that's all it is hate to be like that before a lot of women that nope the structure that you set up now use that structure of not meeting destruction that you've that upset you got to divide you fucking over here fold the news is even tougher for black men and women hoping to find a spouse racial ethnic minorities especially black women face serious shortages of potential marital partners in nineteen sixty seventy two percent of adults in the US with Mary according to Pew Research while more don't couples are reportedly living together now. Only fifty percent Santa Mary that research indicates that fifty four percent of those were married as opposed black adults who are married at a rate of thirty percent agents were with with a group most likely to Mary was sixty one percent of adults walking down the aisle according to the study published by the Journal of Marriage and family last week the nation's lack of weddings is a matter of green the study reveals large deficits in supply of potential male spouses applications that unmarried that the unmarried may remain married or marry very last wells through the partners so yeah you essentially saying lower your standards there yeah and what's happening. Here is women are refusing and that's the problem Dan like nope and in a very short period of time you have to see this is history. We're talking about women light. I literally earning the right white. Women earned the right to vote like I think this year's the hundredth anniversary of death around and now Yeltsin like that I think I think yes Sir Sir Nineteen thousand nine hundred twenty nine so this one hundred year anniversary of women just getting the right the right to suffrage white women getting the rights and suffrage now. You're talking about that progress so women now. If you can vote now you can work if you can work and you have a voice you can run for office. You can do a bunch largest of you can go to school. You can get degrees now. You have women that are like I might have had to marry almost out of desperation in one thousand nine hundred eighty three correct correct but in twenty nineteen I can just I'd rather be singled and not even I can do bad on myself. No I can be singling. I'm doing great. I'm doing fine fine. My knees are met. My money is good. You know like maybe emotionally. I want something that Romantically but not I still have more options to be like. I don't need to settle for endangering my safety. Come I need to settle for half a man that's going to cheat on me or some do come to the table with a bunch of misogynistic type of views and telling me I ain't shit and my body as shit and I should be not on me. If you want to and all this shit like Donna my won't deal with that and I I can't speak for everybody but you have a generation of women that were raised. Would they send uncles. I mean I know for me now. Uncles what raised over there in an older family members that went through that beaten and cheat and all that shit and now all no no no no no Mama went through that I'm not going through that Bush here my way through that I'm not going Kabui and guess who told you not to go through that Dedi Eighty they was like bench. Get your lack gale and don't put up with no bullshit those same grandma's the men romanticized because they basically understood they had to stay would've shit man. Go saying grandma's to tell them they granddaughters and their daughters don't be like me like this was a mistake. You go actually have some opportunities. I didn't have use them to the best advantage and do not ah into being miserable just to be was on nigger. Dad Tell you know mass weapons wouldn't work that you better be by yourself so anyway shut out to shot that Pohan as sad prospects but I hope instead most men will read that and go fuck these bitches Blah Blah Blah but they really need to read them be like why am I not doing more for myself and more debris rainwater the table then there's some money but all right let's get into fucking black people."