Listen: UK, Cosby, Anxiety discussed on The Jordan B. Peterson Podcast
"This came up in your channel four in the UK about the fundamental differences between women and men in a hot topic. We've talked about on this show is like the women aren't paid in in a way that it seems equitable to the men in a similar job, and you made arguments that their fundamental differences between men and women where women need to play some of the role and assertive, this is agreeable. People get paid less for the same job than disagreeable people. 'cause they don't ask sure lurk. If you do your job very competently, you might expect that your boss should notice that in probably he or she should. But the problem with doing things well is that it's invisible, what's visible is mistakes. So then you just work really hard and you're visible, it's like, well, you're invisible. That's not helpful. And like, did you ask and maybe asking is good enough? Like I've counseled lots of people who've tripled their salaries in two or three years. It's work, man, it's work. It's a strategy. It's a war to do that, but you can do it. I mean, the first thing you do is well, the first thing we do is, are you actually doing a good job but say, yes. Okay, fine. Are you talking. Renting it generally? No. If you're documenting, are you communicating the documentation while? No. Okay. Is your CV up-to-date and prepared? Are you ready to move laterally? Are you looking for other positions? Are you looking for other opportunities within the workplace? How often do you talk to your boss, but what you're doing? What are your salary goals? Well, I wanna fifteen percent raise. Did you ask? No. Well, sorry, man, you're not gonna get it. If you don't ask unless you're Suming that your bosses initiate and benevolent, which is highly improbable, especially if you're doing a good job and you can be ignored, you know. And then it's not only it's not only a matter of asking. It's a matter of negotiating because if I want something from you and it's somewhat of zero sum game in often, the distributable pile of money is somewhat of zero-sum game. It's like, here's six reasons why you should pay me fifteen percent more. And here's two things that aren't good. That will happen if you don't. So and then usually you're not even negotiate with your boss. You do go shooting with your boss's boss. So what you're trying to do is to give your bosses story so that he can. She can go to the next person up and say, well, we have to give this person fifteen percent more because if we don't, I, they're doing a good job. Here's the documentation which they so helpfully supplied me for, and here's the negative Cosby thing that will happen if we don't give them their money because it's cheaper than hiring someone else. It's like you have to think strategically and you have to be disagreeable and the disagreeable party is you have to negotiate on your own behalf. What's the fundamental difference between men and women? Well, the temperamental traits are women are higher in trainer autism, so they feel more negative emotion, anxiety and emotional pain primarily, and they're hiring agreeable nece, which is compassion, compassion and politeness. And that's that's about half a standard deviation which isn't a lot. So men and women are more the same than they are different by a substantial margin. But at the extremes, those those differences really make a difference. So for example, women's higher trait, neuroticism negative emotionality is reflected in the fact that cross country, they're more likely to be diagnosed with depression and anxiety disorders. Whereas men's disagreeable nece is reflected in the fact that they're more likely to be arrested and imprisoned. So it's ten to one male convicts to female. You think that's a matter of socialization, you think the court system is stacked against men. We're going to have an equity program for men and women in prison, or we're going to accept the fact that. Tend to be more violent than women, which is also by the way women commit women attempt suicide more often than mitt.."