Listen: Catherine, Hr Leader, Boston discussed on No Ego
"And move it forward is number one in the unit day. Yeah. And I think it's, it's improperly has it hands down. So one of the things I'm hoping to do, we have a improv asylum in Boston is, is offered a space, but I wanna do an event leader mom stand up because they're there are crazy things that happen in I just there's a surgeon, I'm working with now in one of her. She had a outburst on the floor and to the HR leader said to her, you must be tired to can't really do it all, retold the brain being very lazy went to can you have it all know so this is evidence. Can't have it all. And she said, I guess, not in her brain, went with the same way, this, this bias of motherhood incur, is the same for women and men in. So when I sat them down their head of God bless her said, you cannot let her leave without talking to Catherine because there's. Some kind of weird mom thing at play here until we sat down, and I'm talk through it. And basically, the women had been left on the floor with no other providers for like five hours. Somebody did something stupid and she expressed anger poorly rain, and that's it's not about being a leader mom, it's about we need to choose differently. Didn't sure the safety of our patients. And so, my, the, the improv part of it came to me. So I was like, okay, tell me where her kids came into it. And then I just sat there and I was like where they in the building where they without care, did they not sleep the night before. And I was like to tell me where they come into this. Somebody build me, an argument where her being a parent is the cause of this problem. And I just sat there and nobody could do it. And I was like, do you think maybe it doesn't have anything to do with motherhood? It might have to do with a poor decision on the part of her boss, and her needing to learn skillful emotional expression. And they were like yeah. So she still works there. Right. But she's, and she's super happy in a role and changed bosses. But it is, it's so easy to go to this narrative of motherhood, and we let ourselves off the hook and the problems are actually, much like other people's problems, like, how's your boss? What's her job leg? How's your skill us? We'll as women, I think start throttling down. Like when we buy into that narrative down. And we start saying, you know, I just gotta accept the information about having it all is about having a life. I love with the things I want, you know, I know I'm keeping a while and I love this as fast thing. So if you don't want to keep a one, I want people women mom leader moms to flock to your websites, and become a member because it's a safe place, this, a waste where we can go to get some like the real skinny the real scoop on. On from people actually doing it instead of people giving opinions about it is about. What ties employers to do because I can't tell you the number of people that in my past employment say, gosh, you know, now that, you know, we know you at age fifty four if you. So awesome. If you're in our system, you'd be like a CEO of a hostile by now. And I'm like, there wasn't even room for me in your system. I gave birth four babies in. Yeah. And I'm grateful for this because I'm loyal beyond where loyalties do, right? I have a prop out. So if they hadn't of made it completely impossible for me, the fit in that system. I would never gone out and had the courage, I think, to do my own consulting, and really fine. What I was meant to do. I just feel like I'm living that purpose. So I'm grateful for that. But I remember, you know, just not even. Having a place and this was years ago. But I see that even now people to me, women moms leader mom sucked me alive about. Their choices being so limited. And so what's, what can employers do what did you mind from data?."