White Kids, Supervisor, United States discussed on On Point with Tom Ashbrook | Podcasts
Better Book for this moment actually is each kindness because I. I think that's one of the things that we're struggling with in this country. Right now is how to be kind be kind on social media how to be kind of person. How did you know how to talk to people so that they're able to hear us? without without rage. and I think you can get points across. That are very angry points, but you can get him across with kindness so so that's what I. That's my saying about the other side. Interesting I'm intrigued by what you said about Teaching kindness and trying to project kindness on social media. That's a challenge though it can be isn't. Responded this idea that social media seems like such A. an incubator in a way of rage and extreme and how we need to sort of. Of that and I don't know help. Our kids navigate that. Yeah I always say th-. Before you send out a text or a tweet, imagine it coming to you and how you would feel getting. Right, and so you hold up that mirror of to your actions, and I think it makes you think I think even if you took ten minutes and reread and revise, you can say something. That has the same impact, but is said with love and because the truth is i. know this sounds so remedial, but if we're going to do this work together, we have to be kind. That's all there is to. Know? Let's go to Kay. WHO's calling from Decatur Georgia? You're on the air. Thanks for the call. Hey. Thanks for having me. I just wanted to say. I have a grandson WHO's currently eight years old and we ended up having to have the talk with him. When he was four years old his mom had been a victim of identity theft, and so judge had given her paperwork to keep in her car at all times, because the person was still using her main. and Head of car accident at Walmart you, know. Of course you call the police. And when the police came, you know. They ran her licensed and the girl is a criminal using her name. So you know the officer, of course it. Back and she says Oh. I'm a victim of identity. Please look behind my car seat. I have the paperwork. He would not do it. He put her in handcuffs. He almost threw her in the car. People were filming and my grandson was the car with his mom and he's like. Screaming and crying so My daughter called out my own number. The person called me, said look, here's what's going on. Of course, I'm zooming the get to them. And all of it could have been settled. Had he just looked behind her seat and saw the court paperwork? So because it was such a commotion of the Supervisor Came Out the supervisor did listen to. My daughter, did toward the paperwork out did see that it was not her. but what happened to my grandson? If he was terrified of course I had to keep him. We couldn't send him to school Every time he saw police, he was ducking behind me, so we ended up having to have this conversation about people judging you by the color of your skin. That Mommy didn't do anything wrong. You know that He didn't do anything wrong and it just ended up. You know trying to explain to a four year old child. You know why why? Why did mom was treated like that was horrible? You know and it was just. US having to find a way to explain to a four year old about racial injustice and we still happen. To do these conversations so what I always do I just tell them the truth. It's their fault. Evil with evil when they did and still evil today. Can you thank you so much for that and I'm so sorry that your grandson went through this that your entire family went through this jacqueline. Do you want to respond to k? Now, it's heartbreaking. I mean bless his heart. One thing that I do love his. How resilient young people are at I'm so glad you're there for him. Kate I'm K-. I'm so glad his mom is there I'm so glad that the paperwork was there. 'cause dot forbid we seen what happens to people of Color in so many of these situations than it's terrifying in heartbreaking and and you know. I always think I talk about it in Brown girl dreaming my grandfather constantly saying you're as good as anybody. You have a right to be as good as anybody, and just the fat, knowing that it's of course, not his fault. It's you know it it it has. His not his mom's fault at this is, it's terrible. and I think you did you're doing what you can at an? It's amazing and a fabulous and just keep loving him up and. And him the right way to be and the way to justice I think there's I. The book I'm thinking of right off the top of my head. Well now he's eight, but Abram Kennedy's book I'm anti-racist. Baby was a great book, and Another book called. It's not my fault. I think which is about a kid who seeing all of this injustice in the world, and finally is like okay. What am I going to do about it i? Think that's the. The title I have to look that up but there there are so many great books. There's a book called stamps from the beginning that Abrams road, but he and Jason Renos an amazing writer wrote a middle grade version, and it would be great to do that as an audio book are to read that along with him, so he can, and he will through that book completely understand what happened, and and and how amazing magic and beautiful and strong years. Jacqueline WanNA. Ask You You made the point earlier in the hour. That black and Brown people talk a lot about race because they they have to keep themselves safe you. You talked about this at the at the kid let rally as well. The kid lit for black lives. Rally as well. How do we include White Kids in the conversation? White Kids who want to be involved in the struggle to be anti-racist. The same way. About it I mean I think everyone needs to be talking about race and I remember as a kid. you know we got slavery? People call the ICEE enslavement because we weren't slaves enslaved and and to call people, slaves take the onus off the people who wanted to own black and brown bodies so.