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What's Your Everest? With Sara Safari

Camden Boyd's The Happiness Question

05:01 min | 8 hrs ago

What's Your Everest? With Sara Safari

"I'll sarah it's great to have you on the show. Thank you so much. Thank you for having me. Do you have any questions before we get started. Tell me more about yourself. And what did you start this block. Cats let's see. I started this podcast out of the bit of a depression. That was trying to find out for myself how to be a happier person and through school projects and this show. I've been able to help myself and others be happier still happen to learn every single time i haven't interview. What is the secret to happiness. Now let's see well but if we talked about so far you're talking is going to be completely new but we've talked about relationships. Those are very important. We've talked about money. Buzek just kind of ways to be happier. I'll give you my own definition. Good cheer wore me to death of is leaving at your full potential. Who i like that so doing things that you really wanna do. And then you're happy and that there is a deeper levels to it after you do everything that you wanna do then you realize after doing all of that. There's only two things that really make you happy. The rest is just a surface happiness but the deep happiness there are only two ways of being actually happy one making a difference in the world to having relationships like that. Tell us a little bit more about yourself. I was born in iran. And i moved to the united states when i was twenty and i studied electrical engineering at ucla. And i was working in by companies and then later on. I decided that i want to start teaching and the main part of the story. Is that outof nowhere. I decided to climb mount everest. Seven years they go and then a couple of years a few months. After i decided to climb mount everest i decided to quit and then when i decided to quit i met the founder of the organization in power nepali girls and i decided to climb mount everest again for the second time. I mean just. I didn't do the stein. But i just said to quit right at the beginning but the second time i decided to do it. This time to raise funds and awareness for the girls who become victims of human trafficking or forced to get married at a very young age and then i actually climbed mount everest. And when i was climbing there was a seven point. Eight earthquake in nepal. I survived the earthquake and the avalanches and aftershocks everything about that earth way again came back home. Publish the book starting my own business and here. I am right now. Seven years after that would have been a scarier rake. It was gary. Yeah where were you. When that hit. I was at twenty thousand feed on an ice wall about finish the wall on the edge off the wall. Almost when the earthquake hit us at a decision mount everett above koumura icefall is the most dangerous part of everest in most unstable part of everest grey. I so did you end up making it to the top. No i'd i'd you're talking to my soul right no. We didn't make it to the top because everybody decided to quit climbing. You know there are sherpas which are neb Mountain climbers who are really good at this and they set up their route a rope all the way to the top of the mountain and because of the air raid ten thousand people died today have to call it quits and they had to leave to go. Take care of their families. Their home their belongings was just such a crazy earthquake and then when they left nobody else without them. Klein's evidence or any mountain that area so they let everybody else to leave. Yeah so no. I then make it to the top of everest. I still haven't made it to the top of everest. Even tried a bunch of times. After that i still haven't made it to the top of everest

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Genesis Amaris Kemp On Addressing Racism

Pond's Feed

07:13 min | 4 d ago

Genesis Amaris Kemp On Addressing Racism

"You wanna grab you some coffee or tea or something. You know what. I don't need to because i'm talking to jenness earth now gets anti-people butcher the middle name. Souther like amri amri or amari to at pronunciation with stuff. So i mean how often do jokingly mispronounce things but it a marris in case you're wondering its genesis amar's camp but i just go with the flow. You are a writing consultant no. I don't consult alrighty. I i give writing tips. I do inclusion diversity Address myself at the beginning of this. I i am doing this Out of a long day at work at a starbucks and back to back meetings at cure. Because i am just really happy to talk to you. I know you're looking like are you sure about that. Because you're you look confused all tie. No no i mean that's all about. I like to goof off. But i mean really before. We even started talking about this. You mentioned that you're also from texas. And i think that is wonderful. Because like i've been interviewing a lot of diverse creatives of backgrounds and zoe's like okay. That's awesome does meaning people from other world but what about here in texas and do you think in your life. I numbers making up words. I i was like in your love. I'm like wait. what did i just say. I noticed that you had a guy in the background. And he's probably like hearing the other rooms like what is she talking do. That's my cousin and hell walk by. I'm gonna monitor. Make sure like okay. He's talking to. She's talking to white guy. I gotta make sure nothing. Bad goes on I know that's my cousin. He's doing on. My husband normally walks walks by sometimes or if or if he sees my light on. He knows on recording. Sometimes they'll just crawl behind instead of cameo appearances will put those bunny ears would be. I don't think people do that anymore. They just put fingers right behind someone that orca. Let me rewind again. You are a creative content writer up there right yes howard. How did you start writing like what. What's the origin of your creative passion. Said i really started in high school. Just wanting to ride more creative Creatively n I was in english class. And i hate writing prompts. That had no meeting. So i started to just Free hand right stuff and they're like oh your writings pretty good. We think you should enter it in a magazine so i entered in the school magazine one apprised etc and. It was a way for me to be therapeutic back then. Could to just get your thoughts out of your head onto paper in the creative juices. Just begin flowing in you know one thing led to another and i was riding on and off in. I left it alone for a bit in about. Let's see three years ago. I picked it back up then. Just being going solid and little did i know book was inside of me. What book was that chocolate. Drop in corporate america from the pit to the palace. so this is my lovely or yesterday The front design of. I mean so i mean i want to ask about cover are which i think. It's an interesting subject for authors. How did you design or like Create that particular heart because you see a lot of figures in the foreground Again you show the bargain. Yes yeah yeah like you see like a diverse group of people With one of of bloopers here. Because i i'm i'm on a roll on these different things but i do like the unification of this because this is something that i'm hoping organiser cousin fatal can it is where are you. Oh i thought a cedric. No that's good but is what was the sort of the inspiration behind that book in particular so mainly just talking about inclusion diversity. There's a world in the background to represent that the issues that we face in america can happen worldwide. It's just that we need to be open. An appearance about it. Really talk about the trials and tribulations that a lot of us face whether it's personal or professional than i had people from all nationalities as well as different career feels so different industries to let people know no matter what industry you are in like. We have all went through something in life where we have been slided whether it was through ageism sexism. Racism systemic racism oppression or whatever the case may be. There has been times where we felt like. We did not along due to the way that he would treat it as or reffell like we were overlooked. Because people said okay your resume stand out or we feel like you're overqualified or your underqualified or we're not going to hire you because you're just you know you're not the right fit for the position for whatever reason and then they give you a answering your light what that doesn't make any sense so that's why you see. The diverse group on the cover of the book and the title of the book is called chocolate drop in corporate america which is controversial to sam. But once you really look at the entire cover are in you see okay. The title says this but the cover shows inclusion diversity in it also shows a world. I wanted people to double take in say okay. I wonder what this book is about. Let me pick this book. Up if i get unraveling and then the subtitle is from the pit to the palace because sometimes we have to go through dark seasons in our life in order to appreciate the the brightness and to appreciate the glory days

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Lecrae On Overcoming Trauma, Abuse And Addiction To Be Your Best

Addicted2Success

05:23 min | 4 d ago

Lecrae On Overcoming Trauma, Abuse And Addiction To Be Your Best

"Ladies and gentlemen welcome to the addicted to success podcast. I'm your host. Joe brown and i'm here today with grammy award winning artist activists and new york times bestselling author loughrey. Cray has a new book. That has come out its code. Im restored lost my religion but found my face. And if you're on the other side of this episode right now listening and you have struggled with things such as abuse trauma divorce division addiction or hopelessness. The craze hit a tell you that there is a way to break through this so the cray thank you so much should be in here brother. I'm excited to dive into these powerful conversations. Thank you appreciate ogden. Awesome so the cray. I've read your book. I m restored. There's so much juice in them and i I resonate with a lot of your journey. I personally was in the music industry now in the entrepeneurship space and tell you what man being a man of faith and walking in the secular world just that pulled. The secular world has at times and the temptation. That's a play. I can understand if if you've had these crazy experiences in your life and you have your wounds in the trauma. That's that suppressed. I can understand how it's tries to play out on an unconscious level. So let's dive into this man. A lot of the audience are predominantly entrepreneurs. The very much on the run you know. They're chasing success. There high achievers it may even be overcompensation area success. But what would you say for you. Was this like pinnacle moment in your life where you realized that you needed some healing to take place. Now i come from a background where it ain't broke. My biological father struggled with affirmation and approval. I was always kind of like on the low in the totem pole. So i had to fight for everything. I had to scrap to fill a sense of value. And that carried over into my pursuit of you. Know my success Outside of the musician you know you're you're moving a million miles an hour trying to be an entrepreneur trying to be an author trying to be all these particular things and I always say like this. The way i knew i needed. Killing was not because all of a sudden the success stopped. It was because the engine on my boat ran out of gas. And let me break that down for you. Most entrepreneurs successful people would liken themselves to motorboats or speedboats and we are speedboat. You're moving a million miles an hour quickest as possible but what ends up happening eventually. Is you run out of gags in. None of our biggest fear is being a raft. We don't want to be the type of person she carried by the way we don't want to be type of individual that is just like i don't know what's going on. I'm just going to let life happen. We wanna be go getters but in going so fast you run out of gas and i had to learn that i was meant to be a sail boat. A sailboat put working. You put hard work and effort in but there's an understanding of the wind. There's a time when you understand when it's time to let the sales up when it's time to have them down when it's time to turn the rudder All encompassing act in i was a speedboat moving so fast thinking i was just gonna accomplish everything and then i ran out of gas and gas round. The gas for me looked like depression. Looked like anxiety. Look like coping mechanisms. Yeah powerful it. It sounds like you started to notice this kind of this disorder in your life right. I remember watching the series that you put out on on youtube recently director series. Man i love what you said in the first episode. There where you said it's like you you wake up in the morning and you see beautiful things and you know that it's beautiful but you can't appreciate it now. I'm sure there's somebody listening right now for sure that can resonate with that. And that's struggling with that. How did you work your way out of this depression. Yeah i mean that's the tough part right is when you're used to work in and accomplishing goals. You think there's a way. I can fight my way through this or there's some kind of you know book i can read or thing i can do and unfortunately the reality of it is that your your nervous system your body your past traumas. All of them need time to heal and they need attention. And so you you have to now be as passionate at. I had to be as passionate as i was about my healing process as i was about everything that was doing that. Got me into that. That dr place in so. It took a lot of time effort energy. You know counseling matter meditation. Medication all of it In order to get myself to a place where i was functioning in i was healing.

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How Goalcast Creates Viral Videos With Salim Sader And Cyrus Gorjipour

The Mindvalley Podcast with Vishen Lakhiani

04:50 min | Last week

How Goalcast Creates Viral Videos With Salim Sader And Cyrus Gorjipour

"For. You guys started this business. Goal casts really really recently. And you've got an so good so fast that justin bieber's agent scooter braun braun. Lebron's the guy who's responsible for some of the most viral music videos in the world. He's the man who basically created justin bieber and he said these guys are some of the best and most masterful storyteller he's ever met. There's a funny story. There actually go ahead and scooter wants me to share this. But when we were filming his video for goal cast we were telling him no. Do this or say that story again or focus on this and at one point he just turned us. Zych like guys. Do you know. I make the most viral videos on the internet. And we're like. Yeah but you've never made a goal cast video. This is different and he just looked at us and he was really pissed. And he's like guys. I brought justin bieber look up videos like it has two billion views on youtube. Stand down and all that and then we just to our guns. were like. Listen if you wanna make a goal video we know what works with our audience. We know what works on facebook. Like you have to tell the story your way. And then what happened is that she then went along with it and video when we released it to him before we posted it. He called me up and he's like guys really. This is amazing. I've never tried to my own video. And i was crying watching video psych. Good thing you guys in listen to me and most people usually listen to me and you guys just stuck to your guns just reminded me of the amazing. That's really proud of you guys. How long ago did you start bowl. Cast for three years ago. Three years ago awesome and so three years. That's how you can get in three years. How many fans you have right now. More than thirty million across all social networks in three years three years. Yeah that's incredible. Please give them around of applause. Sa- break it down for us. And i want you to break it down for a step-by-step in a rap with a frenchaccent norm kid. What's going on what was going on in that rock. Thomas video works so well. How did that get eighty million views. I would start by saying that what we try to establish his four thinks it's credibility authenticity right sympathy and then relayed ability. I see you guys writing down some credibility that authenticity sympathy and reliability and ability. Yeah awesome rhyme. Oh yeah. I didn't even know so he can do it in a wrap. Your those things usually a lot of speakers. All storytellers usually focus on the credibility. Part if you notice and what we try to do is actually focus on the three others because people a lot of people already have the credibility part really down and one really good trick one. Good way to have all three at once is to be vulnerable so think about it. You know you have authenticity. if you're vulnerable. Authenticity is basically being yourself shawn stevenson. Just talked about that right like if you share. Something vulnerable yourself. You're instantly yourself right. Sympathy sympathy. Is people feeling what you're feeling right. People have to feel in your shoes and when you say something like as an example i went to talk to that girl and she broke my heart bright. If i share it with someone than instantly you feel those three things. And then you can relate also the third part relating. Is you going back to a story in your life that relates to what i just shared with you and that instantly makes us feel connected. And that's what we try to do with our videos. That's brilliantly said. Could you state those three things again for people who are taking no yes. Authenticity sympathy and reliability authenticity sympathy and relate ability. Could you go more into sympathy and reliability. Yeah sympathy and reliability to us. We try to do with both at the same time. Sympathy to us is a lot about the feeling. It's a lot about feeling the same emotion as a speaker or somebody in movies. They do that too right. You feeling the same emotion as a person going through it. If you notice alexei the rock thomas video. We do that in subtle ways as well. There's a part where his father screams at him. And then you see the kid starting to cry that is sympathy because when we show an image of a kid crying. You'd bloody feel you didn't need to have the same experience to feel that because we show an image of a kid crying you can feel it so related to the other side really ability. Is you thinking about a time which your own father. Maybe where you felt the same way. So that's how would differentiate it.

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At War With The World

Love.Me

05:24 min | 2 weeks ago

At War With The World

"Everybody ashley here and thank you for joining me on another episode of love me. So i wanna make this as conversationalist possible even though this is one side. What is giving yourself grace. What does that look like to you. What does it look like his beating yourself up when something doesn't go as planned but it doesn't look like is holding onto things of the past and other people's emotions what it looks like is having emotional intelligence for situations for yourself for other people and being realistic looking at people in a humanistic form putting people on this pedestal or yourself and having we can have expectations. But if we don't make that mark is cool. We're human small wins. Small victories baby. I looked up. What grace is adding grace for yourself is giving yourself the permission to forgive your mistakes. Any lapses in judgement any hurt any hurtful behavior. Because no one's perfect and it shows up all the time we see these hashtags and inspirational quotes about giving grace but honestly that is one of the fewest quotes. I've actually seen lately About giving grace a lot of them are super motivational and super positive. Giving yourself grace isn't about being positive. It's about being realistic in grace's that gift that's offered to us. You know by source by god. We need to give ourselves grace. We need to take the moment to breathe and pause with ourselves. Grace a notice that something that we we don't too often do we. We are so quick to forgive other people. It's like we don't forgive ourselves and there's really nothing to forgive ourselves. Were now sometimes. There is but simple mistakes. Do you have to give yourself grace. And i get it like. It's not the easiest thing to do but shoot we're making it through a pandemic the fact that you've made it to where you are today. You might not be in the place that you wanna be. We might not be in a fifty million dollar home that used to be owned by jennifer lopez katy perry or whoever her as far as our goals and whether they be personal professional spiritual we have to give ourselves grace because we may not make it to that point where we want to where we expecting where i wanted to be. Today is not where i expected myself to beat but i am further. So it's about gratitude. It's about giving yourself grace. It's about finding things that serve among other things and the reason we're talking about this like i said it's because throughout this process of better me better you better we. I know that many of us were just so hard on ourselves. Sucks like we are our own worst critic. And i know i am. I'm harder on myself than anybody else. Think about all the crap that you said to yourself the negative self talk judgment now. You say all of that to your loved ones to your brother. Your sister mother father best friend those who are closest to you. Now if they're not close to you we talk about that right now but those friends and loved ones. That are close to us now. There comes a time and in place when we're giving them you know honesty however when it comes to grace we give them a lot of grace we give them a lot of forgiveness especially if it's been a long journey shoot the longest journey we've had is with ourselves you know. And also the connection that we had to her mother's in the womb and other things that nature but that connection that relationship that we have with ourselves because it's constant and we're constantly judging and questioning ourselves and replaying the past and doing all these things flip flopping and not using the rear view mirror we are using a full sized mirror and skip amir about the cuss. We are out here with all the windows open on our computer. Every single window does look look looking. Oh let me go to this one. Let me go this one. let me. I was looking at this last week. I was looking at this last year. And that's not serving us. That's one of those things i- cornerstore convenience. Put these things on our basket and bring these things in the past that. Don't serve us. We give our loved ones grace because we know they're human and no one's perfect so we really don't need to be that hard on ourselves at the core we're good we are people. We deserve good things and nothing is permanent. So if we don't get one thing done at that particular on it may not be a permanent issue. It's temporary in. give yourself grace things. We we have no control over outside entities. other people. don't stress it. I don't people are gonna take things personally. People are gonna experience interpret things differently. You know everybody's low level of emotional intelligence and emotional availability is different so save yourself some grace for yourself be present

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The US needs a radical revolution of values

TED Talks Daily

05:32 min | Last week

The US needs a radical revolution of values

"Five years my father was assassinated and he did change the world but the tragedy is that we didn't hear what he was saying to us as a prophet to his this nation in his words river. Reverberating back to us change. We all know is necessary right now. It's not easy. But i wanna talk about america's choice and a greater level. The prophet said to us. We still have a choice today. Nonviolent coexistence or violent coalition literally in the streets of our nation people who have been following the path non violent protests and people who have been hailed bent on destruction. Those choices are now at us and we have to make a choice. History of this nation was founded in violets. My father said america is the greatest purveyor of violence and the only way forward is if we repent for being a nation built on violence. And i'm not just talking about physical violence. I'm talking about systemic violence. I'm talking about policy. Violence i'm talking about what he spoke of the triple eagles of poverty. Racism and militarism all violent albert einstein. Stein said something to us. You said we cannot solve problems on the same level of thinking in which they were created and so if we are going to move forward we are going to have to deconstruct these systems of violence that we have seven america. And we're going to have to reconstruct on a not a foundation that foundation happens to be love and nonviolence and saw as we move forward weaken correct course if we make better choice that daddy said nonviolent coexistence and that continue on the pathway of violent cornell elation does that look like that that looks like some deconstruction work in order to get to the construction. We have to deconstruct are thinking. We've got to deconstruct the way in which we see people and deconstruct the way in which we operate practice and engage in policy and so i believe that there's a lot of heart a t. a. r. to work to do in the midst of all the h. a. r. d. hard work to do because heart work is hard work. One of the things we have to do is we have to ensure that everyone especially my white brothers and sisters after engaged in bihar work. The anti racism work in our hearts zapped from this especially in my white community. We must do that work in our hearts the anti racism work. The second thing is that. I encourage people to look at but mom violence training that we the kings of the kingston about or so that we learned the foundation of understanding our interrelatedness and interconnectedness. That we understand our loyalties and commitments and our policy-making can no longer be devoted to one group of people but has to be devoted to the the greater good of all people we all have to change and have to make a choice. It is a choice to change the direction that we have been going. We need a revolution of values in this country. That's what my daddy said you changed the world change hearts and now what has happened over the last seven eight years history. We have to change course and we all have to participate in changing america with a true revolution values where people are at the center and not profit. When morality is at the center and that our military might america does have a choice. We can even choose to go down. Continually that path of destruction or we can choose nonviolent coexistence and as my mother said struggle is a never ending process. Freedom is never really one in every generation

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Unlocking Your Brain's Potential With Dr. Ryan D'Arcy

Good Life Project

05:56 min | Last week

Unlocking Your Brain's Potential With Dr. Ryan D'Arcy

"We have this conversation. I'm hanging out in boulder colorado. You are in vancouver and You grew up in british columbia. It sounds like in a small town. Did which is known it. Tell me if. I have this right as the second largest stampede. In canada behind calgary is that right. We're gonna go that right. Yes yes. I've lived my entire life telling people that factoid and for non canadian listeners. The stampede is certainly it biggest rodeo on the planet candidate you've I grew up by Surrounded by cowboys and gold. Rush prospectors bright williams. Like the. it's the town. It's pretty small town though isn't it yet. Is sub between fifteen and twenty five thousand depending on over the course of years. So it's it's pretty small it's largely in the interior of b. c. so it's a lot of mountains nearby and a lot of outdoors and that sort of thing. The caribous right. That's right. yeah it's in the cariboo. Yeah so were you. Were you ever participant in the rhodesia side of things. Actually my father was the the head of the rodeo. When year. But i was really small. I was never a participant. We had sort of friends that had ranches in for a while. We had cattle and horses forces scared me in the sense that they they had their own minds. I wasn't entirely sure when i was on a dirt bike. I knew how to control that but horses had to actually be a lot smarter than i was to know how to get on with horses so my sister wrote a lot got. That's kind of really interesting foreshadowing in a weird way though right because you sort of like as a as a kid you see these animals and realize that they have their own mind than their own will. And you're not entirely sure how it works. How to relate to them or had a surly interact way where you develop a mutual understanding and then you look pretty far far forward actually like a couple of years down. The road and your life has been devoted to similar process but with human beings absolutely. Yeah it's it's really interesting too because you see come full circle and not for me personally. But now acquaint therapy you have these people that are really being able to understand. The phenomenon of the brain is the brain is the brain right. So it's it's fascinating to see it across not just humans but across all animals. Yeah a much. A curious is so you do all this work on Measuring what happens in the brain and detecting what happens in the brain then translating that. Because i i've also seen sort of this really fascinating emergence of therapy and known people who both Lead therapy and have been through it. You have been inclined slash patients and shared how they feel like a horse's or these deeply wise animals who are fiercely intuitive and consents. Everything about you so that there there is this sort of connection really unusual connection that tends to happen with human beings as a neuroscientist. Does that land trudy. Yes it does. It's actually where. I'm i'm right now. I'm really interested in tobacco up a bit when ibm i built watson and challenged Jeopardy champions i got called in the neuroscientist to compete Sort of debate with computer scientists about the brain and a and all that stuff. And i got fixated on this interesting thing. I stumbled across my research where somebody proposed that there could be more functional connections in the human brain than there were atoms in the observable universe and over the years. I've really found that interesting. Because i've i've tried to work the numbers and that sort of thing and what i realized it. You know if you reduce that down to a simple circuit of neurons it is possible that that circuit can have more connections than it actually has atoms that compose it and when i really realized it was kind of cool is when if you think we'll wait a minute that's the neurons are not just within our own. Skulls are neurons. Interact with each other all the time right so minor runs right now. Are changing your functional connections in yours are changing mind so so i thought wow. Isn't that cool. Because that's like a really heavy kinda insight into ways. We could tap brain potential brain power to do good things in life. And so yeah. I'm always thinking about those things. Yeah and it's and it's really interesting to right because the fundamental assumption there. Is that the things that go on in our brain can in a very real way affect what's happening in the brain of being whether human or animal in proximity to us in some way shape or form. Yeah yeah we just had one of our Cyber narrow factoid and one of the facts that was really interesting as when musicians are playing music their brainwaves synchronized and doing all these things now. I don't personally do it but through in the field. There's all these meta scanning where they can show the neuro relationship between mom and baby and different people far away as just fascinating. Yeah that's amazing because then if you can show that the brainwave sink. Then if that sentence than has almost like this trickle down effect on the physiology and the rest of the nervous system then maybe that also part of the basis for people who were new you have these phenomenon where it seems like physiological cycles. start to sink Yeah yeah. And i think it's interesting because the more that we become mindful of that the more we can actually use it for positive impacts right and i think in the world today you can maybe start to ask the question if some of that is there and has just out of control and so how could we actually harness that. I think that's just such interesting ways to think about how you know we never really think about our brains right. It's just what moves our body and our personality and all that but if you could actually think about it in different ways i've i've always loved creativity in that. Yeah

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An Excerpt from the book From Clutter to Clarity: Clean Up Your Mindset to Clear Out Your Clutter by Kerri Richardson

Optimal Living Daily

04:52 min | Last week

An Excerpt from the book From Clutter to Clarity: Clean Up Your Mindset to Clear Out Your Clutter by Kerri Richardson

"From clutter to clarity cleanup your mindset to clear out your clutter by carry. Richardson clutter is a multifaceted multi-layered phenomenon. That has little to do with you. Being disorganized in everything to do with the important role it plays in your life if there are things thoughts or people in your life who don't contribute positively to what your health and happiness. Then you've got clutter. Dirty overarching categories of clutter. Simple which is easily cleared and stubborn. Which is stubborn stubborn. Clutter is comprised of symptomatic. Clutter in core clutter. Remember this difficult to clear clutter is never about the stuff is about what the stuff represents whatever clutter you struggle with the most is where you'll find the most poignant learning opportunities about yourself your values in your mindset the tactics. You used to distract yourself or procrastinate. Give a peek into the core causes of your clutter. What's really stopping you from. Clearing it unpacking the concept of clutter when you think of clutter stacks of paperwork piles of clothes or toys strewn about your family room. Probably come to mind but clutter comes in many forms. Despite the success with downsizing physical. Clutter that i shared earlier. I still have one hotspot. That troubles me again. And again i struggle to get rid of it for thirty years and while it had some success it seems to inevitably return my stubborn clutter. Hotspot my weight. Yes the pound my body. I realized thinking of clutter has more than just stuff is pretty revolutionary and clutter. Revolution is just what you need. Approaching the removal of all kinds of clutter from a truly holistic place helps remove the shame related to it allows you to see the intricacies in this multi-facetted process. There are three main categories of clutter and each one is defined by how challenging. It is to clear number one simple. Clutter if you're able to get rid of it without much effort than it simple. Clutter because there aren't it in layers compounding. The situation clearing simple clutter is just a matter of making the time committing to the task and getting it done for example with my stubborn weight. Clutter the simple clutter would be the pounds can lose with little or minimal effort. They're not hanging on because of any bigger issue by eating better and moving more. These pounds come off relatively easily number. Two symptomatic clutter if he struggled to make the time. Make decisions or let things go. You're dealing with symptomatic clutter. You're sure you're ready to let it go but you can't seem to finish the job. Something is holding back and you're not sure what this is. The most common kind of clutter and is an indication that something deeper and unrelated needs your attention number three core clutter. This represents those deeper issues that lie within or underneath to symptomatic clutter. This is the source of all other clutter and is the reason binder inability to make progress cork letters rarely if ever the i kind identify similar symptomatic. Clutter points you in this direction anytime. You're feeling stuck frustrated or lost. Their is core. Clutter in play while this may seem intimidating realizing that there is more going on is like picking up the shovel. You may not know what you're digging for and that's okay. Just start digging. When you dive into the core clutter. I guarantee you. They will positively impact all areas of your life when you sabotage your progress in any way. Some part of you is benefiting from that stumble if my expectations for weight. Loss are unrealistic. Then my resistance is going to win may be amusing. Wait as armor to protect my and vulnerability when what i really need to do is set some boundaries. Perhaps the pounds are validating a limiting belief that. It's not safe to be thin if any part of me believes. I don't deserve to be treated well. I could be proving myself right by eating healthy foods. The core clutter is the message in the mess this is. What is rumbling. Underneath stubborn clutter. And this is what your soul is asking you to work on to break free from the obstacles in your path. Pay attention to the chatter over the years. I've discovered that in my own life and in the lives of those i've worked with the source of core clutter is any combination of three things unrealistic expectations limiting or old beliefs and a lack of boundaries understanding. Which of these things is at the root of your struggles will help you. Better understand ultimately clear the clutter in your life as you investigate the message in your mess. You might find the cause to be one or a combination of the three because one 'cause often leads to another. You'll likely find more than one at work.

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Why We Believe Ourselves (Even When We're Proven Wrong)

Developer Tea

04:43 min | Last week

Why We Believe Ourselves (Even When We're Proven Wrong)

"There are a host of biases and cognitive distortions. Whatever you wanna call these things basically wrong thinking thinking that doesn't match up with reality then. Reinforce this idea that we believe we are correct. We believe that we have the right belief we assume that our perspective is the clearest or the most accurate very rarely do. We assume that we're wrong. And sometimes this is not true of course in subjects where we have little to no knowledge. It's much easier to accept that we are probably wrong or at least more wrong than somebody who is in known expert. Some of these things are easy to accept but even in those scenarios. It is still pretty likely that we have an overconfidence. That's actually one of the biases. Overconfidence bias we have overconfidence. We have a lot of confirmation bias where we seek out information that we believe is going to confirm our previously held beliefs so with this host of bison. We're not going to go through all of them. We might mention a few more but with with all of these vices. That are reminding us that we are Believing that we are right more often than we are actually makes sense to kind of look at this from a meta perspective y. Is it that. It's easy to trick ourselves into believing that we're right. We're gonna talk about this from two different angles today. The first is the psychological angle. Why is it so easy to believe that we are right more often than were wrong very often. There is little consequence little negative consequence to being wrong that might sound untrue or may not ring true at least but it is true because it's a universal concept or a universal shared reality that we all have that many of us are wrong a lot of the time. All of us are wrong. A lot of the time. And there's not a huge negative consequence because here's the critical factor. It's hard to know it's very difficult to know who is right or who was wrong. And why is this well. Most of the time this has to do with context virtually never do we face situations where we can test whether we are right or wrong with one. Hundred percents certainty. We're talk a little bit more about that when we talk about these second angle little later in the show but this reality is persistent that it's difficult to prove whether you're right or wrong and very often rhetoric can make someone perceive that you are right in fact that's essentially what you're doing to yourself. You're convincing yourself. That your right through some kind of self rhetoric rhetoric manning that you are using some kind of reasoning to convince and this is a very hard obstacle to get over because we have a hard time understanding the difference between content truly relevant or contextual truly valid and universally correct or. What is actually right or true at a high level and this becomes a philosophical discussion more than a can of nuts and bolts correctness discussion. Because we very rarely run into situations where we can even access universal truth and so it's easy to convince ourselves of something Even when we're wrong because from some vantage point our thoughts are valid. Even if that vantage point is skewed or unfair even if vantage point is incredibly biased if you were to put yourself into those biased shoes then what's being said might seem completely reasonable and so understanding that all of our judgments about what is right or what is correct. What is valid. All of these things are incredibly skewed by our perception.

How to get a good night's sleep

The Emma Guns Show

08:26 min | Last week

How to get a good night's sleep

"You'll sleep isn't quite right harrison. Things i think might be helpful to just get things back on track and before we get into tips though i just wanted to say do you feel as though sleep is the first thing to go when we experienced any kind of stress for me. It's really good. And it's just an indicator that i have a few more taps open in my brain than i can adequately cope with and that means that my thoughts begin wearing at three o'clock in the morning or my quality of sleep over the course of an entire evening just isn't good enough and sometimes it can be just because i've got too much on my mind and this leads me nicely into one. So if you are waking up worrying and then it becomes impossible to switch off and go back to sleep or if you find it a struggle to get to sleep because you're thinking all the things a on your plate essentially then making a list of all of them making a list of everything that's on your mind before you go to bed might help. It's been proven. I've spoken to several sleep therapists and sleep. Experts said that just the act of making a list of all the things that you on your mind can take the magnitude out of these things that seem really big because you attach all the other things to it like. Oh i've got to my taxes for example. And if you don got to do. My taxes means speech my accountant. I get really stressed. When is mike has an all. Will he have time for me. All of those things actually making a less kind of gets rid of a lot of that chatter and just makes them feel much more doable and is also really good. The next morning right. That's my to do list. They were with me yesterday. They were my mind. I'm going to do something today to make sure that that's not worrying me tomorrow. And it's been proven that a few minutes of mindfulness can take the edge off and make it much much easier to fall asleep so if you get into bed you're white awake will now. What actually whether you use an up whether you use a prompt of some sort a youtube video just counting your breath and just slowing down your breathing. But if mindfulness whether it's guided or not can we really make that difference to just get in your mind and body out of that mode to. Yeah you know what yes sleep. The seem like a good idea but this is also one the idea of writing down your warriors the idea of organizing your worries into something that you can then work through methodically and logically. This is also what you can take a little bit of a run-up i wouldn't be doing it. I'm not talking about making a list bed but if you are lying awake thinking about paperwork finances or feel as though everything's calls nita's organized than actually some time in the day to do filing to file things properly to get on top of your admin or just create an organized environment where you know where everything is that can have a really positive. Knock on effect of softening those concerns when you're trying to get to sleep so okay. I know this might make me sound a bit weird. But if you're a long-time listener you'll be no stranger to that. But i leave my office night but only a my office being my second bedroom but i leave my every night but only once. I've made sure everything is tidy. So i my desk so i've got my record. I'm obviously recording right now. So all my recording equipment out of my wires everywhere. I make sure that then nicely neatly wound up and put back in the drawer where they are recording device back ninety degree angle on my desk and when i leave at the end of the evening i use my call brush to like clete to rake through the copy or vacuum the carpet and anything i've taken out or use during the day. I put it back to how. I would have it if i had guests coming over the next morning and mentally. It ends my working day really neatly but the payoff is the next day. I am always and i mean always delighted to what to set foot back in my office. It feels like oh this is this is a place. We're going to do really good work today. And i know i said you know. Make it presentable as if someone else's coming around to see it but i'm seeing it and it's important that i have that feeling and that genuinely when i wake up in the morning at i think goku can you office today. I'm actually excited to get into the office. So that has definitely been one of the things that i have started to incorporate in the last couple of years that makes all the difference. The second tip is this one might sound really obvious. but it's dope nap and maybe it sounds really obvious for me. Because i've been working from home for eight years and so i've learned the hard way but if you're working from home for the first time or maybe the third time if you're in the uk and you're on your third lockdown but if you now have been working from home for substantial amount of time since we went into various stages if restriction around the world then. It's definitely tempting to have a quick snooze when you normally pep yourself up with a coffee or sneaky chat with a colleague in the canteen or out for quick walk. Whatever but while we're living and working in the same space it's easy for entity to drop and to think fifty minutes won't hurt and oversee no one's gonna see no one's gonna see you have a quick nap who cares but unless you're a great napa and that awesome effective ways to make napping efficient and actually work for you but let's revisit those in another time when another episode then give napping a real mess so like i said i've been working from home now for nearly eight years and nothing is a very very easy to fall into trust me. I've done it so so many times. But now i make myself go outside and walk around the block. The truth is that my body saying oh we need to sleep or or wouldn't wouldn't not be nice but the truth is the thing that's going to serve me better. Brain and body is a stretch. Probably some fresh air or just moving around. Because i've been sitting at my desk for hours on end my my heart rates will be slowed down. And that's why my body's like we haven't done much moving. Let's go to sleep now. Moving around for a bit. Even if it's just in another room even a bit of yoga will actually support a better night's sleep or more likely likely give you a burst of energy so if you get that i that three o'clock low what you think all honestly i could just kick off my shoes now and i could just go and put my feet up on the so. I just have a quick nap. No i find. If i walk around the block i come back and where i think. I was almost ready to finish my day. I've definitely got another few hours in me. And it's extraordinary. How many good ideas pop into your head when you out for a walk or you're in a downward dog come on. Who else has been there where you at your desk all day even working team. I've got. I've got to have an idea for this or i've gotta to do this. And you're trying to troubleshoot something and you at your desk in your in work mode. It looks like you're working really hard. You get up. Have a cup of tea or take a walk around the block pops into your head. That's me clicking. By the way the idea pops into your head a little bit of movement london he makes the body feel good but can sometimes just be the little bit of the release. The brain needs in the way. That when you're thinking of a word and you think really hard and then the second you start thinking about it pops into your mouth that kind of thing. The third thing make a nest and i mean literally obviously but just make your bed the most comfortable place you spend time so that it's an environment that lends itself to sleep and this is really important if your sleep begins to go out of out of wack. This isn't just about having nice bedsheets about the lighting in the room the temperature. I know it might sound nuts. Especially right now because we're in the depths of winter but i from my window for about five to ten minutes before i get into bed because i love the air in the room being being a little bit chilly. So that when i'm under the covers i can feel nice and cozy and i usually fall asleep listening to a podcast on a very very low volume and i use an. I'm ask so. I've got myself sort of prompt in with Coin she pillows but you know how many close your own thing. But i have myself mostly packed in with some pillows. I put an moscow on. And i have a pug 'cause playing and i spritz my bed liberally with some really nice leap spray so i used the one from a remarked if i use the one from this. I loved the one from the sanctuary. I always put the podcast on auto turn off. Say that it'll finish the end of the episode that i'm listening to on it's rare. It's really read by more than ten minutes of a show so that really works for me so that is just an. I sent in the bed opening the window for five to ten minutes. So it's nice and cool making sure that my bet is really comfortable that i've light blocked out and i've just got something quiet and gentle to listen to. That will help me get to sleep

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Attract Abundance Into Your Life - 3 Deep Practices AND How Mindset Affects Success

Optimal Living Daily

04:32 min | 2 weeks ago

Attract Abundance Into Your Life - 3 Deep Practices AND How Mindset Affects Success

"Attract abundance into your life three d. practices by guy in yulon for admission of mind bender dot. Co abundance is a state of being in which life is effortless and easy is the innate tendency of nature to grow produce incre- more of everything is everywhere in the universe can also appear in your personal life if you allow to express itself to attract abundance into your life began by realizing true abundance even means the state of abundance referred to in this article isn't limited to wealth or money money plays a role in abundance but it is not everything for example. You can have all the money you could ever want but if you feel abandoned or isolated you are not in a state of abundance. So how'd you attract abundance consciously willingly from moment to moment is important to note that each and every person has his or her own fundamental beliefs are perceptions of the world stem from our belief systems which are theoretically formed during childhood these beliefs. Either make or break us. Our decisions and actions are grounded in these beliefs either pulling us away from opportunities or pushing us towards them for example a common belief about abundance is that people should do more and work harder to achieve the state by doing more working harder while they produce results their results. That you probably want. Will you want our results. That are like magic in order to stop operating from limiting belief systems and start attracting abundance. Follow these three steps number one rework and dismantle your fundamental beliefs. Your higher self desires the best that life has to offer however that little nagging voice in your head. That says you can't have what you want is simply a belief that has been programmed into your subconscious mind. The he may have believed for some time. Make a commitment to transform that part of you. That says you're small. It may feel uncomfortable but if you want to live outside the box you're going to have to get comfortable with being uncomfortable. Don't buy into a belief system that's robbed you of many opportunities in life. Number to find alignment attracting abundances easy. When you're living alignment alignment simply put is what feels true to your heart. When you know you're alignments or what feels good to you. Everything else becomes unacceptable lime in may also be in the form of letting people go people who may not have the same goals or perspective on life that you do everything that's not right in your life. He's the fall away to create space. For what is supposed to be. Here's some that. They can practice to find alignment practice. Feeling knows your feelings in the present moment wherever you are used. These feelings as a guide may lead opportunities and eventually growth put yourself in a state of awareness when he can write down. Your thoughts make a list of what you can and can't do to achieve abundance. Ask yourself what's in the way of my path to abundance and be purposeful if most likely made commitments to other people for example. If you have children you most likely pick your kids up from school. Even if you feel under the weather noticed the amazing things you can do for others and make sure you do the same for yourself. Don't settle for average in mediocrity. You're not here to live a mediocre life number three live in gratitude. In addition to alignment live a life of gratitude when you're ingratitude abundance becomes an inevitable consequence. The universe rewards you for noticing acknowledging all that is being done for you on the other hand if you complain often tend to look at the negative instead of the positive any given situation the circumstances that happen in your life will also tend to be negative. The life that you want is on the other side of being uncomfortable. If you wanna stay comfortable all you get is the same life. Is it a feeling with your brain. Feel with your heart. Recap the three essential steps to attract abundance into your life. Remember that abundance is a state of effortlessness and ease eliminate any beliefs. You have that aren't serving you online. With whatever feels good to you and practice garate tude so that the positive circumstances in your life can multiply

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6 life lessons of 2020

You're Welcome with Hilary Rushford

05:05 min | 2 weeks ago

6 life lessons of 2020

"Hello sweet friends. Happy 2021 welcome into the new year. I don't know about you but this has felt like a more. I don't know that lackluster is the word i've just been really kinda like jello easing into the new year. I think that last year we had such kind of clear strong intentions and this year. We have so much humility about how little control we have. It is still a little bit hard to comprehend that. We are still in the midst of this pandemic and we still don't really know when the end is in sight and so i just i talk a lot in my goal planning. I have for years. I've taught this the content that eventually became the elegant excellence schools journal. I've used the phrase watercolor instead of sharpie for how we draw out our plans that it doesn't mean that we don't paint and vision cast and and hold the vision of the beautiful thing that we want to create but we do it with the humility of watercolors that it is not. We can't make a sharpie version of a ten year plan or one year plan or a three month plan or sometimes seven day. One week plan. That is never going to get off track when someone gets sick and there's a family emergency and you're feeling low energy and a new opportunity comes your way a myriad of different things that can happen so we've always known that was the case. I think we are just more faced with it than ever before and also i've really just been reflecting. I know we keep talking about what a big year. Twenty twenty was. But i've really spent some time thinking about. Why was it so powerful. So poignant so impactful what were the molting things that really many years from now we would reflect back on why this was just such a unique year so today i want to chat about six different things that i saw throughout this year in the conversations that you and i had specifically over on instagram stories where we talk the most openly the most vulnerable the most daily and the reporting things that came up that i saw us have new. Aha's are in our growth or change and just invite you to listen and ask yourself in each area. What did i learn for myself. What did change in this area and starting off with what might be a light area for some. It was a really powerful area for others. Which is where we live yo. There were so many people specifically in new york city where my husband and i live that left the city. I've had one of my best friends. One of my bridesmaids has been living with her parents for ten months. Another of my best friends live with their parents for four months. That is unprecedented. That is highly unique. We have a lot of us that maybe you moved. Maybe you had family move in or near you. Maybe you realized what you love about your home more than ever. You may have been more grateful for your home. you may have been more. You may have realized that you want different things in your home that your home is more important than you realized. Now that you were there More often maybe you realize you. It bothers you more at that. You don't live near to family when there are emergencies like this. You want to be physically closer you. I do think it made me feel more drawn towards wanting to be nearer to my family doesn't mean that we are moving to california ever or anytime soon but i did have more of a poll of that this year than ever before i also realized for myself that i love new york city even when i don't leave my apartment just the vibe of being in new york city and i've always said that i've always known because i've just never been that girl like i don't go to big restaurant openings. I'm not constantly at a broadway show but there's just something about being in the city and that was just amplified for me to say i don't. It's not about getting on the subway. It's not even going into manhattan. It's not leaving my neighborhood. But i just do have so much joy where i live. But i also was able to articulate in a previous podcast episode that identify vibe is what really matters to me and that can exist a lot of different places and that's been really helpful and informative as my husband. Jeremy and i have been having more conversations this year about our future and really kind of coming back to the the vied matters to us. What does that feel like. Look like where else could that exist. We love our life in new york city but we don't see ourselves living there long term. So what else might that look and feel like so. I'm curious for you. What did you learn about where you live. And is that going to change anything. Did it change meeting this year or might it change anything in the years to calm even if that is simply gratitude.

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3 ways companies can support grieving employees

TED Talks Daily

05:03 min | 2 weeks ago

3 ways companies can support grieving employees

"About three years ago. I lost my daughter. She was sexually assaulted and murdered. She was my only child and was just nineteen as the shock wore off and the all consuming greed to core. I lost all meaning and purpose alive and my daughter spoke to me. She asked me to keep living. If i am not avow she will have. One less heart continued to with dad. My partner susan. And i started our desperate climb out of this deep hole of pro my loss in the back to the land of the living with grief we unexpectedly found a rather unlikely and bitty helpful ally my work at first. I wasn't doing trudy pressure. Go back to work. I i had a lot of self doubt as a senior executive responsible for thousands of employees and billions of dollars after all the trauma is my mind still sharp and creative enough for the job. Can i still relate to people. Can i get past their resentment and regret. i felt about all the time spent working instead of Being with my daughter. Is it fair to leave. Susan home alone dealing with han grief and pain at the end. I made the decision to go back to work. And i am very glad i did. We all experience grief and loss in our lives for most of us that means at some point getting up and going back to work while living with the grief on those days we will continue to carry the incredible burden of sadness but also i hope that work itself and restore us that much needed feeling of purpose for me. Work started out as a just a product distraction but evolved to being truly therapeutic and meaningful in so many ways and might return to work proved to be a good thing for the company as well. I know i'm not indispensable but retaining my expertise proved to be video beneficial and my return helped all the teams. Avoid disruptions and and distractions. When you lose the most precious thing in your life. You gain a lot of humility and have very different perspective. Free of egos and agendas and i think i may better corker and later because of that for all the good that came from you though might re entry into work from his who steady hard. The biggest challenge was having to separate my personal and professional apps completely. You know okay to cry at an early in the morning but slap a smile on the face promptly at eight o'clock and active as it is a santa's before until the workdays over leaving in two completely different worlds at the same time and all the hiding and and pretending that went with it it was. It was exhausting. It and made me feel very alone overtime. I worked through those struggles. And i gained the conference and the acceptance to bring my whole work and as a direct result of that i found joya gaining it shooting that hard journey back to work. I learn the power of having a culture of empathy in the workplace not sympathy not compassion but empathy. I came to believe that a workplace where empathy is a core part of the culture that is a joyful and productive workplace and that workplace inspires a great deal of loyalty. I believe that are three things. A company can do to create a nurture a culture and with the in the workplace in general and support a grieving employee like myself in particular one is to have policies that led unemployed deal with their loss in ps without worrying about administrative logistics. Second per wide. Return to work therapy to the employee as an integral part of the health benefits package and third provide training for all employees on how to support each other

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The Dangers of Measuring Side Effects

Developer Tea

05:11 min | 3 weeks ago

The Dangers of Measuring Side Effects

"This question is simple one point the answer is pretty complicated. When we measure things that observation that we do can have an effect it can have an effect on the way that we think about. Whatever it is that we're measuring and so let's take very simple example when you're defining success. Let's say you are running a department at a company and you're trying to determine success maybe run the sales department and so you're trying to decide. Okay what is what is the A way that we can decide whether or not we've been successful this quarter. It may be of different categories of success so you have kind of a minimum viable level. Right we have to meet this. Otherwise we get a shutdown our department and then you have something Between that and you know perfection and somewhere in the middle is this is our target or this is a reasonable goal to set and then at the very top is. If you get here then we're all getting bonuses and we can probably retire if we go anywhere beyond that right and so there's a spectrum of what you could expect and obviously it's good to be at one end of that spectrum and it's not so good to be at the other end of that spectrum okay so this sets up the kind of binary thinking That we've had in previous In previous episodes of talked about this binary thinking about washing the entire year of twenty twenty for example as a negative year about washing the entire year of twenty twenty for example as a negative year in this being the first episode of twenty twenty one. I assume that you're probably thinking about. Okay how can. I be successful in this upcoming year. I'm really excited by the way about. Twenty twenty one. We're going to do a lot with developer t. Hopefully this year. We're going to do some new media. Formats may be video. And so as i move into this This year. I've been doing a lot of this planning myself trying to decide. How do i measure. What is my success. We've been around for six years as of tomorrow win this. Show airs right this episode recording it the d. before it airs so technically two days from today but in any case six years the show has been around and just the longevity of the show is is something that account as as as a success but certainly per perhaps the most important thing to me is the messages that i received from the listeners or receive messages about how the show has impacted their careers. Okay so if i were to optimize on any one thing let's say longevity of the show right if i were to optimize on that then i might sacrifice some of the quality of the show. I might sacrifice some of the things that i actually care about equally or even more like getting messages from listeners. Saying that this had a good impact on their lives. If i were to be running a sales department and i optimize only on revenue like we were talking about before there is some metric where we say at the bottom and we have to meet this particular point and then up here at the top end. You know we're all going to hawaii. Where all if we go that far. Then we're doing great. We'd we don't even have to worry about anything. Okay well if we do this. One kind of metric measurement then. What we ended up doing is is game. Fine or providing incentives that can be a twisted and this happens whether we wanted to or not. Okay so think about it. this way. If i were to optimize on longevity show then. I think okay. This is a good thing. I'm not going to just do the bare minimum to keep the show alive. But if that's the thing i'm measuring. How long does this show stay alive. Oh i'm not putting boundaries on other important metrics more importantly if we were to optimize say on revenue as a sales organization then we might even get to the point where we're bending ethics. Hopefully we all have the same ethical concerns in mind. Hopefully we all At at our you know at at our company and our department or whatever we have enough of an overlap of values and enough of a social contracts between us and maybe our customers that we're not going to try to extort them. We're not going to try to cheat them out of money. We're not going to go and actually embezzle anything. We're not gonna do insider trading right. We're not. We're not going to step over those lines but we might do a sacrifice the quality of our product we might cut corners. We might a only look for short term revenue because that's the measurement window that we care about right. we're not incentivized to do things that are not being measured. And because that measurement tends to change our behaviors because we tend to rapper behaviors around the measurement that we care about then the otherwise important. Things may fall by the wayside.

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Stop Self-Criticizing, Start Meditating by Crystal Fenton

Optimal Living Daily

04:49 min | 3 weeks ago

Stop Self-Criticizing, Start Meditating by Crystal Fenton

"Stop self criticizing. Start meditating by crystal fanton with mind body. Wise dot com admitted. You've been there acting as your own worst critic by doubting yourself as a writer and yoga instructor. I can attest to the idea. That perfectionism is indeed the enemy of the pen and of the self. So what do you do when you just can't seem to quiet that negative inner voice. Recent research shows learning how to meditate. Can't help practitioners guided meditations such as the loving kindness. Meditation have been shown to increase self compassion while decreasing self-criticism according to the experts meditation including mantra meditation lessons the extremities of negative thoughts changes patterns of belief and facilities learning how to forgive yourself. Meditation helps us avoid going down the rabbit hole of self critical thoughts as the act of coming back to the attention on the breath halts the process of criticism in its path says rachel schenken of mind body. Wise science supports this as shinkin explains for my neuropsychologist and scientific perspective neurons in the brain that fire together wire together quote breaking the cycle of self criticism by using the breath as an anchor also breaks self critical neurotransmitters from continuing firing together. Thus short-circuiting the brain self criticism mechanism. That may have once been on. Autopilot men quote. Dena kaplan founder of meditation community. The path belise. Meditation is extraordinarily powerful for self critical thoughts in three ways. The first is when you sit the critical voice in your head becomes quieter your mind spins less quickly and enters a feeling of calm and spaciousness kaplan tells rewire me. Second is powerful to become proud of yourself that you're taking the time to go deeper into the self decrease confidence that quells. Your critical side knows caplin third. Meditation gives you the power to make changes quote. It gives you in to see what's not serving you in the tools to choose to change those aspects of your personality and his way it helps us develop into the best version of ourselves and quote quite the body. calm the mind meditation. The simple act of bringing focused awareness to breath while in stillness calms essential nervous system and physical body while relaxing. The mind we the only animals who can consciously control our breath and this ability allows us to have a level of self management over our bodies and minds that no other living being can do says schenken quote. Meditation allows us to be responsive instead of reactive and challenging situations as trains our entire system to equilibrate even when we are not in our practice of meditation and quote. Remember that meditation is not the act of clearing the mind or thinking nothing rather it is the practice of continually bringing the wandering. Mind back to the breath over and over and over again with as little judgment and as much compassion as possible. According to kaplan our brains before trained are scattered with thoughts each second of every day once. You start meditating. A number of those thoughts come out so when you go about your day your mind is more settled and actually feels more clear. She says quote you become more open to learning new things and listening to and focusing on other people when they speak and quote. Meditation and action starts simple by downloading an app shinkin recommends insight timer or head space offering both silent and guided meditations. Find quiet space where he can take a comfortable seat. Turn on the meditation or timer rest hands comfortably in your lap. Sit as tall and vertical in the spine as he can and close the is softened all the muscles in your face and belly breathe in and out through your nose follow either. The instructions of the guided or silent. Meditation counting your breasts up to five and then began. If you lose count start over again schenken also recommends using a mantra meditation practice quote since letting go goes one of the most challenging things we face as human beings. One of my favourite standby mantras is to mentally. Say the word. Let on my inhale and go on sale. This is repeated over and over when my mind wanders my bring it back and continue until the timer goes off and quote. Beginners should start with an amount of time. That is sustainable. Try meditating three to five minutes every day of the first week then slowly build the amount of time. each week

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What Is Intention Setting And How To Live With Intention

Optimal Living Daily

04:24 min | 13 hrs ago

What Is Intention Setting And How To Live With Intention

"Is intention setting and how to live with intention by shirley of daring living dot com. Do you ever feel like you've been on autopilot lately. Does your mind feel a bit foggy and unclear deep down to you crave to live every day more fully with more purpose and meaning if it currently feeling this way than practising living every day with more intention is super important when you have a reason an intention for doing something going about your day just makes it feel so much more meaningful and worthwhile. What is intention. And why's it so important. According to dictionary dot com the word intention means an act or instance of determining mentally upon an action or result. Being intentional is a mental state that represents a commitment to carry out an action or a set of actions in the future. You're acting from a mental state with the end or goal in mind. Having an intention makes you more aware of your thoughts and actions during the day and also crease something for you to actively work for and look forward to instead of letting life happened to you. You can choose to be intentional about how to live every day. Ultimately i strongly believe that being more intentional can give you hope it can give you a sense of purpose belonging and acceptance of where you are. It gives you a reason to keep living and keep moving forward. The good thing is that being intentional is not difficult at all anyone can be. Intentional is a consistent practice in choice to be more intentional every day. Here three easy ways you can send intentions meant live more intentional every day number one. Start your day right. Create a morning ritual. I like to call my morning routine. Because that's sacred. It is starting your day how you want it to be can be the catalyst determining how the rest of your day will turn out. That's why you see so many famous people out there talking about having a morning routine as part of their important habits to success a consistent routine every single morning over time can be. The anger will ground yourself throughout the day. I also use this time as me. Time with phone is off. I'm not talking to anyone. I'm just spending the time with myself for myself by myself. If you're someone who's very busy and always interacting with people having the time in the morning prioritizing yourself can be so nourishing remember a morning. Routine does not have to be big and extensive lasting for two to three hours especially for busy working professionals. You simply just don't have the time we are creating a routine for yourself. Make sure it is realistic and actually doable for you. For my routine. I focus on cleansing three things my mind my body and my space which is a routine learned from lewis house. Choose how you want feel toward the end of my morning ritual our choose one word of how i wanna feel that day. This is a great way to be intentionally. Choose one word to hold onto as you carry on with your day because what you think about you will attract more of after you have chosen that word throughout the day. It'll be a lot easier for you to look for things in fine reasons for you to feel that way. For example two words. I like to choose to feel in my days are joy and motivated. Remember you have the ability to choose how you want to think feel and act every day number two creating your ideal life if you wanna live every day with more intention. It's also important to discuss about how to be more intentional with your bigger picture. Life direction having that long term perspective in mind also really help with your daily decisions and actions you choose to take you can do that by creating a life vision for yourself journal your intention for your ideal life this is called scripting basically. You are imagining one day in your ideal life and how it will look like you'll script out the day for when you wake up to when you go to bed in present tense with as much detail and has vivid as possible when he can be very specific and be very intentional. About how you want your ideal life to look like is a lot easier for you to take actions both consciously and unconsciously to create that for yourself because again you're setting an intention to create that into your current reality

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interview With Tara Brach

Good Life Project

04:39 min | 16 hrs ago

interview With Tara Brach

"So i heard la monroe in conversation with dan harris and he mentioned this interesting question to lead with and that was. How's your heart and not long ago. I heard you in conversation with your friend. Dan gottlieb which was beautiful conversation. And we'll touch on that a bit and you led into that conversation with that very same question so i thought maybe it would be an interesting way for us to lead into our conversation by simply inviting you to share. Your heart is right now jonathan. I'm glad you're opening that way. I i heard it when you heard it. That opening with murad and i started with him that way. And there's nothing better than a check into the heart so right now. I'm just feeling kind of gladness in just gratitude. I often think of rumi sang. Do you make regular visits to yoursel and it just always feels like such a gift when you know. There's that invitation to say okay. What's right here in this heart right now. So in this moment a gladness to talking to you Feeling a lot of have a lot of blessings in my life and the contrast of that and the degree of suffering pandemonium in our world is just so big that that's the ever present backdrop so there's kind of the mix of sorrow and worry and concern and Also feeling of gratitude both from for what from my personal blessings but also sense of hopefulness. Actually right now dan. It's interesting to that balance of Acknowledging the fairly call it may that's tends to be swirling around so many of us right now at the same time touching down into this place of gratitude. Gratitude interesting where you know if we actually circle back to that conversation where i i heard. You share that question with dan gottlieb. I mean his story alone blew my mind as she wasn't familiar with him Until you introduce me to him and would you share a little bit about about him. Because i think his story and the way that he sort of found his way back to this sense of present gratitude is is is really beautiful compelling yeah so dan gottlieb Probably early thirties. He was a psychologist. Clinical psychologist married children and he got into an accident that he he ended up paraplegic and he talks about his first converted the beginning and intensive care and how everything just felt like. Life's not going to be worth living. I don't think i can do this. And he shared with me. how one night and intensive care nurse was with them and she was really down she had a relationship falling apart and so on and she talked him for hours about it and the next morning she came by and said you know it just made a world of difference to talk to you and when she left he said you know i can live if if i can be engaged in feel a sense of that giving and receiving life's worth it and he's he's talked about how he's had dinner just countless ups and downs but there's something in him that is so cherishing life that he's probably the most grateful person i know and the something about that jonathan. This person who's been confined to a wheelchair for decades and soon after his accident. Actually his wife died. And you know he's gone through every so many losses and for him to have the basic lead into live. Being one of cherishing and savoring is just such a model at such a model so yeah. Dan got leave. He was a radio host in philly for years for anyone. That's interested in following a story and he has grandson on the spectrum and he's written some beautiful books including something to do a sam in the title so yes he's a he's a notable.

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Stages of Getting What You Want

The Daily Boost

08:11 min | 19 hrs ago

Stages of Getting What You Want

"Along with monday's very well. How are you. that's okay. it's okay. We can take care of that today. We're going to we're going to shift your mindset around a little bit because you need. Maybe a map to follow to the big overarching picture. Your life not a little detail not the minutia but the big stuff right and we'll talk about that in my maps system on today's program you will love this. When it is a daily boost from motivation to move dot com. It's hard to believe it was two thousand and four right. At the very end of the year. I discovered this little thing called od casting. There's kind of google across it and said well what's this. I can do this thing. Couple of months later we had it started and about a year after that the daily boost came into being in l. forty million downloads later. Yesterday i was on. I think i was on with with five different people in five different countries. Doing coaching calls all day yesterday. Just amazing israel and australia. I think it was. Japan is kind of weird bouncing all over the place just so cool and all because of this thing we started so long ago. My name is scott smith founder and the chief motivating officer here. That's my job. Keeps you motivated. So you get what you want motivation and move dot com and you should get over there particularly if you've set some goals and you're having trouble making progress every single day. That's what we do is stand up. Take a step repeat five days a week. This show happens commercial-free. I send the daily nugget email. Which is this podcast written so you can read it in about thirty seconds kinda crazy you can do that. And the daily click. Text message that you can read in about five seconds. Of course it works best if you take them all together to get the motivation want you should do it. Go to motivation. We've come and get signed up today. Our sponsor today is lucy dot co. Have you decided to kick the habit of smoking once. And for all never smoked. Luckily a friend of mine did and decided to kick that habit again. So i told him about lucy or sponsor lucy nicotine there's a company founded by caltech scientists and former smokers looking for a better and cleaner nicotine alternative. That as they say it doesn't suck i. I've not tried the other ones. Because they don't smoke but i have tried is and it really is good. It took years to create something that would work and that people would actually like and and they have had now they have nicotine gum with four milligrams nicotine. It comes in winter green cinnamon. My favorite pomegranate yummy suggested everything. I do here by the way i test. I talk about it if i don't test it by the way. Lucy also has a cherry ice flavour lozenge. Each tastes great and it's convenient and discreet can use it anywhere on flights at work on the go even at the gym if you want to so if your resolution is to get rid of cigarettes get him out of your life to unplug your vape to throw at your dip. Lucy nicotine gum or lozenges can help you do that. A subscription to lucy comes directly to your door each month and the daily boost listening audience. That's you it's a great deal. Go to lucy dot co use. The promo code boost. You'll get twenty percent of all products including gummer losses. That's lucy dot. Co and use the promo code boost at checkout. Okay okay. I have to say this is brought contains nicotine derived from tobacco. Nicotine is an addictive chemical. Lucy dot co and. Be sure to use the promo code boost. I have to tell you. I had a great experience of the day. I mentioned my perfectly planner often and and you can get it at motivation. Move dot com. Just go to the resource. Section downloaded watched the video. So you know how to how to use it but one thing i don't see is folks who actually do their homework. In other words they sit down once a week and they write down the things that are going well in their life or not things they wanna keep things they want to defend things that want to get rid of how your roles how your goals basically is your life going and keep track of it and the perfectly clear i put that together it myself and it was designed to help you do that. The good experience a hand was a client actually pulled up on the screen and said let me show you my perfect planner as blown away by it. It's very cool to see it in actual use. i said. can you send that back to me. Can you send me that e- because he had added a few things to it and i would. Oh that so cool. If you don't have it go get it and if you haven't done your homework if you haven't taken at least a couple minutes the checking on your life. I mean really not. Just listen to something but actually think about it. Do it now. It'll change everything something else that would change. Everything is getting what you want and there are stages to getting what you want. I think you have figured that out. You've had success in your life in all kinds of ways you'll have a whole lot more and the more you learn the process the more you learn systems the rituals the things that just worked for you and get rid of the other stuff as w- takes a long time sometimes to learn that by the way took me a long time. It's like wait a second. I know what works. But i'm gonna do that do that instead at other stuff until i finally got smart and said okay. Let's do that. let's do it. Works and just keep on doing it. Everything changes when you do that. A bit of a system of a bit of a map a bit of a way of making things happen. So i think life should be simple or simple or i don't think it should be crazy and complex. It should be kinda you know. Enjoy your day my basic rule. I want to sleep really. Well have really nice dreams get up. Have a really nice day repeat. Just do it again. I think that's a pretty good life and on the weekend maybe sleep a little bit more and have more fun during the daytime or better yet. The advanced i do the same thing. Make every day a weekend day right so we want to keep it simple. We don't want a really complicated structure. That's that's silly. you don't have to be a project manager to manage your life. You just don't have to be speak. Because i have so many project managers that listen to me i hear you and you guys with your colored spreadsheets and everything. You're all over the place my system. I call it maps m. a. p. s. s. I've used it for a very long time. And this is gonna overarching way. That i do happens whenever i do this. It comes into play as a matter. What project i'm doing a wearing working what i'm playing with. It makes a difference. This all comes into play over arching for my life but then individual systems along the way that make everything happens. So let me give it to you. So you can use it for yourself as you're working on projects. Maybe starting today. It's a monday. You're often running right number. One maps the m motivation. Oh what. Donna be motivated. Hip gotta be motivated motivated scott. Everything begins with motivation. That's it okay. Sometimes inspiration makes you go. I think i can do this. But motivation moving right so you always have to have that and it always comes from the inside out so no matter what you're doing there. Is this glimmer this video. Little spark of motivation. That's inside of you that your why. Why am i gonna do this. It gets you excited to get you moving to get you out the door. It's very difficult to move onto anything. If you're not sufficiently motivated and you know that and it could be excitement or could be fear. Something's in a motivation to move forward. But whenever you're working on a project had that right motivation now. I think getting paid is probably one of those motivations but certainly can be from time to time and she'd be a little deeper than that so the map system. We start with the motivation. That's where everything begins and then we won't do accountability. The a the next step is to put benchmarks in place. So you can. You can track your progress if you can track your progress if you can measure your progress you get more motivation. It's you know that to be true if you go on a diet and you don't track your diet and you weigh yourself once a month you don't know if you're actually losing weight or not unless your pants bicker or waste. Smaller pants get bigger. They don't get paid. You know i mean when you track when you become accountable. Make yourself accountable to it even your time throughout the day keeping track of your time doing on during the time that you're working are playing. It makes a big difference. It quantifies. what's going on. You can look at yourself. Say hey my activities are equaling this. Look at that. I'm hold myself accountable. Getting stuff done. And by the way i think your accountability partner i won the most important one should be. You see. you can't have me or somebody else help you but you should be your own accountability partner. Step up to that. Take the responsibility. Hold yourself accountable. So motivation accountability. What's next in the p the map system planning plan. You work work. Your plan never begin to you you at least oh your first and second stab. I'll give you that okay. Sometimes it's hard to look down that dark road where you're heading if you've never done it before. Scott i wanna do this. This is where i'm heading. Great go do it. But i've never done it. Get it and it's hard to imagine it. Sometimes right would you can imagine the start the first couple of steps. You can imagine what you have to do. You can see the outcome sort of right the clear the better but you can get started so plan ahead down that road. Get yourself moving. Here's what happens. This is magical. You've seen it before when you take those first couple of steps it's like somebody flips the lights on when you put yourself into the world you wanna be in and you stop thinking about it. You stop writing about it. You stop dreaming about actually started. Doing it lights go on so your plan. Get you to that place where you can actually begin to see it happen. I call it getting out of the vacuum. I take my clients as they stop thinking about. Let's go do it as soon as they start doing it. It changes and suddenly it just becomes

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1871: [Part 2] How to Let Go of Your Regrets by Mark Manson on Mental Freedom

Optimal Living Daily

01:10 min | 1 d ago

1871: [Part 2] How to Let Go of Your Regrets by Mark Manson on Mental Freedom

"Does optimal living daily eighteen. Seventy one how to let go of your regrets. Part to by mark mason of mark manson dot net and. I'm just a malik. The guy that reads to you every single day of the year including weekends and holidays. Help you live a more meaningful positive life. A real quick thanks to anchor for hosting this podcast. Anger is the easiest way to make a podcast. They'll distribute your podcast for you. So it can be heard everywhere. Spotify podcasts google podcasts. And many more you can easily make money from your podcast to with no minimum listenership anchor gives you everything you need in one place for free which you can use right from your phone or computer creation tools. Allow you to record and edit your podcast so it sounds great. Download the anchor app or go to anchor dot. Fm to get started today of a continuation post from yesterday. I'd recommend listening to yesterday's episode. I if you haven't already but if you're all caught up let's get right to it as we optimize your life sir. How to let go of your regrets to by mark manson of mark manson dot net

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1870: [Part 1] How to Let Go of Your Regrets by Mark Manson on Mental Freedom

Optimal Living Daily

01:00 min | 2 d ago

1870: [Part 1] How to Let Go of Your Regrets by Mark Manson on Mental Freedom

"This is optimal living daily episode. Eighteen seventy how to let go of your regrets. Part one by mark manson of mark manson dot net and. I'm just a malik. happy saturday. Welcome to one of the only podcast in the world where blogs are narrated to you for free with permission from the authors and ward winning. Podcast thanks to you a real quick thanks to anchor for hosting this podcast. Anger is the easiest way to make a podcast. They'll distribute your podcast for you so can be heard everywhere. Spotify apple podcasts. Google podcasts and many more you can easily make money from your podcast to with no minimum listenership anchored everything you need in one place for free which you can use right from your phone or computer creation tools. Allow you to record in. Eddie your podcast. So his sounds great. Download the anchor app or go to anchor dot. Fm to get started. Say bit of a longer postal. Read the first half today and then finish the rest for you tomorrow so with that. Let's get right to it and start optimizing your

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Dare to lead as your authentic self | Tracy Young

TED Talks Daily

04:02 min | 3 d ago

Dare to lead as your authentic self | Tracy Young

"If ted talks daily emily's hugh one of the most unfortunate things about our work. Culture is that we're supposed to work like we don't parent and parent as if we don't work in. Today's talk from ted women twenty twenty startup builder tracy. Young gives a raw painfully honest. about the constraints women face when we tried to adapt to a male lead business culture. She inspires us to change business culture instead. So it's better for everyone a quick warning that this talk features. A story about miscarriage may not be suitable for all listeners. My parents were refugees of communism. Growing up i watched my mom and dad worked two fulltime jobs without ever complaining so my siblings and i could live a better life than they did. I was proud to be their daughter. And i understood the immigrant. Part of my identity while the female part of my identity however was much harder for me to own. I never wanted to draw attention to my gender. Because those afraid i wouldn't be taken seriously as a ceo so focused my energy on the things that i thought were important stuff like making my team. Laugh i remember. I would painstakingly write and rehearse jokes before every all hands or it'd be the first one in the office and the last one out because i thought that these things mattered when i was six months. Pregnant one of our large competitors reached out wanting to talk about acquiring us every. Start up once the option to be bought but it really got under my skin when during conversations with these strangers who. I was negotiating with their eyes with sometimes wander to my pregnant belly. I went into labor. The same night of our user conference the weeks leading up to the event watching our team. Prepare for our big product. Unveiling i wondered. How many male ceos with skip their own conference for the birth of their child. I assumed most would. But i kept reasoning with myself that if i wasn't pregnant there'd be no question whether it'd be there or not so i have to be there forcing myself to parade my nine month. Pregnancy worked the halls as host on my feet for fourteen hours was about ide. in hindsight. The moment i arrived tall my water broke. and it wouldn't here my sons. I cry for another thirty two hours. When my baby was six weeks old. I went back to work. Are emanate deal. Had fallen through. By then. And i was determined to fundraise a war chest to fight them back but i was still bleeding from several tears in my vagina from pushing out a baby to this day. I still asked myself why i rushed back to work when i wasn't ready. And i realized now is because i was frayed. I was so afraid of what people might think of me. As a new mother and ceo. I was afraid that they would think that my priorities had changed. So i pressured myself in proving to everyone that i was as dedicated to the company as ever i would spend the next two months fundraising to secure war chest ida full schedule and i need to pump milk. But i didn't have the courage to ask for fifty million dollars and ask to use their mother's room. So how does one pump milk on sandhill road. Well i would park my car in front of someone super nice home in palo alto. I undress an extract milk from my breasts with silicone hand pump and worked out. I guess we secured a lead investor for our series c. and then our competitors came back with revised offer and we decided to sell them for eight hundred and seventy five million dollars a few months after the acquisition. I became pregnant for the second time. And shortly after i found out i had a miscarriage while with my team

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1869: To Be or not to Be: The Great Dilemma AND I am Becoming by Angelina Lee of Exploring Plan Be

Optimal Living Daily

02:01 min | 3 d ago

1869: To Be or not to Be: The Great Dilemma AND I am Becoming by Angelina Lee of Exploring Plan Be

"Live a more meaningful and positive life to posted a both from angelilli. So let's get right to them as we optimize our life to be or not to be the great dilemma by angelina. Jolie of exploring plan. B dot com quote. If you wanna be happy be leo. Tolstoy of almost thought of this quote by leo tolstoy as a call for us to recognize that we need only decide to be happy. Indeed happiness ms choice. We can choose to be positive in our thinking. We can choose to be grateful for what we have. We can choose to be mindful that each moment that we experience is gifted to us and that no other moment is guaranteed in this way we choose to be happy. But what if tolstoy's words go much deeper than that. What if there are things that are holding us. Back from experiencing true happiness and fulfillment things that merit much more contemplation than simply deciding to be happy in any given moment. What if merely choosing to be happy despite a circumstance in fact encourages us to unknowingly settle for a life in which we don't feel fulfilled in which we don't feel as if we have any choice in the matter other than to be happy with it. What if instead we choose to explore those aspects of our dreams and of our passions that we envision would unlock a world of filming in our lives if we can only find the key. What if we look past our fears expectations and any other limitations. That tether us to where we are and take the steps no matter how small to fulfill our dreams our purpose our destiny. What if we actively fueled a tiny spark of passion that flickers against the raging winds of negativities in fear etcetera dreams ablaze. What have we take. The first steps. Down the path that lead to living more meaningfully. An intentionally what if we decided to live fearlessly as our true selves to craft a life around the very things that

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Using your voice is a political choice | Amanda Gorman

TED Talks Daily

05:35 min | 4 d ago

Using your voice is a political choice | Amanda Gorman

"You're listening to ted talks daily. I'm elise hugh. If you watch the inauguration of the american president joe biden you amanda gorman. She is the youngest inaugural poet in us history and the country's first ever national youth poet laureate in her. Talk from ted weakened in two thousand eighteen. She calls poetry the language of people language of bridges. You'll hear how. I have two questions for you. One who shoulders do you stand on and to what do you stand for. These two questions always begin. My poetry workshops with students because at times poetry can seem like this dead art form for like old white men who just seem like they were born to be old benjamin van or something and i asked my students these two questions and then i share how i answer them which is in these three sentences that go. I am the daughter of black. Riders would descended from freedom fighters who vote the chains and change the world. They call me and these words. I repeat a mantra before every single poetry performance. In fact i was doing it in the corner over there also making faces so i repeat them to myself as a way to gather myself. Because i'm not sure if you know. Public speaking is pretty terrifying along onstage. And i have my heels. I look all glam. But i'm horrified and the way in which i kind of strengthened myself is bhai having this mantra most of my life i was particularly terrified of speaking up because i had a speech impediment which made it difficult to pronounce on letters. Sounds and i felt like i was fine biting on the page. Once i got on stage i was worried. My words my jumble stumble. What was the point in china to mumble these thoughts in my head if everything's already been said before but finally i had a moment of realization. Why thought if i choose not to speak out of fear than those no one that my silence is standing for and so i came to realize that i cannot stand standing to the side standing silent. I must find the strength to speak up and one of the ways i do. That is through this mantra where call back to what i call on a ancestors. These are people who might not be related to you by blood or by birth but who are more worth saying the names because you stand on the shoulders all the same. And it's only from the height of these soldiers that we might have sights to see the mighty power poetry. The power of language made accessible sibal. Poetry is interesting because not every one is going to become a great poet. But anyone can be anyone can enjoy poetry and it's this openness this accessibility of poetry. That makes it the language people poetry has never been the language barriers. That's always been the language of bridges in this connection making that makes poetry yes powerful but also makes it political one of the things that era me to no and when i get that phone call and it's usually for more white man needs man. Amanda we love poetry. We'd love to get you to buy a poem about this subject but don't make it political was to me. i have to draw a square but not make vat tangle or like build a car make it a vehicle. It doesn't make much sense because all art is political the decision to create the autistic choice to have a voice. The choice to be heard is the most political act of all and by political. I mean poetry is political. That least three ways one. What stories we tell one will telling them how telling them if we're telling them why would telling them so so much about the political beliefs we have about what types of stories matter secondly who gets to have the stories told. I'm talking who was legally allowed to read. Who has the resources to be able to write. Who will be leading in. Our classrooms says a lot about the political and educational systems. There are all these stories. And storytellers existing. Lastly poetry is political. Because it's pied with people if you look in history notice that thailand often go after the poets and the creatives i. They burn books. They try to get ready poetry in the language arts because they're terrified of them poet. Have this phenomenal potential to connect the beliefs of the private individual with cause of change of the public. The population the polity the political movement. And when you leave here. I really want you to try to hear the ways in which poetry is actually at the center on most political questions but what it means to be a democracy. Maybe later we're going to be at a protest and someone's going to have a poster that says they buried us but they didn't know we were seeds that's poetry you might be near. Us history class teacher may play video of martin luther king junior same. We'll be able to hugh out of this mountain of despair. Stone of hope that's poetry or maybe even here in new york city. You're going to go visit the statue of liberty with a sonnet that declares as americans give us your tired your poor your huddled masses yearning to be free so you see when someone asks needs via poem.

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An Excerpt from the book Hungry for Happiness by Samantha Skelly

Optimal Living Daily

04:07 min | 4 d ago

An Excerpt from the book Hungry for Happiness by Samantha Skelly

"An excerpt from the book. Hungry for happiness by samantha skelly. I used to avoid uncertainty at all costs increase structures and rules that kept me in a constant state of predictability in my relationships career finances man. Of course my body and food. If i had a plan i felt safe when things stayed predictable. All's able to relax but this is life and life rarely goes according to plan and when things went off the rails meigs -iety would go into overdrive. You know those moments when you carefully craft what you want to happen in the reality just blows up in your face those moments when no matter how hard you white knuckle life goes in the opposite direction does moments would send me really during my diet depression back when my relationships with food and my body were the most broken i would journal out my day hour by hour for four years. The day looked similar to this with slight variations depending on what fad diet. Testing out five thirty. Am wake up six o'clock workout. Seven o'clock shower and get ready. Eight o'clock eat breakfast. Three hundred calories. Nine o'clock start work. Ten thirty eat snack. One hundred calories noon eat lunch. Three hundred calories one o'clock workout. Three o'clock eat snack. One hundred calories six o'clock dinner three hundred calories eight o'clock drinks slimming tea in nine pm. Bed this was my life pre scheduled with my calories pre decided. I was obsessed with certainty. I didn't know how to survive without it. I left no room to breathe known for the universe to infuse his magic certainty in my life felt safe but he was strangling me. There were times when my biology would overcome. Willpower out ended binge eating thousands of calories worth of chocolate covered almonds only days when i didn't eat a morsel of food to make up for it. When we are addicted to certainty we lose the ability to create influence in step into opportunity. We have to leave space for the magic of the universe comes room and to step out of our own way releasing the addiction to structure so we can create with the universe not fight. It's flow. you'll be so much more powerful and fulfilled we step into the flow and let yourself be guided from within your body. Not the confines of your mind. I a transformative deepest level. We need to understand that creating space slowdown. Be still and listen to. The depth of our truth is essential. We can't unlock our intuition. When we are addicted to certainty was only able to feel a deep state of peace freedom and creation. When i said jesus take the wheel and gave over my control because the truth is external. Safety is an illusion no matter how much we plan. It's never guaranteed inner safety. On the other hand is a state that can be cultivated by shifting energy and focus and operating from a single principle. That everything is happening for you in perfect divine timing. This sounds simple and it is but it's not easy path. Back home to my body was less path and more twisting turning roller coaster. Track the commitment to heal. Was there but still there were moments. When i felt like making zero progress a road the ups and downs and switch backs and loops for years. My only intention to be compassionate to myself during this journey back into my body. I found that the way through this journey was to follow the guidance of my intuition at any point during our waking hours. We have what i call the three pillars of connection. Our thoughts are motions and our intuition the majority of spent all our time within our thoughts and our emotions but this is a disordered and unbalanced sense of reality like a stool with two legs or logical. Mind is always trying to keep us safe and it does a good job but it can also over function being so vigilant that prevents us from living with our whole cells

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Live Life Colorfully | Jason Naylor

Good Life Project

01:14 min | 4 d ago

Live Life Colorfully | Jason Naylor

"So i i learned about today's guests. Jason naylor through his art which at that point started appearing on walls and buildings all over new york city and is now featured all over the world on products shows and fashion and beyond so jason is originally from salt lake city utah where he grew up in a mormon community and eventually felt called to step away and define his own path after getting a bfa in graphic design from brigham young. He moved to new york city where he began a career at mac cosmetics as designer the whole time he was creating his own work and starting to pay these hyper vivid murals on walls around the city often featuring inspirational words and quotes and his style just kind of exploded with energy and kindness and playfulness. And that's his work caught on leading to more and bigger commissions and collaborations with companies like coach in sephora and pepsi. He left his full-time gig. And when all in on his own art now running his own brand. Jason taylor studio where he continues to share his positively through everything from murals. Graphic pieces collaborations items working with new york city communities as well as popular brands and much of his work in his

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