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A highlight from 2183: On The Importance of Trying New Things by Helene Massicotte of Free To Pursue on Curiosity & Courage
"Are you the best blogs that I can get permission from? To you, covering productivity, minimalism, personal development, all that fun stuff. And with that, let's get right to another post, and start optimizing your life. On the importance of trying new things, by a land massacre of free to pursue dot com. How often do you try something new? Every year, every month, every week, likely the answer is not often. I don't know about you, but I feel like standing still makes my brain rot. Period. Keeping abilities, experiences, likes and dislikes, views, and beliefs, constant, stunts are growth as individuals. The familiar becomes too comfortable and starts feeling like it is the only way life can be. Just give a thought to who you admire most, the people you find interesting, intelligent and insightful. I guarantee they do not follow a predictable routine and thought and action, and if they do currently, it's not likely to be for long. In my experience, the benefits of continuously increasing my willingness to try new things, are numerous.
A highlight from Do You Think Like a Happy Person?
"Nobody's coming to help you do anything different. You have to do it yourself. So it is. If your positive person, you know that already, if you're negative, you're like, it shouldn't be that way. Don't do that. Step up. Do you have a brilliant mindset for everything that life throws at you? I think you do. Let me give you another clarity of that as well. Another learning if you will. I'll bring in mindset meeting any challenge comes your way up. Bring it, let's do this thing. That's cool. But I'm gonna give you the advanced version of the brink and let's do this thing. For those of you who recognize that sometimes in life, that's not a good idea. Maybe I shouldn't have done that. So for the things that mean something to you for the things that are important, you know, that you've got to bring it, you've got to turn into to give it your all self a 1000% and go after it. Yes, do you have a brilliant mindset? A happy person does. Okay, let's do this thing. But a happy person also says, well, I gotta bring up mindset, but I'm bringing it to that. Some rules understanding who you are. Understand what makes you happy. Understand that whatever the world brings your way, you're going to deal with it a happy upbeat way, but it doesn't mean you have to, right? That would be silly. There'd be another podcast that I don't do. If you are expecting a great night's sleep tonight, no matter what happened today and no matter what tomorrow will bring, I am guessing you're kind of a happy person.
A highlight from Heart Meditation: Taking in the Goodness (2021-12-01)
"In these heart practices, we're really moving from this realm of thinking. Conceptual to the heart and keeping the heart in the body at the center of awareness as a way of homecoming. It has to be an aesthetic. This particular practice today will be really emphasizing goodness. Because of our negativity bias, we don't really immerse and take in and sense the feeling of what it's like to observe goodness in ourselves or others. And with ourselves we rarely acknowledge it, we're so organized around what's wrong. So that's where we'll pay attention today. Rumi says whenever some kindness comes to you, turn that way toward the source of kindness. So we'll be looking for the source of loving and turning in that direction. Finding a posture that allows you to be alert sitting upright and also at ease. This is a way of initially collecting your attention. You might take a nice full deep in breath. And then a slow out breath slow enough so you can feel the sensations leaving the nostrils. And then another nice long deep in breath. Slow out breath, letting go. Letting go. One more time, deep full in breath. And slow out, breath. Relaxing outward. Letting the breath resume, and it's natural rhythm. Noticing the quality of presence. It's right here. From that space of presence sensing your most sincere intention. For this practice. As a way of creating a receptivity and openness in the body, I'd like to do a classical pre meta practice in a way it's a body meta practice of the smile down. Begin by a great smile spreading through the sky. Just vast that great sky that's out there just spreading through it. The uplift of a smile. You can imagine the mind and the sky emerging so that the mind is filled with that uplift curve, openness of a smile. Letting the smile spread through the eyes, lifting the outer corners of the eyes. Softening the eyes. Letting the brow be smooth. Sensing the mouth, slight smile. Just directly helps to quiet the
A highlight from The value of kindness at work | James Rhee
"Of that company's net assets. So this unexplained differential is named goodwill. And with it, accountants actually can make balance sheets balance. Now, of course, this isn't how most of us think of goodwill. We experience the more human definition of goodwill. And I remember very clearly when that definition first entered my life. It was 1976, and I was 5 years old. And I was sitting there one morning in kindergarten class when in walk the father and older siblings, one of my friends. And they handed me a present. They gave me a little toy, red helicopter. And in the moment, I didn't really understand why they were giving it to me. I just remember sensing that they were happy and sad at the same time. And it wasn't only until much later that I had my aha moment. That my friend had lost his mom recently, and that this gift, it was a thank you. Because I would often share my lunch with my friend on the many days that he would come to school without anyone of his own. In an over time, as things happen, I lost the toy. But I never forgot the lesson, especially how it made me feel. My friend's father had rewarded kindness without cheapening it. And he made it tangible with an object, and he made it human in that exchange. And he made it shareable with the story. And in doing all of this, he created real value out of thin air. By turning kindness into a scalable, collectively owned asset called goodwill. You know, and then for us for many of us, my life, the years just passed at a dizzying pace. And I collected a couple of fancy degrees. I became a dad myself three times over. And I found myself wheeling and dealing as an investment banker and a private equity investor for many years. And the lessons from that red helicopter, they seemed incredibly childish. And weirdly misguided in the world of business and finance. Because let's face it, non revenue generating investments in people that generally not measured, let alone rewarded. But something happened in the summer of 2013 that would forever change the way I thought about kindness. Goodwill. And their roles in reshaping business. I was on a series of just deflating board calls. Involving a failed investment in a company called Ashley Stewart. Ashley Stewart is a clothing retail that has served and employed primarily plus sized moderate income, black women, in neighborhoods across America since 1991. And I felt accountable to my former employer to my former investors to the 1000 plus employees at Ashley Stewart and frankly to myself because I had saved this company from a near death bankruptcy filing. Just three years prior and so this time I did something I took an action. I made a choice. I resigned as chairman of the board. And I agreed to serve as a first time CEO of this broken company. But I agreed to do it just for 6 months. I just wanted to avert a nasty liquidation. And then I wanted to come home and get on with my life. I had immediate pains of regret during those first few weeks that actually Stuart. The corporate headquarters was a converted warehouse. I just remember there being a lot of bugs. There was no Wi-Fi at the headquarters. And the stores didn't have computers. And because there was a lack of trust, there were vendors in the lobby demanding to be paid in cash upfront. And because of them, a lot of my employees were scared. And so I ended up having to hire an armed security guard to protect them. And I felt alone, like on every dimension you can think of.
A highlight from Train Yourself to Take Action
"So here's my question. If you could take just small actions every day to improve this month. Could you make a list right now with the small actions could be? Could you make a list of where those things would be? Just some small actions. If it was health, maybe like, okay, I'm going to meditate every day at 2 o'clock. Great. Just to get your mental health back in check. Or it's like, oh, you know what? My finances. I'm going to start saving a dollar a day. Or you're like, oh, I'm going to you know, if it's in your relationships, I'm going to start complimenting my wife more. All those things consistently applied. Shift everything. The small actions compound into big character changes. I and my clients when I think about them, they're a result of a lot of conversations that awareness opened, acceptance happened, accountability was taken place, and then we just moved them forward a little bit. Moved a little forward, small actions, and over a period of weeks and days and months, as we developed them, all of a sudden they were like feeling better. And reporting is astounding results, you know, in our certified high performance coaching program, we have a score, which is basically a client driven score of how they rate each session. And they can score on a zero to ten basis. The industry average is somewhere around a 6.7, maybe to 7.8, depending on the certification or the school. Ours is a 9.7 out of ten. Why? Because we focus on habits. We focus on high performance habits, and they're action oriented. If you're ever at high performance habits, the research behind that is pretty clear. These are action ordered. High performers seek clarity. They generate energy. They raise necessity. They develop influence. They demonstrate courage. Each of those first words, do you ever hear that? They were verbs. Their action words seek. Generate raise develop, demonstrate. Got it? It's like, as we do those things, oh. Okay, what happens? It feels like all of a sudden life transforms over 12 weeks and survivors coaching. We coach people for 12 weeks, 12 week sessions. And sometimes it's 12 weeks, and we keep going. Sometimes, 12 weeks and we're done, just spend on the client. And what happens is it's like dramatic transformations. Because we're putting them back in that action gate. A lot of people, you know, the difference sometimes between their counseling or their therapy or their conversations with their family, their friends, it's very ruminative. It's lots of conversation. Lots of things. We're high performance coaches. We're going to shift people back into that action mindset without asking crazy transformation, but across a series of habits for us, as we help them shift into action in their psychology or their physiology or their productivity or their people skills, what ends up happening is it feels like everything goes up. I really think chefs. Okay, my friend, I hope you enjoyed this episode of the Brennan show. Tell some people about this episode. It's on each of us to spread positivity and empowerment during these times of chaos and negativity, right? So I'm asking you to be the dealer of hope and personal growth and education in your tribe. So take a screenshot right now and share the screenshot and this link to this episode with three of your Friends today. Post it on social media, use the hashtag growth day that's hashtag growth day because that's the name of my company. And we're always giving away prizes to our community. If you'd like to help me personally, then please rate and review the podcast on Apple podcasts. Give us some stars, cheer us on, leave a review because believe it or not, that stuff actually really does help. And I read all of them. So my last thought for today, please remember, you are stronger than you think. And the future holds good things for you. Tomorrow can be an inspired today. Every new morning is a second chance. Every day is a great day to grow. We're thankful to have you here and the growth day community. So be sure to go deeper with us at growth day dot com.
A highlight from 2182: Brilliance in the Trench by Angelina Lee of Exploring Plan Be on How To Be More Resilient
"By Angelina Lee of exploring plan B dot com. April has been a long year. I've said these words more times than I can care to admit over the last few weeks. A barrage of bad news and compounding challenges brought a feeling of overwhelm unlike any I've ever experienced before. On one of those dark days, I tried to describe to a loved one how I was feeling. I felt as though I was standing on a platform with a small cup of water in my hand while watching a train that was completely engulfed in flames, speed down the tracks. I felt helpless beyond belief. I was afraid of what could possibly happen next. I was shocked at how quickly and drastically life could change. And perhaps the hardest part, I felt anguish over being so far away from loved ones who needed support in so many ways. It would have been easy to lose all hope and to yield to despair, but through it all, there was a sustenance that I can not explain. Yes, there was a numbness, but there was also a resilience. Yesterday and nights are hard, but there is a growing strength. As if the whirlwind of events wasn't enough, one night in the middle of it all our fridge and freezer stopped working. It was a problem that paled in comparison to everything else that was on my proverbial plate, but it was a problem nonetheless, one which brought with it too many impracticalities to be ignored. As my husband and I set out early the next morning to find a replacement, we weren't prepared for how difficult to task that would be. Apparently our old faithful is an outdated make, model, and color, and so we visited much more stores than we had initially anticipated in an attempt to find an appliance that would match the rest of our space. As we exited yet another store empty handed, we had to walk around a gaping trench in the sidewalk to get to our car. There was rubble on both sides of the hole, but not a workman in sight, for whatever reason this trench seemed to have been untouched for a very long time. The caution tape erected around the site was old and faded, and there was no indication that works would recommence anytime soon, or that the pavement would eventually be restored. As I carefully walked past the open trench, something caught my eye. Growing out of the side of the concrete drain was a single stalk bearing bright green leaves and two brilliantly colored flowers. The sight caused me to stop suddenly in the middle of the road and stare. I couldn't believe what I was seeing. Hardly a place of nourishment and growth, this plant had somehow found exactly what it needed in order to thrive. Barely a footing yet standing tall and firm, his beauty was pronounced by the rubble all around it. Wait, I called out to my husband as he walked up ahead. I need to take a picture of this. Of a drain, he inquired, watching me as though the stress of the last few weeks had finally gotten to me. I looked at him in awe, he hadn't seen it. That which most brazenly caught my eye was so easily missed by someone walking right beside me. I smiled and turned my attention back to the brilliance in the trench. I was painfully yet peacefully reminded that there is a delicate dichotomy to life, that we could feel helpless and yet hopeful. That we could experience fear deep within our bones and yet stand firmly grounded in faith. Though we could grieve immensely and yet, rejoice in new found life. That we could be miles apart from the ones we love and yet bound closely together with cords that can not be broken. That we could understand with a rational mind, and yet pray for a miracle. That we could look at the rubble piling up all around us, and yet miss the brilliant colors of hope that managed to grow through the cracks. Although the challenges of April have left our hearts filled with grief and wondering what comes next, I have a piece in my heart, a piece that knows that there can be joy in the midst of sorrow, and there can be laughter in the midst of tears. A piece that knows that even the darkest of nights have an end and that the sun will rise with brilliance once again on the horizon. A piece that knows that there is promise in tomorrow, hope for today, and that I am only expected to take it one moment at a time. And so I take this one hard moment and I fully lean into it, determined to look for that which is so easily missed. If I don't allow myself to sit with those difficult feelings on those darkest of days, determined not to miss the brilliance in the trench.
A highlight from 401: How to Embrace the Anti-Diet | Christy Harrison
"This is the 10% happier podcast. I'm Dan Harris. Hey gang, one of the things that happens to a lot of people when they start meditating, and it definitely happened to me. Is that you might become more aware of your thoughts. And as you become more aware of your thoughts, you may notice that many of them are venomously self critical. You might notice this background swirl of judgments and worries and regrets that can make your life a lot more miserable than it has to be. Again, I'm speaking from genuine personal experience here. Oftentimes, some of the most pernicious and most harmful thoughts revolve around our relationship to food and our bodies. Longtime listeners may have heard me say this before and I think this is something more men should say out loud. But I often find myself in spirals of self laceration when I walk past a reflective surface, especially if I'm wearing a bathing suit, for example. The visible abs I prided myself on back in my 30s or not here anymore and the thoughts that follow this observation can be pretty nasty. And my inner weather can have outer consequences. Maybe I start fanatically counting my calories or maybe I'm so caught up in obsessing over food that I'm barely president mealtime or maybe I get so into the habit of beating myself up that I extend that aggression to other people in my orbit. So all that is the bad news. The good news is that there's a way out of this, at least in my experience. Hence the two part series we're doing on the show this week, which we're calling the anti diet series. This is episode two, by the way, if you haven't heard the first episode with the actress Jameela Jamil, I highly recommend you check it out because she's amazing. Today's guest argues that the dysregulation I just described inside my own head isn't just common, it lives in just about all of us. But also that it has a common source, which she calls diet culture. What's more, she says there's another better way to interact with our food. It's called intuitive eating. I should say this is something I've been practicing personally for a couple of years now, and to use and overused phrase, it has genuinely changed my life. My guest today is Christie Harrison. She's an anti diet registered dietitian and nutritionist, a certified intuitive eating counselor and a certified eating disorder specialist who has struggled with disordered eating herself. She's come out the other side of it, and she's written a book called anti diet, and today she's here to talk about how to transform your relationship with food and your body. In this interview, we talk about Christie's personal experience with eating disorders. The problem with diet culture, the deep historical roots of diet culture, the scientific evidence against dieting and then the principles of intuitive eating. Just a few notes before we go for it. This conversation, as you might imagine, touches on some sensitive topics, such as eating disorders, body image. Some of these issues may carry an emotional charge for some listeners, so just a heads up on that. On an audio tip, you may also hear a tiny bit of airplane noise in the distant background at certain moments that's what happens when you record remotely during a pandemic. Also, you may notice that Christie's voice at times is a tiny bit breathy. That's not because she's nervous, it's because she was very pregnant when we recorded this. By the way, if you like what you hear today, I've got another bit of good news. We've tapped Christie to be the instructor in our brand new anti diet challenge over on the 10% happier app. In this 7 day challenge, we're gonna help you build a better relationship with food and your body. The approach is back by science and supercharged with meditation. And the challenge Christina and I are going to talk through the principles of intuitive eating in a series of short videos and then after the video is complete, Christie will lead you in a guided audio meditation to actually kind of pound the lessons of intuitive eating into your neurons.
A highlight from Positive, Practical, and Peaceful
"One recipe for success. One. You stand up, you take a step. You repeat. But people say, Scott, how long do I repeat once I'm taking a step in repeating? You repeat until you create the life of your dreams. Whatever you want, whatever you say to me, you want, that's what you do. That's what the show is all about. Every single day to make sure you stand up, take a step, and repeat. So you and I are walking down the street where you just come to Daytona see the races and you come south a little bit to Port Orange where I live. And yet you may be a find me at the Panera shop down there having a bagel. Hey, Scott, how you doing? Awesome. What are you up to? What are you doing? Well, this is what I'm doing. Cool. Go do it. We'll see you again. You coming back next month? Yep. Great. Next month, I see you at where are we next month? How about Sony's barbecue? Because I like them. Hey, Scott. How you doing? I'm awesome. Hey, how about that thing that you said you were going to do? How's that going? I know. I haven't got to yet. I've been kind of busy life been getting in the way. Maybe something I'll do it. This show is to stop that conversation. So tomorrow when I show up, just imagine I'm saying to you, hey, Scott. All right, you. How's that thing going? And you go awesome. I got a lot of progress yesterday. I can not wait to keep moving forward. Did I introduce myself? I don't know that I did. It does not really matter, but I shall, because some people are going to say, you need to introduce yourself Scott. That's a proper podcast etiquette. Okay. My name is Scott Smith, I'm the founder and the chief motivating officer here at motivation to move dot com the guy with a common name in the very own common sense. I know it's not real popular these days isn't. I know. Come on sun seems to have taken a it seems to have gone away the last couple of years especially on cable TV. But today you shall get a dose of it. I call it Scott logic. So I'm going to admit something to you if that's okay, as we get into the world of positivity and practicality today. I get in trouble because of this thing I have called my Scott logic. My common sense. I get in trouble. It's directly hard wired to my mouth. It is. I learned a long time ago. There's no need to beat around the bush. There's no need to burn a lot of calories, thinking about stuff. It just pretty much I think it comes up. Yeah, Scott, it should work on that. I tried. I tried. This is it. But people let me know. One of the biggest things people say to me, you ready for it? You seem like such a positive guy. I am. And then something clicks in your head. I don't know what happens. I know. You go negative, and it ruins my day. First off, don't let anybody ruin your damn day, okay? I don't get to do that to you. You don't get to do that to me. But I don't do that. I don't go negative. Here's what happens. Some people floating around in the world of positivity. You've been watching your brain too much. Thinking everything is just positive. It's not. It's not that unicorn and rainbow that you see off in the distance. It's actually a reflection of a Mack truck coming down the road to hit you. That's what it is. When you're practical, you can see that. Doesn't mean being negative, it just means pointing out that uh oh, get out of the way. Here comes a truck. That's what we do here. So I don't really go negative. I just go practical. But I've heard that so many times it's like, so here's the thing. It would be very easy for me to get caught up in the world of feel good, and I love feel good. I love feel good like anybody does. I do. I kind of live in that world. I don't like to make people feel bad. It'd be very easy to get caught up in that trap of chasing positivity. Now, if we're only the sacred really, really positive. But I'm not interested in that. I'm interested in the results. For me, that's a kind of a peaceful. Content, joyful, meaningful life. Wait a second. That sounds like the positive thing at the practical thing. No, it's actually the practical thing. When you get peaceful and content and joyful and meaningful, that's about as practical as you get, isn't it? But what about mopping the kitchen floor? That's meaningful. It is, especially if you have dogs. So if you've been alive for more than a couple of decades, like, nobody in this room right now. Okay, couple. You know that all that stuff that peaceful content joyful, meaningful feeling that you want it's lurking someplace that you may not want to look. It's lurking in the truth. The practical truth. That's why I consider myself a practical positive guy, and you should do or girl. So I believe an optimistic attitude is power in life. I also think that you can never be truly happy until you are willing to go deep, dig really deep into the not so positive challenges in life. You got to turn into it. You got to face it. You hear me talk about that a lot. That's a constant around here for me. Until you do that you're blocked. And you're willing to turn into whatever is there that stopping your positivity? You can't truly be positive. This can't. That's why you always hear me cover both sides. Frankly, I'm not really interested in what we can and will do with our lives. I'm interested in the millions of little interactions. The decisions, the feelings we encounter every single day that become the life that you will have lived someday. Someday you'll be on your deathbed, hey. What life did you live? You know what? I was positive guy, but practical about the world. Worked out okay for me. That's what I want. I don't know what you want. What's a good one though? Stephen Fry, you know, Stephen Fry. You know what he said. I'm just going to give you the first part of it. It goes deeper. Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me. So here's the thing. Positive and practical, no matter what you hear to my who you talk to. Almost everything freaks people out goes words come from others and they come from yourself and they freak you out. It's like wait a second, who am I what am I? What am I supposed to be? People say be this way. People say, be that way, but then I be this way, I be that way, but they're not that way, and they're not going to be that way. So why do I have to be if they don't need to be? You do it for you. You look at the world for what it is, looking for the truth. Do the right thing. You do it with a positive joyful attitude, but you expect that things will trip you up. And this is where I get called on all the time. Scott, I tune into your show today to be positively motivated. Come on, and you're telling me about the subsequent trip me up. Yes. Yes, I am. Not a bad way. Not tick down because I know I know that doesn't take you down as long as you look at it and say, hey, right. There's things out there that if I just blindly just look over and gloss over, it's going to come back and bite me in the ass. How do I know what shall about you when they ask because I've been bitten the as many times in? You have to. Don't you dare lie to me. It's true. So I want you to do this today, okay? You don't have to. This is completely extracurricular. Choose to be very positive and optimistic in what you do today. Just take it for what it is smile and move on and enjoy your life joyful and content and happy and meaningful. Just do that. But ground yourself in the truth of everything because when something hits you between the eyes, you go like, well, I didn't see that coming. Oh well, let's smile and go deal with it. It's gonna happen again tomorrow you may as well get used to it. You will become so peaceful that everything around you, including yourself, and that's what we want you to be. So I want you to be, that's what I want to be. That's what I work at every single day. That's why doing this thing I do online, not just be very Frank with you, kind of, it sucks sometimes, you know why? Because there are lot of mean people in the world. They hit me over the head and they do stuff all the time. They say mean things all the time, even though most people say nice things to me. I'll be honest with you, almost everybody does, but there's a few out there that make it their mission. You know who they are? They're the bots and the trolls and it just doesn't matter. So I thought I would take a few minutes a day to express that you should just be positive and optimistic and very practical. About how the world works. And when you do that, you'll be different. You'd be like in the 1%. You may not be getting paid like the 1%, but you'll be in the 1% tomorrow. Wow, wow, wow, wow, wow. What do you do to have to think like a happy person? We'll chat about that.
A highlight from 452: Jonah Berger on How to Change Anyone's Mind
"I say that I want to be more diligent at work and achieve this particular goal. Yet I'm doing this other thing that's inconsistent with it. Drawing attention to those inconsistencies encourages us to do the work to change them. Welcome to the one you feed throughout time great thinkers have recognized the importance of the thoughts we have, quotes like garbage in, garbage out or you are what you think, ring true, and yet for many of us our thoughts don't strengthen or empower us. We tend toward negativity, self pity, jealousy, or fear. We see what we don't have instead of what we do, we think things that hold us back and dampen our spirit. But it's not just about thinking. Our actions matter. It takes conscious consistent and creative effort to make a life worth living. This podcast is about how other people keep themselves moving in the right direction, how they feed their good wolf. The city of Atlanta was shut down for 5 days due to a ransomware attack in 2018. Ransomware
A highlight from 282 - How to Find Your Special Gift (Remix)
"Hey it's Marie Forleo and welcome to another episode of the Marie Forleo podcast. You know, the holiday season is really a beautiful time of year and it's also the time of year that can kick up a lot of stuff. I mean, maybe you're feeling some stress around all the work you need to get done before the end of the year. Or maybe you're dealing with challenges around your family or your health or maybe you're like Sasha, who you're gonna hear from today, who's wondering, where exactly she fits into this world and whether or not she has anything truly unique and special to offer. Now, the short answer to that last part, do you have something special to offer? Yes, you most certainly do. You, my friend, are unique and valuable soul. There's only one of you in all of time, which means that no other person has or ever will have that unique blend of gifts, strengths, perspective and talents that you have. As I've often said before, you are quite literally a one time mega event in the universe. Now if you're looking to go even further on this topic, I need you to keep listening. You're gonna learn a simple way to find your special gift, even if you don't think you have one. This is Q&A Tuesday, where it's all about cues and as in today's Q comes from miss Sasha, and she writes. Hey Marie, I get caught up with something usually say at the end of your videos. It goes something along the lines of the world needs that special gift that only you have. I don't really see myself as someone that has any special gifts and especially nothing I can offer to the world unless there's a world's best procrastination competition, I'll go next week. Very clever. How can I work out what these special gifts are that I was sent into this world with thanks for any advice Sasha. Sasha, this is a super great question. You know, I have never met one single person who doesn't have any gifts. But I've met loads of people who wonder if they even just have one. I think part of the problem is this word gifts. So when we hear that word gifts or talents instantly, we think of someone who can sing or dance or talk to dead people or solve gigantic quadratic equations without using a pencil. So I think the first step is we need to look at gifts in a broader way. So a simple shift is to start calling them strengths. There's no one that can say they don't have strengths, right? And I bet you have strengths, you're not even aware of Sasha. Now the $1 million question is, well, how do I figure out what my strengths are? The best place to start is with one of my favorite books of all time. Behold, Marcus Buckingham's, now discover your strengths. Sasha, I recommend this book to everybody. And now when you read it, you're gonna discover that every single human being, including you is born with a unique set of strengths. Now, the book also comes with a code so that you can take this awesome little test and discover exactly what your strengths are. Now the thing about strengths, there really an ability you have. It's something that comes very naturally to you. It's something that when you do it, you actually feel stronger. It's something that you can imagine yourself doing repeatedly happily and successfully. Now, most people overlook their strengths because the fact it comes so naturally to them, they take it for granted. For instance, are you a great learner? Do you have a strong sense of empathy? Do you thrive on competition? Do you have a knack for imagining the future and getting people excited about it? Can you win other people over, even if you've just met them? All those things are strengths or what you might call gifts. And yes, they are special and useful even if they're not talent show material. Presenting jams, magnificent, spatial relations, problem solver. You know if you guys just moved all these chairs like one inch over, you could probably fit a whole other row. Now, once you know your strengths, the whole key is to continue to use them as often as you can and to develop them. It's a big key to happiness both in your regular life and at work. Now here's a big thing you don't want to get tripped up on. Don't try and look for the perfect job or the perfect business to start in order to express your strengths. Your strengths are going to be with you for life. And if you're like most people in this day and age, you're going to have many evolutions in your career. So you don't have to worry about it. So for example, in my own life, two of my top strengths are positivity and communication. Now, I use these strengths when I was on the floor of the New York Stock Exchange on Wall Street. I use them when I was a bartender. I use them when I was a Nike athlete, and I use them every single day in my business and here on Marie TV. Now there's loads more we can talk about as this is a big and fascinating topic. But the two most important steps you can take are number one, recognize that yes, you do have gifts. You just gotta start calling them strengths. And number two, you want to find out what those strengths are and start using them as often as you can because the world really does need it. So let's land this plane on one of my favorite quotes of all time, and yes, it's a tweetable. Vocation is the place where our deep gladness meets the world's deep need. That was my a to your Q Sasha, I really hope it helps. Did this episode help you come up with some strengths or gifts? I want you to tell me about them. I would love to hear this. You can share with me on social. I am at Marie Forleo on all the platforms. Now, if you're struggling a little bit, here's another way to reframe this. Take a look. What brings you joy? You know why? Because joy is simply your gifts wanting to come out of you. So if that word strengths or talents keeps tripping you up, I want you to get really curious about what brings you joy and then just journal about it. Remember, our world has more than enough critics, right? I want you to be an encourager instead, and that includes an encourager of yourself. Until next time, stay on your game and keep going for your big dreams, because the world really does need that very special gift that only you have. Thank you so much for tuning in and I'll catch you next time on Marie TV and the Marie Forleo podcast. Oh, Gigi, why are you ain't got no alibi? Did you find it? You fucking need a personal cheering squad in your ear to achieve your big dreams? I got one for you. It's an audio training I created called how to get anything you want. You'll learn three strategies that'll give you clarity and confidence as you build your dreams on your terms. Best part, this audio training is completely free. Go to Marie Forleo dot com slash subscribe to download your coffee. I promise, I'll have you doing cartwheels and high kicks around those tired old excuses that have been holding you back. Get this free download now at Marie Forleo dot com slash subscribe. You got this. You got this. You got this. Yeah, yeah. You got this.
A highlight from The powerful women on the front lines of climate action | Farwiza Farhan
"When it comes to big problems like climate change, we tend to be solutions. New technologies, global policies, but many of the most important solutions are rooted on the ground. By actors that don't walk the corridors of power. But actors that might not speak the scientific language of climate change, but who are dealing with its impact every day. I am a forced conservationist from the lawyer ecosystem in Sumatra Indonesia. You might never heard of this landscape. But it's the last place on earth where the critically endangered modern rhino Tiger elephant and orangutan still run together in the world. So meaning is the leader of Indonesia first woman let ranger team and a mother. A conservationist whose action is rooted in her community on the edge of the leisure ecosystem. In a patriarchal society where she operates, a woman is expected to be quiet and subservient. During a village meeting, the ladies tend to congregate in the kitchen while the men discuss village policies and budget. And oftentimes, even if she is present in a meeting room, he is expected to not voice her opinion. Rather letting a male relative to answer a question addressed to her. Without consulting her first. When I asked so many why she used to protect and conserve the forest, she said, we am rather angry mothers. We are responsible for everything. From the moment we wake up, we have to wash clothes, cook, and make coffee for our family. More than anything, we need water and every aspect of our life. And the only thing that protects our water source is the forest of the mountain. The path for some meaning to lead this rangers is anything but straightforward. She become familiar with the forest when she began accompanying her husband tracking. During these trips, they witnessed encroachment and logging. They saw people picking up timber and encroaching into the forest. When they would try one of the loggers, they were met with a challenge. Who are you and what are your authorities to tell us off? Go away. Logging and encroachment that happened upstream soon turned into disasters downstream. A heavy rainfall that lasted for a few days, turned into flash floods and landslides. Destroying the village and its essential infrastructure. After the disaster, so many and other villagers had to take refuge in a shelter for a while. Being a refugee is hard. You don't have privacy and security. You don't even have the access to clean flowing water. It's hard to even keep yourself safe and clean. I don't want that kind of disaster to happen again. She said to me. For so many and her theme, the first part of becoming a ranger was not putting on a uniform, but creating a map of the forest. You see, in Indonesia, access to land and forests are often contested. And one couldn't simply walk into a pasture forest and declared that they will protect dispatch. No, no. The government needs to acknowledge that you are the legal guardian of the particular force. And then they will give you the paperwork to affirm your role. In order to obtain this permit, the community needs to create a proposal with a map. So to get the work. Of course, they know what things are in the forest. Water and waterfall, where the orchid is and where the bear sleeps.
A highlight from 2181: Top Five Regrets of the Dying by Joshua Becker of Becoming Minimalist on Building an Intentional Life
"Comcast has built a broadband network with one simple purpose to keep customers connected every single day. In the last ten years, we have invested $30 billion and 15 billion since 2017 alone to keep America's largest gig speed broadband network fast, secure and reliable. Because more Americans rely on Comcast to stay connected, we work around the clock to build a better network every single day. Comcast, better today, even better tomorrow. Learn more at Comcast dot com slash network. This is optimal living daily episode 21, 81, top 5 regrets of the dying by Joshua Becker of becoming minimalist dot com, and I'm just a molecule personal narrator reading to you every day, including holidays from the best blogs or articles I can find, and thank you for being here listening on giving Tuesday, I like to think you're giving to yourself by listening to great content every day here on the show, but also giving back to me and everyone on the OLD team who makes this show happen. It really means a lot to us. Today I have a post from Joshua Becker, and I'm going to talk about how he's been giving back at the end of the episode, so please do stick around for that. But for now let's get right to his post and continue optimizing your life. Top 5 regrets of the dying by Joshua Becker of becoming minimalist
A highlight from Insiders' Secrets To Make You Younger and Healthier
"Health is everything. Health beet shoes. Let me tell you. No matter what kind of shoes you got on if you got high blood pressure. It really doesn't. So let's get right to it. Doctor Oz says there are three things you can do in the bathroom in just three minutes that will keep you living longer. What are they? Well, it's about using your senses. You want to hear what the stool the poop sounds like when it hits the water. And that sounds crazy, but if it sounds like a bombardier, you'll pop. That's not right, 'cause it means you're constipated. It means the food is too hard by the time it comes out. It should hit the water like a diaper from Acapulco hits the water. Now, that's the sound test. That's the sound test. Okay, okay? And there's the slight test. Look at it. I mean, everyone looks at their stool. They don't admit it, but they look. It should be. It's having admission here too. Let's have an admission here today. How many of you know what? It's a funny thing. I thought I was the only one. Then I heard that everybody looks at their stool. Absolutely. You think Britney Spears? She's looking at her. Okay, go ahead. But that's good, right? You should look at it. You're looking at it to see what? It should be shaped like an S and we're going to explain why in a few minutes. Oh, when you get an S, I'm so excited. Yes. Ask for sexy espresso. Like, wow. It should be an S. It should be an S shape, and you want to make sure the color's normal. Because the color of the poop tells you a lot about how you made it. At the end of the day, you can analyze your body, really effectively, by looking at what comes out of your body. Oh, really? And we want to get people comfortable with that. Okay. Okay, I'm very comfortable with it. So I had to say this tack belief. So if it comes at the releasing itself in pieces, that's not good. You don't want that to happen because it means that by the time you finish digesting food and food is a medicine for you, it helps you. By the time you finish digesting it, you don't have enough of it left to poop out in the right way. And probably it's hurt the organ, the colon. Yeah. That has to process it. So pieces is bad. Pieces as bad plop plop is bad. You want a full S S and. Got that, okay? Okay, okay. And it can also be banana shape. That's good too, isn't it? As shape banana shape as long as it has a curve to it. And it actually forms all these years. I've been so excited about that when that happened. I didn't know. I didn't know that that was really such a good thing, but I'm like, yes. When that happens. Okay, millions of you watching are unknowingly speeding up your aging clock every single day. We track down two viewers who represent a whole lot of people in this country. My name is Susan, and I am a busy working mother of three children. The last person that I think about is myself. I'm quite constipated. I typically only go to the bathroom, every 5 days. My stomach will feel crampy and I don't feel well. I drink 8 cans of diet soda a day, but never water. My favorite foods to eat our cookies, chips. Hardly ever eat fruits or vegetables. I hired a training helping it would force me to exercise, but I often cancel. I'm just too busy. Both my father and my uncle have died of cancer and my mother was just diagnosed with breast cancer. I heard there are some things you can do to lower your risk, but I don't have any clue what they are. My name is Maureen, and I'm 39 years old. I'm the mother of four, and my health is the last thing I have time for. I suffer from diarrhea, constipation, and hemorrhoids. My hemorrhoids feel so bad that it's like grapes hanging out of my rear. Sometimes they hurt so bad, I can't get out of bed for two days. I eat a lot of fast food. I love fried chicken and fries, and I eat at least four times a week. I never have any fiber. I don't drink any water. The only water to hit my mouth is when I'm brushing my teeth. I have trouble sleeping and have to take something every single night to help me sleep. My parents both died from heart related diseases. And my family has a history of cancer. My husband begs me to see a doctor because he worries that something is wrong with me. But I just can't bring myself to do it. I really don't know why I have these health problems. I mean, their bodies are screaming to them. Yeah. Help me. Help me. They're big colon is saying, come get. I need something from you. And then I processing it. And I think part of the reason for that was your Pope. It's nonexistent or tiny marbles. Oh, goodness, nonexistent or tiny marbles are really bad. Tiny marbles. Not good. Not good. Okay, so what do you want to say to her? The purpose I think of this show more than any other is to create a no embarrassment zone. I'll give you an example. Yeah. The average male and you probably already know this has 14 episodes of passing gas a day. Guess what it is for women? What? 14. Now what does that mean? That means I've already passed gas today and so of you and stores are a hostess. Yes. And that's okay. That's cool. That's what's supposed to happen. We need to figure out that and process it. So to plea to you is to figure out that it's not normal. You sort of had that epiphany already. And then let's take the steps that are required. How do when it happens and everybody's always like so a clip about it? It's like embarrassing. Because it's embarrassing. That's why you need to know embarrassment, so we need to stay comfortable and so smart people say well that's not really what's happening. It is. Okay, so you need to pass gas 14 time. You need to. Well, you want to. You want to, because if you were passing gas, you'd be all kind of bloated up, right? Exactly. It's something we usually don't discuss in polite conversation, but today we're tackling this important subject for our own good health. Here's what actually happened in your hardworking colon. So this is the small bowel and it just processed some food and it starts to get irritated and it turns red and that redness means that it's inflamed. And so this hurts you. This causes belly pain. Here's that same food bowl is pouring into the cecum. Now, a couple things are important here. The cecum is the atrium. They're pulls all the food that you eat in to the beginning of the large bowel. This is very important step. First of all, this is where the fluid and it needs to be fluidy can continue to get absorbed into your body. If it's too hard, it sticks into these little crevices. That's the appendix. Okay. And you get appendicitis because there's still sticks in there like clay and can't get out. And more importantly, this is a diverticula. Okay. It's a small outpouching. Think of an inner tube that has a little hole in it. When your bowel is pushing hard on something that is hard itself, it cracks. And these little outpouchings can kill you. Really? And they cause a lot of pain for a lot of folks, especially when they get past age 40. Okay. So let's go on now. The same bolus heads its way up and as it's being pulled up, guess what happens to it? You suck the water out of it. The more water you stuck out of it, the more it begins to look like. Poop.
A highlight from Daring To Face Your Dreams
"Work, and that's why I have to tell you today about the couple of things you're not doing that you have to do first. That makes sense. It's kind of weird. It's kind of Scott style, but it works. So we'll talk about what you need to do before you can do what you want to do. Cool. It is a daily boost from motivation to move dot com they positive boost you need every single day the positive and the practical boost why? Because sometimes positivity gets you out in the world and then you're running, and you go, no, I'm so positive but not beaten yet, Nick. So we just kind of be practical about and expect that sometimes the world doesn't play nice with us. We have to look at it both ways, positive and practical. And we can do it every one. Talk about that later on this week for you. As we get this very cool we can show you how to roll a Ford. And there's that voice and I apologize for that. So bear with me, I'll do the best I can. It's me Scott Smith found her chief motivating officer here at motivation to move dot com. Yes, Scott Smith. Common name, uncommon sense, and it gives me a problem. Thanks, mom. People have been so Demi Scott. How do I get a hold of you? You've got all this other stuff going on. But where do I find you? Well guys, I fixed the problem. So effective today, if you would like to reach out to me and you're not, you don't have access to that two way text message I sent out every single day. And you might not because the show gets out all over the world sometimes. Then you just want to send an email to Scott at go Scott Smith dot com. I know. Or the name like that, you got to be creative, right? Scott at go Scott Smith dot com. You tried today if you want to. You can test me. We can see if it works. In the coming weeks, you'll see all my social media and the shift over to ghost Scott Smith. So you can find me pretty easily everywhere. Just want to let you know that's coming. For those of you who just played at night, drink like in the morning, want to see if I'm hanging out with the computer. I might be, you never know. One of the things that people tell me that they do and they shouldn't be doing when they're trying to transform their life is they wing it with their finances. Stop it. You don't want to do that. Playbook is our sponsor today. It's an app that helps you build a financial plan to grow your money and optimize your taxes. I told my daughter, just the other day. And she's already playing with playbook. She's so cool. It's so easy. Connect your bank accounts and playbook builds a plan to maximize your tax advantages, including how much money you need to save to reach all of your financial goals. So what is it you want to save for? A wedding, a family trip, donating your charity, maybe. How would stop working forever? Retire yourself, retire your wife retire somebody. Now personally, I like how playbook shows you all your counsel one place. It does automatic contributions every single month. It's a no brainer. It tracks your progress to. Listen, no matter how old you are, we all need to save more for our future, we're all living longer than ever, right? We need to have fun the whole time. So get on the road of financial success right now. Go to hello playbook dot com slash daily boost. Use my new unique link. Hello, playbook dot com slash daily boost to get your free playbook impact it predicts how much you're net worth could grow if you start today. And you should do that. Go to hello playbook dot com slash daily boost. Okay, big show today. Can somebody stop the world? I want to get off. Please? Can you just stop what I want to get? It's like being on a carnival ride that you thought was a good idea because your grandkids or your kids, come on, you can do it, and then you did forgetting the fact that you decided a few years back, it's not a good idea. I just want to get off. Okay, so let's play along, okay? So I get this podcast. Can I do stuff? But I also have a magic button to do my studio right now when I moved into my new home and I built my new studio. I built a new magic button in here. It's right there. It's a stop the world. And it doesn't even say an emergency only. It just stopped the world. So here we go. Pretend I just press the button. The world stopped, which is really freaky if you think about it in real life, what actually happened? But we're not going to do it for real or playing right now. Anything that's going crazy in your life right now, anything driving you crazy, anything that's going on in your brain, anything that you're like, just slow down. It's just done. It's over. Pretend with me for just a moment. Calm down? Pretend what we for just a moment, it's okay. You'll be all right. I have a question for you. Now that the world has stopped and now that you don't have any worries in the world, anything that was driving you crazy, you thought you had to do. You don't have to do anymore. It's done. Yay. Look at you. You don't even have a to do list anymore. It's gone. To do list require gravity and the world has to rotate to have gravity. Okay, never mind. You didn't know that we're going to gravity, did you? See what you learn on this show? So what are you going to do now? That's my question of the world. Just stopped. You got your wish. What are you going to do now? Now, if you don't want to answer, don't worry about it. Don't freak out and I should like to. And some people do like to freak out for the fun of it. I've done that at least on a weekend occasionally. It's common for people to get slowed down. Really common. Something happens to get a break. For me, it used to be I get fired. Cool. I got time off. They think about their life and what it could be like. And they have no idea. But also you're one of those who do decide what you want to do. You know what it is, it's inside of you. And you decided to turn directly into the challenge. Go after it. Cool. Now a lot of years ago, I adopted a philosophy that became kind of a driver in my life, it would change everything. Now, I didn't know at the time. Let me adopt this philosophy. This is going to change everything. I didn't know that. I just decided I would always turn face first into any challenge that stood between me and whatever I wanted. My dreams. Now I learned later on that I didn't need to always do that because unless I really wanted it really badly inside, I was going to stop anyway. So I just learned not to, but if I really wanted it, really had something on my mind that I wanted to go after. Then, yeah, I would choose that battle. I would turn into it, face it directly, and let's go. Game on. I would face my fashion head on. And do whatever it takes to make it real. And do you know what happens next when you do that? A lot of the time. Not lonely, I know you're right with me, because I talk to you all the time. I tripped. I stumbled, I failed right first in a pile of my dreams to write there on the floor. There was a big pile of dreams on the floor like the laundry. I leave in the bathroom. My wife complains about. I know. I shouldn't do that, I should have grown up, but never got that part of it. That's when I realized that deciding to face your passion was the beginning. Just the beginning. So before you can fix your passion before you can live your dreams, there's something else you have to face first. You know this you have done. It's a prerequisite you've done this before. There's all kinds of things you've done before. There's not much in life that doesn't require you to do something first. Except the thing you do first. You know what I mean by that? There are some things you just do first to get there like you can't drive the car until you open the door. You have to do that first. But some things in life require that. In fact, that does. But if you want to live your dreams and do what you want to do in your life, you've got to face things like stress. Face things like relationships. Face things like health, finance, a spiritual beliefs. How about your friendships? The clothing you were, how about the food you eat? How about what you dream? It's true, you have to face it first. See what happens as people say, this is what I'm going to do. I've decided finally it's my turn and they step into it and yet the anchor of all the stuff you created in your world, it's like debt and stuff like that. It drags you down. You don't even have a fighting chance to get what you want. And I know you want that now, but you got to go back in time a little bit. You got to take an audit and inventory what's going on around you and really kind of deal with all the elements of your world. Living the I know there must be more lifestyle, which people love to talk about. There is, and it's freakishly simple. It's no big deal either. You can do whatever you want to do whenever you choose to do it. Consequences. Complications? Maybe. But the truth is you can do whatever you want to do. It doesn't take long to realize that getting that done, particularly if you tried before. It takes a little bit of practice, takes a little bit of prerequisite work. It takes a little foundation building. In fact, it's pretty simple. As
A highlight from Work 2.0: The One-Room Commute
"This is hidden brain, I'm shankar vedantam. Like millions of people around the world stand for economist Nicholas bloom has been working from home since March 2020. Instead of a university classroom, he now uses a spare bedroom. Sometimes one of his four kids pops in, while he does meetings over Zoom. He'll never forget this one time when he was in a very important call with some business executives, trying to help them with the research project. About 20 minutes into the call, this happened. It was two of my kids starting their daily practice on the bagpipes. I was thinking, oh no, now is not the time. That's it like, say, quickly to Evan a meeting. I'm sorry. There's something going on in the background, mute myself and run into the toilet. Let's take the rest of the meeting in the next it was the only place that was quiet enough. And our House is not big enough, you know. The soundproofing is just dreadful. The toilet's about the only sound bunker room. So I'm sure I'll be back in there again taking calls. Probably many calls because Nick is an expert on the economic cultural and social implications. Of working from home. Now, in an almost serial twist,
A highlight from How to enrich your everyday life with poetry (with Sarah Kay)
"Listening to how to be a better human. I'm your host Chris Duffy. On today's episode, our guest is one of my favorite people in the world and one of my favorite artists. The poet Sarah keg. At home on my desk, I have a couple little sheets of paper taped up to remind me of the kind of work that I want to be doing in my life. And one of those lists is a list of artists whose work inspires me. Sarah's name features a very prominently. I love the way that Sarah plays with language. I love her sense of humor. And I also always moved and inspired by her vulnerability in her openness in her work. That's something that I really try and emulate. And I aspire to. I think a lot of people when it comes to poetry, I think a lot of people get turned off from poems early in their lives because they read some poems that are super basic and boring and all that they focus on is rhyming. Or because they read some poem that is incomprehensibly complex and pretentious. And then they decide, okay, all right, I get it. Poems are not for me. Poetry's not for me. But I think that is a real loss. I really think that there is such a breath of poetry out there that there is something that will speak to you no matter who you are. And I think that an exceptional poem, a really exceptional poem. It cuts to your core. And it sticks with you for the rest of your life in a way that almost no other art can. I hate to think that there are some people out there missing completely out on poetry because they gave up after roses are red violets are blue. Which, by the way, if that's your problem, if you love the roses are red violets are blue palm. Great, more power to you. Nothing wrong with that. But for me, that's not the one that does it for me. And to get us started in this episode, here's a clip from one of Sarah Kay's talks where she's performing one of her favorite spoken word pieces. And this is one that I personally really love as well. Moon sees me. The moon sees somebody
A highlight from Ancient wisdom for healing the planet | Shweta Narayan
"One of my fondest memories as a child was to stare in the evenings at the beautiful orange skies and flaring chimneys of the steel plant. Little did I know at that time that these were all classic signs of severe air pollution. Cities like bukhara were dubbed as the temples of modern India that propelled the country into the 21st century. I now work at the intersection of environment health and justice. I've been in this space for nearly two decades. And my experience tells that the negative impacts of industrialization have outweighed the good. I've also in my work come across several individuals and groups who despite all odds, go beyond their Call of Duty to serve their communities. I find healthcare professionals working in polluted places as one such group who strive to do everything they can to protect their patients and communities from risk. For example, Mina a health worker from korba district in central India. Her job is to provide maternal care to pregnant women. However, mean, lives in a region that is surrounded by coal and power plants and is considered among the top 5 critically polluted places in India. So Mina also gives advice on how to protect the newborn children from the dangers of air pollution. Mina and thousands of other health workers in India and across the world apply a concept that has been with us since at least the 5th century BC. When hippocrates, the Greek physician also considered as the father of modern medicine, wrote about the role of physicians in his book of the epidemics. He said, and I caught the physician must be able to tell the antecedents. Nor the present and foretell the future. Must mitigate these things with two special objects in view with regard to disease. Namely, to do good or to do no harm. The doctrine of do no harm forms the basis of the Hippocratic oath, one of the oldest and most widely known codes of ethics. Now, the resident of the Hippocratic oath may be symbolic today, but most health professionals adhere to a daily as we have witnessed in the last two years of the COVID-19 crisis. I'm here to make a case for two things. Placing health at the heart of climate solutions. And placing the philosophy of first do no harm at the heart of all decisions beyond health, including those taken by our CEOs and politicians. Now let me be clear about one fact. The climate crisis is a health crisis. It threatens our air, water, food, shelter, security, all the basics on which the human life depends. Burning of fossil fuels for electricity heat or transport is a major driver for climate change and a main contributor to air pollution. Globally, air pollution causes 7 million premature deaths each year. That's 13 deaths every minute. Way more than the death toll of COVID by the end of summer of 2021. And the poor and the marginalized are more severely impacted. Now, extreme climate events not only threaten people's health, but healthcare's own infrastructure and capacity to respond. The deadly floods of 2018 in Kerala in India, the state that I live in, forced hospitals to evacuate patients, suspense surgeries and critical care. Others faced power outages, many reported destruction of the entire stocks of vaccines and medical supplies. And similar experiences have been documented in other parts of the world. Now there's also a paradox here. And with it, an opportunity arises. While the health sector plays a central role in responding to the climate crisis, the sector itself contributes to nearly 5% of the net global greenhouse gas emissions and growing. Healthcare professionals understand the seriousness of their own climate footprint. In the last couple of years, we have seen an enormous momentum within the sector in charting a course towards transformative healthcare that starts with climate solutions. This momentum is guided by zero emissions, climate resilience and health equity road map. For example, the state of Chhattisgarh in India has solarized over 900 community health centers and pledge to attain hundred person solarization to provide energy access. Thus anchoring the resilience of the community and protecting the most vulnerable. Last year, England's national health service began charting a cost to zero emissions by 2045. This year, 40 institutions representing 3000 hospitals in 18 countries followed suit and worked with healthcare without harm to decarbonize healthcare. Its buildings, its operations and supply chains in a race to zero. Doctors for clean air and climate action is mobilizing thousands of doctors across India on the issue of air pollution and health to advocate for better policies. Time has come that we measure the advancement of our civilization through the metric of health rather than metric of wealth. But here also lies one of our biggest roadblocks. It is impossible to have healthy people on a sick planet. The blatant disregard for environment, which is entrenched in our current economic and social models, has pushed the natural world to its limits. Failure to ask basic questions like who is this business decision going to harm? Or what is the impact of the current policy choice on the most marginalized or on the future generations?
A highlight from 256: Turn Anxiety into Your Superpower with Dr. Wendy Suzuki
"Back quick brain, your question for today is how do you turn anxiety into your super power a lot of people would say that this has been a very recent recent stressful times, and we know that stress could reduce and actually shrink the human brain. So how do you cope with anxiety? How do you transform anxiety into a gift to a real superpower? And how this conversation with you today I'm really excited to introduce doctor Wendy Suzuki. She's a Professor of neuroscience at science psychology at NYU and she's the author of brand new book, good anxiety. Welcome to the show Wendy. Thank you so much, Jim. It's so great to be here. This is a long time coming. You and I had met a couple of years back and an event. It seems like a little bit more than a minute. Almost a lifetime ago. And the event was a brain health event, put on by our friend Maria Shriver. However, yeah. Yeah. So I'm glad you could make time to be on our show and talk about your brand new book. And most people they hear the word anxiety and they just they don't look at it as a gift. They don't look at it as a superpower, but I would imagine in your have you seen anxiety, especially in the past year and a half, have you seen a dead rise? Oh, absolutely. And in fact, this whole book, the first draft was written before the beginning of the pandemic. At that time, the stats were 90% of Americans raised their hands and said, I experienced anxiety every day. 90% before the beginning of the pandemic. So just imagine what that number has become now. So basically everybody, everybody has anxiety. So it's the topic that we need to address. So when I was reading your book, you know, a lot of this information, I was amazed because you talk about anxiety was actually a protection mechanism. Absolutely. It's there to serve us. It's there to serve us. People don't realize that. And that is the whole starting point of the book. Evolutionarily, anxiety and that underlying physiological stress response evolved to protect us from the dangers out there. The lines, the tigers and bears that were coming at us 2.5 million years ago, it is essentially essential for our survival. And I know everybody's thinking, I'm not feeling protected by my anxiety. What are you talking about? And the answer is that we're not. And that's okay that you're not because the volume of our anxiety has turned up way too high for all of us. And too much of anything, even a good thing is bad. So the first section and in fact, the whole chunk of the book is about how the first step is just to turn that volume down so that we can get back to that protective aspect that gives us gifts that gives us superpowers. Now, you're also an authority on one of our favorite subjects that we talk about on our show and in our book is under neuroplasticity. An incredible ability for our brains to be able to adapt to experiences. Now how does that relate to anxiety? Yeah. It is so incredibly important to anxiety because one of the most important tools to be able to turn that volume down is to be able to shift your mindset about how you're approaching anxiety. That is a form of learning that is a form of brain plasticity. It's very evolutionarily beneficial. And the thing is that this is one example of how it can be a gift. Those of us with anxiety with lots of anxiety provoking situations coming at us all the time. We have this opportunity to be able to practice mindset shifting to address all of these different problems. And we learn that the more we do it, the better we become. And that skill is then can then be adapted to all aspects of our lives. And the more adaptable we are, the better we're able to just kind of live a better life. So it does become a gift because we have all these opportunities to test it out. So in a way we could become more fit as in my emotionally. So how do you, if somebody's going through a difficult time right now, maybe a time of uncertainty where they feel like they are maybe watching the news and is threatening in his dark and scary puts in that fight or flight. What did you say the first step would be in order for them to flip anxiety from going from being somebody negative to something that's empowering? Yeah. Great question. The first step for everybody is to learn and practice techniques that turn that volume down. And the number one approach to turning that volume down is to activate your stress reduction part of your nervous system. This is my big message. Everybody knows about fight or flight, right? The sympathetic nervous system is another word for that fight or flight system. Did you know that we have a de stressing part of our nervous system called the parasympathetic nervous system? And everybody should be thinking, how do I activate that? I mean, more of that nervous system to be activated. And the best way to consciously activate that system is to deep breathe deeply and slowly. It's not a surprise that deep breathing is one of the oldest forms of meditation in history, monks long ago. They didn't know anything about the nervous system, but they knew that that could bring us down in to calmness. Did they know they were activating the parasympathetic nervous system? No. But it's very, very powerful. And it also starts us on a practice that's so helpful for anxiety, which is appreciating the present moment. And there's no better way to do that than to focus on your breath and to appreciate I have breath going through my lungs and that I could just enjoy this moment right now. Nothing is happening. I have a calmness to me. And so that is why just practicing simple deep breathing is my number one go to. And this is a long-lasting active coping response. When you're breathing, it helps you, I would imagine with building resilience. Absolutely. It does. I love it because so many people say, you know, I'm not only dealing with my own anxiety. I'm dealing with the anxiety of my kids and their schools and masks and no masks. And the thing about breathing is that you can practice it together as a family. And you can send your kids off to school with that with that practice that, you know, you get a little stressed out, just breathe deeply. And for you, the adult, I love the fact that you can practice this in the middle of an anxiety provoking conversation. That anxiety provoker is talking away and you were just breathing deeply, you are already calming yourself down and you're helping yourself kind of get that. Why is this helpful? It's helpful because calming yourself down can help your prefrontal cortex work better. You get too much fight or flight, stress response going. And your prefrontal cortex shuts down. You need that in an anxiety provoking conversation because that is your decision maker that helps you make your arguments. So you want to do everything you can to really enhance
A highlight from Podcast 338: 8 Ways to befriend your inner critic and use it to your advantage
"Today we're going to be talking about the inner critic. There is so much art there in social media, I should say on social media and in books about or in a critic, which is that voice that we speak when we speak to ourselves judging ourselves in our harsh with ourselves. So I'm going to talk about that today and how we can manage that and the difference between that and intrusive thoughts and all kinds of stuff. But before we begin, I want to remind you about my annual mental health retreat that's running the second to the 4th of December in Dallas Texas, it's going to be phenomenal. It's only a few places left so you need to get in the enregister, we've actually opened up some more space so that we can get more people in because it's been such a wonderful response, and the reason why is that we all need help with our mental health, and this is going to be a very, very hands on conference. We are really going to spend a lot of time helping you deal with things like the inner critic and intrusive thoughts and what are they and what can we do. We're going to do exercises together practical to help you and your loved ones manage your mental health. You're really going to get a handle on self regulation and mind management. Another thing is that these podcasts of educational purposes are not really cool. You need medical advice, please contact the appropriate medical professional. And just before we begin, I also want to say wherever you want to help me with these podcasts to be able to bring more to you and for those of you that are already doing this I want to thank you, what you can do is subscribe to our podcast wherever you listen to podcasts, actually subscribe. It'll be amazing and also follow me on YouTube and subscribe there and leave a review at whatever you can even leave me a 5 star review even better. Also, send us your questions, I'm going to be doing a lot around answering questions. And in fact, this podcast on the inner critic is a post-op putting up the other day and we had lots and lots of questions and lots and lots of people saying, please do a podcast on this. So that's why I'm here doing this so on to today's podcast about the inner critic. Okay, so we all know what the inner critic is. I don't really have to define that for you, but just very quickly, it's that voice. It's us speaking to ourselves and kind of running ourselves down. Critic means critical that it's kind of putting you in a place, you put yourself in a negative place because you're speaking negatively to yourself. Now you just have to go and Google in a critic and you will get so many great graphics to help you with this process to help you understand it and help you to reword the inner critic. There's not a shortage of advice out there, and when you read these great graphics and these little social media posts of this is what we sang to ourselves and this is what we should be saying to ourselves. I mean, it's such a ton of great advice on the issue is that when you read them and you just read them, they just become knowledge that goes in one year after year. It quite literally becomes a memory that is going to just denature or disappear, become heat energy within 2040 to 48 hours and you're not going to actually plant in your cell in yourself so you read the great post, you love the great information, but then you don't actually find yourself applying it. So we've got to spend the time really deconstructing and reconstructing how we're going to manage the inner voice, which is what the inner critic, which is what we're going to do, and we also have to recognize that what a lot of us do, and I've done this before until I don't do anymore because I've trained myself not to is but if you resist that inner voice. If you think others are so bad, I'm just gonna shove it down. And I'm just gonna push it out of my mind. I'm just gonna distract myself. But whatever you don't deal with, is actually when you shove it down and you shove it out of your consciousness, you're pushing it back into a non conscious mind, which is the most intelligent part of you with every experience that you've ever had is built into in the form of physical trees in your brain changes in your gene code in your cells and the gravitational field of your mind. So it's there. And you can shove it down as many times as you like. It's going to come back because it's kind of volcanic in nature. So until you deal with the in it, the inner critic, it's going to keep coming back and probably worse than before and more extensive than before. Whatever you resist will persist. So you need to rewire the networks and you need to get what you know to be true in alignment with what you actually doing. One of the main questions that people used to ask me in therapy and that they still ask me and then I've even asked myself is that I know what I should be saying to myself. But I'm not saying it. This is what I am saying. And these this huge gap between Casimir or huge big think of two sides of a huge big like a cousin. One side of the mountain and you're also on the other side. And this side is that inner critic and that side is the true you and your identity saying, no, that's not true but this chasm. So you know that's the truth, but you live in here, because this is more of your reality. So we want to bring that together and we want to get the inner critic changed into or listening to the truth, the wise mind. So the critic mind is part of a mess that I always talk about. And I always say it's okay to be Missy. So therefore it's okay to have this inner voice. This inner critic and not to be scared of it. It's basically just a, it's a type of intrusive sort. If you resist it, it will persist and get worse. But if you embrace it, if you start building that bridge between what you really know about yourself and what you actually saying about yourself, if you do that, you actually then go into manage it. You're gonna be able to deconstruct it. And that takes time. It's going to take you at least 9 weeks. At least 63 days of working at this deliberately and intentionally in a very sequential way. And that's where the neuro cycle comes in. That's what the neuropil is. It is the system for how we get these kinds of things under control. How we get these intrusive thoughts to enter today, we specifically talking about the inner critic in a speaking to ourselves, that specifically how we get that under control. So the neuropil is the system for how you can close that gap between the what you know to be true. So why is mind and the May seem like what you should be saying to yourself and what you know is a truth about yourself and what you actually saying to yourself. Is this something interfering with your happiness, always preventing you from achieving your goals? I know this happens to me, even though I work in the field of mental health, and I find it incredibly helpful to talk to someone I trust when I find myself in the stuck place. Indeed, one of the best things about our society today is that we can access professional help at the click of a button. If we need to talk to someone about what we are going through, we don't even have to leave the house. This is why I love and recommend better hope to everyone that asks me. They are an amazing company that can assess your needs and met you with your own licensed professional therapist, so that you can start communicating in under 48 hours. Better help is not a crisis line. It's not self help. It is professional counseling and securely online. It also have a broad range of expertise available, which may not be locally available in many areas, and the services are available for clients worldwide. Visit better help dot com forward slash doctor leaf that's better HELP and join the over 1 million people who have taken charge of their mental health with the help of an experienced professional. In fact so many people have been using better hope that they are recruiting additional counselors in all 50 states. 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A highlight from 2180: My Wish For You by Eric Teplitz on Meditative Practices & Practice of Metta & Mindfulness
"My wish for you by Eric tablets of Erik teplitz dot com. The following is my wish for you wherever and whenever you happen to be listening to this. May you be filled with loving kindness towards yourself and toward others, may be healthy, in body and mind. May live with ease as much and as often as possible. May you be and feel fully supported and deeply loved, valued, cherished and cared for. May be truly happy, peaceful, content, manful fulfilled. Loving kindness. The practice of meta or loving kindness is simple, but profound. It essentially consists of silently and heart fully wishing yourself and others well. It can be done as part of a formal sitting meditation practice, or it can be done as you move about it in the world in your everyday life. Formal practice Amy very powerful to take time out of your day, even a short amount and devoted to nothing but the cultivation of compassion toward yourself and others, or loving kindness. If your brand new to this practice or even if you're not, I highly recommend being guided through it. Probably the easiest and most inexpensive way to find a guide is to use an audio program, such as one by Jack cornfields, which I've recommended before and highly recommend once again. Guided meditation, 6 essential practices to cultivate love, awareness, and wisdom. The practice goes like this once you are in a calm and relaxed state after sitting still for a few moments and perhaps taking several deep breaths, you focus your attention on simple phrases that you repeat silently to yourself. May I be happy? May I be well? May I be peaceful? May I be free from suffering? Use whatever words resonate best with you. Feel free to experiment and change them up from time to time as you find useful or helpful. You can use some or all of the ones I wrote for you if you like or modify them in any way that suits you. It is typical to begin formal practice with yourself as the object of these wishes. This can be more difficult than it sounds, especially if you have a tendency to be hard on yourself. Stick with it as best you can. Things change from day to day. Some days the words might seem utterly hollow to you. Other days they might move you to tears. Whatever happens in whatever you feel or don't feel, it's okay. After he spends some time doing this, you move on to extending the same wishes to others. You think of someone who has been kind and nurturing to you in some way, and silently extend the same wishes to her or him. May you be happy. May you be well, may you be peaceful, may you be free from harm or suffering. You then move on to someone you care about, perhaps a significant other or close friend is silently repeat the mentioned phrases or your own variation of them, holding this person in your mind and your heart. You can repeat this with another friend and another if you want to. Perhaps you want to direct your loving kindness to someone you know is going through a particularly difficult time. Then try extending the same wishes to someone you know, but not very well, perhaps only as an acquaintance or perhaps someone you've only ever seen, but never actually spoken to. Then, eventually, he tried extending these wishes to a difficult person, someone who really gets on your nerves and pushes your buttons. Do the best you can. If this proves to be too much of a challenge, then redirect your loving kindness toward yourself since you are the one at the moment, having a difficult time. Then extend the same benevolent wishes to all of those people around you, say, in your neighborhood, community, or workplace. Keep branching out further and further to include more and more people known and unknown, and even beings other than people because it turns out there are many. And finally, extend loving kindness to all beings everywhere. The mention is just a guideline. You, of course, can alter this practice in any way you choose. Just know this. Hearing about doing this and actually doing it are two very, very different experiences. I encourage you to try it out for yourself, experiment with it. Starting your day with a practice like this, can set the tone for your day before you get caught up in the relentless pull of things to do. You can think of it as a means of calibrating or recalibrating your heart. Of centering yourself of setting a loving intention before you get distracted and then swept away by the activities of everyday life. Informal practice. During the course of your day as you pass a stranger on the street, for example, you can silently wish him well, may you be happy. May you be peaceful. Use whatever language or word choice feels right, and to whatever degree possible, make it not just lift service, but make it from your heart. You can practice this anywhere and at any time, it's easy to do. It just has to occur to you to do it. Why do this? Why do this at all? Isn't it pointless? What impact does it have? Is it anything other than quite literally wishful thinking? Isn't the road to hell paved with good intentions such as these? It is impossible for me to say with any degree of certainty whether or not silent wishes whomever or wherever they are directed and however well meaning, have any direct effect on the objects of these wishes. However, I will say this in a world in which we are bombarded with stories of violence, turmoil and suffering can really do any harm to which others well, even privately, imagine if everyone silently and sincerely wished each other well throughout the day as they passed one another in the halls on the streets or even in traffic. I'd like to live in a world like that. Even if wishing others well has no direct effect whatsoever on them, it certainly is bound to have an effect on us. At the very least it awakens us in that moment to the reality that all beings everywhere have this in common. We all want to be happy, and we all want to be free from suffering. As we go through our days, it's all too easy to lose sight of this as we get caught up in our own goals, needs and desires. Perhaps practicing loving kindness makes us treat others a bit more gently as a result. Perhaps it can be the difference that gets us to extend ourselves to someone else in a way we otherwise wouldn't have, out of the slightest bit of added concern for that person's well-being in recognition of the fact that she seeks exactly the same basic things that we do. Such a gesture is bound to have some ripple effects. And again, imagine if everyone did this, even just once in a while. How many heinous acts might be prevented if someone took the time to show a potential perpetrator that he was loved and valued, for instance, that someone cared about him. If practicing loving kindness prevented one such tragedy, think of all the needless suffering that would be avoided. While the practice of meta stems from the Buddhist tradition it can be done by any person from any religious tradition, or from none at all, is a way to feel more connected to yourself and to others around you. To be a bit more sensitive to your own suffering in the suffering of others. To open up your heart and access the kindness and love within it. To become a happier person. May you be filled with loving kindness towards yourself, and toward others. May you be healthy, in body and mind. May you live with ease as much and as often as possible. May you be and feel fully supported and deeply loved, valued, cherished, and cared for. May you be truly
A highlight from 400: Jameela Jamil on Mental Self-Defense
"That. Feels like we started this thing just yesterday. Anyway, thanks for supporting the show, and thanks to all the incredible people who have worked so hard on this show. This episode number 400 is a doozy. Let me just step back for a second before I tell you about our guest. As everybody knows, the holidays are here and as everybody I believe knows this season can bring up a whole cornucopia of complex psychological issues. One of the biggies, here is food and how we feel about our bodies. Many of us can get super obsessive about food and body issues at any time, but especially so during the holidays. Pretty much every woman I know will relate to this immediately, but a quick note to my male listeners. Dude, you might think you're immune to this stuff, and maybe you are, if so, God bless. But I urge you to look closely at the noise inside your dome. How much time do you spend perseverating about what you eat? How much you eat and how you look as compared to your friendly neighborhood Instagram influencer. Is it possible that turning down the volume on food slash body preoccupation, self assessment and self criticism would make you happier and healthier and free up limited bandwidth to focus on something that is perhaps more constructive? We're launching a two part series today, which we are calling the anti diet series on Wednesday. We're going to be talking to an expert in something called intuitive eating, which has had a huge impact on me. Today though, our guest is Jameela Jamil and actor and activist who you may have seen on such shows as the good place, the misery index and legendary. As you're about to hear she has opinions, strong opinions, which she will express with a lot of conviction and humor and profanity. Outside of her acting, jameela is known for launching a movement and a platform called eye Wei. That's W ei, GH way, not W ay way. So I weigh is the name of her organization. And she's also the host of the I weigh podcast, where she talks to everybody from Reese Witherspoon to Vivek Murthy, the U.S. Surgeon General to Gloria Steinem. In today's conversation, jameela and I talk about her struggles with weight, fatphobia, and eating disorders since childhood. We talk about how to develop what she calls mental self defense and how to be ruthless and you'll hear she is ruthless when it comes to personal boundaries. We also talk about the difference between body positivity and body neutrality, how she handles the scrutiny and toxicity of social media and how men can play a positive role in a world with profound double standards when it comes to looks. Before we dive in just a quick content warning in this interview we touch on the topics of suicide eating disorders and sexuality, so just a heads up on that. Also, as I said, there's a lot of cursing. We bleep all of it, but never have we had to use so many bleeps. It's pretty hilarious, actually. And while the content is serious, this wearing is pretty hilarious. Anyway, we've made it child proof in case you've got a kid in the car or nearby, whatever. One of the things to say before we dive in, this is an item of business, in conjunction with the anti diet series right here on the podcast, we are launching an anti diet challenge over on the 10% happier app. In the challenge we're going to give you an introduction to intuitive eating, which I mentioned earlier. By way of background here, my own relationship with food and body image, which, well, luckily has not been dangerously bad, in any way, has often been, you know, more than a little bit fraught. For years, I would watch my diet like a hawk, counting my macros, pushing myself at the gym, only to get to the end of a long day and hoes an entire sleeve of Oreos. A lot of this was driven by the fact that I'm on TV, but I think it's very common among all humans and more common than it is commonly admitted among men. As I got older and my body started to change, I also developed a whole host of subtle, but pretty pernicious mental habits that would crop up every time I passed a reflective surface. What finally broke me out of this vicious cycle with something I first learned right here on the show. Intuitive eating. It's an evidence based approach to food that flies in the face of every diet I've ever heard of. That's why we've been calling it the anti diet. In the 7 day anti diet challenge over on the app, we're gonna help you build a better relationship with food, better relationship with your body. This approach, as I've said, is backed by science and in classic TPH fashion. It is supercharged by meditation. In the anti diet challenge, we're going to be working with a phenomenal anti diet registered dietitian and nutritionist by the name of Christy Harrison. She's actually our guest on the podcast on Wednesday. She and I will talk through the principles of intuitive eating in short videos. And then when the video is done, it will roll directly into a guided audio
A highlight from Success With No Will Power Required
"It's Monday. Here we go again. This kind of a different Monday because we're all coming out of a holiday week and if you didn't have a holiday week then everybody else did. So it affected you anyway, right? So now we're back to no we're not like the normal January, but we'll try. So today, I want to jump in a little bit to this little thing I like to talk about. About willpower, your best buddy. And how to really use willpower to get what you want, 'cause most people use willpower and they get what they want for like 48 hours. And then it goes away. We want to change that. We'll do that today, okay? Pretty easy to do. It is a daily boost from motivation to move dot com. Right there, we're just right at right at 50 million downloads totally completely your fault. I blame you for 50 million downloads. And I totally blame you. It's your fault somebody asked me Scott why do you have so many downloads for this crazy little podcast you have called the daily booth? I said, it's their fault, blame them, and that's you. So thank you for that. I appreciate it. My name is Scott Smith, found our chief motivating officer here at motivation to move dot com. Welcome to my unconventional world like I like to say, very common name. Scotch Smith. Very common logic, I think. In a different way. So hang over the ride because you're going to have some fun today because it's that time of the year when we get to have fun, which is pretty much every time the year for me. And so you get to come along for the ride today, if that's very cool for you. We'll do that. Did you know that like our bodies? Our minds and our cultures have an immune system, and it can break down into certain conditions. What are my favorite podcasts and the sponsor today's show is the Jordan harbinger show. Now he decodes the stories the secrets and the skills of the world's most fascinating people with in depth conversations with the people at the top of their game. You can get it wherever you get your podcasts. Go look for it. If you've been wondering, what the heck is going on with all these crazy people these days? What are they thinking? Because a world bonkers? You're not alone. A lot of folks take that way. So I want you to start with episode 5 90 and Andy Norman, the search for a better way to think, so you can learn to inoculate your mind. It was a fascinating show, you need to listen to it. Get you thinking. We just a point of Jordan show. Search for it. Listen to it and follow the Jordan harbinger show, wherever you get your podcast. Or 15 seasons of Mondays, I've asked have you done your homework? Let's do it fast and easy today. Sit yourself down, ask yourself this question. How's my life going? Is it going good? It's going bad. Depending on which one you answer, if it's going good, how do I keep it going good? If it's going bad, how do I ditch that stuff and move on? Kind of it, okay? If you will do that, take it up a minute and do it. Make a couple of notes. Suddenly the magic happens. Now you're aware of it. Your subconscious mind is going, okay, cool. I get it. I didn't like it either. I really like that stuff better and it starts to happen. To your homework, if you don't do your homework if you don't pay attention to yourself, at least a little bit. Everybody else is paying attention to you for you and though therefore you're doing what everybody else wants you to do. Not good. Nothing in my book done your book not gonna happen anymore. It ends today. Do your homework. I said so. So success with no willpower required is the title of today's very cool podcast. I'll show you as a willpower wait a second. Wait a second. Wait, it's not required. Cool, I can do it. Things not to be required these days. Why do I have to do it that way? Sometimes that happens. So have you ever asked yourself the question when will I get myself to do what I say I want to do? I've asked a question myself and I look at you a lot because I talk to you a lot. On the phone all week long talking to people from all over the world. This week, China, and I think Bangladesh. Crazy. You're the boss of you. In the boss of me, this is what I want to do when I can do it. I can do anything. You're made to do anything. And I know I can do it because I've done it before, and I want to do it. I'm the best way. This is what I'm going to and then you don't do it. What to actually going on? You're human, but I probably have seen my dog decide what they want to do something they don't do it. I don't want to go outside. And they change your mind, they don't go out the door. Is that the same thing? That's another podcast. More people who sleep over there than a silly question. If you have lost sleep over, why won't I do what I want to do and get what I want? And you're not alone. Almost everybody begins a journey with that thought. A thought pops into their mind. Here's what I want to do. Then data to life keeps you busy. Then you get frustrated. You go to what we call fixing to get ready mode. If you don't know that years ago, I was on the radio here in Orlando. I was a top 40 DJ. Doing a night show and a lady called up on the phone. It was a request show. And I said, what you doing? And she said fixing to get ready. What's fixing to get ready may I ask? He said, well, we're going to go out tonight, and I got to get ready to go out. I'm not quite ready. So I'm getting ready to so these days we've turned that into what are you going to do with your life? You're probably sitting around fixing to get ready. Meaning you've got something you want to do, you're going to go do it, but right now you've got to get ready to go do it. You're not quite there yet. Stop fixing to get ready. Come on. You know, you're starting to prepare so you can begin to do, so you can do what you say you want to do and say you did it. Just do it. So I thought this will work you some of your friend willpower. That's where we're getting the show now. Willpower comes in. I'm not sure that's will's theme song. But he's got one. So will is that a person? Although I actually know a person named willpower, I do. He's pretty pushy. I'm serious. I know a dude named willpower. He used to push you through. I don't like, I don't like him. I don't like pushy. All willpower is pushy. They are. It's kind of fun. You don't want to stick around. You know why? Because I show up in your life and they push you around until you get what you want and make you do it and then they go away and you're like, I don't wanna do it anymore. Well, if I was a slacker man, we'll power lives rent free in your mind. They say they want to help they don't. They just want to push you into something. They deliver on their promise. They push you into it. Will's job description should read to force you to do the things you want to do what you want or can't get yourself to do yourself. Will stick around a little bit, keep pushing, but he'll push you so hard you'll get up, you don't like to be pushed to you. So you're like, he pushes you and then he leaves. And you're like, okay, now what? What do I do? I push myself a little sort of my diet on Monday. It's Thursday. Stop it. Why? Because there's pizza on Friday Those things, you push yourself through. How many things in your life have you dreamed of doing him you've gone after doing have you started with you stumbled? How many times have you done that? That's okay, it's humid has started human to stumble also human to succeed. You know that because you look around you can see all other people out there that are succeeding, but I can tell you every single human on the planet is not only starting their stumbling and the ones who have succeeded, are succeeding. Willpower had nothing to do with it. There's no need to force yourself into doing anything. Not really. You might have to talk yourself into it. You might have to. Wash your brain as a client. I thought I like that. She's Italian. It's got I have to wash my brain. I have to wash my brain. That's like cool. Achieving your biggest goals in life has nothing to do with willpower. Instead what we do is we shift our mindset just a little bit different. And well, let's go to the dictionary for a second, okay? To act at your discretion, without constraint. You get to choose your discretion. That's what it means, right? And there's no nobody can hold you back. You can just get what you want.
A highlight from Amy Herman
"Hey, Friends, what's going on? Welcome to the ASTRO hustle. I am coy Allen. You are you, and here we are, together again, hope that you're doing well that you're feeling good today. I have a really fascinating podcast here today. My guest is Amy Herman. Amy is an art historian, and she also developed a project called the art of perception. So basically she uses the analysis of works of art to improve people's perception and sharpen their observation and communication skills. It's a really fascinating, fun and effective technique and she has a new book. We talk about that called fixed, how to perfect the fine art of problem solving. So we get into all of this and more in this episode and I know you're gonna dig. Friends, I'm trying out a new app called wisdom, which I think if there was any name, for an app that would be one that I would want to be a part of. And what I'm doing over there is basically a place in app or we can connect, we can hang out, we can talk together, I can take your questions, and I am looking forward to doing so. So if you go over and grab the wisdom app
A highlight from 2179: You're An Expression of Greatness AND Stepping Into The Arena by Adi Redzic on Personal Growth Mindset
"To you from blogs or articles that I think can help you optimize your life, two articles today, actually, both from Audi, so with that, let's get right to them as we optimize your life. You're an expression of greatness by audit reddic of Audie red Zika. I've been silent for a few weeks because I've been grieving, a very dear friend of mine died by suicide at the end of August, only a week after his 60th birthday. As you can imagine, it came as a shock. None of us knows when the end will come or how. He was a sweet, kind and loving human being. He was also incredibly successful as a businessman and a community leader, generous, creative, and bold, and blood by many, including his partner of nearly 40 years. But the external success didn't translate into inner peace. They never does. While there is a world to conquer outside of us, there's also a universe within. Only when the inner universe has come together while the outside world do the same. My reaction to this loss was to get angry to shut down. At the natural response. Outside a lot of questions, mainly, why? How come I haven't done more to help him? All this was especially jarring because only two and a half months earlier wrote about suicide. I also talked to him about it. We had both been there. He thanked me for being courageous and talking about my own experience with suicidal thoughts. Not in a million years, I think he could ever be next. Why? Depression as he shared in the last letter he wrote to his partner is like a dinosaur sitting on your heart. Sometimes you see no way out, he said. While I believe there is always a way out and I hope you do, too, and we'll seek out help should you ever need it and keep seeking it out until it arrives. Also came to accept that my friend's life had to end this way. During his funeral service, I came to understand that he had emptied himself of all possibility. He had nothing else left to give, and it was time to go. His life and death have left much wisdom, so I wanted to share a few drops of it with you. The most important task in life is to work on yourself. If you're suffering, don't ignore it. If your numb, don't ignore it. If something isn't right, don't ignore it. There's no shame in imperfection or in suffering. Indeed, our purpose on this earth is to advance, grow and perfect ourselves. As for help, and don't stop asking until it arrives. Sometimes it takes time before an answer appears, but it will appear. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Even if healing takes years, it's worth it. Be patient with yourself and with life. All will reveal itself in good time. Love is always and forever, the best answer. Tell people whom you love that you do so and mean it. One of the ways his premature departure was made easier for me is because I told him only weeks before, how much he meant to me. Live authentically and joyfully. One third of people will love us no matter what. One third will hate us no matter what. One third will be indifferent. That first third is what matters. Acceptance is how we find peace. While we all wish things were different, we were different, the cards were dealt differently to E suffering. We have little choice but to accept what is before us. They may hurt, and that is okay. Time heals all sadness, especially in times like these, when we know that those were no longer with us, are smiling from among the stars. Never forget that whether you believe in God, energy, universe or whatever, you came here for a reason. You are an expression of greatness and regardless of your circumstances, never forget that you're worthy and deserving of endless, unconditional and everlasting love. Demand it. Stepping into the arena by Adi resich of Audi red Zika it was September 2014 had just moved into my new place when a package arrived, my heart began racing. That's it. It's here. The moment I held a copy of my first book own it was incredibly moving. Had a tear jerking effect. Who am I kidding? I was stunned. I did this. My face is on the cover of this book, a childhood dream realized. Whenever we truly pour our heart and soul into something, whether it's a business venture, a transformative cause, a book, or another expressive endeavor, we put ourselves out there. We feel raw, vulnerable. I feel like standing on thin ice. Is the ice going to break? Are we going to fall in? What will others think of us? Are we going to succeed? What is success anyway? I was a different person then. But the book is still a great read. I'm not sure how I always figured that it might not age well. I guess it did. I'm very proud of it, perhaps even more so today than four years ago. I've got to appreciate its value both the content and the writing. I've recognized the amount of courage, struggle and work and music and wine that went into creating that little handbook of life, and looking back, I realized that doing it is what success is all about. Success in life is showing up, stepping into the arena end daring greatly. Even if we lose, even if we fail, yes, even when we fail. I have no way of really controlling whether someone buys a copy of my book or even more so whether they read it, review it, or tell others about it. But I have every control over writing it. That I can do. The same with other things in life, it is in our power to build a business, fight for a cause, love someone endlessly move to a different place, pursue music lessons, build a house, paint a picture, whether a desired version of success is reflected back at us or not, well, what does that have to do with us? The success is to be found in not letting fears stop us. Yes, we will get hurt. Yes, we will fail. Yes, we will struggle. But what is worse, spending life on the sidelines or going into the arena and giving it a try and doing it over and over and over again. If I am honest with you and myself, I was terrified to put that book out there in 2014. 150 wonderful people in Pennsylvania paid to come listen to me and buy copies. Also nervous at that launch that I couldn't tie my tie properly. Nothing to save the fact that the copies that arrived for sale had a mistake on the cover, and I couldn't do anything about it either. But guess what? It happened. The dream was realized. The book still sells. And I went into the arena. What's the success? The product, people's responses, or that I showed up and did it. Hope you can think about this idea of showing up in your own life. You just listen to the posts titled urine expression of grayness, and stepping into the arena, both by Audi of Audi dot com. If you live or work near friendship heights in D.C., you have a new way to well, right around the corner. 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A highlight from 2178: 4-Step Action Plan to Strengthen Your Personal Skills by Brian Tracy on Self-Development Techniques
"This is optimal living daily episode 21 78, four step action plan to strengthen your personal skills by Brian Tracy of Brian Tracy dot com, and I'm just a molecule very own personal narrator, and I'm going to keep on narrating for you now as we optimize your life. Four step action plan to strengthen your personal skills by Brian Tracy of Brian Tracy dot com. Only by discovering your innate personal skills and developing and exploiting them to their highest degree, can you utilize yourself to get the greatest amount of satisfaction and enjoyment from everything you do? Creating an action plan through personal strategic planning can give you the highest rewards for your efforts and is the starting point in getting the best out of yourself. Corporate versus personal strategic planning. When we do strategic planning for corporations, we begin with the premise that the whole purpose of the exercise is to reorganize and reallocate people and resources to increase the rate of return on equity or capital invested in the business. Invariably this is done by emphasizing some areas and deemphasizing others by allocating more resources to areas with higher potential return, and by taking resources away from those areas that represent lower potential returns. By developing or promoting newer and better products and services and by discontinuing those products and services that are less profitable, the company and all the people in it can channel their resources to maximize their returns. In doing personal strategic planning, the first thing you want to think about is increasing your personal return on energy rather than return on equity. You need to realize that the most essential and valuable thing that you have to bring to your life and to your work is your ability to think to act and to get results. Your earning ability which is a function of your education, knowledge, experience, and talents is your human capital, or your equity. And the way you develop your personal skills and use your earning ability will largely determine the quality and quantity of your rewards both material and psychological, both tangible and intangible. Action plans step one clarify your values. This first part of personal strategic planning is called values clarification. You ask yourself, what values and virtues do I most admire and wish to practice in my life? If you wanted to discover your strengths and personal skills in the work world, first, you would define your values as they apply to employment. The values at companies settle upon would be similar to the values that you organize your work life around. Often both companies and individuals will choose values such as integrity, quality, respect for others, service, profitability, innovation, entrepreneurship, market leadership, and so on. In a similar vein, you could use those values to define your position with regard to your work. And your personal strategic planning, you could decide to plan your work life around the values of quality, excellence, service, profitability, and innovation. There are dozens of values that you can pick from, but whichever you choose, and the order of priority you place on your choices, will determine your approach to your work. Action plan step two, create your personal mission statement. Your next step is to create your personal mission statement. This is a clear, written description of the person you intend to be in your work life. I have often found that this is even more important than setting specific financial or business or sales goals. Once you've decided how much you want to earn, you need to write out a personal mission statement that describes the kind of person you intend to become in order to earn that amount of money. Remember, your goal is to identify your personal skills and strengths so that you can deploy yourself in such a way as to increase your personal return on energy. In personal strategic planning, one of the best mental techniques that you can use to develop your personal skills is to see yourself as a bundle of resources that can be applied in a variety of directions to achieve a variety of objectives. As a bundle of resources, the amount of time and energy that you have is limited. Therefore, your time and energy must be put to their highest and best use. Stand back and imagine that you're looking at yourself objectively as if through the eyes of another person and you're thinking about how you could apply yourself to bring about the best results. See yourself as your own employer or boss. What could you do to maximize the output of which you're capable, and where could you do it? Action plan step three, perform an audit to strengthen personal skills. Once you have to find your values and written out your mission statement, the next step of personal strategic planning is to do what is called a situational analysis. Sometimes we call it a performance audit. This is the process of analyzing yourself thoroughly before you begin setting specific goals and planning certain activities. You begin your performance audit by asking yourself some key questions. One of those questions should be what are my marketable skills? Think about it. What can you do for which someone else will pay you? What can you do particularly well? What can you do better than others? What have you done particularly well in the past? A wage or a salary is merely an amount of money that is paid to purchase a certain quality and quantity of labor or output. The results that you're able to get by applying your personal skills and strengths largely determine your rewards in life. If you wish to increase the quality and quantity of your rewards, you have to increase your ability to achieve more and better results. It's very simple. And action plan step four, determine your area of excellence. Finally, in personal strategic planning, the aim is always to achieve leadership in your chosen market and niche. Business leaders have the authority to determine the areas of excellence in their business. Analogously, on a personal level, you can choose the thing at which you're going to become absolutely excellent and achieve extraordinary results. So in what areas are you going to work to achieve results that are far beyond what the average person could be expected to accomplish? You were put on this earth with a special combination of talents, abilities, man personal skills that make you different from anyone who has ever lived. Whatever you're doing today is nowhere near what you're really capable of doing. The key to a happy and prosperous life is for you to regularly evaluate your strengths and weaknesses to become very good in the areas
A highlight from 451: Mark Manson on Important Lessons in Life
"In case you're just recently joining us or however long you've been a listener of the show. You may not realize that we have over 7 years of incredible episodes in our archive. We've had so many wonderful guests that we've decided to handpick one of our favorites that may be new to you. But if not, it definitely is worth another lesson. We hope you'll enjoy this episode with Mark Manson. It's far more pleasurable to sit on the couch and eat Cheetos and watch Baywatch reruns. But running a marathon, it brings far more happiness and fulfillment. Welcome to the one you feed. Throughout time great thinkers have recognized the importance of the thoughts we have, quotes like garbage in, garbage out or you are what you think, ring true. And yet, for many of us our thoughts don't strengthen or empower us. We tend toward negativity, self pity, jealousy, or fear. We see what we don't have instead of what we do, we think things that hold us back and dampen our spirit. But it's not just about thinking. Our actions matter. It takes conscious, consistent and creative effort to make a life worth living. This podcast is about how other people keep themselves moving in the right direction, how they feed their good wolf. Come from away, Broadway's Tony winning feel good again, musical is welcoming audiences back into the heart of the remarkable true story. In the middle of nowhere, one small town showed the world that the kindness of strangers could bring us closer. Come back together at come from away. Thanks for joining us. Our guest on this episode is Mark Manson, author and personal development consultant. His writing is a different take on the self help genre. He calls it self help from a first person perspective. Mark has been published and quoted by CNN, Huffington Post, Business Insider, Yahoo. News, the Sydney morning Herald in a variety of other publications. He is also the CEO and founder of infinity squared media LLC. Hi Mark, welcome to the show. Hey Eric, thanks for having me. I'm really excited to have this conversation with you. Your writing is really a combination of a it ties very closely to a lot of the things I think about. I align with it, philosophically. I think it's very well done and it's usually pretty funny and that is a great combination when all those three can come together for me. So I'm looking forward to this. But we'll start like we always do with a parable. There's a grandfather who's talking to this grandson, he says, in life, there are two wolves inside of us that are always at battle. One is a good wolf, which represents things like kindness and bravery and love. which represents things like greed and hatred and fear. And the grandson stops and he thinks about it for a second. And he looks up at his grandfather and he says, well, grandfather, which one wins, and the grandfather says the one you feed. So I'd like to start off by asking you what that parable means to you in your life and in the work that you do. Well, in the work that I do, I write a lot about these kinds of subjects. So I kind of automatically interpreted. I've heard the parable before, but it's probably been ten or 12 years since I've heard it. But hearing it now, I immediately interpreted through the lens of a lot of the way I frame things and talk about things in my own articles. Basically, for me, what it always comes back to is we are always choosing what to find important. And I think everybody realizes to a certain extent that everybody makes choices around what they find important, but I don't think everybody realizes that they actually choose what they find important. And the parable brings that up for me that it's a very subtle and level of awareness that I think is very, very important for people to get to or at least it was very important for me to get to personally. And that being taking the time to really consider what you think is important, not just focusing on orienting around what you sort of think is important, but taking time to make sure that that what really is important to me question is answered right. Exactly. So for instance, in my own life, there were times where I would dedicate years of time and energy and effort towards pursuing some goal, let's say building a business and making a lot of money or being really popular and well accepted among my peers.
A highlight from Kickstart Your New Dream
"How do you start a dream that scares you? I get this question all the time. People say Brandon, you know, I know you started your books and you left corporate America and you've been through a lot and you've built all these different brands and these different web properties and these different things. How did you do it all? Weren't you scared? And I say, yeah, I was scared, but that didn't stop me. And I know how hard it can be though. If you've got a big dream and you're just trying to figure out, how do I start it? Especially when it scares me. It scares me because I don't know how it'll turn out. It might compromise my position at work. It might freak out my spouse, my wife, my kids might not understand it. Any time you go to change something, it's scary and starting a dream is ultimately change. Starting anything is change. So it's first and foremost to realize you're just responding to starting a dream, the same way you respond to almost any change, right? People say, well, I must not believe my dream enough. No, you probably just are scared of change in general. Once you master change, then anything starting a dream or starting any new thing, period gets a little easier. So let's talk about what the real hard matter is. It's dealing with change. In starting a dream is learning how to deal with change. And so let's talk through how can you do it in a way that supports you, but it gets you going. First and foremost, primary thing you have to do is be honest. Why haven't you started the dream? If you got the dream and you haven't started, why haven't you started? Well, it's convenient to say, well, because I'm scared. And most people are lying to themselves. They're not scared. They're just, they're uncertain. They don't feel capable. They're not really scared. It's not fear. It's very popular to say, well, people are just fearful. And the reality is they're not. Often, they're uncertain, often they're worried, often what's really driving them is that they don't have competencies or capabilities in that area. And if they did, they would do great. Sure we can say, well, they're scared they're gonna fail. But most people, I think, as adults, they can more conscious. They just get in a rhythm of how much action they're willing to take during the day or not. And so more often it's lack of discipline and sustained motivation is an issue more than it is fear. They don't want enough, they don't hunger for it enough, and they don't orient their days to go get it. And that's the honest truth. The honest truth is not fear is putting them on the couch and they're curled up in a ball and terrified. They're gonna fail. No one's gonna love them. No, they wanted it. They'd never stayed focused on it. If they don't focus on it consistently, they'll never start the dream. See, it has to be something that you obsess about a little bit. You pay attention to a lot. You start willing yourself and working yourself each day to move towards. That's how you start. It doesn't have to come with, look, I don't even care if you deal with your past stuff or your past issues. At the beginning of starting a dream, I just need you to go, okay, let's get in the game here. Let's start. Let's do something. Let's take some action. So after you're honest with yourself, and honest with yourself, also requires you if you're like, well Brennan, I'm very strong. I'm not one of these weak willed people who are driven by fury, you don't understand, Brett and I pile up for freshness. If you are a perfectionist, you're also not being honest with yourself. If you have not started the dream and you're saying it's because of perfectionism, you're lying. Please watch my YouTube video on perfectionism. If you were actually a perfectionist at least you would be accurate and every perfectionist by accurate definition would understand perfectionism to perfect something can only happen after you've completed and released something. After you've already done it, perfection comes after you've done it. Now you start perfecting it and getting better at it and zooming it in and dialing it in. It only comes after you've done it. So if you haven't done it, if you haven't started, don't fool yourself and tell yourself you're a perfectionist. What you are is scared, what you are is uncertain. What you are is incapable so far, you don't have the competency, the confidence, the will, the attention, the energy, whatever it is for you. And by the way, I'm not here to tell you what your issue is. I'm just here saying, be honest. Discover what it is. Is it really fair? Is it lack of hunger, motivation, focus, attention, energy, health? What has it been that is delayed you from starting that? Be honest. Once you're honest with yourself, you take back the power of your life. You start to activate your personal power, get now, we can start moving on. Hey, it's Brandon jumping back in here again. Are you looking to go the next level in your life right now? The next level of joy, abundance, success, then you already know that you need to journal about your lessons learned in your life, you gotta track your moods and your habits. You have to learn from the best personal development coaches and teachers in the world, and you got to stay inspired and accountable so that you can be more focused, disciplined, joyous, and keep growing. That's what the growth day app is gonna help you to do, my friend. It's the world's first all in one personal development app. It has all of the tools you need. All the coaching and the community that you need to level up to progress every week to track your breakthroughs and to keep growing in every area of your life consistently over the long term. So go start your transformation right now at growth day dot com or just download the growth the app on your phone right now. Every day, you can keep improving. Every day, we are here for you and every day is truly a great day to grow together. So let's make self improvement a way of life. Let's make that self improvement stick. Go to growth day dot com right now.
A highlight from 3 steps to getting what you want in a negotiation | Ruchi Sinha
"It's TED Talk daily. I'm Elyse Hugh. Negotiations. Ugh. They stress me out. But they don't have to be contentious, says organizational psychologist ruchi Sinha. In her talk from our video series the way we work, she reminds us that we negotiate regularly in our daily lives, and she offers some great tips for the next time we go into a negotiation at work. Support for PRX comes from WGL energy's public sector department, providing natural gas, electricity, and renewable energy solutions for cities state and federal agencies. Meet your agency sustainability mission at WGL energy dot com slash public sector. Now what's next, a podcast from Morgan Stanley helps make sense of life during and after the pandemic. With nearly two decades of experience reporting on culture and the economy, hosts inari glinton meets people who are looking for solutions to the cracks exposed by the pandemic. From how we care for our children and the elderly to what we do with shopping malls, these are stories of everyday people trying to figure things out and where they're finding hope. Search for now what's next wherever you listen to podcasts. When we think about negotiations, we think about being tough, we're charging like it's a battle. Brandishing our influence and our power moves. But a negotiation doesn't have to be a fight. And loses. Think of it more like a dance. Two or more people moving fluidly in sync. We constantly negotiated with. We negotiate for higher pay, promotions, vacations, and even greater autonomy. In fact, every day, we negotiate just to get our job done. And to secure resources for ourselves and our teams. And yet, when we go in with the wrong mindset with our fists up ready to fight, we aren't as successful. You know why? Because negotiation is not about dominating. It's about crafting a relationship and relationships thrive. When we find ways to give and to take and move together in unison, and to do that, you have to be well prepared. First, do your research. Figure out whether what you're asking for is realistic. What is your aspiration? What do you want? And what will make you walk away from the table? This might seem obvious, but too many people don't think it through. Let's say you negotiating for a salary in a new job. Some people, they determine their ask based on their past salary. That isn't a good yard stick. You may end up asking for too much or too little. Instead, find out the range of what is possible. Look at industry reports, websites. Talk to people in your professional network to find out the lowest average and the highest salary for a similar role and then make your ass closer to that upper limit. Build a solid rationale for why you are above average and thus deserving of that ask. Let's say you're negotiating for something less black and white, like the ability to work from home to care for an aging parent, you need to study your company's policies on remote work. Ask yourself when and why were these policies developed in the first place? Doctor trusted mentors. To understand how working from home might affect issues that aren't on your radar and think about how changing to working from home might actually affect others in your team. In fact, make a table, summarizing the parts of your job that can be done remotely, and the parts that require face to face interaction. This may sound like a lot to do, but when the person you negotiating with sees that you've done all this homework, you're more likely to get that yes. It also helps you avoid being lied to, while building the person's respect. Second, prepare mentally for the negotiation. Asking for things can get emotional. They're real and complex feeling at play. Fear, anxiety, anger, even hurt. It's essential to have strategies in place to manage those feelings. One strategy is to adopt a mindset of defensive pessimism. That just means that you accept obstacles and failures are likely in a negotiation. So it's better to put your energy in imagining the ways to overcome those obstacles. That way, you're ready to respond when you face it. Another strategy is emotional distancing. That is the idea of being less attached to any specific outcome. I know it's easier said than done. We all feel emotions like anger and hurt. When a core identities are being threatened. When your manager may be challenging a truth that you hold dear about yourself, like you're a hard worker and you deserve this. Try and avoid thinking of negotiations as the ultimate test of your worth. Go in knowing that your requests might be met that it might be denied. And that none of this is a measure of your wealth. Also know that if you feel yourself getting upset, hurt during a negotiation, it's okay to step back. You can leave the dance floor and move up to the balcony. Just say, let me think about this a little more. Could we press balls and continue this tomorrow? The third and the final way you can prepare for negotiations is by putting yourself in the other person's shoes, taking the time to anticipate the other's needs and challenges. What pressures May they be under? What risks would they be taking? Do they even have the power to give you what you're asking for? What ripple effects might yes mean. When you make that request, look to balance assertiveness about your own needs with a concern for the other. As you lay out your case, use phrases like I'm asking for this because I know it's good for my team that I want to achieve X and Y goals and I know this is what will enable it. Arguments like that show that you are ambitious, you know what you want, but you're also care for others. So many of our negotiation missteps, they don't actually come from disagreements, but misunderstanding the other person. So it's important to listen well. To ask why? And why not? And you will surely find unexpected opportunities for win win solutions.
A highlight from 2177: Overcoming Procrastination With The Habit Rule Of Half by Amy Ongaro of Break The Twitch on Productivity
"We've all spent more time with family lately. It can feel like old times. But your mind is on the future, too. And what you can do to shape it. At sandy spring bank, we work with clients to help them grow and protect their money, with wealth management, trust services, and insurance, so they can enjoy today and ultimately pass along their wealth. We believe real banking is a conversation. Let's talk about your dreams. Visit sandy spring bank dot com slash wealth. Wealth and insurance products are not FDIC insured not guaranteed and may lose value. This is optimal living daily episode 21 77, overcoming procrastination with a habit rule of half by Amy young garrow of break the Twitch dot com, and I'm just a molek. Welcome to optimal living daily OLD or old for short, the show where I read to you from articles that I think are amazing with permission from the authors. Today's author might sound a little different. That's because 99% of the articles written on break the Twitch are from Anthony Angelo, but this one is from his wife Amy, a special treat, so that let's get right to the post as we optimize your life. Overcoming procrastination with a habit rule of half by Amy anger of break the Twitch dot com. Writing things down on a to do list is what many of us do, myself included. Not only do lists help me remember what tasks or projects I need to tackle, but they also keep me accountable. Having a way to keep track of things helps me to prioritize and stay organized and productive. But you know that one thing on your list that sits for days without getting done is the one thing that moves from one day's list to the next days and the next day, if experienced this, too, you're not alone. A couple of years back, Anthony came up with a procrastination hack, called the habit rule of half. The simple rule has helped us to overcome procrastination and get those hanging tasks done. Why we can't finish our to do lists. Some tasks are straightforward and easy. We simply complete the task and move on. Others aren't like that. Resistance is what we feel when we encounter certain tasks on the to do list. Perhaps we're not entirely sure how to go about the task and the lack of clarity adds to the resistance. Maybe it's the fear of failure of judgment or of making a mistake. We end up procrastinating and avoiding those things we can't bring ourselves to get started on. If there's any aspirational clutter in the mix, the combination makes it even worse. We feel torn between all the things we want to do, and all the things that we need to get done. When we feel the resulting internal tension, there's an impact on our ability to focus and get started. It's common to experience angst when the tasks remain uncompleted and no progress is made, which increases the pressure we feel. The greater the pressure, the greater resistance we often feel. This increased resistance leaves us feeling worse and gets in the way of completing the task, finishing the project, or reaching the goal. Applying the habit rule of half. Antony was determined to find a solution a procrastination hack that could help. At the time we were working hard to build new habits and make progress on the things that were important to us. He created a simple rule called a habit rule of half that's worked well for us over the years. Here's how it works. If a task is left uncompleted at the end of the day, cut it in half and add it to the next day's list. If it doesn't get done by the end of that day, cut it in half again and add it to the next day's list. Keep doing this until the task becomes small enough to tackle. You can apply the habit rule of half to whatever it is you keep on postponing or pushing off. Household projects work assignments, taxes, budgeting, or researching something, writing a blog post or making a YouTube video. Even things like walking, exercising, jogging or bicycling. For example, you have a goal to jog four miles, but you haven't managed to break out your sneakers. In this case, you cut this in half and write jog two miles on the next day's to do list. If you still don't do it, write down jog one mile for the following day. Keep cutting the distance over the time or the amount until you make it out the door. Keep on cutting it in half until it gets to a small, bite sized chunk that seems easy to do. A more compassionate approach. While the habit rule of half is a simple concept, it's often much harder in practice. The concept goes against what our inner critic usually thinks would be the best way forward. We think, well, I'm now behind, so I need to do more to make it up. So we put more pressure on or add more to the task in an effort to catch up. This may work for some people, but from my experience, this leads to less motivation and greater stress and resistance over time. Adding more pressure was how I motivated myself for two decades and it worked at best okay until it no longer did. Eventually I burned out. We could also end up getting more overwhelmed or find ways to avoid or make excuses for the things we need to do altogether. They're usually reasons why we don't do the things we want or need to do. As humans, our natural state is to want to do things to make progress and to contribute. So for struggling with something, it's not that we're lazy or that we're not good enough, there are usually underlying reasons of fear, insecurity or self sabotage happening under the surface, at least that's what Anthony and I have found. The habit rule of half can be a more compassionate approach to making progress on the things we feel resistant towards. If a to do list item isn't getting done day after day, it doesn't matter how many times you put it on the list. Any small amount of progress is better than the to do item dragging on on a dress. In a way, you're practicing compassion for your tomorrow self by cutting the to do item in half and seeing how it goes the next day. The hardest part. It could be tempting to think you're simply lazy if you're not getting something done that if you go easier on yourself, you will just continue putting it off. Therefore, as the distance, time or amount of your task, halves, it might not seem like this will help you make any progress at all. And so you continue to put the pressure on. However, this becomes a catch 22, a sort of convoluted avoidance tactic, our brains use to keep us safe from dealing with what's under the resistance. The hardest part is often getting started. Once you are out there walking, you are more likely to actually tackle the original distance or time you wanted to do. This is why the habit rule of half is effective. If we cut what might feel like an overwhelming task in half, starting then seems more manageable. While it's no magic bullet, it can help in reducing the resistance and making progress. And once we get the ball rolling, it's much easier to continue the momentum and get into the flow. So the next time you notice a task moving from one day to the next, try a more compassionate approach with a habit rule of half and see what happens. You just listen to the post titled, overcoming procrastination with a habit rule of half by Amy and garro of break the Twitch dot com. You've always wanted to learn a new language, or maybe you're getting ready to travel to a different part of the world. Get Rosetta stone and start talking like a local, and now is the best time to do it because
A highlight from An Ancient Antidote to Holiday Stress | Bonus Meditation with Sebene Selassie
"Your subscription. Okay, here we go now with 7 a. Hi, this is 7 a this meditation will explore an ancient but little known meditation on the classical elements of matter. This is a good meditation to do if you're looking for ways to connect more with nature. The classical elements are referred to in the ancient traditions of almost every continent. From ancient Egypt, to Greece, to China, and India, to the indigenous traditions of the Americas. We're going to work with four elements. Earth, fire, water, and air. These aren't the scientific elements we learned in chemistry class. You can think of these elements as simple categories for relating to our direct experience. Including our own density, temperature, fluidity, and spaciousness. This meditation on the elements helps us to connect to our bodies in a way that also connects us to everything else in nature. There are many studies which show that being in nature has amazing benefits for our overall health. But it's also been shown that even feeling like we are a part of nature, positively affects life satisfaction, vitality, meaningfulness, happiness, mindfulness, and even lowers anxiety. Ready? Let's get started. Find a comfortable position. Either seated or even laying down. See if you can feel alert and open in the front of the body. But really relaxed and at ease. You can close your eyes or if they're open, keep a soft focus on one point. Let's begin by spending a few minutes gathering our awareness, and allowing the mind to settle before we work with the elements. As you rest awareness on the body,
A highlight from Somebody Need You Right Now
"Happy happy happy happy Friday. So depending on when you're listening to this podcast, it's Black Friday, actually. Or not. It could just be a regular Friday. It could even be money. But today, as I record its Black Friday, a tomorrow is small business Saturday, right? Monday is cyber Monday, and what is Sunday? It's gotta be something I've never thought about it, baby. Did you know somebody's waiting for you right now? They really are. Somebody's waiting for you. Some of these other right now, they need you. They're like, where the heck are they? Who do I call? What do I do? And they need you, and you don't even know it. As they show. It's a daily boost for motivation to move dot com, the positive boost you need every single day, even in this crazy time of year. Now let me just make a prediction here for you if it's okay, by the way, it's me Scott Smith. Happy to have you here today. This was time of the year when most people put the brakes on. Eric, how about you? Stop nothing happens to the end of the year, except stuff. Stuff that has to get done. Because you know what? It's a huge surprise. It is, you're just cranking along through your ear and suddenly the holiday show up and it's like, I'm too busy to do anything else. I can't write my goals. I can't do what I want to do. It can't plan can't take a picture. I got to do holiday stuff. Happens every year, doesn't it? That's okay. So we're going to take a little journey through the holiday season, then we're going to get to the other side of it. Boom, we're going to fire it up again after burners and off we go into 2022. So my job between now and then is to encourage you to enjoy the holiday season. Have a good time. Enjoy the gratitude and joy Friends enjoy. Whatever you get out of the season, enjoy that. And as we get to next year and as the whole world fires up again, have a plan to go after. We kind of cool to do wouldn't it? Our sponsor today is playbook. 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And you should. Hello playbook dot com, splash daily boost. I asked a question at the beginning of the show today. I asked. Did you know that somebody needs you right now? That's what we'll talk about, but right now before I start that, the first, and most important person to need you is you. You need to check in with yourself. You have to. We get too busy, we just get busy with taking care of the kids or run of the business or cleaning the house or watching the car. We get all this stuff. And we forget to pay attention to yourself and then one day we explode and go, well, I need some time for me. What about me? What about you is like on a Friday? We ask, how do I want to feel? I ask you to ask that question to yourself and I really mean it just in those words, how do I want to feel? It's actually pretty scientific sentence a question. It all it does is force you at a subconscious level to admit something. You want to feel good. And you should. But when you ask yourself that question, you can't deny how you want to feel. And so it puts you down that path of feeling that way. And is it work, yeah, it is. Ask anybody who's done it. It's ongoing because the world is like if you don't stop for a few minutes and say, well, listen, I know the world's like how do I want to feel? You don't do it. Then you get. Good. So somebody needs you right now. Did you know that? When I was a teenager, I must be reminiscing this week. Everything is about one of his younger. It's like, what's going on? It's the time of the year. It is. I get my first wife passed away this time of year the holiday season. This will be 15 years this year. It's been crazy. And it doesn't matter every time the holiday season comes around. I don't get sad. But I do find myself kind of drifting down this kind of more spiritual and well just follow along. You'll figure it out. But obviously a teenager. I was a weekend moviegoer. Actually, I would even go during the week too. I'd like movies that much. Listen, we had to, because we didn't have a lot of cable TV, didn't have any cable to brand new thing. It was age of rocky Star Wars and jaws, the exorcist. If you didn't live through those days, you missed out. You missed a big time. The change to give us out of the ocean and scared us to death. Three channels of TV that was it and I was the remote control. Scott change the channel. That was me. I had to get out of the house. Tattoo. Also was a teenager. That's what you do. So as to give a big dreams and I'd go to these movies and it was very easy for me to slip into the fantasy world of films. And let me kind of let my mind run for a couple of hours. And by the end of every movie I saw in that film, I was always excited by how life could be and to get on with it. Not just from the people I saw in the movie because obviously that's a suspension to disbelief or it looks like anything is possible. You can be who you want to be. So I fell into that. I also fell in the movie thing. I spent my whole life producing films and TVs and radio shows and all that kind of stuff. I went down that direction within life got in the way. It always does, because this is motivation to move in the daily boost. So we say life gets in the way. And then we deal with it. Stop getting my way. So we have to say that. So that's a young folks. I got out of high school. I charge in the world. I waited for somebody else to lift me into my dreams. For why that lift I needed. Well, things didn't work out that way. Not the way I expected. But my mother in law was there. Her name was ina, she great lady, mister. She gave me some really good advice I needed to hear. You kind of worked out for me. Over the years. So you said, you know, Scott right now. Somebody needs what you have to offer. But because you're sitting around the house, they don't even know your existing right now. So get out there, let them know you're here. It was really simple, but I got it. I was trying to get into radio is in Fort Lauderdale floor. I just wanted to work at one of the big radio stations down there. And yet I hadn't really stepped out to make sure they knew I was around. I would send him a tape and then sit back and relax. Off you've seen a program director's office at a radio station. You know they have about 400 of those sitting on the floor behind their desk. They're not going to find me. What's up? I started making phone calls. Start knocking on doors. Didn't have email didn't have text messaging back then, couldn't hit him up on social media. No, I actually had to do the real thing. It's crazy. Cinema features see if they remember you. Yeah, I did that. I can not tell you how many times in my life. That I recognize that that I've said to myself that somebody out there needs what I have to offer. My job is to find them and let them know that I'm here. I need to save their day. I remember the last time I had a full-time job. I've talked to a lot of people trying to quit their full-time job. They want to get into being an entrepreneur. I want to do their own thing. Much easier today than it was over 20 years ago when I did it. But I remember sitting down with a guy that still doing the same job he did when I quit. And he said, I don't understand how you can quit this job today. How can you walk away from this paycheck? I said, how can you stay here? How can you just give up your entire 8 or ten hour day to somebody else on the chance that maybe they'll pay you for the next 20 years? I just didn't see it. It's okay if you did, but I didn't see it. But what I know is this I have a dream for myself and I know somebody out there right now needs me, and all I have to do is let them know I'm here, and they're going to help me fulfill my dream.
A highlight from Gratitude: Entering Sacred Relationship
"Well, we. Really embrace others that have felt so different as part of our heart. You know, regardless of race, religion, sexual orientation, gender identity can our hearts wake up in that way. Then we think ahead and here's a big one. Which is that the number one word the Oxford dictionary has identified for its biggest use of the year. It's actually two words, climate emergency. Because usage of the year, it's in our nervous system, we know it. We know the great dis ease of the service, so then we learn this pathway to sacred relationship and act as we need to act. We don't know the answer to that. But these are the questions that come up when we think of holy days and sacred relationship. So here's where the I'm looking around. If you're not here watching, it's everybody who's gone kind of like this. And I understand because I'm feeling that also. Where the hope is is that we create our future and how we live today. Really this moment how we live this moment. And we can let these holy days and all days matter and very consciously cultivate our hearts. And tonight, I'm honor explore a key entry to that. And it's the entry of gratitude. It's really a gratitude and honoring and appreciating. And I'll start off with a quote from a great bodhisattva fairly contemporary Fred Rogers who's becoming more and more central for so many. Here's what he says. I believe that appreciation is a holy thing. That when we look for what's best in the person we happen to be with at the moment, we're doing what God does. So in loving and appreciating our neighbor, we're participating in something truly sacred. And appreciating our neighbor and appreciating each other and appreciating nature when we are feeling gratitude. We are participating in something sacred. I think that's just such a beautiful way to say it. How many of you have seen a beautiful day in the neighborhood, anybody? A few. Yeah. Yeah, it's just out. The more I read about Fred Rogers, the more truly is quite a model of presence whoever is with really truly respecting and showing up with his heart. And the reviews are interesting to me. And the reason I'm spending time on it is because it points out something. One reviewer put it this way, he said, people took to it immediately as if applying a band aid to a wounded psyche. And I was thinking about that, and what seems so important about the movie is that we love goodness. We really love goodness. And we're hurting, and I say we're grieving because our society right now feels so far from the values that matter to us, and what we're kind of riveted on often as a society. So far from the care and the presence and the respect that matters to our heart. So there's a grieving. The responses can we open up our own hearts. And let's just look at gratitude as an example, it's really helpful to begin to notice in our own lives, what stops us from feeling grateful. You know, if you ask yourself today, what stopped you from just that attitude of appreciation of appreciating who you're with at work or family or friends or the natural world around you? What stopped you? And I know for many of us, it's that we're on our way somewhere else. And we're just not really here to take in what's right here. How many of you could say that for yourself today that you're on your way somewhere else? I know I was. So okay, three construction workers are standing in a row next to traffic Karen signs. The first carrier is a big stop sign. The second car is a sign that says stop and smell the flowers carries a bunch of flowers in her hand. And the third, the sign says, okay, resume tearing through your life like a maniac. And we get it. You know, it's like we're on our way somewhere else. And the somewhere else is often in some way we're trying to get something we want. You know, we want often it's to get things done. But we also want to get things now an extreme would be reader rutner, who says, someday I want to be rich. Some people get so rich they lose all respect for humanity. That's how rich I want to get. But it's not that extreme. It's not like we're most of us are thinking on that level. But we're moving through in some way trying to get the next cup of coffee or trying to get the next bit of approval from somebody or trying to get something. Julia Child says that department stores, people often get unnecessary kitchen equipment when they were only going for men's underwear. And we know how it is. And it happens online all the time. You think you're going to one thing and you just go down rabbit hole after rabbit hole, chasing. There was a research study in 1981 and people were asked to complete the sentence. I'm glad I'm not a.
A highlight from 255: Benefits of Gratitude for Your Mind
"Show me. Hello, quick brain, so what are you grateful for in this moment? What do you appreciate more than anything right now? Every year around Thanksgiving, people pause, and they reflect on what they're most thankful for. Maybe it's their food, their family, their friends, everything that we value in our lives. But here's the thing, did you know that this tradition has the power to rewire your brain because it does that while it's great to count your blessings on days like Thanksgiving that giving thanks practiced regularly throughout the year can have tremendous benefits to keep your brain and your body happier and healthier. So in this quick brain episode, I'll share with you how gratitude can change your brain and change your life. And a few things you can do right away to tap your thankfulness superpower. So first, what is gratitude? Gratitude is the appreciation of what is valuable and meaningful to you, right? It's a general state of thankfulness, and here's the thing it doesn't take big events or expensive objects to create gratitude. You can actually train yourself to constantly be grateful for the little things in life. So you can experience that joy on a regular basis. So what is happening in your brain when you feel gratitude? Let's start with your hypothalamus. It's the part of your brain that regulates a number of your bodily functions that are critical, including your appetite, your sleep, your temperature, your metabolism, your growth, a National Institute of health, studies showed that are
A highlight from Lisa Feldman Barrett || Surprising Truths about the Human Brain
"Barrett is among the top 1% most cited scientists in the world and has been called the most important affective scientist of our time. In this episode, doctor barret reveals what the true function of the brain is, and it's not for thinking. We also discussed the impact of past experiences on our cognition and what we can do to overcome our own detrimental patterns. Further into our discussion, doctor Lisa Feldman Barrett challenges the traditionally held view that emotions are universal. In her own theory of constructed emotion, she argues that variability in emotional expression exists due to socialization and language differences. We also touch on the topics of hallucinogens, culture, education, relationships, and authoritarianism. This was a really stimulating conversation, and while we don't see eye to eye on everything, she really brought into my mind and has me thinking of new ways of thinking about emotions and the brain. So now I bring you, doctor Lisa Feldman, Barrett. Doctor Barrett, so great to chat with you today on the psychology podcast. It's really great to be on the podcast. Thanks so much for having me. I've wanted to talk to you for a really long time. You're a real leader in this field and the way that you think about it is quite quite unique and different from some of the things that a lot of people are even still being taught in introductory psychology textbooks. True. We got to update this. We've got to do this. Now you started your research career in we started your career as a clinical psychologist. Is that right? So that was your dream of going to clinical? I don't know that I would say that was my dream. That was just where I ended up certainly. Fair enough. Yeah, you know, I had the choice to take the more academic route in cognitive psychology or the more academic route in actually or potentially practice space route in clinical psychology and for number of reasons chose clinical psychology, but you know, my adviser was a social psychologist. I had one clinical in one social adviser, so I would say I always had like one foot out the door. You know, even when I was training to be a clinician, I'm glad that I have clinical training. I think it's actually served me really well in my research career, but. Early on, it became clear to me that I just really loved research and I really loved the science end of things. Yeah, and you're curious about everything because you've really, you started adding on other fields that you started integrate into your work. But you see that even early in your career, you know, where you're spend a decade training in psychophysiology and neuroanatomy and neuroscience and actually after I was a professor. So. You know, and eventually I made my way back to cognitive and other even adding on other fields. So I think that's one, you know, maybe one thing that. Marks my work is different or the work that I do with my colleagues and the lab that I developed, so all my peeps over the years is that, you know, we read broadly and we draw broadly from a number of different disciplines with in psychology and also outside psychology. And that just gives you a really different perspective on psychological questions, psychological mechanisms and the underlying biological basis of those mechanisms. Yeah, I completely agree. And I was really excited to see you get into evolutionary developmental neuroscience and cultural evolution, systems engineering. All of these kind of perspectives give you a systems view of the brain, which is, I mean, it's so clear how that links to your theory of emotions. Because if you take very discreet view of emotions as a very modular view, I should say, right? You could see how that's in some ways antithetical from a broader systems or network perspective or could be. Yeah, exactly. I think, you know, early on, it occurred to me that in psychology, really throughout the history of psychology. So psychology really, the history of the field where the field comes from is, you know, that in the 19th century, physiologists and neurologists and philosophers realized that there was the possibility of using the mechanisms and the labs, the lab procedures and so on of neurology and physiology to search for the physical basis of mental categories that have existed really in mental philosophy going all the way back to ancient Greece. And when you take that approach, it sort of suggests to you a very modular approach where a word like episodic memory or semantic memory or anger or sadness or fear refers to some specific set of psychological processes or a process which can be found in some modular part of the brain. But when you start with the brain and the nervous system and how it develops and how it evolved, and then you ask yourself, well, if you know where certain type of creature with certain type of nervous system in a certain type of brain, how is it that, you know, nervous system in the context of other brains and nervous systems? Of other people. How does that produce the thoughts and feelings and mental events that we have in that we experience in this culture, but that are not general to all cultures in the world, right? So you have really a single kind of nervous system architecture that can create many different types of minds. And so how does that work exactly? And it's not denying the fact that we feel anger and sadness and fear, but it doesn't presume that there are ancient circuits for these emotions embedded somewhere in some ancient beast lurking in your brain somewhere. It's a very different approach to start with the biology and then ask started asking questions about the psychology than doing it the other way around. Yeah. Yeah, I mean, I know that a question a big question you're interested in is why do we have a brain? Why? Does the brain exist it's so metabolically expensive and you've given answers such as it for regulation of our senses and for prediction. I know that prediction is a big one. And I've described the brain as a prediction machine. But I want to take the question one step further because even more intriguing to me is why do we have a neocortex, like why not just a brain, but why do I say we mean me and you? Humans, why do we have a prefrontal cortex? Why do we have a lateral prefrontal cortex? Yeah, so let me just say that there's really debate amongst evolutionary evolutionary neuroscientists as to whether the neocortex is actually new. Right? So there's some there's one way of looking at evolution, brain evolution, which suggests that the neurons that create the so called neocortex, the more neutral term is isocortex. Actually, our present in all vertebrates. And our even present in animals that don't have a cortex, a cerebral cortex, like birds, for example. But there are homologous neurons there.
A highlight from The forest is our teacher. It's time to respect it | Nemonte Nenquimo
"Nobody is my name is nimon and kimo. I am a wild running woman, a mother, and a leader of my people. When I was young, I first went to the city to a missionary school so that I could learn Spanish. I never had the opportunity to go to university, but I have to begin nannies. The wise elders who have taught me how to respect how to love the forest. And from all of that, I have grown into a leader. The forest is our teachers that began our knees, the wise, both women and men are our scientists, our teachers, who have taught us to value what we have and that knowledge that love we have. We say as indigenous peoples, that value has been lost on outsiders. The forest is our home. The forest gives us life, food, nourishment, water, spiritual connection, but the arrival of roads, the arrival of colonization, the arrival of evangelical missionaries, the arrival of oil companies has destroyed our forest. I have met other indigenous peoples who live in the north and who are first contacted by colonization, invasions and roads. It is very sad. To the people who are listening, I would like to say that the forests in our Amazon continue to burn. The oil continues to spill. And the miners continue to enter our territory, stealing our gold. And the colonization continues to invade to cut down and feed societies from abroad. I want to let it be known that this is directly harming us that they are risking the lives of our Amazonian peoples throughout the whole country. We, as indigenous peoples have been fighting for our land for thousands of years, because we have a lot of love and respect for it. That is why it is important that you listen to our voices, our cries so that the destruction of our forest stops. That you stop harming our forest because you are not listening. More than 25% of the earth's surface is protected by indigenous peoples. This includes nearly half of the world's forests. I think people from the outside who we call Quora are people who know less about the forest, and therefore they do not care about life in the forest. They do not care about the spiritual life. They do not care about the life as we have lived it, connected for thousands of years, respecting mother earth. That's why I think it's important for me as a woman but as a young woman, I have learned that quota think that technology and development are better, but they have no awareness that at the same time they are destroying the planet. And if they continue acting blind, we say that the people who know least about the forest are blind, we as indigenous peoples are the ones whose eyes are open. We know what is happening. Corey is quota is for us a stranger who does not value who has no knowledge about the forest. What is the forest mean to us? For the wild Rani people, the forest is our home. It is our life. It is full of life full of knowledge. I can walk and see plants around me that we can eat. Leaves, we can use to heal vines to make our baskets with to carry things. Wood to build our homes, good wood. Leaves to cure a headache. But if I bring a good edge the forest. Pure is not going to see the way I am seeing. Coordinate does not have that knowledge. He thinks this is all a gift. A place full of resources that he can keep extracting. The word quote does not have to be bad. You are capable of having the same values as us. The knowledge that we have as Amazonian peoples, you can learn, you can respect, you can become our allies. We as indigenous peoples do not need satellite images, because we live in the forest, and we know what is happening in the forest. The Amazon is burning. The oil companies come to our territory to say that they will develop our country. That they will support our communities. They say yes it will not harm them. They come with beautiful words and say that it will not affect the environment. Or the water, or the surrounding forests but it is a lie. We see it with our own eyes, alongside other people's, the oil spills, how for months, they haven't been able to clean them up. How they have contaminated our fish are rivers, our spirits, our people. Our people have been made sick. If, as indigenous peoples, we say that we don't want to participate that we don't want exploitation, the government must respect our decision and withdraw. It can't circumvent us. Although the communities, the grassroots say no and no, they pretend they are not listening.