Love and Relationships

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A highlight from S13E16: How To Have A Healthy Relationship w/ Connor Beaton & Vienna Pharaon

Dateable Podcast

03:25 min | 3 d ago

A highlight from S13E16: How To Have A Healthy Relationship w/ Connor Beaton & Vienna Pharaon

"The podcast is an insider's look into modern dating that The Huffington Post calls one of the top ten podcasts about love and sex. On each episode, we'll talk to real daters about everything from sex parties to sex droughts, date fails to diaper fetishes and first moves to first loves. I'm your host ue shoe, former dating coach turned dating sociologist. You also hear from my co host and producer Julie Kraft chick as we explore this crazy dateable world. Hey everyone, welcome to another episode of the dateable podcast where we are full and we are ready to tackle the rest of the year. Now that we're done with Thanksgiving, this is where all the holiday shit starts happening, right? This is the beginning of it all, and it's also the beginning of cuffing season. Oh, yes. We are here to help you. Through cuffing season, consider us your sherpas through all the cuffing that's about to happen. Relationships, they begin and they end around the holidays. We know because we've both been there. And that is our mission with a table podcast. Let's get to the bottom of these behaviors and patterns that we see. And so we can be better equipped for when things happen. And we are so excited about our episode today. We are talking about what it means to have a healthy relationship. So we have back a fan favorite. We have Connor beatin. He was on season 12 episode one socially distant yet eventually available, one of our top rated episodes, I believe. And we are lucky to have him joined by his wife, Vienna ferrin, who is a very popular marriage and family therapist of mindful MFT. So we're super excited to have both of them together. And I think this concept of healthy relationship is something that's tossed around a lot. We've definitely said that before, because I think a big part of dateable is that we want to create the relationships that work for us ultimately. And a lot of us don't want to repeat our family, our parents, relationship, potentially, divorces that have happened. I think we're all kind of out there to have a healthy relationship. That's a term that gets maybe as buzzed as emotionally available at another probably neck and neck this, too. It's also kind of like saying I'm looking for a nice person to date. It's like it's the status quo. You should be wanting a healthy relationship. And if you do have a healthy relationship, it shouldn't feel like your unicorn. Yeah. That should be what all of us are in is a healthy relationship, but why is this so hard to identify what a healthy relationship is? Is, for example, some of us didn't grow up with great examples. I'm a good relationship is you don't understand what healthy you have a means for me. I had no idea what love even meant 'cause that was never a word that was used in my family. And so when you have to relearn all of this from the beginning, it's a really scary thing. It's also very exciting because it means you get to carve out what it means to have a healthy relationship for you specifically. Yeah, I mean, I think modern data is extremely dysfunctional also. So I think thank you. Thank you, Monday. Obvious. Without you, there wouldn't be us. But I think that's why would you do there is this your site is set on a healthy relationship.

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A highlight from Whats Your Sexual Fantasy?

Sex With Emily

01:08 min | 3 d ago

A highlight from Whats Your Sexual Fantasy?

"People have been asking me, so what's changed after 15 years of doing the podcast? Well, a lot has, but to be honest, the orgasm gap still remains a challenge for so many couples. You know what I'm talking about? Men tend to finish before their female partners. So you've heard me talk about promethean for years, so urologists developed FDA compliant delay spray can help men last up to 64% longer without loss of sensation, and because promession is quickly absorbed into the penis, it won't transfer to your partner. Oh, and speaking of your partner, I think we can all agree that sometimes women, even when alone still have challenges around reaching orgasm. So now, promession is created a new female arousal gel. I love it. It's a clitoral stimulant she can rub into her clitoris for grease pleasure and a lot more satisfaction during pretty much any sexual activity you can think of. So now, they got promes and delay space for ham, arousal gel for her, so basically they're closing the orgasm gap on both sides. Trust me, try this combo thank me later. Seriously, right into feedback at sex with Emily dot com and tell me how it went. I want to know. So try for message today. Go to sex with Emily dot com slash enhance. That's my site sex with Emily dot

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A highlight from Savage Lovecast Episode 788

Savage Lovecast

02:40 min | 3 d ago

A highlight from Savage Lovecast Episode 788

"Denver riggleman was a very conservative Republican from Virginia, and still is a very conservative Republican from Virginia, a state that was trending blue until the recent unpleasantness. Riggleman was a member of the rapidly conservative house freedom caucus. Those were the Tea Party crazies who now seem positively sane compared to the Trumpist crazies. And then rigelman made the mistake of officiating at a gay friend's wedding and social conservatives freaked the fuck out, funded a primary challenger and rigid lost his seat in 2020 despite being endorsed. By Donald Trump rona Romney mcdaniel, she's the chairwoman of the Republican National Committee and Mitt Romney's niece because we live in a meritocracy. Never forgot that we live in a meritocracy. Anyway, last month, mcdaniel rolled out a big new campaign to attract low information LGBT voters to the GOP. She called it the RNC pride coalition. And days later, mcdaniel had to issue a shit eating apology because social conservatives were demanding her resignation. The RNC pride coalition, which was her idea, was quietly euthanized and mcdaniel sent an email out to social conservatives, reaffirming the Republican Party's opposition to same sex marriage, as well as its support for dismantling anti discrimination statutes that protect LGBT people from discrimination. Just so we're clear on who and what the GOP is where queer people are concerned. They hate us. Still. And yet, every four years, every two years, every 6 months, the LGBT community gets gaslit. By bullshitting self paid and gay conservatives and mainstream media outlets looking for a new story to tell and the story they like to tell us, constantly is that gee whiz, maybe today's GOP isn't as anti gay or anti queer or anti trans as it once was. Yeah, no. They're still anti LGBTs to anti gays to antique queers to anti trans. If anything, the anti gay anti queer, anti trans rhetoric from the right, is getting worse, not better. Take, for example, North Carolina lieutenant governor, Mark Robinson. He is a rising star in the GOP. He's running for governor of North Carolina. And he's doing most of his campaigning from the pulpits of tax exempt churches that shouldn't be tax exempt. And Robinson is given the GOP base, what it wants. Anti gay, anti trans hate. There's no other word for it. You just give a sermon at the baptist church in Winston Salem in which he said, well, I'm not going to read it myself. It's on YouTube. Let's

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A highlight from Insiders' Secrets To Make You Younger and Healthier

The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

07:27 min | 3 d ago

A highlight from Insiders' Secrets To Make You Younger and Healthier

"Health is everything. Health beet shoes. Let me tell you. No matter what kind of shoes you got on if you got high blood pressure. It really doesn't. So let's get right to it. Doctor Oz says there are three things you can do in the bathroom in just three minutes that will keep you living longer. What are they? Well, it's about using your senses. You want to hear what the stool the poop sounds like when it hits the water. And that sounds crazy, but if it sounds like a bombardier, you'll pop. That's not right, 'cause it means you're constipated. It means the food is too hard by the time it comes out. It should hit the water like a diaper from Acapulco hits the water. Now, that's the sound test. That's the sound test. Okay, okay? And there's the slight test. Look at it. I mean, everyone looks at their stool. They don't admit it, but they look. It should be. It's having admission here too. Let's have an admission here today. How many of you know what? It's a funny thing. I thought I was the only one. Then I heard that everybody looks at their stool. Absolutely. You think Britney Spears? She's looking at her. Okay, go ahead. But that's good, right? You should look at it. You're looking at it to see what? It should be shaped like an S and we're going to explain why in a few minutes. Oh, when you get an S, I'm so excited. Yes. Ask for sexy espresso. Like, wow. It should be an S. It should be an S shape, and you want to make sure the color's normal. Because the color of the poop tells you a lot about how you made it. At the end of the day, you can analyze your body, really effectively, by looking at what comes out of your body. Oh, really? And we want to get people comfortable with that. Okay. Okay, I'm very comfortable with it. So I had to say this tack belief. So if it comes at the releasing itself in pieces, that's not good. You don't want that to happen because it means that by the time you finish digesting food and food is a medicine for you, it helps you. By the time you finish digesting it, you don't have enough of it left to poop out in the right way. And probably it's hurt the organ, the colon. Yeah. That has to process it. So pieces is bad. Pieces as bad plop plop is bad. You want a full S S and. Got that, okay? Okay, okay. And it can also be banana shape. That's good too, isn't it? As shape banana shape as long as it has a curve to it. And it actually forms all these years. I've been so excited about that when that happened. I didn't know. I didn't know that that was really such a good thing, but I'm like, yes. When that happens. Okay, millions of you watching are unknowingly speeding up your aging clock every single day. We track down two viewers who represent a whole lot of people in this country. My name is Susan, and I am a busy working mother of three children. The last person that I think about is myself. I'm quite constipated. I typically only go to the bathroom, every 5 days. My stomach will feel crampy and I don't feel well. I drink 8 cans of diet soda a day, but never water. My favorite foods to eat our cookies, chips. Hardly ever eat fruits or vegetables. I hired a training helping it would force me to exercise, but I often cancel. I'm just too busy. Both my father and my uncle have died of cancer and my mother was just diagnosed with breast cancer. I heard there are some things you can do to lower your risk, but I don't have any clue what they are. My name is Maureen, and I'm 39 years old. I'm the mother of four, and my health is the last thing I have time for. I suffer from diarrhea, constipation, and hemorrhoids. My hemorrhoids feel so bad that it's like grapes hanging out of my rear. Sometimes they hurt so bad, I can't get out of bed for two days. I eat a lot of fast food. I love fried chicken and fries, and I eat at least four times a week. I never have any fiber. I don't drink any water. The only water to hit my mouth is when I'm brushing my teeth. I have trouble sleeping and have to take something every single night to help me sleep. My parents both died from heart related diseases. And my family has a history of cancer. My husband begs me to see a doctor because he worries that something is wrong with me. But I just can't bring myself to do it. I really don't know why I have these health problems. I mean, their bodies are screaming to them. Yeah. Help me. Help me. They're big colon is saying, come get. I need something from you. And then I processing it. And I think part of the reason for that was your Pope. It's nonexistent or tiny marbles. Oh, goodness, nonexistent or tiny marbles are really bad. Tiny marbles. Not good. Not good. Okay, so what do you want to say to her? The purpose I think of this show more than any other is to create a no embarrassment zone. I'll give you an example. Yeah. The average male and you probably already know this has 14 episodes of passing gas a day. Guess what it is for women? What? 14. Now what does that mean? That means I've already passed gas today and so of you and stores are a hostess. Yes. And that's okay. That's cool. That's what's supposed to happen. We need to figure out that and process it. So to plea to you is to figure out that it's not normal. You sort of had that epiphany already. And then let's take the steps that are required. How do when it happens and everybody's always like so a clip about it? It's like embarrassing. Because it's embarrassing. That's why you need to know embarrassment, so we need to stay comfortable and so smart people say well that's not really what's happening. It is. Okay, so you need to pass gas 14 time. You need to. Well, you want to. You want to, because if you were passing gas, you'd be all kind of bloated up, right? Exactly. It's something we usually don't discuss in polite conversation, but today we're tackling this important subject for our own good health. Here's what actually happened in your hardworking colon. So this is the small bowel and it just processed some food and it starts to get irritated and it turns red and that redness means that it's inflamed. And so this hurts you. This causes belly pain. Here's that same food bowl is pouring into the cecum. Now, a couple things are important here. The cecum is the atrium. They're pulls all the food that you eat in to the beginning of the large bowel. This is very important step. First of all, this is where the fluid and it needs to be fluidy can continue to get absorbed into your body. If it's too hard, it sticks into these little crevices. That's the appendix. Okay. And you get appendicitis because there's still sticks in there like clay and can't get out. And more importantly, this is a diverticula. Okay. It's a small outpouching. Think of an inner tube that has a little hole in it. When your bowel is pushing hard on something that is hard itself, it cracks. And these little outpouchings can kill you. Really? And they cause a lot of pain for a lot of folks, especially when they get past age 40. Okay. So let's go on now. The same bolus heads its way up and as it's being pulled up, guess what happens to it? You suck the water out of it. The more water you stuck out of it, the more it begins to look like. Poop.

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A highlight from Ego Nwodim

Couples Therapy

06:49 min | 4 d ago

A highlight from Ego Nwodim

"Loosen your butts, it's time for couples therapy. Yeah. This podcast is Andy and Naomi's where they can both live and hang but all they hope is to get excellent vacationing with brunches and cuddling to messy situations and conscious and coupling from Netflix hookups to single them with some Hulu tech sex regret so feeling on your nodule. They go talk about it. Yeah you want everybody to leave in therapy again guarantee baby weekend. Hello, everyone and welcome to couples therapy. I am Naomi. And I am Andy. And we were in real life couple. I realize a couple of comedians. On couples therapy, we answer a couple of questions from a couple of listeners. Angie, let me just tell you. I'm so happy we record not intro in the morning. This is the first thing. First, we fed the animals. Naomi had a little bit of breakfast. And this is for maybe you can hear the sleep in my voice. I love it. I'm like slowly pivoting you to someone who gets stuff done and out of the way. Yeah, beautiful because then it gives not only don't you feel good when you get stuff done and out of the way. As opposed to being like, I've got you. I've got to work my energy up to do this 15 minute thing at 6 p.m.. Yeah no, I like having my energy. I like having my energy naturally flow into my body as opposed to. When we start this off, we're both at the same energy level. Yeah. But Naomi, you could see her the switch in her body flip. What it's called as professionalism, it's called performance indie. Sometimes you must just get it out there, and that's beautiful because now, once this is done, you know what I get to do? I get to take a nap. We have so we recording is obviously post thing, well, maybe not obviously. Post Thanksgiving. And it has been days of just like starches. Like for every single meal. Were you not having like last night, my meal was left over Trader Joe's fake Turkey roast that you're vegan field roof. Vegan fielders. By the way, thank you. I forget the listener's name. But thank you for recommending it. It's better than tofurkey. But I toasted it up with some toasted brioche. Made a little salmon. I made a sandwich mashed potatoes. Honey roasted carrots. And Mac and cheese. Yeah. And it is just been sitting there since. Well, I will say, you know, you are the person who does have a solid two cups of mashed potatoes, but they were real. You know, and that's on you. I think I've never understood how you can put so much mashed potato away because they're so delicious. And then it just plugs you up. That's why me. I'm gonna bring in your green bean realness. I'm bringing you collard green realness. Something to break it up. Do you think that was ever a category in the ballrooms? Thanksgiving realness, the category is a Turkey side. Stuffing. That would be fun actually. But yeah, yeah. I mean, thanks, everyone's very fun, but it's just days and days of even with writing the exercise bike for half an hour and walking Mabel for 40 minutes in the evening. Still, not enough to counteract. Nope, two cups of mashed potatoes. That's what I call barters. I just feel like even just mashed potatoes when I see them, I'm just like, oh, I feel like you could be using them to like, what's the word? Spackle a wall or something. Yeah, it does. It's kind of like spackle for your stomach. It is stoics better goal. Yeah. Before we get into the episode, Naomi, you know, we love to get reader comments. I love it. I love positive feedback. I also love feedback that maybe tells me what I'm wrong. Sure, I'm up and sure we are very open. I would say. And I would say sometimes I do push back if I don't think we're wrong. Again, this is always been my kind of like bellwether. Does one person write us? Usually it's their problem. More than one person writes us. That's our problem. We gotta look with it. Or we have to look within at least, so you have to look within. Okay, so but sometimes mostly we just get comments saying like, hey, I got an idea too for your listeners. Do you remember, I forget what episode this is, but do you remember the person who rode in and they were like, hey, I met my boyfriend in car or right before. And now that things are opening back up again. Yes, yes. I realized he is very loud and annoying in public. And I love him a lot, but loud and public. What do I do? Well, listener. Called in. I love this. Left this voicemail. Let's take a listen. Hi, me, me and Andy. A couple of weeks ago, you guys had a caller call in and I have not been able to get their question out of my head Vince. So I figured I would go ahead and call and give my two cents because I don't think it was covered. The caller was calling because their boyfriend who they have been seeing since the very start the pandemic was too loud in public and they didn't realize it until they started going out into public with this new boyfriend. And now even though she really likes him and finds his dorky little humor endearing, she's thinking about where she comes with him over it. And part of your advice was break up with him. And I wanted to say not to do that necessarily. Without taking a few steps first and the reason is I was the loud partner. And if it hadn't been for my now husband, speaking up and in very plain terms saying, I love you, but you are too fucking loud. And if you can not quiet down, I will be forced to end our relationship because they can't handle it. If you haven't there's so very Frank, I never would have taken it seriously. I don't think. And we could have ended our relationship without ever giving it a real start. And now we've been together 8 beautiful years and I'm happier than I ever have been. I mean, even during the pandemic with him working from home and me working from home publishing my first novel so much more, the point is we've been through huge stressors and still we're closer now and more in love now than we ever have been. So I highly highly recommend having a very Frank conversation. And just saying, you know, I really truly love you or care for you, however you feel best wording it, but this is the problem.

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A highlight from S6E2: In Love, on Duty

Love Letters

02:06 min | 4 d ago

A highlight from S6E2: In Love, on Duty

"For the subjects of today's episode, dating was not only intense in the usual will they or won't they, what's going to happen next sort of way. It was intense in a way that includes military mandates, a near miss rocket attack, and some big barriers to trust on an international air base. It's the story of Naomi and Chandler. My name is Chandler hof lane. I'm from elkhorn, Iowa. I'm 29 years old. I'm currently in the military. The Air National Guard here in Tennessee. Been doing this for about 8 years. Hi, I'm Naomi Keenan. I'm 23 years old, been in the military 5 years, and I'm on my way to Nashville. Their story begins in 2019. At this point, Naomi is living in Las Vegas, and she's single. Very much intentionally so. Dating and romance are not on her radar at all. She's working as an Intel analyst for the U.S. Air Force, and preparing for her first overseas deployment. So I left in March of 2019 and the whole year prior from January 2018 to January 2019, I would say that's the happiest I've ever been in my whole life. I started going to school full-time, and I was working full time. I was in really good physical shape constantly working out. Like I try to practice mindfulness and meditation a lot. And I think that 2018, I really had a nail down. I hadn't seriously been dating anybody for over a year. Naomi grew up in a big family in a small town. She's one of 11 kids, so money was tight and college wasn't an option right after graduation. The military offered her a way out. A chance that something bigger. I'm from Maslow and Ohio, the education isn't the best, a lot of drug issues in the town and in the county in general. So just best to get out of there, you know, this small town fever. For me, it was just like, I need money and I need to go to college and I need to get out of this place or else I'm never going to leave. And so my older brother had left, and he was having an amazing time. He joined the navy, so I was like,

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A highlight from Episode 525: Always Respond To This Text (From Your Ex)

The Art of Love Podcast

05:11 min | 4 d ago

A highlight from Episode 525: Always Respond To This Text (From Your Ex)

"Two free chapters before purchasing the book, and of course the link for that is also underneath this video. This week I want to talk about the text from your ex that you should always respond to with, of course, a few exceptions. There's always exceptions. And I found this out by mistake, but luckily I found out. So let me explain first what happened and then I will tell you about the text that you always need to respond to. So I was talking to this guy on a dating app. And we had decided to meet. So we picked a date in time. And in the days leading up to the date he was very excited to meet me. And he had tried to make me beforehand at the last minute for coffee and said, no, I'm sorry. I'm not available. He just seemed very excited texting every day. And he even said, of all the people I'm talking to, you're the one I'm most excited to meet. And it's like, well, how many people are you talking to? It could be two. It's like, oh, okay, of the two people I'm talking to you. You're the one I'm most excited. Maybe he was talking to, I don't know. But so everything seemed very good leading up to it, right? You know there's something coming up. So the day of the date we were texting, as usual, to me, something seemed a little off. I'm able to pick up energy and vibrations via text. But I didn't want to be paranoid. So I'm like, no, no, I'm sure it's fine. Shirt's fine. Yeah. An hour before the date, he messages me and says, I'm so, so, sorry. I can't meet you today. Wow. You could have knocked me over with a feather of all the people that I would have never expected to cancel a date. He would have been that one person. So you just never know. So I gave my usual response in such circumstances. The response that you should give if someone breaks up with you, cancels a date at the last minute, something like that. And that was, wow. Dot dot dot. Okay. So with the wow, you're like, really? You're really doing this? You've got to be kidding me. Are you crazy? And then, okay, if that's what you want. That's what you get. And I vowed to never speak to him again. Okay? So fast forward a month. On a Friday night who should message me, but yes, our little disappearing friend. And when I saw that he had messaged me and by the way, this was on snap, so I couldn't see what the message was. I immediately thought to myself, all right, I'm not answering, but obviously I'm going to know what the message says. So I waited several hours. I think I responded the next day. And when I saw the message I was like, oh, no. Oh no, I can't ignore this message. I have to respond to this darn it. I have to respond. Now, what do you think this message is? Do you think it's that he poured his heart out? No, I wouldn't respond to that. No. Unfortunately, or fortunately, the message was high. Do you hate me? No. Why did I have to respond to this, and why do you have to respond to this? Because hate is a very strong word. It's not often that you hate someone or something. And it's also kind of an ego boost is like, wow, I affected her so much. She was so intimate that when I canceled, oh, now she hates me. I'm so important to her. She hates me. So I didn't want him walking around thinking that he was that big a deal for me that I would hate him when we hadn't even met. I didn't hate him. I just didn't want to have anything else to do with him. So I thought, no, I can't have him walking around thinking that I hate him. So I responded and I said, no. Why would I hate you? And he didn't respond. Now, a little backstory here. What I think happened, because as I said, this was on SnapChat, and you can see the previews of their stamps on SnapChat. And he had posted something right around the time he messaged me, so it's not a coincidence, and it's said, why would you cheat on me when you know I could do ten times worse? Shouldn't it be ten times better? I can do ten times better than you. I don't know. Anyways, so what I think happened is that whoever he was seeing instead of me, that's what you get when you don't see me was cheating or cheated and he just found out. And so he needed some validation. He needed an ego stroke. He needed to see if people from the past were still in him. I mean, he could have sent that message.

A highlight from EP. 413:We still here

Black Love Matters

05:42 min | 5 d ago

A highlight from EP. 413:We still here

"We ain't gonna wear. Be surely one two three four 5 star rating review on Apple podcasts and I'll sit here and follow us on all fours on social media at black love matters as black. With no case. Okay. What's going to happen? I know y'all was worried about us. People will send in messages, emails, Texas, bird calls. I know we was on the stick and shut in for a lot of people. But we ain't going nowhere. I told y'all we just live in a little bit of life. We try to take it in, we're trying to be present, you know, near him doing his knee room stuff, and we try to give him space to do it. And if y'all remember and if you long turn listeners, you would know that we always said that once we done, y'all would know we don't. Yeah, no, we will say we're done. It will say the title of episode will be this is the last episode. We still ain't did alive in or Zoom call? We're gonna do these things. We have some stuff we're going to do before the end of our run with black love matters. But thank you all so much for the love. We were just living our lives, taking our own damn advice, making sure we take care at home before we come on to y'all. But as I said, y'all are we gonna be here? And don't worry y'all gonna get some more stuff before the end of the year. We might not be able to talk twice a week. Now, you might get some surprise Friday's episodes. But what you can count on to the end of the year is hearing us every Monday catching in with us. But at the hope, but because of your patience and us taking this extra time, the hope is, stay tuned y'all at the top of the year we're going to do a complete revamp facelift kind of re shifting. I won't say total resha, right? 'cause we gonna be who we gonna be, right? But I would say a fine tuning in a refinement of like, who we are where we've been and how we've been there. So really get excited about that at the top of the year and buy us taking some of these gaps. We really been able to think space to think about it to connect with each other. To also rethink the purpose of the podcast, right? What has started? The purpose of why I started is I think it's still a little bit there now, right? But we've evolved a little bit in how do we make sure we stay in alignment with our growth and moving forward. And we decided to take out on a journey. Like I said, we're not done yet. But we are at a process of shifting and changing to make sure that the podcast is still kind of evolving with us and also in a very timely. Time and authentic way. Yeah. Right? We really want to be authentic with you all as we were going through our shifts and changes. You know, we share and transparent with you. Good, bad. Ugly, we share it with y'all as we're going on our journey to expand our family. So just how do we be super intentional with that? So again, that's what's been going on with us near him and give you more updates because there have been around the world. Yeah, yeah. Niami the one who had been acquired meditation at home. But don't know what's been going on with me. That was going on with you. Okay. I give y'all a brief update. Again, this P ain't gonna be no long podcast, honey. This is us checking in telling me we okay, we gonna keep moving, hanging there with us. But speaking of things I love, which is television. Do we have episode one of that when people would be like, why don't watch TV? This is what I hope. Whenever someone starts a conversation with they don't watch TV. I'd be like, we shouldn't be Friends. 'cause I love TV. I literally do that in work just so icebreakers, right? 'cause I'm not a working tech HR. So everybody in tech is just so intellectual and all these things. And just creating the nets biggest thing on the earth. They don't have time to watch TV. Anybody what you do in a free time be able to watch TV? Who are you? You're not building the next big thing? No. I'm watching TV. And actually, it's not wrong with that. Anyway, y'all know what finished and y'all know what I fell in love with. Love life on HBO Max. No, come on, where are you sound effects? What you want? You watched it, too, you got to jump on. Okay. I love love life on HBO Max. And I know a few of y'all like DM doesn't send this email. I was like, y'all too love, love life. If y'all have not watched it and you're looking for something to get into as we're getting into the holiday season, you're gonna be with your family, you're gonna be off. Go ahead and get into love life. Especially season two. Season one gives a little bit of white girl realness. But the millennial identifies with it. Right, it's not so white woman that I don't identify it. Her millennial Ness makes me identify with her struggles. So I think season one in season two is great. But season one, centers around this black guy. And I won't ruin it for you all. Actually I will. Spoiler alert. He gets a fucking happy ending. Blacks, we need fucking happy Indies. I didn't realize how often in movies or books, shit life that blacks just don't get happy endings. Love life season two gave us the fucking happy ending that we needed. Like, I literally was watching it with a fucking smile on my pessimistic face. In yellow, no, I love near them. Y'all know black love matters, love is ever evolving peace. But it's tough out here for us. I just knew he was gonna end up with a white woman. I just knew he was gonna end up and again for all y'all, listening. Now I am gonna go near them against inter relational relationships, but you know what the fuck I mean. On TV and being a black man he built a black woman to black woman crazy find a white woman white woman save and they live happy have karma babies. No. What the fuck? It's crazy white bitches, too. It's never a crazy white bitch and then the black woman comes saving and they live at 11 have chocolate babies.

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A highlight from 328: Understanding Attachment Styles Will Change Your Relationship

Relationship Advice

08:06 min | 6 d ago

A highlight from 328: Understanding Attachment Styles Will Change Your Relationship

"What's going on, I do podcast listeners, chase here. Thank you for tuning in to today's show today was a really amazing conversation with Julie manno. And I found Julie through her Instagram feed, which there'll be a link in the show notes and on the website, definitely definitely definitely check it out. She breaks down relationship quotes and relationship tools in these amazing little I won't call them memes, but just like infographics that I find personally very valuable. And that's why I wanted to have her on to talk about what she's putting out and she's clearly very passionate about it. And she tends to focus on attachment styles and that's what her and I talk about today. I have to say like four pages of notes, usually I'm mad about two pages of notes. I got four. I was just scribbling nonstop. I really, really loved today's conversation where we dive into attachment styles and how they affect our relationships and how to use the knowledge of attachment styles to resolve conflict and create more connection and Julie is a marriage and family therapist, licensed clinical professional counselor speaker and the author of secure love relationship healing skills in scripts. And you are just going to love this show. I was super energized after talking with Julie as always. Thank you guys so much for tuning in. I really appreciate it and just so thankful to be able to have people like Julian and have interesting discussions and be able to share it with you. Enjoy today's show. Hi, Julie, thanks so much for joining me on the show today. Hi, thank you for having me. I found your Instagram feed in absolutely fell in love with it, as I told you in the pre show. And I just think it's so great how you break things down into these really cute infographics and it's got a lot of really valuable information. Of course, we're going to link to that Instagram feed in the show notes and on the website. And you talk a lot about attachment styles. So I was thinking we could start with talking about attachment styles, how they affect relationships and we'll go from there. So what made you want to focus on attachment styles in your practice or at least on your Instagram feed? It seems like that's a big focus. Well, I think that the idea of attachment in relationships can be very having knowledge about your attachment style and your partner's attachment style can be very containing, it can help. You understand yourself. It can help you understand your partner. So when I'm working with a couple, my goal is three things. My goal is one to at the end of the day, the goal would be to create higher levels of emotional connection and intimacy and the ability to kind of navigate life together solve problems make decisions. And so I go backward from there and backward from that would be learning healthy communication skills and learning ways to emotionally support each other. So that Bond is there. And if we look at that all through an attachment lens, then we're understanding what is emotional support. Well, emotional support is basically feeling like you're attachment needs are met, which is I feel valued. I feel understood. I feel validated. I feel appreciated. And so I'm just, you know, kind of helping couples learn to communicate in ways that they're always sending those messages, no matter what they're saying if it's, you know, I need for you to keep the bathroom cleaner. And the response is, okay, so you know, obviously you're needing the bathroom cleaner, and I hear you and here's how I'm going to handle that, right? And that might not exactly be, okay, yes, I'll keep the bathroom cleaner. I don't know if I'm giving the perfect example here, but however, the couple navigates that the responsiveness, which is I'm willing to hear you is a met attachment need, meaning I hear you. I want to understand your perspective. Absolutely. And it's so important, I've just had this revelation for myself in the last couple months. And I always knew my attachment style was important to understand. But I didn't understand just how much it was affecting me personally and in relationships. And I've taken the quiz in the past. There's online quizzes you can take, which is important to understand your attachment style, and I realize I'm anxiously attached. And the more I paid attention to it, the more I realized how much it can negatively affect me day to day. And now I'm super excited about this revelation because it's like, if I can better understand myself, better share this information with my partner, I'm going to have a better life. So selfishly, I'm going to start with having you maybe talk a little bit about anxious attachment style, what it means to a person, how they can understand it and the important things to communicate to their partner. Sure. So to kind of take that back to how I was saying, we're looking for a way that couples can communicate with each other in a attachments. Healthy way and an emotionally safe way. So understanding the attachment styles is an efficient way to understand what a person's blocks are going to be to creating emotional safety and to giving and receiving emotional support. And so anxious partners, what happens is they grew up in an environment where their reaches to their caregivers as far as for emotional support or for help or just connection, right? Just hugs and cuddling, you know like children like. And they were unpredictably responded to. So sometimes they got a response and sometimes they didn't. So what they had to do is they had to develop these strategies to get responded to and a lot of times that meant protesting, crying, getting big, sometimes becoming critical, sometimes being angry. And what they learned is that sometimes that would get a response and some response is better than no response. And so then they take those strategies into the relationship later and in adult relationships and what happens is is that because these children later adults never experience healthy responsiveness from a loved one, they don't know what to look for. So they often just kind of fall into relationships with other people who don't know how to be responsive because they don't know what else they just don't know, you know, what else they don't have the self experience of being responded to even though they have the fault of experience of the pain of not being responded to. So it's kind of this mystery in their mind, and that's why it can be really helpful to understand your attachment style because you can

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A highlight from Listener Calls

Dr. Drew Podcast

05:14 min | Last week

A highlight from Listener Calls

"Doctor pinsky, Twitter at Dr. Drew and also TikTok at Dr. Dre tried to do some live pods there. Live, what do you call them Sessions, I guess. And also doctor a TV we're doing live streaming shows mostly Tuesday Wednesday Thursday but sometimes we mix it up throughout the week, but at least three times a week we're getting on there with very interesting guest. As I said today, we are just going to be doing your calls. So let's get right to it. This is Sam. Sam what's going on? Uh oh. Hold on. There you are. Sand what's up? Hey, how are you doing, doctor Marley? Good, mommy. What's up, jeans? Hey, so I have a brown question. It's kind of weird. It's been happening to me a lot lately and I've been wanting to ask you. So whenever I go Brown my nose starts running, it's every single time. Not to blow my nose. Interesting. Have you ever heard of that? I mean, nose blowing and nasal congestion is a funny thing. People, it's a product of our autonomic nervous system, right? Something causes the vessels in our surface of our nose to dilate, and that dilation causes fluid to come out and that's what you're blowing out. And that vaso dilatation can be caused by lots of different things for some people at sexual arousal for some people it's urinating for some people's defecating. It's just a leftover function when you learn how to control your bowels probably that there was some sort of honor. Your body had a reaction to it in some way. And or maybe it's just part of your wiring. Maybe it doesn't even develop. Maybe it's just that that's your wiring. It doesn't mean anything. It really does it. It could be a nuisance, like a yacht, a lot of people get it with sexual arousal or orgasm and it sort of they start sneezing and things and it can be unpleasant for the partner or something they want to try to control. But nothing, it's good browning. Good browning, my friend. It's all good. All right, well, I appreciate it. Thanks, Sam. And what Sam was talking about, calling me a mommy and all that is that your mom's house where I have a podcast called doctor drift argument. I'm going to check it out. It's also a YouTube. You get that you can find on doctor dot com. And we have a lot of fun over there. I swear to God, the booth boys and I have been getting it on quite interestingly. And I just went down to Austin this last week and had a bunch of reunions, so here we go. Are you guys in a real studio yet or is it still in Annie's living room? It's sort of extra bedroom. But I like that. I like the cake. You know, I like chaos. Sure. And so a million followers on YouTube and we're doing it out of the guys. But they're all moved down there. And it has a beautiful house, by the way. It's not an apartment. It's a really nice house. Okay. And they've done a great job setting up the studio, but it's clearly fly by night and we have a handwritten sign behind me. Yeah. But I've seen it. It's an interesting look. It's just I guess what I'm sitting here is a listener kind of confused by and I'm sure Tom, I could send Tom off a ledge if I were to bring this up. But I thought the whole point of moving to Texas, people don't fuck with you. How is it so hard to build a studio? It has something to do with where they're building and I think in the city. They're building an Ian Austin. Okay. And you're right. People that he's having more trouble with the construction than he expected. I don't know if it might be even like materials and things. Now, that would make sense, but the way he's playing it off on the podcast is as though it's a regulatory problem. I know, I know. I'm a short pissed him off. I'm confused as a California. It seems appealing to me to flee to a state where no one's going to fuck with me. And then I hear about these people trying to do it. And they have all the money in the world. Yes. And I will tell you, there is no masks in Texas. Yeah. Except visiting Californians and New Yorkers. Oh, your mind drew. You don't have to go to Texas. Come down to our county. It is on. That's why we that's why we hide out down there. But it is interesting how this mask thing has become a social phenomenon, not a medical issue at all. Oh, it's a virtue signaling, I'm a good person type of thing. It seems. It's weird. Yeah, it's a different world down in Orange County. There's a 30 miles. There was a great study. I haven't talked about on this podcast. We're a Stanford researcher, looked at Stanford students, riding bicycles. I think I talked about this. You talked about it on a and D, which is essentially revealed 20% helmet wearing, 60% mask wearing. Outdoors riding a bike with let's just state the facts. Zero probability of COVID transmission outdoors riding a bike. Zero row. This virus does not move through a moving air. It can't. And so zero probability, high probability in your head riding a bike. And yet the smartest students in the country are over there, just biking away, we're in their masks. Good times. I went right in the other day and somebody recoiled for me because I didn't have a mask on. That is that's not science everybody. And by the way, the whole notion of follow the science, I think that's a misguided notion. Science is a discourse. It's a dialog. It's not the interpretation of science as a social phenomenon. It's not science. Let me talk to Sam. Sam what's going on?

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A highlight from 327: Difficult Life Situations And How To Navigate Them

Relationship Advice

07:17 min | Last week

A highlight from 327: Difficult Life Situations And How To Navigate Them

"So as always, thank you guys for tuning in. Hope you enjoy today's show. Today's episode is brought to you by our online course, spark my relationship. Do you guys want to create more passion, improve your communication and build a stronger, more intimate connection with your partner in less than 90 days? Yes. Then you guys need to check out our online course, spark my relationship. It is an online course. Like I mentioned, that we created with over 15 therapists and psychologists to bring you guys these strategies, marriage therapists teach their clients. We talk about it on the show relationships, take work. Sometimes they function pretty easily and you coast along, but we've found the reality is as you have to do work sometimes and to make them better to change them so that they're more satisfying for both partners. And you've made it here, you've made it to listening to our show. So you guys probably already know that a little bit, but what you might not know are the specific tools and exercises that you need to create those lasting and positive improvements in your relationship. And like chase said, change does not happen on its own. It takes hard work. And that's why we created the course. Spark one relationship is designed to infuse your life and relationship with fresh passion skills and wisdom. And it's a self paced journey that's perfect for turning up the heat, having some fun together and revolutionizing your intimacy and communication. And just some tools and strategies that the course includes is to how to eliminate unhelpful, old habits, develop mindful awareness to help improve your stress management, learn healthy and successful communication tools, create a deeper and more intimate bond and strengthen your couple microculture, which you will find out what that is. In the future together. So for our listeners only, we're offering a special of $100 off the course, visit spark my relationship, dot com slash unlock to unlock your discount. And there is a 30 day money back guarantee, so there really is no reason to not give it a try. So go to spark my relationship dot com slash unlock for a $100 off. Hi, Dan, thanks so much for joining me on the show today. Thank you. Thanks for having me. Dan, I have not read your book, but I read an excerpt in the general idea in I thought it is a super powerful story to be able to share with our listeners. So I thought we could start by having you tell us what motivated you to write the book and what it's about. Sure. Well, let me give you a bit of the background factually what the story was and that will tell you what it's about. I think and the why is, you know, that's a complicated question and a little bit of a complicated answer. But I'll try to I'll try to present it in a way that is useful. So when my then girlfriend eventually my wife she is now deceased, when we met we were 19 years old, we were on campus. In college and we dated all through college and then I went to law school. We dated then and got married before my third year of law school. Proceeded on to have a family. We had three children. I was working on my career, my wife, Susan was going to grad school at night. We were building a life building a family. And then at 40 Susan was diagnosed with a minor brain hemorrhage that revealed a something called a cavernous angioma in her brain, which is a malformation of veins that shouldn't be there. And unfortunately, sometimes those veins will bleed. And if cavernous angioma occurs, elsewhere in your body, it's not really a very big deal. They happen all the time. But if it occurs in your brain, particularly the very middle of your brain, which is where Susan had this happen. There isn't much they can do about it. It's not in a place that can be surgically reached and so she had this minor brain hemorrhage, and then two years later, unfortunately, she had quite a severe brain hemorrhage that left her severely impaired in all sorts of ways. Affected virtually all the functions of the brain, including personality, what neurologists refer to as executive function, as well as her sight. Her ability to speak, her ability to get around. So she went from being who she was to me for the 20 plus years that we had been together at that point. To someone who was really struggling and was vastly changed. I wrote the book to get to your second part of your question. I wrote the book because I didn't find very much as I was going through the experience of being Susan's caretaker and raising our children and running my career. And by the way, that went on for the next 15 years for me. And then after about 15 years, Susan and I separated in a few years later, Susan passed away. As I was going through all of that, I didn't find very much to read or to listen to or to speak to, even by way of finding a person who had had a similar experience. Unusual, it's brutal. It's very difficult. And I thought I wanted to write it down, partly because as a lawyer, I've always been a writer, but a different kind of writer, so writing comes sort of naturally to me as a way of expressing myself and my thoughts. And it also I thought would make a record that other people could look to to try to understand the dimensions of this kind of human experience. And the way I wrote it was really to be brutally honest. I mean, it's a very tough accounting of what happened. And I'm sort of unsparing in

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A highlight from Best Of: Sexy & Self-Aware w/ Lewis Howes & Lisa Bilyeu

Sex With Emily

00:57 sec | Last week

A highlight from Best Of: Sexy & Self-Aware w/ Lewis Howes & Lisa Bilyeu

"Ask yourself a simple question. Why do these things have power over me? The ultimate human being does not allow for past things to own him to control and consume his energy in his thoughts. He has power and control over his parents fighting with him. Whatever happened, the girlfriend dumping him. He doesn't allow the past to conserve his mind and control him. You're listening to sex with Emily. I'm doctor Emily, and I'm here to help you prioritize your pleasure and liberate. The conversation around sex. I like to think of Lisa Billie and Lewis howes as leaders in the self awareness world, especially when it comes to relationships. Both Lisa and Lewis are incredibly successful. She went from housewife to cofounder of a $1 billion business. He went from picked last for dodgeball to pro athlete, New York Times bestselling author and Uber successful podcaster.

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A highlight from Money, Grief, Kids

Call Your Girlfriend

05:06 min | Last week

A highlight from Money, Grief, Kids

"Same. And I really feel like just leaving it at gratitude is the right is the right move when we are dealing with this particular American holiday. I really like I really just want to focus on that. And I am grateful to hear your voice today. A pleasure today and always. Same same same. Another friend that I am very grateful and thankful for is who I talk to today. Oh my God, you mean like for this episode. Yeah, I mean, for this episode, can you tell that I'm like rusty at doing intros because they don't do them anymore? I love that. I'm so excited to listen. And I also, you know, any time it's like a friend of a friend, I have a special interest where I'm like, it's like me, eavesdropping on what goes on with my friends in law and you and conversation. It's like the biggest treat. While let me tell you about today's amazing guest who is also one of my favorite writers. This is like this is kind of like you, it's one of my favorite stories when you read someone before you meet them, and you're like, oh, I was a fan of your ideas and now I know you as a human. It makes me happy. But today's guest is Ariel levy who is a staff writer at The New Yorker. She is also written many books, namely, female chauvinist pegs, and her incredible memoir, the rules you're not apply. She is also the co author of Demi Moore's memoir inside out. If you haven't listened to that on audiobook, you're really missing out. And Ariel's like us. She's an media entrepreneur, so her latest foray is in podcasting. And she is the host of this kind of like memoir like podcast on Liz Lang. Do you know who's Lilith sling is? Yes, I think, but I will confess that I know only because I read like a related article that Arielle wrote tied to the podcast. I don't know if I would have known. Please explain. Amazing. Well, I am obsessed with Liz Lang because I like fashion, but Liz Lang revolutionized maternity wear in the 90s. And the podcast is called the just enough family, and it offers insights on Liz's family, the steinbergs. They're basically like a tabloid fixture family in 20th century, New York. Our very own Kardashians before reality TV. And two words. I can't wait. No, truly. And the podcast is truly amazing and I really mean that it is like memoir like. And like all things Ariel, it's just like very riveting and very personal. And so I was excited to talk to her about what she's been up to about what it was like. Doing this podcast and also what's that going on in her world right now? Kyle guy. It's time you had the time. Say. You desperate somebody. To get up. I'm so excited to listen. I also have been reading her writing forever and so this is just a double bonus for me like friend of friend plus writer I've been reading for ages. I can't wait to listen. I just love deeply curious person who is not judgmental and just lets their curiosity unfold for everyone. That has been a true highlight of reading Ari and also like now hearing her be a podcast host. It's the best. I'm Arielle levy and I'm the host of the just enough family podcast and I'm a writer at The New Yorker magazine. Oh my gosh. Wow, when we have royalty come visit the park. Well, you know, it's good to be here today and meet our thanks for rolling out the red carpet. You know, this is this is it. This is it, man. It's sorry we didn't send you snacks or some water or some, you know. I'm in my bathtub, I've got my snacks. I've got it all. I love it. We're both recording from the bathroom today. That makes me very happy. The only place to be. You know, sometimes it is the quietest room in the house. It's definitely the nicest room in my house. Well, you're a podcast right now. I've been a longtime podcaster. Tell me about your transition into podcasting because wow. Well, I thought it was fun that you went with a whole microphone to interview people. It's just a very different, you know, I'm used to sitting trying to get people to tell me things with like a pad and a pen. So sitting there, you don't record people when you're like going to Diana Naya's house. You don't have a recorder with you. You're writing this down? Well, no. I have my stupid iPhone reporting. Or I used to have, you know, like, a little tape recorder.

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A highlight from Lisa Feldman Barrett || Surprising Truths about the Human Brain

The Psychology Podcast

08:02 min | Last week

A highlight from Lisa Feldman Barrett || Surprising Truths about the Human Brain

"Barrett is among the top 1% most cited scientists in the world and has been called the most important affective scientist of our time. In this episode, doctor barret reveals what the true function of the brain is, and it's not for thinking. We also discussed the impact of past experiences on our cognition and what we can do to overcome our own detrimental patterns. Further into our discussion, doctor Lisa Feldman Barrett challenges the traditionally held view that emotions are universal. In her own theory of constructed emotion, she argues that variability in emotional expression exists due to socialization and language differences. We also touch on the topics of hallucinogens, culture, education, relationships, and authoritarianism. This was a really stimulating conversation, and while we don't see eye to eye on everything, she really brought into my mind and has me thinking of new ways of thinking about emotions and the brain. So now I bring you, doctor Lisa Feldman, Barrett. Doctor Barrett, so great to chat with you today on the psychology podcast. It's really great to be on the podcast. Thanks so much for having me. I've wanted to talk to you for a really long time. You're a real leader in this field and the way that you think about it is quite quite unique and different from some of the things that a lot of people are even still being taught in introductory psychology textbooks. True. We got to update this. We've got to do this. Now you started your research career in we started your career as a clinical psychologist. Is that right? So that was your dream of going to clinical? I don't know that I would say that was my dream. That was just where I ended up certainly. Fair enough. Yeah, you know, I had the choice to take the more academic route in cognitive psychology or the more academic route in actually or potentially practice space route in clinical psychology and for number of reasons chose clinical psychology, but you know, my adviser was a social psychologist. I had one clinical in one social adviser, so I would say I always had like one foot out the door. You know, even when I was training to be a clinician, I'm glad that I have clinical training. I think it's actually served me really well in my research career, but. Early on, it became clear to me that I just really loved research and I really loved the science end of things. Yeah, and you're curious about everything because you've really, you started adding on other fields that you started integrate into your work. But you see that even early in your career, you know, where you're spend a decade training in psychophysiology and neuroanatomy and neuroscience and actually after I was a professor. So. You know, and eventually I made my way back to cognitive and other even adding on other fields. So I think that's one, you know, maybe one thing that. Marks my work is different or the work that I do with my colleagues and the lab that I developed, so all my peeps over the years is that, you know, we read broadly and we draw broadly from a number of different disciplines with in psychology and also outside psychology. And that just gives you a really different perspective on psychological questions, psychological mechanisms and the underlying biological basis of those mechanisms. Yeah, I completely agree. And I was really excited to see you get into evolutionary developmental neuroscience and cultural evolution, systems engineering. All of these kind of perspectives give you a systems view of the brain, which is, I mean, it's so clear how that links to your theory of emotions. Because if you take very discreet view of emotions as a very modular view, I should say, right? You could see how that's in some ways antithetical from a broader systems or network perspective or could be. Yeah, exactly. I think, you know, early on, it occurred to me that in psychology, really throughout the history of psychology. So psychology really, the history of the field where the field comes from is, you know, that in the 19th century, physiologists and neurologists and philosophers realized that there was the possibility of using the mechanisms and the labs, the lab procedures and so on of neurology and physiology to search for the physical basis of mental categories that have existed really in mental philosophy going all the way back to ancient Greece. And when you take that approach, it sort of suggests to you a very modular approach where a word like episodic memory or semantic memory or anger or sadness or fear refers to some specific set of psychological processes or a process which can be found in some modular part of the brain. But when you start with the brain and the nervous system and how it develops and how it evolved, and then you ask yourself, well, if you know where certain type of creature with certain type of nervous system in a certain type of brain, how is it that, you know, nervous system in the context of other brains and nervous systems? Of other people. How does that produce the thoughts and feelings and mental events that we have in that we experience in this culture, but that are not general to all cultures in the world, right? So you have really a single kind of nervous system architecture that can create many different types of minds. And so how does that work exactly? And it's not denying the fact that we feel anger and sadness and fear, but it doesn't presume that there are ancient circuits for these emotions embedded somewhere in some ancient beast lurking in your brain somewhere. It's a very different approach to start with the biology and then ask started asking questions about the psychology than doing it the other way around. Yeah. Yeah, I mean, I know that a question a big question you're interested in is why do we have a brain? Why? Does the brain exist it's so metabolically expensive and you've given answers such as it for regulation of our senses and for prediction. I know that prediction is a big one. And I've described the brain as a prediction machine. But I want to take the question one step further because even more intriguing to me is why do we have a neocortex, like why not just a brain, but why do I say we mean me and you? Humans, why do we have a prefrontal cortex? Why do we have a lateral prefrontal cortex? Yeah, so let me just say that there's really debate amongst evolutionary evolutionary neuroscientists as to whether the neocortex is actually new. Right? So there's some there's one way of looking at evolution, brain evolution, which suggests that the neurons that create the so called neocortex, the more neutral term is isocortex. Actually, our present in all vertebrates. And our even present in animals that don't have a cortex, a cerebral cortex, like birds, for example. But there are homologous neurons there.

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A highlight from Friendship - My Reliable Gift

Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel

02:02 min | Last week

A highlight from Friendship - My Reliable Gift

"Do you have a best friend? And what this best friend mean to you. And it's your best friend, your oldest friend, or is your best friend the one with whom you share the most today. Who hasn't had to ask themselves if someone is my friend? What does that friendship mean? Has that friendship outlift itself? Neither of us had really been prioritizing the friendship anymore. I think in the same way that maybe we had when we were younger doing that in preschool. I think a lot of personalities, a lot of our experiences, a lot of who we are is very intertwined at a pretty subconscious level. So much of our identities and our ego is actually weirdly intertwined and wrapped up with seeing the other appraising the other in some way. Friendship is the most free choice relationship. It's a relationship that is mutual, reciprocal, and it's very difficult to be the friend of someone for whom we are not the friend. So it has something that demands equity. There's just tensions that exist between us too. And we're both kind of strong personalities and there's a little bit of competitive spirit that comes from that. I mean, it really is like a brotherly relationship in that way. There's just been kind of drifting apart. So long, I've always thought of him as my best friend. I think only maybe in the past year or two, I've really started to question that. Everybody has questioned their friendships at some point in their lives. And I wanted to explore that unique relationship called my best friend. I think that one of the essential questions I understood that you have between both of you

A highlight from and for that, I am Truly Thankful!

It’s not Normal, It’s Toxic-rid your life of toxic people

07:06 min | Last week

A highlight from and for that, I am Truly Thankful!

"Listening to it's not normal. It's toxic. Read your life of toxic people. This is doctor Heidi, your toxic relationship, awareness and healing specialist. Again, back for another episode. This week in the United States, we are celebrating our Thanksgiving. And so today's episode is going to correlate with the Thanksgiving holiday. We all have things that we can say every day that we're thankful for. We're thankful for food and we're thankful for our bid and we're thankful for our family. And those among a long list of other things that we can pop right off the top of our head and say we're thankful for. I started thinking about the things that have transpired in my life and I'm pretty much someone who feels like things happen just like they're supposed to. And it took me a long time to get to that point. But when I look back over my life, there's a lot of things that I am super thankful for that at the time, I probably wasn't. When I was going through it or when I was in the middle of it or at certain stages in my life, the things that I'm thankful for today, I definitely wasn't thankful for then. But before you stop listening, thinking, oh, here we go. It's another Thanksgiving speech. I think this is going to be better than you think. Many of you that are listening right now, you feel stuck. Stuck in a relationship, stuck in a cycle of in and out of a relationship, ups and downs of a relationship. You're stuck in co parenting, you're stuck in maybe you're out, but you're stuck in the struggling of the aftermath of a toxic relationship. So today I want to talk about some of the things that looking back I am thankful for. I am thankful I was born to a dairy farmer. My dad worked all the time. Okay, I'm sure every dairy farmer hopes that they have a son who can then help them work and take over the farm. My dad didn't he had three daughters. And it's not that we didn't help. But I remember some of the things that I had to do when I was younger, hated it. You know, my dad worked all the time. He ran this farm by himself. It wasn't a big farm, but he still had to be with the cows at the same time every morning. And at the same time every night. So our days when I was growing up were pretty much the same every day. My mom worked part time and raised us. We were around people that worked, and it was part of what happened during the day. But I remember we used to have to move irrigation pipe. I loathed moving irrigation pipes. So when my dad would come down to wake me up because it was time to go do that, I would pretend I was sleeping. Okay, no one could have slept through the things that my dad did to try and wake me up. But I kind of played possum. And I remember there was times he would actually untuck the blankets off the foot of the bed, grab my feet and pull me out the bottom. And then I would go pouting out to the field because I hated doing this. And by the time it was done, we actually would have fun. And it wasn't nearly that bad until the next morning when we had to move irrigation pipe again. But we were never afraid to work. We never other than the irrigation pipe. As we grew up, we adopted that type of work ethic. So I've always been a worker. I've always had a lot of energy. I'm always looking to do better to try more to work harder and I think it was because that was instilled in us. You know, we didn't know we were struggling. My dad visited me one time when I was in grad school and he apologized for me and my sisters not having the same things that the other kids had growing up. And I remember going oh, really, I didn't even notice. So for me being able to develop the work ethic that I have and for me being able to see that the things that are important to me are the things that money can't buy for that I am thankful. Being born in Montana. Who is lucky enough to be raised in big sky country. You know, I'm a country girl at heart. I grew up in the country, my closest neighbor was two miles away, and it was my grandma. I'm a fresh air campfires, horse rides, boat rides, Harley rides, I love being outside, except the older I get the colder I get. And I always thought I would move back to Montana. I have now decided I probably will never live in Montana again. I don't like the 8 months of winter. But I do like I do like occasionally visiting and I am actually headed there next week. So have to ship my parka and my boots because I don't need them where I live. But even though I don't live there anymore, being raised in such a beautiful country was a blessing. And all the way up until a few years ago, I really felt that Montana was my home. Because I had a lot going on in a former relationship and a former marriage, yet I could never make the feeling of home happen within this house that I was trying to raise a family. And so I always felt like Montana was my home. When I went to visit my family, I was going home. And that is where my home always was because I never ever felt really safe anywhere else. Until now. My home is where my husband is. The man that I'm married to now, I always say I could live in a box with this man. Until, of course, he says I have to live in a box, and then it might be a different story. But it isn't the location. It isn't how big your house is. It isn't how much land you have is, isn't the amount of possessions or how your house is decorated. Home is where you are safe. And all the way up until the time that I met the man that I married to now, Montana was my safe place. Locations, buildings, possessions, they do not make a home. I learned that love and the people with in the house that love you is what makes a home. And for that

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A highlight from S13E5: The Pressure To Settle Down w/ Bernice Ye

Dateable Podcast

02:42 min | Last week

A highlight from S13E5: The Pressure To Settle Down w/ Bernice Ye

"The podcast is an insider's look into modern dating that The Huffington Post calls one of the top ten podcasts about love and sex. On each episode, we'll talk to real daters about everything from sex parties to sex droughts, date fails to diaper fetishes and first moves to first loves. I'm your host ue shoe, former dating coach turned dating sociologist. You also hear from my co host and producer Julie Kraft chick as we explore this crazy dateable world. Hello, dateable, welcome to another episode of the date of podcast, where we are going to dissect everybody's motives when it comes to dating, but also eat all the Turkey. We can this week. Because this is the only week anybody's eating Turkey. Am I right? Who else? What else are you eating Turkey? It is a big voluntarily. A big week for all. Big week for turkeys. Happy Thanksgiving to all of our listeners. First did four Bose, but what are your Thanksgiving plans you ate? I don't think we've actually caught up on this even. No, we have it. My partner and I are going down to my parents house and the four of us plus our two dogs are going to have a very festive Thanksgiving together. My mom really loves it when during the holidays, there seems to be a lot of commotion. She feels like you need a you need a noisy holiday. She always says that. Feels more festive. So we're gonna bring the dogs obviously because they're noisy and we're gonna make all the sides but my mom's gonna make the goose. We're not doing Turkey. She's making goose. So you will not be having all the Turkey. Well, I will still have Turkey as someone's house. I just know it. You know, there's gonna be leftover Turkey as someone's house. I will have Turkey at some point this weekend, but on that actual day we will be having goose and all the other fun sides. What about you, Julie? I am going to my friend's mother's house, so I'm adopted into her home for Thanksgiving. I will not be traveling back, but she was kind enough to invite myself and my boyfriend and one of her other friends and then her parents. So she said expect to get really fucked up and to eat a lot of food. With the mom or the friend, my friend said that. Oh man, I was hoping the mom. But she might have said that too. I just, I got it secondhand. So it should be a good Thanksgiving, but also it is Hanukkah starting odd Sunday this weekend. Is that early from Hanukkah? So Hanukkah comes on different times all the time. So usually it falls around Christmas ish. But no, it's very early this year. So I will be getting my cooking energy out by doing hanukah celebration. Wow, that's

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A highlight from Ready to Get Naughty?

Sex With Emily

01:11 min | Last week

A highlight from Ready to Get Naughty?

"People have been asking me, so what's changed after 15 years of doing the podcast? Well, a lot has, but to be honest, the orgasm gap still remains a challenge for so many couples. You know what I'm talking about? Men tend to finish before their female partners. So you've heard me talk about promethean for years, so urologists developed FDA compliant delay spray can help men last up to 64% longer without loss of sensation, and because promession is quickly absorbed into the penis, it won't transfer to your partner. Oh, and speaking of your partner, I think we can all agree that sometimes women, even when alone still have challenges around reaching orgasm. So now, promession is created a new female arousal gel. I love it. It's a clitoral stimulant she can rub into her clitoris for grease pleasure and a lot more satisfaction during pretty much any sexual activity you can think of. So now, they got promes and delay space for ham, arousal gel for her, so basically they're closing the orgasm gap on both sides. Trust me, try this combo thank me later. Seriously, right into feedback at sex with Emily dot com and tell me how it went. I want to know. So try for message today. Go to sex with Emily dot com slash enhance. That's my site sex with Emily dot com slash EN HNC

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Why airport security is so slow and how the TSA and airlines are trying to fix it

Savage Lovecast

00:59 sec | Last week

Why airport security is so slow and how the TSA and airlines are trying to fix it

"The white man of the Minneapolis St. Paul international airport said that last week when he was getting arrested for threatening the life of a TSA agent at a security checkpoint. I don't know if this guy had a ticket and was supposed to fly that day or he just rolled into the airport looking for trouble, but he was unruly. He wasn't following the rules because freedom, which is just another word for rules or optional for white men. This guy was told to move away from the checkpoint by a TSA agent, but as he said it's a free country. And in a free country, men can do what they want and what this guy wanted to do at that moment was pick up a metal stanchion and swing it at the TSA agent's head. It didn't land, he missed, and he was arrested. Again, I don't know if this guy had a ticket to fly somewhere that day, but if he did, I'm really glad he showed us who he was before getting on an airplane. Because I don't want to read another story or see another

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A highlight from George Civeris and Sam Taggart

Couples Therapy

05:52 min | Last week

A highlight from George Civeris and Sam Taggart

"Hello, everyone and welcome to couples therapy. My name is Naomi. And my name is Andy. And we're a real life couple. A real couple of comedians. And on couples therapy, we answer a couple of questions from a couple of listeners. Ain't nothing too sister or boy. We just, we literally just ended the special Twitch show the couples therapy quarantine party, and mental health check and Twitch show. It was a wonderful time with one glaring exception. And that was literally the entire hour running around the apartment looking up fuzz from the ground. At one point, she went behind the TV and I had to free her from a tangle of cords. So wild. Sorry, you gone. Well, we just chillin the whole dang day. And then the moment we gotta do something, we got company over so to speak. Yeah, that's what I was gonna say. I was gonna say, it's like the miniature open your heart is loose in your butt. She's like, time to fucking go. Off. Time to fuck. Shit on. That's like her. Do you think maybe Naomi, not to like think that she's like the manchurian candidate or something? But do you think that was a code word for her? Her former owner, using the word butts, maybe. Yeah, it hurts and she hears hearts and butts. She's like, oh, time to go crazy. Flip a switch. Time to go ham. Jon ham. When did that even come from the phrase, go hang out? I do not know, 'cause it's like, if anyone listening knows, please tell me I don't feel like searching the Internet. It's just tell me and whatever you say, I believe. Well, it comes from pork farmers. 1930s does bowl. I get what it is to pig out. You know? Eat like a big old pig. Sure. But to go ham, ham is meat. You said it's so much like Jerry blank there. Thank you very much. To Peter Peter. So folks, we got comments. We get comments all the time. I can't play them all. No, we do. But they're only so many hours a day, okay? But I do try to I will say this too, by the way, if you are going to call in to either leave a comment or a voicemail advice question. Try to do it from like a quiet place from knowing that the cell connection is pretty good. Because there have been a couple of recently where it was just I couldn't hear it. It was while you're watching a quiet place because that's a pretty silent film. Or let go to the top of a cell tower near your house. Climb to the top of a cell tower. Because it really does break my heart a little bit because I'm like, someone's calling it and being kind of vulnerable. And it's just like. My dad. My soul. I feel bad because you don't know. You just think we've rejected your question. Right. Right, right, right. I will tell you this. If your question is clear, we will use it on the show at some point. At some point at some point. All right, but so if you remember pat Regan's episode. A caller had called in and they said that they have just come out as non binary. And they want to know the best way to tell their coworkers. They work in a pretty corporate environment. How do they tell their coworkers? And we had some ideas. Some other people had some ideas. So let me read this. This came to us, I think, from Instagram. High end in Naomi. I love your podcast. I never thought I'd send anything in, but I was listening to the dilemma of the most recent episode regarding pronouns and I actually had a recent experience with this. A good way to quote unquote come out without putting in too much emotional labor is putting your pronouns in their email signature, especially in a remote work environment. It's a clear way to show how they wish to be addressed. As for the recent experience, if interested, a client put their pronouns in their signature and my conservative boss was baffled by this. I ended up doing the emotional labor in this scenario to walk him through, but and then the shrug Y lady emoji. Anyway, I hope the caller finds a solution that works best for them. Also, if they are in the U.S., the great, the great resignation is happening. So make your boss uncomfortable. We're all on staffed. Who cares? What could they really do about it? That is real talk. XO XO. Okay. And then we got a voicemail. Oh, we love it. So listen to this. Hi, Andy and Naomi. And illustrious guest. I just pause the episode with pat Reagan to share my insight on the listener who called in asking about their pronoun update while working in a corporate space. I am also non binary. I say them pronouns. And I also prevent very Sam and work in a core space. And I was very fortunate when I started in this role a few months ago that I started out with my pronouns and I am in a space where that was receptive. However, I do work with finance adults, I guess. Finance people. So it is new for them. But what I have found was very helpful, which is sort of as kudos to my boss is taking the time to ask me about it. I was able to ask him how he suggested how he would suggest I bring it up in meetings where we have external shareholders that we're speaking with. And he said that he would take that on as his responsibility. And introduce me with my pronouns, which he does still do and that was very nice. But in times where he wasn't around as much and I could hear my coworkers. Misgendering me a lot.

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A highlight from What Can You Really Afford?

The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

07:36 min | Last week

A highlight from What Can You Really Afford?

"Through 25 seasons. Hey. 4561 episodes. I believe The Oprah Winfrey Show was one of the greatest classrooms in the world. A world never thought of it that way. The aha moments, the breakthroughs, the LOLs, the connections, the occasional, ugly cry. I miss him so terribly, I miss it every single minute. The moments that mattered. The eye opening, life lessons. Never allow them to take you somewhere else. I'm bringing them back. It's time to open the vault. I personally chosen these classic episodes to share with you again. Every single person you ever will meet, shares that common desire. They want to know. Do you see me? Do you hear me? That's what I say, mean anything to you. You are listening to The Oprah Winfrey Show. The podcast. So are you thinking that you can afford that new SUV because of 0% financing? Maybe you believe that now is a time to buy a new house because interest rates are at an all time low. Well, you all know Suzy orman, she's the author of three bestselling books, including the road to wealth. She is here to crunch the numbers and help you figure out exactly what you can really afford. Suzie says, most people are living in denial about what they can really afford. And now is not the time to be in denial. Now if there was ever a time it is not now when the economy is not supporting your denial. Right. They're trying to get people in denial about it because it's easier to it's easier. People really feel that they are entitled. And they want they work so hard, don't you, you work so hard. And you just want a little thing here and a little thing there. And the problem is those little things add up to a lot of debt. And then you don't want those things anymore. And then you get depressed and then you go out and how do you solve that depression? By buying more things. So it's really a normal phenomenon that we have to put a stop, too. Okay. A lot of lifelong financial struggles begin with the wedding. This is Jennifer and her fiance Jason. And they are planning a wedding next fall, and they have different ideas about what they can really afford. I have just mountains of debts right now. Credit cards. I owe on a motorcycle I have. I owe on the ring for Jennifer. I'm anticipating spending about three thousand on a dress. $3000, I think it's a good deal. I don't know. I have car payments. I still have my school debt, my tuition, I'm still paying back. The invitations that I saw and that I really loved looking for about $800 for 50. We were planning on inviting about 200 people. That was awesome a little bit. It's 16,000. I usually don't think I have that much. That's not even counting what she's got somewhere around 25,000 with all her bills. The caterer will probably be about a $125 a person. The honeymoon will probably cost about $5000 for Hawaii. I really wanna give Jennifer the wedding of her dreams, but I don't wanna end up in debt. I absolutely don't mind going in a debt for this wedding because I know in a few years Jason, my will probably be able to pay it off. I do not want to put anything on credit card. I will pay for my wedding with credit cards. I will do anything to have the wedding in my dreams. I know my budget is different than what Jennifer's budget is. I tell her 20, but I'm trying to get things more around 15. Our budget as far as I'm concerned is 25,000, but I don't have a problem going over. I'm definitely nervous when you combine both of our debts together. It makes me a lot more nervous about this wedding. And what we're gonna have to come up with to afford it. More of this conversation in just a moment. Start your day in a positive way with the Lisa show. A high energy engaging morning show. Radio personality Richie T joins award winning author comedian and mother Lisa Valentine Clark for fun, entertaining and useful conversations. Lisa's warm personality helps listeners find hope, optimism and life perspective, particularly parents who have kids at home. And Richie's good natured enthusiasm makes the show a bright spot on any playlist. Catch Lisa and Richie interviewing the latest bestselling children's author, or talking tips for improving your family's mental health with experts. Some recent topics featured include staying motivated at work. First day of school traditions, better and faster decision making. Fighting our gifts, and how to have hard conversations with family. One thing's for sure, whatever they're talking about, you'll leave feeling better than you did before. Listen to the Lisa show wherever you get your podcasts. So we tagged along with Jennifer and Jason last Saturday as they took a closer look at what their dream wedding would cost. I'm a bride. Yay. It looks beautiful. I do. If the stress was, you know, 5000. Definitely, I wouldn't care about the price that was 1500. Okay. The veil was one 80. And tiara is two 85. See where we are. It was 19. Oh my God. That's it? That's it. Well, alteration. It's gonna be probably about two 50. So 22 15? Yeah, 22 15. Right. That's good. And then tax, of course. 24 O 8. 24 O 8, not bad. It's under your budget. Yeah, under my bushy, Jason's now, I'm not sure. Oh, I like the dome. Do you like the dome on? That's nice too. I'm getting so excited. Now I know that there was a payment plan for the engagement. Do you have any kind of payment plans for the wedding for winning bands? We certainly do. We have a number of different options. We ask for a 25% deposit. And then when the ring comes in, put it on one of the finance programs. Okay. This album is called the Tiffany. I like that. Jason, bottom line is $2995. Not including tax. That's good. I have no idea how we afford them. But hunt, I mean, these are pictures they're gonna last forever. Something's gonna give that, I don't think we can afford it. The look how nice is this here, so I definitely want those. Well then you're gonna have to cut up something else. We can't afford this drink. I feel like the juhan? I love the view. Now, I'm sure you're wondering about dollars and cents. Yes. Brazilian. Which would be the ideal spot for 200 people. In $6000 on a Saturday night, not including anything, but the space. Is that correct? For the space. What are your price ranges? We are a custom cater. I can begin at a $105 and includes an open bar as well as three courses down meal, including wedding cake and pastor dirt. I think that's a good price. Option 5. Then you still have to think of how many people we want to have here though. Right. There's a 150 to 200 people coming. You think you can afford it? I know she likes the place, but I really worried it's gonna be out of our budget. I'm feeling very overwhelmed. I don't think there's any way we could pay cash for this wedding. You'd be putting bills on credit cards. We don't have very much saved up for something like this. I was thinking we could possibly save the money as we go. And when the event comes, we pay for the majority of it. But now I'm starting to see that they want to be paid well in advance of

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A highlight from Sexual Spark and Relationship Arcs

Sex With Emily

01:05 min | 2 weeks ago

A highlight from Sexual Spark and Relationship Arcs

"Get to ching on that thing. People have been asking me, so what's changed after 15 years of doing the podcast? Well, a lot has, but to be honest, the orgasm gap still remains a challenge for so many couples. You know what I'm talking about? Men tend to finish before their female partners. So you've heard me talk about Prometheus for years. So urologists developed FDA compliant delay spray can help men last up to 64% longer without loss of sensation, and because promession is quickly absorbed into the penis, it won't transfer to your partner. Oh, and speaking of your partner, I think we can all agree that sometimes women even when alone still have challenges around reaching orgasm. So now promession is created a new female arousal gel. I love it. It's a clitoral stimulant she can rub into her clitoris for breeze pleasure and a lot more satisfaction during pretty much any sexual activity you can think of. So now, they got promess and delay paper ham, arousal gel for her, so basically they're closing the orgasm gap on both sides. Trust me, try this combo thank me later. Seriously, right into feedback at sex with Emily

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A highlight from Manic Media Episode 10

The Manic Pixie Weirdo

05:43 min | 2 d ago

A highlight from Manic Media Episode 10

"The year of the eagle while you're writing a motorbike backwards upper hill. Thank you for your understand. Goodbye. What is up weirdos? You're listening to the manic pixie weirdo. I'm Abigail your host, and this is the podcast where we talk about all the different kinds of relationships that we have in our lives. And this week, we are talking to Kate. About her books. And I'm really, really excited to talk to her about these, but first, Kate, could you tell everybody a little bit about yourself and where they can find you? Oh, okay, yeah. Well, I'm a writer. I have a former teacher and other odd things. And I am, in fact, a weirdo. So this is actually the right show for me. But yeah, I am on me, I have a Facebook page, Kate Luke Casey. I've got a Facebook page finds and keepers, which is the name of the series of my books. I even have one, I do have a web page, which is ripe area publications like something that is lives along a riverbank by period publications at Squarespace. Dot com. So that's another place to find all the writing projects I have going on. Because I've actually got a book that's coming out in Japan here, one of these days. But that's another story. It's oh my gosh. That's amazing, though. That's awesome. Congratulations. Well, thank you. Yeah. So these books fines and keepers. First off, could you so I personally I read the castellano curse. And now I have to be honest. I am not usually a romance person. But I found this to be very, very intriguing because it wasn't what I expected. And it's exactly what I like in a book. So I love I love all the archeology. History, all that stuff getting woven like that stuff makes me so happy. I just love those books. And so this was like perfect. And I was looking for something new and so could you just tell everybody a little bit about first the overall series. And then a little bit about the castellana curse. Sure, yeah, the series was actually kind of I can quickly say it was inspired by from when I was a student in Rome. And I used to think it would be super creepy for events to get right off one of those walls and while those incredibly creepy tombs and be loose in Rome. And that's kind of how it started. That and finding the actual menorah under the under Rome was another fantasy of mine, but that comes up in the next book. But yeah, so it's basically archeological nerd out. With romance. And fairly steamy romance, but I've been told it's really not all that. But anyway, I'm an archeologist. I was trained as an archeologist in England and did classical archeology as my undergraduate degree at Berkeley. But I ended up thinking, oh gosh, I have to be independently wealthy in order to continue doing this because everybody at the department had like their own money. And in those days there wasn't as much science involved. And so there wasn't kind of as much good grant money. I feel like it was just like, oh, isn't this interesting? Instead, oh my God, now we're going to find out what they did to destroy their world so that we don't destroy our world, which is really something that archeology does today finding out how the Romans degraded their landscape and so forth. But speaking of degrading, yeah, so there's some really good stuff in here. So yeah, it's a weird amalgam. First look Caleb gwyn says that all your life experiences are mulch for your stories. You don't just pull directly from them and plop them down on paper, but it's where all your stories grow from. And so there's tons of my mulch in here. Oh my gosh, that's fascinating. I didn't realize that you had a background in archeology. So that makes it so much better. This is kind of semi possibly real, but see, I don't have to prove it because it's not a paper. That's kind of nice, though. That feels like a little bit of like a nice change. It feels like it would be. Yeah. You can just make stuff up if I don't know the answer. I just make it up. Yeah, there actually is a castellina and there actually is the TikTok. And there actually is a section C and so forth. But alas, there is no Jim Lewis. Thank you for finding me. My husband says, you know, I'm not Jim Lewis. And I'm like, darn. You can be based on him, though, maybe. Well, yes. Yeah, yeah. We've been married forever, so there is some of that mulch in there as well. That's so cool. So is that where you got the idea for this for this series? Like for this, from like you said, you pull from things that you know. You have to write what we know. Yeah. So how much of it would you say percentage wise is real? Yeah, how much of it is real? Let's put it this way. I'm really familiar with the topography of Rome. I've taken many student groups there. So anything involving a place is going to be real. So you can be pretty much sure that there's places in tarquinia where you can get coffee that are called those places and so forth. So if you want to nerd out and take the book and go, I want to go to bar in federal across from the national museum. You can totally do that. I would totally see.

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A highlight from 7 BEST Humor & Flirting Lines Guaranteed To Make ANY Girl Laugh!

Write Your Legend

04:59 min | 3 d ago

A highlight from 7 BEST Humor & Flirting Lines Guaranteed To Make ANY Girl Laugh!

"To not just understand women. But to be the man that writes his own legend. Now let's begin and start writing your legend. 7 simple tactics to making a woman laugh and using humor. Hi guys, my name's abilio plenty. I'm joined with coach Cynthia. Hi, how are you guys? And as a lot of you know Christian Cynthia works with me and she is an incredible coach and she helps you men really get results with women. We are coaches that help men with their attraction skills and overall in general with life and not only women, but their life overall as a whole. So I'm so excited for this video. This is gonna be fun because we're gonna talk about tactics that actually a lot of men come to us for, and that's how to use who is real live examples because we tell you guys how important it is to have humor when you're dating a woman, but how do we do that? Well, we want to give you some examples that you can relate with and start using them in your dating life. Exactly. All right, so let's get started. All right, tactic number one is using slight sarcasm. What does that even mean? It means that you're really not telling the truth, but you kind of are, but we don't know just yet, but then it can be made into a funny particular situation or comment. So a couple examples of what was one you had for a sidecar. Oh, the most common questions that guy that woman would ask, for example, is how many women have you dated? So if you don't really want to answer the questions because you have a long list. There's something you can say, not to avoid the question, but something just to spark the moment and get her to laugh. So something like, wow, let's see. Today, four tomorrow maybe 5 one day you're talking about, right? You're being sarcastic, you're not talking about how many specific women have your dated, but you're giving her an answer. And you're going to make her laugh. So I know that example of that will be when woman asks, so how old are you? Really? Anyway. So you can say something like, well, a lot more. I have a lot more years on me that I am willing to share with you today. So a lot of wisdom, I'll start with that. You know? Sarcasm is a very useful tactic for you to have fun while you're dating without really to be too boring with your answer. Yeah, I'm 40. Or you can even say something if a woman's like, how old you are, you can just say, I have an energy of a 20 year old and I have a right knee that is like a 40 year old. So in between, you guess, right? Like you just have to make fun of it yourself too, and that's what we're gonna talk about as well. So that's like using slight sarcasm. Number two, tactic number two. Calling yourself out. This is one that I love. Calling yourself out is huge and it works in your favor, especially if you're getting really, really nervous. For example, this is actually something that happened in our membership community when we were coaching and actually it happened to Cynthia. And it was a really great one with our client Ben. And he Ben has transformed so much in our membership guys. If you want to check out our membership and get ongoing coaching with us, I'm gonna put it below here in the description box so you can have this in your back pocket and always have these type of conversations one on one with us in a group setting. These are amazing, amazing tools that we're giving you in our membership and today. So calling yourself out means basically, you're not even taking yourself seriously, especially if you're getting nervous. So an example I have for you is one time in our membership call a guy wanted to work on his humor when we were doing moth dates. And so Cynthia was wearing glasses and I talk about it a lot because it was so funny. And he just basically was like, you look like my grandmother in those glasses, right? And she was like, what? And obviously grandmother, she does not look like a grandma. We all know this, right? And so he's like, and she was like, if her response was, are you trying to tell me that I look like your grandmother? And he's like, yeah. And he just met his tonality was different because he knows that it was just not real, right? And so she started cracking herself out. She started laughing. We all started laughing. Everybody on the call started laughing because he wasn't taking himself seriously and then he called himself out, basically and just being like, you know, afterwards, when they started getting comfortable, oh, you know, thanks for taking my humor. I didn't really know what to say, but I'm glad you went along with it, right? And now he's calling himself out in that moment. Or he can do something on a date and just make sure let's say that you're really nervous, which happens to a lot of people. And you're on an out of date. Maybe you can call yourself out in this way and say, you know, I get I'm kind of nervous on this date, but think God, I'm not a hand surgeon because I'll definitely probably not really do well at this point. And you know, like you're just cracking you're just calling yourself out and you're not taking yourself seriously because a lot of times women get nervous too. Yeah, the happen actually to a client of mine.

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A highlight from Episode 63 Our Relationship with Climate Change and Depression Ft Robert DiBlasio

The Manic Pixie Weirdo

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A highlight from Episode 63 Our Relationship with Climate Change and Depression Ft Robert DiBlasio

"What is that weird as you're listening to the manic pixie weirdo? I'm Abigail, you're your host, and this is the podcast where we talk about all the different kinds of relationships that we have in our lives. I wanted to give sort of a disclosure up top. If you haven't seen the title of this episode, we're going to be talking about our depression as it relates to climate change in our relationship with that. So this episode might not be for everybody. If you are a climate change denier or you don't believe in it, then this is probably not the episode for you. Unless you want to hate listen, in which case, that's totally fine. I hope you have a good laugh. Otherwise, that's what we're going to be talking about. So just be aware. And today I'm here with Robert De Blasio. From the gentle rambler's podcast. And he's going to talk with us about that. So go ahead and say hi and introduce yourself and your show. Hello, everyone. This is Robert blas at the river from New York. My show is a weekly show. This coming well, tomorrow, actually, I'd be having a special guest on my show. We'll be discussing racism and injustice system. Both here in the United States and the United Kingdom as well because my guess is from the United Kingdom. So yeah, and actually I write for a cycle dangerous globe dot com and it's a great size independent news site. I also have some editorials on there as well. So that's basically what I've, you know, want to advertise. Yes. My show will be out sometimes tomorrow evening. But I'm very excited about being here. I love your show. I've listened to it several times, and I enjoy it very much. So I'm looking forward to having our chat. Well, thank you so much, that's so nice. I've listened to your show and I'm a fan too. So let's just like, I guess dive right into it. So we're talking about our relationship with depression as it relates to climate change. And I guess it really should just be like mental health as it relates to climate change because I get a lot of anxiety when I, for example, read the most recent reports. So, I don't know. Did you read it? How do you feel about it? Well, I've done a few episodes where that was a main topic of mine. Actually, you know, in my 20s, you know, I didn't really take the climate change. Thank you seriously. You know, an Al Gore made that film about it. You know, I thought the film was a bit boring, but looking back, you know, he was right on with it. And a lot of things about climate change. I'm learning about as I go. You know, as I do research on it. And as for it affecting my mood, you know, as a father of a young of a young child, it worries me. As a future, you know, what the future holds. We've had your down in Texas so you know about the hurricanes you've been having summer or this fall summer. And it's alarming for sure. It's getting worse. I was actually arguing with some fella about how he wants to continue with the coal thing because you know for economic purposes. And it's just so entirely ignorant. We know what fossil fuels do to the ozone layer and how people can still believe that that's like a viable form of energy. I mean, I just don't get it. I mean, maybe they're from, you know, they're a little maybe on the older side and they don't, you know, or they basically they're deniers. They think it's, you know, just the earth evolving. And that's nonsense. It's definitely being the humans are causing and as for expecting about mental health. I actually a bit of a suffer of a myself. So, you know, the climate doesn't help. That aspect of it, but it certainly is something that I've become much more serious about. We had hurricane sandy up here I want to say about ten years ago. Maybe a 2012. So that was, you know, that was a real wake up call for us up here. I mean, our New Jersey shirt, we call it a lot of places got, you know, just wiped out. You know, take it out by the storm and what we just said recently. So it's not something we are used to up here. I mean, you know, you know, you know, worry about, you know, and you live up here. You don't have to worry about tornadoes or hurricanes and it's not the truth anymore. We're getting hurricane. Once or twice a year, like, actual hurricanes and it's alarming to say the least. So like has it affected like you recently, I know that there's been massive flooding and stuff like on the east coast. Yeah, actually, while I live actually, Jersey City, certain parts of flood, but, you know, where I kind of my place of employment was actually quite flooded like was like for I would say about four feet of water. And you know, actually, went through some neighborhoods where, you know, people lost everything. Everything's out in front. You know, the possessions are out front and, you know, femen was there and everything. And to me, I mean, like, you know, sandy was kind of, I didn't really go down. You know, see what exactly, you know, so most of the damage to the whole book got a lot of damage. But yeah, so I mean, to see that, you know, people I don't think they have fun insurance in that area because they're not used to the floods in those areas, you know, in New Jersey. So, you know, it was upsetting to see, you know, people losing

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