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Interview With Sarah Costello And Kayla Kaszyca

QUEERY with Cameron Esposito

05:01 min | 16 hrs ago

Interview With Sarah Costello And Kayla Kaszyca

"My dog back home wakes up at like two and four a m just ready to eat and it's joe and she's also very old so her toenails are very long like an old woman with how and so she disliked clumps around the house like my parents literally have blankets on their floor just hermit unusual visual old women. I usually old people have like really long. Like don't cutting the older. You're like fingernails get very sick. I feel like i've this is what is new inside medical knowledge. This either way. Older people. I don't i have not. I don't know my lonely knowledge that my grandmother does not have toenails. That's all i can add. All you know. They had to get them for some reason. I don't know her. Big toenails are gone. I think she has some other smaller ones. I don't know what happened her. But you know what she's kicking. So oh my god you could have that remove. Because like i didn't either but now her toes look really janke you spending with her mother. I mean not that much time. But they've been like this. Since i was like in middle school so middle middle school sara was like let peop- that was told she just constantly wear sandals even the middle of the winter in michigan. So i don't know going is getting off to a great start. This is type of looking for jordan. He's all of this has already started with the only thing i want. The episode is old woman donuts. That's why i'm here today. I mean my turn are destroyed because of for a lot of years of like being an athletic shoes. I actually kinda liked that. They're destroyed to be honest. It makes me feel like static on your hardcore thing. Yeah that's right anyway. Personally i always have guests introduce themselves. Would you to introduce yourself sure. My name is sarah I am one of the co hosts of sand lake but okay. Which is podcasts where we talk about love relationships sexuality and pretty much anything else. You just don't understand specifically from in a romantic a sexual a spec perspective and no means ace back just means like the whole spectrum of like age sexual romantic. Yeah we we use that term a lot. Because it's like very overarching and you don't have to like say all of the specific terms. Thank you for telling me a nice and short. Yeah we're lazy. Yeah yeah and then kayla who were you. I'm kayla second co host of sounds fake but okay And i identify as demi sexual hetero romantic insist gender. She her pronouns. I guess i'll just do it all i'll say. Oh yeah i. I also use pronouns just here to throw those in and i was so i have to my own humiliation. I have not had a sexual guest on the podcast until very recently Literally yesterday a chat. And i'll handle la loving and then i'm in remaining y'all these will not come out. They will not. Yesterday is the podcasting time. This will not necessarily be how people working in their in their phones. But this is this is something. I guess i want to start by asking because android this up and i thought it was like such a good point sue. Do you to personally consider yourselves like members of the key queer slash lgbtq. I a community. I asked this just because kayla. You're saying like sis and had romantic. So i don't know if as sort of generally large writ large alphabet city whether or not we talk about whether or not a sexual folks consider themselves part of the community. So what about you too. Yeah i mean. I consider myself a part of the community. I am of as a person who's aromatic andy sexual. I am of the opinion that anyone who is a spec should be able to be a part of the queer community if they want to. Some people don't feel that they want to. But i mean for me. My view is you know we don't experience attraction in the quote unquote normal way that you know since hat like people necessarily experience it and so because we are not in this particular. We don't experience sexual romantic attraction necessarily in the same way that heterosexual people do like. I consider it obvious that of course we deserve a place in this community. For that reason. I consider myself queer

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Jenni and Dee

i found HER on TikTok

04:43 min | Last week

Jenni and Dee

"So jenny or also known as julio loves you and d- st beginning On tiktok and we had the privilege of watching it unfold. And i think at first they were a little quiet about it but as it unfolded the rest of us watching. I had the privilege of just seeing their energy and their synergy across the screen. And it's really amazing. It really is a sweet love story and wanted the deserves to be shared. And we hope that you get all the fields that we got when we interviewed them. We'll be enjoy episode number four of founder on tiktok featuring jenny. andy. I i like your hair color. Thank you so much yup. Do you do that yourself. I do nice and had i known what the reactions i would get. I would have done it years ago really years ago every single day somebody stops me for my hair. Wow i love your hair and it's not like i'm saying it's because the connections because you walk around thinking people are jerks or whatever and then really not. Yeah yeah it is. Isn't it amazing purple. It's an it it just changes. Every time i wash it. Nice that's awesome. It's like a painting a room with the light. It changes you know. Yeah it's conditioner the coloring conditioner so it washes out after a while. There we go. That's our tease for the podcast. Find out secret to keeping her hair fresh purple and be tune in next week. Oliver haircut to go with this actually this well thank you so much for letting us pick your brains and we just think. Oh i know marlena talks a lot more With jenny and and communicates a lot more. But we love your story and We are so glad that you're going to be able to share it. So thank you for letting us do that. You're oko yeah it's important thing. There's my baby. I think you hear me. I can hear you saw so sweet. Your energy on tiktok is like it's amazing so we got it right now right. Well there's more but like that's the fun stuff. Yeah sure sure so. Let's talk about tiktok in general and when you got on why you got on and then we can talk about how you guys kind of connected on top okay. So i'll go first. Because i think i saw her. I believe shoes drinking a beer. Blake that the tiktok. And i didn't i didn't like interact with the video or anything i didn't interact with that one. The first one i interacted with was the china video. I think is that right. Is that right now. What which one with the first act interacted with that. They want to know first of all how you got on tiktok. I think that's that's what they're asking you. Okay thanks talk because of a pandemic of course my job shutdown and i run a small business to end that halted in so i have a lot of time over. He and I'd heard of tiktok. I've actually joined tiktok years before just to like videos or whatever but never never made my own and the first one i made was with my son It was a spider man video. That was the first tiktok. I made in. It just went from there. It was like. Wow this is fun. You know people see it and they like it Interact with you and it was fine. So that's where that all started with me.

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Author Angela Chen Discuss her book 'Ace: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex'

QUEERY with Cameron Esposito

04:33 min | 2 weeks ago

Author Angela Chen Discuss her book 'Ace: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex'

"And what. I really liked about this book because i think a sexuality something that's so unexplored culturally. It's just it's it's it's such a service to the book and also the community and yourself it's written both in a way that feels journalistic but also that feels inviting. How intentional was that. That feels like that must have been pretty intentional. It was intentional but it was also uncomfortable. So i told me more in my day job. I'm actually science and tech journalist. I do one health. I do a lot of stuff on. Ai and you know is going to take over the world and replace us you know that. Gonna stop which. There's just not a lot of room for personal narrative where you're writing about a i like it that way you know. I liked being a journalist. I like talking to other people telling their stories. So when i spilled the book i knew that it would have to be personal because it was important to me that a sexual person write this book. And if you're going to have an author you might as well use that experience. And i could be a guide of sorts people reading the book but it didn't come naturally to me because i'm not a culture reporter general or a sexual relationships reporter and i kept asking myself. Why are you doing this. This is totally a different part of your career. Even now people will be like. Are you going to buy a sexuality and unlike navy but maybe just continue writing about at so it really felt like while this was obviously an enormous privilege and honor to be able to write this book it felt like it was a necessity because it's not where my natural inclinations go toward. Okay well then. I guess my first question is are the machines taking over and when and who is the most important savior of our time. Is it sarah connor in actuality. This is actually very complicated question. I think they're not taking over yet. I'm much about climate change. That's talk on my mind but you know lots of smart people working on this smart well-funded people so hopefully we can. Hopefully that helps you sleep at night. I mean what helps me. Sleep at night is watching the terminator franchise so versions a bit of a catch. Twenty two the moment then that you decided that this was important enough for you to like break that membrane between what. You're more comfortable in like what was there a particular impetus for that or was it a sort of slow burning. This story needs to be told eventually kind of thing. I think it came out of this feeling in patients you know. I think it's like i think many of us have this experience. Maybe when you're younger and you discover like a new tv show or something and then you just wanna talk to everyone about it and then after a while whenever you're explaining something have to take like the first twenty minutes to this is the tv show here the characters and then you're like can i tell you my very and it kind of felt like that like my relationship with is action was like that. I didn't realize i was ace until i was in my twenties and realizing it. I had to go digging for it. I didn't have to go anywhere back. When i thought i was just straight woman. That was pretty much. You know what was expected of me. But i thought there were so many smart ways of thinking about the world is actual lines represented but you wouldn't have access to them because it wasn't in the culture to find any of that you'd have to be truly online in a way or you know have to rewrite academic books and so i kept trying to talk to people about you know the ways that it's actually makes everyone not just people who happened to be as like question like what is sex with sexual attraction. What is romantic attraction. How should we think about the world. But then i got tired of doing that. I lake tedtalk. Welcome to talk. Here's what it is. I wanted to skip that and get to the part where we are thinking about. What is that we all want. What what is pleasure. What if we center that their lives instead of sexuality and so i think that was the moment that feelings impatience that had so many people as or not would benefit from this perspective that i was like while. I am a journalist. I've always been a journalist. Maybe i should do this. While i have so many follow ups I want to talk about the this down. Because i want to talk about what. You're talking about about centering pleasure. I think that's really important

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On this day: Karl M. Baer legally recognized as male

This Day in History Class

04:09 min | 2 weeks ago

On this day: Karl M. Baer legally recognized as male

"Hello and welcome to the podcast. I'm tracy wilson and it's january eighth. Carl m bear was legally recognized as mail on the stay in one thousand nine hundred. Seven bear was born to a german jewish family in eighteen eighty five and after his delivery the midwife said to his mother something along the lines of congratulations on the birth of your lovely daughter but the midwife had a different conversation with carl's father saying that this newborn babies body was ambiguous and that it wasn't clear whether she should call the baby male or female today we might have described him as intersex so the family went to see a doctor and added that when they registered carl's birth they would register him as a girl and give him girls name. But as carl grew up he had a very clear sense of his own self. He later described himself as a boy who was being raised as girl and his own writing he said quote one may raise a healthy boy in a womanish manner as one wishes and a female creature as manish never will. This caused their senses to remain forever reversed and his growing up was not easy at all. He was expected to play with girls but he didn't feel like a girl and the girls also seemed to suspect. Somehow he wasn't one of them not only did he not like most of the pastimes that were considered to be appropriate for girls but the girls in his community excluded him from playing with them his behavior and his interests and as he grew into a teenager his appearance and voice were more in line with what was expected of boys than what was expected of girls in one thousand nine hundred four at the age of nineteen he moved to hamburg. He studied sociology. He started working as a social worker and was also part of feminist organisations including campaigning against the trafficking of women he was also active in the jewish service organization beneath breath that same year. He started introducing himself to people as a man. He changed stress and no longer tried to hide his more masculine physical features and then in the midst of all this. He was injured in a tram accident when he was taken to the hospital. Doctors immediately noticed that his i d did not match the name or the gender that he gave to them. When he was admitted they ultimately contacted magnus hirschfeld of the institute for sexual science which was a research institute medical facility and an advocacy organization for what we would describe. Today as lgbt rights hirschfeld described bear as a case of quote erroneous sexual attribution. He and other doctors at the institute felt that bear would benefit from having surgery. It's what we would today describe as gender affirmation surgery after receiving hormone treatments bear had a series of surgery is starting in one thousand nine hundred six and this made him one of the first people to have surgery for this reason on january eighth of one thousand nine hundred seven. He was legally recognized as mail and was issued a new birth certificate that same year. He published a semi-fictional autobiography called memoirs of a man's maiden years and he published that under the pseudonym nfo body but it was widely known that he was the author of this work on october tenth of that year he got married although his wife died of pneumonia about a year and a half later and he got remarried later on bear continued to work as a social activist in berlin until nineteen thirty seven including becoming the director of the berlin lodges of buzney breath but then in nineteen thirty seven. He was captured by nazis and tortured after settling his affairs as quickly as he could. He fled germany and moved. To what would later become israel. He lived a quiet life there as an insurance agent and he died in nineteen fifty-six

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Coming Out Stories: Michael Gunning

Coming Out Stories

05:03 min | 2 weeks ago

Coming Out Stories: Michael Gunning

"Throat many out gay athletes but michael jordan is one of the few who were brave enough to compete internationally and live life as an out gay man in some twenty twenty one. He'll compete in the pool in the tokyo olympics. Swimming for jamaica. This is his story. Identify myself as gay You know. I kind of went through long process of identify myself. And how i kind of wanted to label myself. Yeah i'm one hundred percent. Gay one hundred percent fab i want i so remember. Questioning yourself thinking oh. I'm not quite siamese everyone else in my class. Oh yeah. I think i obviously growing up in maine and growing up in sport. I've spent half my time wearing trump's around post sides. And i think from a young age probably about batting voting. I knew i was different. And i knew that. I did have phelan's tools guys but that very early age because of being around poolside. All the time. I didn't want to be seen different. I didn't want to be that anomaly. In because obviously there's not really many will if any gays or out smit's instrument at the minute. That still sermon spoke saints a bit of last frontier in terms of coming out. Doesn't it really not one hundred percent. Because you've got to be macho man you've got to compete against so you don't want to be seen as weak sesame. I really suppressed so many feelings for so long. Just because i didn't want to talk about it. I didn't want to address. It just wanted my whole acres to be on in so let's establish where you were air. This was whereabouts. We growing up ken. Yeah grew up in just outside of london and in the club while i change echinacea in club which is really nice club quite successful incident and there was lots of people that i could look up to in which was great. But yeah none as you be tade no was straight very heterosexual mindset. I must there any bullying use of homophobic language. Anything schooled at school it away but yeah it wasn't really to do with my sexuality all near the kind of scam game. I think it was just because i was very different very bubbly person or very outgoing person than i think just by very different it all kinds shapes and phones kids always pick up on the other somehow i one hundred percent but the billion did stock never changed over it quiet and reserved thing after the berlin. But you know definitely got my mojo back and just on now. Only who i am which is amazing. so guess. You grew up in a really strict environment in the sense that you've got be so disciplined to be a swimmer at your level. Having you say you didn't probably have time for leads. Parties or smoking behind. The bike sheds or stuff that most teenagers do one hundred percent. I think swimming is dedicated to nine times a week. You know anything kaos just kind of gets pushed aside so i think because everything was pushed away knowing everybody got time to explore mistakes reality or find out why men you know any failures had never explode them. It will really suppressed the down his knee. So did you suppress it enough. That you went through the motions have girlfriends or did he just sort of block out that part of your life into site. It's may end. The poll not sets. Yeah i never had girlfriends never really spoke about that part of my life. I think you know. When you're in samantha. Me one hundred percent commit to me and that was kind of my release like everything but i had a woman because they didn't have time for anything else which you know in reality. I think i did. But i just didn't want to talk about time. I guess your parents were be quite pleased with and it's like they didn't have any normal teenage problems today with life teen pregnancy. Say smoking drinking drugs. All of that sort of stuff you wouldn't have been getting up to the disco back in the day that it was just so some in which many people find it hard to understand because anyone that doesn't do doesn't do a sport i think. Well why are you still in osco. Why some in the early in the morning is something. That was ingrained in me a very long time and i love swimming. I love sport during things. That people can't say that. I call do love preview wrong gear. So what was the time where you you did start embracing because obviously you're living a life as an out and proud gay man now. When was the moment where he thought. I'm not hiding this anymore. Yeah i think. I was as able nine when it came to. My parents just wanted to tell them. I wanted to tell somebody else and once i told them there was a few questions. Also known my dad's jamaica mum's from great percent. So i think my dad had an questions among did come but you know they accept today and it was just a massive relief of my shoulders and join the london. Performance program went on daily trading. And we got really good friends. And actually you know Hearing his possession on everything obviously his coming out story. Just kind of inspired me really made to mile antics.

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Courtney Act on How Drag Helped Her Find Her Trans Identity

Homo Sapiens

03:16 min | 3 weeks ago

Courtney Act on How Drag Helped Her Find Her Trans Identity

"Perhaps courtney was almost a performance thing at the beginning of your career but now it's sort of like why would it be performance because she is also you. Yeah i guess it's that thing where with lots of labels and things. These days which i personally have found very helpful in understanding who i am but i think now that i've understood. I'm not completely. But i've i've got the large chunks. That pestered me for most of my teens and twenties out of the way i just kind of feel like me and so i think that's something beyond the physical packaging and the superficial decoration of that. Which is just like the core essence of who i am and and how my sexuality and my gender and my identity overnight to that which i feel really comfortable about but i think like drag was assigned post that the fact that i was drawn to drag the fact that i did drag in a world where it certainly wasn't a normal thing Was always sort of like a signposted. Sort of the bigger question about my identity and it's always been like this flag that has drawn attention to the concepts of gender and identity and will the words the words around have become. They've always been there. They've sort of been our fingertips for the past five years in a way that they just weren't before right. Yeah it's so weird. How language can empower and labels can empower someone. Because in the beginning. I was a boy who did drag and there's is nothing funny going on. It was just a costume like a police. Van would put on a police uniform and go to work mine. Was this more. Glamorous and the only other option at that time was to be trans. And i didn't identify with that because i think it was filled like a lot of people with a lot of i had a lot of internalized transphobia. I think In my early days. Because i had received a lease negative images and messages. Just as i had internalized homophobia and themm phobia arab. You know all of these sorts of things these messages that we with And then over. The years is the language has developed as the stories have felt in pop culture with Trans people the transit civility has probably been one of the biggest things has allowed me to accept who i am although i identifies trans. It created a space where i was able to actually ask myself those questions and answer them. Honestly because i was seeing amazing transplant and transparent in pop culture like laverne cox janet mock and angelica ross and chaz bono and jenny boylan and capable in saint louis books and things i'd read and i was like oh well. Being transparent is valid in beautiful wonderful. And i was no longer scared of the idea of being a transparent and so then i was able to actually look at it. I was like oh actually i think i secretly thought that i was transfer very longtime because those only two options and i didn't feel like i was a man so therefore i must be a woman and actually as it turns out. I don't feel like that. I just feel like me.

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Jose Antonio Vargas: Coming Out As Undocumented

LGBTQ&A

04:27 min | 3 weeks ago

Jose Antonio Vargas: Coming Out As Undocumented

"So you grew up in america and didn't know you're undocumented until you went to get your license sixteen yes so four years. After arriving here i went to the mvp. Because i think my friends for an arvin was getting tired of dragging me around driving miss daisy. And so he was. Lake may be time to go to the and i lived at the library. I mean that's where. I spent a lot of my the amount of the public library and i saw the library to get a driver's license. You need to do these things like bring a student. Id evan bring proof of identification. Which was the green card or a passport so yeah. I biked from my house to the dmv. I get called to the booth after waiting in line. And then that's when the woman said to me that the green card that i brought was fake and my first instinct. When she told me that was to think. I am not mexican because even back then. This was ninety seven whenever anybody said anything about fake papers anything about documentation. The radio the television shows the newspaper said he was all about mexican people. So that was my first instinct was to think i'm not mexican. Which is a horrible thing but again. That's where the power of media is so is so important right back then again. This is ninety seven back then. That was already part of the psyche. That whenever you thought about fake papers or quote unquote legal people lose by mexican people and also. You're a sixteen. I was sixteen. That's kind of started this whole thing and for my grandfather. I confronted him afterwards. Of course and my grandfather said yeah. It's fake you're not supposed to show that to people. And that's when basically the plan that he and my mother and my grandmother had concocted kind of expose itself to me. That's when i found out what their plan was. And so that was over twenty years ago long time ago and i bring that up because yes then there's been no change or resolution in your immigration status. That is such a long period of time to live with that stress and ambiguity. And that's what. I was getting out into the book when i was really interested in the main question i had was. Why might this messed up. Why do i have a hard time having relationships with people why why is it that it seems as if i have created borders walls lake with the way i treat my own friends like i've on thirty eight years old and never had a boyfriend like what is that about. I've never been in a committed relationship with anybody because what was the point. I was going to get deported. I was gonna leave i. I always had this feeling that everything was temporary. Nothing was permanent and so even that that was the way even had sex with people. you know. it's like okay we're done. I'll see you later. What are you still doing here. What am i still doing like get out. It's so interesting hearing you say all this because you also say that coming out as undocumented with such a bigger deal than coming out as gay. Because i think i had the privilege of living where i live you know like i was in mountain view which is what an hour south of san francisco in incredibly accepting family that but then i had a very accepting school. They kind of balance each other out so my catholic filipino families. Like what is this gay thing you're supposed to get married to a woman in. Bu citizen out to the argue that now that have come out the documented thing. I'm trying to understand the gay thing. Because i never really. I'm the hundred percent. I think i went to a gay pride parade. Maybe once in my life not twice. I went to the one in new york too. But i didn't wanna be there like i don't know what gay practice like. I'm still kind of confused by gay pride. Because maybe because i haven't dealt with my in many ways i came out but i came out in two thousand nine hundred ninety nine. It was a few months after the matthew. Shepard killing tragedy. I came out of necessity because if i had not come out as gay then. My grandfather's plan was for me to marry a woman who's a us citizen and try to get my papers that way so coming out that first time was like a way of saying. No one lie was enough. I'm not gonna lie about this. But because i've been in the closet about the undocumented thing i would argue that i'm probably still in the closet about the gaping because i'm still dealing with that like i don't know what that really is for me. There's nothing sense it does.

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BONUS: Its a Sin | Russell T Davies - Part 1

Homo Sapiens

04:07 min | 14 hrs ago

BONUS: Its a Sin | Russell T Davies - Part 1

"Tv shows have hit your screens in the past few years. My sexual awakening queer as folk cucumber. A banana tofu for channel four and he wrote years and years and he wrote a very english scandal which was a massive hit and won lots of with last year. Anyway it's a sin is this new show is basically a brand new coming of age drama set in a moment of british and lgbtq history which has never really been explored before on uk tv. And it's about the aids crisis and the story of a group of friends who go through it. It's a beautiful telling about an incredible moment in british history but lots of wide themes about coming of age and friendship and love. It's absolutely brilliant. It's only from years and years. Who is in the lead role of ritchie tosa. It's a brilliant cost of people. Like keeley hawes. Neil patrick harris stephen fry in two more supporting roles than we've got newcomers people like amari. Douglas callum scott. How's lydia west nathaniel curtis so brilliant cost. I know lots of you. Listening will love. You can get it on all four lookout for on channel four. I didn't when you're listening to this listeners. it may have already now. So why am i telling you all of this because russell t davies is on the show. What was it like because he grew up during that time he was the same age as the people this show and i think it would be fascinating thing to hear about his experiences as well. So why don't i put on the kettle in my little hotel room. Eat some of the cashew nuts. I've ordered from woolworth. Which is the australian version of woolworths. Not only at home and get chatting to russell as a side note for everyone. The podcast does include some frank discussions with strong language. What else would you expect from him. And sapiens here. It is taught you. Hello australia because i'm in quarantine right. If the phone rings. I have to pick up. They could because it's the police they call you like five six times a day to find out how you doing how they have the mental health thing as well whether on your mental health and they read you some questions which is really nice. It really is isn't it. One of the questions was. Have you felt worthless tool in the past few days. A welcome to my life work in entertainment. What do you think really diary. But i didn't bring you talk about me. Russell came to talk to you about you. And what the hell of you done to me with this bloody show. It's a sin. It's fucking incredible. It really is an thank you. It's really quite something. Thank you took me to a car. Park in cardiff. I wasn't expecting this. Yes i know it was it nighttime. What was i wearing. That's that's how. I know you know when i went to see brokeback mountain on my own in the in the middle of the day when i was working as a intern. Mtv that was of grinder. Boat them going to see pope at own. Even then i couldn't gash. This is all might. But i was absolutely bereft after watching that because it was a beautiful story so really sad story but also i saw myself on screen. I think for the first time one the first times. And you've done that with it's a sin. You've you've created this thing which is beautiful and it's poignant and it is motion but it's also it's not just that as well as deeply funny. It's i hope so. Yeah so thank you thank you think. Well thank you. i will also add. Do you know why was in cardiff. We will just need to be doctor who i wish i. I was the other end of the scale. I was an intern. Mtv and i was sent cardiff on my own to film van being made oh for to be in a madonna video. Those are the days to be done over in purple plaza. And i spent three days in a sort of mechanics. It's getting more and more erotic as you go through your experience me. It was so un erotic and actually does was one one.

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Interview With Sarah Costello And Kayla Kaszyca

QUEERY with Cameron Esposito

05:01 min | 16 hrs ago

Interview With Sarah Costello And Kayla Kaszyca

"My dog back home wakes up at like two and four a m just ready to eat and it's joe and she's also very old so her toenails are very long like an old woman with how and so she disliked clumps around the house like my parents literally have blankets on their floor just hermit unusual visual old women. I usually old people have like really long. Like don't cutting the older. You're like fingernails get very sick. I feel like i've this is what is new inside medical knowledge. This either way. Older people. I don't i have not. I don't know my lonely knowledge that my grandmother does not have toenails. That's all i can add. All you know. They had to get them for some reason. I don't know her. Big toenails are gone. I think she has some other smaller ones. I don't know what happened her. But you know what she's kicking. So oh my god you could have that remove. Because like i didn't either but now her toes look really janke you spending with her mother. I mean not that much time. But they've been like this. Since i was like in middle school so middle middle school sara was like let peop- that was told she just constantly wear sandals even the middle of the winter in michigan. So i don't know going is getting off to a great start. This is type of looking for jordan. He's all of this has already started with the only thing i want. The episode is old woman donuts. That's why i'm here today. I mean my turn are destroyed because of for a lot of years of like being an athletic shoes. I actually kinda liked that. They're destroyed to be honest. It makes me feel like static on your hardcore thing. Yeah that's right anyway. Personally i always have guests introduce themselves. Would you to introduce yourself sure. My name is sarah I am one of the co hosts of sand lake but okay. Which is podcasts where we talk about love relationships sexuality and pretty much anything else. You just don't understand specifically from in a romantic a sexual a spec perspective and no means ace back just means like the whole spectrum of like age sexual romantic. Yeah we we use that term a lot. Because it's like very overarching and you don't have to like say all of the specific terms. Thank you for telling me a nice and short. Yeah we're lazy. Yeah yeah and then kayla who were you. I'm kayla second co host of sounds fake but okay And i identify as demi sexual hetero romantic insist gender. She her pronouns. I guess i'll just do it all i'll say. Oh yeah i. I also use pronouns just here to throw those in and i was so i have to my own humiliation. I have not had a sexual guest on the podcast until very recently Literally yesterday a chat. And i'll handle la loving and then i'm in remaining y'all these will not come out. They will not. Yesterday is the podcasting time. This will not necessarily be how people working in their in their phones. But this is this is something. I guess i want to start by asking because android this up and i thought it was like such a good point sue. Do you to personally consider yourselves like members of the key queer slash lgbtq. I a community. I asked this just because kayla. You're saying like sis and had romantic. So i don't know if as sort of generally large writ large alphabet city whether or not we talk about whether or not a sexual folks consider themselves part of the community. So what about you too. Yeah i mean. I consider myself a part of the community. I am of as a person who's aromatic andy sexual. I am of the opinion that anyone who is a spec should be able to be a part of the queer community if they want to. Some people don't feel that they want to. But i mean for me. My view is you know we don't experience attraction in the quote unquote normal way that you know since hat like people necessarily experience it and so because we are not in this particular. We don't experience sexual romantic attraction necessarily in the same way that heterosexual people do like. I consider it obvious that of course we deserve a place in this community. For that reason. I consider myself queer

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Body Image In The Queer Community

Homo Sapiens

01:08 min | 4 d ago

Body Image In The Queer Community

"I didn't know what you listening. Think about this. But i think there's a really interesting point that feels like there are two schools of quin us. One school is that there are these bodies like this kind of ultra-fit body with six packs. And all of that. World to generalize which is about trying to ascribe to hold of what is to be for example masculine in that way that like people feel like they have failed at being a man so they have to show that they are actually make it all right in other areas. Therefore they're gonna have the amazing body. They're going to have the amazing job. They're going to have the call. And then there's this other kind of new brighton. New beautiful dawn of people who are actually embracing this idea that like male female gender quit gender fluid wherever you are. You can be whatever you want wherever on the spectrum you can be. You can have armpit. Hair is a man as a woman as a as whatever it doesn't matter and i feel like those two different universes are bubbling up and one of them the feeling data's and i think it's about treating your body with kindness and treating yourselves with kindness

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174. Noelle Stevenson

QUEERY with Cameron Esposito

01:20 min | Last week

174. Noelle Stevenson

"Am the sherve under. She ran the prince's power. I made a book called pneumonia. I meet another book called lumber jeans. And i am doing various other things right now that i am excited to one day be able to tell everyone about amazing and pronouns. Wise all is what i think is true. Is that true. Yes i just. I will respond to anything He she it's all good for me But like yeah whatever whatever feels right to you. I honestly don't mind preference. Do you have a preference. I prefer more than they But Yeah i don't know this is this is a this is a weird question for me. I'm very new to like My gender journey. This is very new as of this year. So i don't have the best answer. But yet he and she are are preferred. I don't know that Full first of all. Thank you for answering that. And i know for me that like this is actually. This is also a tough question for me. Because i don't have a specific need

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Queerwords & Queer Families

If These Ovaries Could Talk

05:55 min | 12 hrs ago

Queerwords & Queer Families

"Are we doing. Oh seven seasons of this podcast jamie. What have been no. I said at the other day to someone. When i was blubbering through trying to explain. What my podcast. All god. Jerry explain our podcast which is ridiculous hard. But i was shocked when i said season seven. Even i was taken. Because it's all new for you. You're like you know how they say that. Defray go song talks about. Cassius cassius every time that's like working with jamie. She's really it'll make jimmy. We talked about this literally yesterday really. I don't remember. But i believe you. Thank god you actually. You don't get all like. I don't think that happened because we worked together. At least. you're i believe you. i believe f. Forget everything. I know i just forget things. So let's talk about our first little news item. We got an email from an amazing listener named kate from new zealand. She also emailed. She said what she says. I mean she was a winner in my book from the get-go on our good side all you have to do is say something like she said. Which was i think she said. Hi ladies hi jamie. Helen doesn't get a hello. We were like oh i. That's hilarious like baby baby. Somebody emailed and talked about helen. And my wife's always like okay. Nobody cares nobody. And as i say i said it's an tier and i was like. Oh that's cute anyway. We'll so kate. Kate was emailing us about her story because she's making babies a new new zealand and she was like we're cast. Yeah yeah and then we headed up and then she was like you know what it's my kids story to tell my story and i thought that was such an interesting point i mean. Of course we respect that. We were like sad. But it's your child story to tell of course hundred percent using our kids are to jamie because we i was thinking. We don't give our kids that level respect. We're like that's your story right on. Say about it. I was just talking about this last night with my friends. Like are they going to hate us. We'll say you're going to be like a lot of reasons. Not just that right but so like our point is we totally respect that decision and we totally understand it and we second guess ourselves all the time with what is appropriate to share and what is not appropriate to share. I think i try to use a filter of will they be made fun of in high school and middle school for this or is it like i think when they get older. I'll i'll be like okay. I'm not talking about them. Yeah i reserve the right to change my mind but so did want to give us some points about what it's like in new zealand. We share those jamie. Yes so she said that here in new zealand it is illegal to pay donors for sperm or egg and surrogates. Instead they have a super lengthy wait time through facility clinics and there are only two companies in the whole of new zealand. that stinks. I know and government funding is available but there are strict criteria pretty much. You have to prove that you are infertile by spending a ton of money there. I which. I think we all know that that all heard that one so ridiculous and these obviously these processes are very discriminatory tort are lgbtq folk as often in order to qualify for funding. You have to have been quote unquote trying to conceive for a set period of time. It's very much like our insurance here. A lot of people's insurance some crap is it's just hard. It is just hard across the board. Sometimes we have to be inventive when we make these families we do. We have to jump through hoops but we make them. You know we're still doing it. We're still making our families and they're beautiful. God damnit so larry spacey of beautiful. Our publisher came across. Someone's ebaying our book jamie. It has over utah things. We learned about family. Somebody has ebaying a promo copy of i mean. Listen i hope they read it. I feel like they read it. They loved it and then they wanted to share it with the world and make fifteen dollars maybe but first of all it speaks to two things. It doesn't speak to. It speaks to the fact that obviously we're famous now obviously everywhere. Yup also that people get and he's just not nailed down. I by the way. I use my son to selling things and he had some stuff in his room and i was like you because he always wants online money for minecraft and i. I really limit the amount of money. He's allowed online gaming. And i was like if you generate. Selling some of your. You know he's got all these like nerf guns and the like all the crap that he never touch just like we start generate selling some of that that can be on my money and he was like suddenly just turned into mr wheeling and dealing sixty bucks on facebook marketplace good for him spent an off day. Don't let that kids start. Gambling are any who fire book rate reviewed on amazon. Google good reads. What have yep join. Our patriot community got a special. Thank you to our newest patriot members. Sarah sheehan you. Sarah sarachan thank you. Sarah join our patriot community whatever. Let's get to work guest wayne goodman. Let's talk about wayne. He is the host and the producer of queer words and he had us on to talk about our book and we loved him so much in the middle of the interview he was like oh he was like. I have a story to tell you about habits. You want to hear it and we were like we want to hear it. Yeah obviously helen. Helen ellen wake up let people hear it helen. That was literally have to press a button. Helen that's it. It's like right before the interview jimmy. I literally sat down with her and said helen. I'm going to say and we want to hear it and then you're gonna roll all right way. Let's bring him in. Oh hi wayne hi wayne. Hi jamie and rob welcome to our ovaries. It's so nice to have you on our you. It's it's

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109: Fitted for Preparation

Latter-Day Lesbian

01:16 min | 1 d ago

109: Fitted for Preparation

"In this episode. We're gonna talk about the handbook revisions to the mormon handbook. Don't they always revise that thing. They do because they got to continue to tell you exactly what to think in believe in do so it was about time they did it again so we got some well you know. My clock was ticking so glad they got on that you know we also have a hand written letter to read. We can't not read those landed. Someone actually wrote to with their hand. They should with a utensil. A writing utensil. On paper the pen and ink ni- they say pen and ink. I didn't know they said that. Well i guess the pen was separate from the ink back in the day back in my day. That was before my time again. You are aging yourself. I never used a quill. I did up through like third grade. They were still writing quills. Shall we get to the episode. I believe we should be right back. Hey everybody welcome to latter day lesbian podcast about an ex mormon gay girl just trying to figure out her life. I'm marrying. I'm shelley shelly. Yep

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After Show: Gay beats & more from Talking Poofy!

The Gays Are Revolting

01:12 min | 2 d ago

After Show: Gay beats & more from Talking Poofy!

"We acknowledged the traditional owners of the land on which we are recording. We pay our respects to. They'll is pasta and president and the aboriginal elders of other communities. You may be listening today. Welcome to the. Thanks so much for paying six dollars. American a month to get this it helps. We have to make it good because of that. Good we asked. You joined with the boys from talking. Poofy taibbi scott. And adam boy so much has happened in the last five years since you stopped coding. So we're going to test your knowledge on some of the more race. Oh excellent on just things self that we've talked about are now show. Some of them are raising. Some of them are older south national overnight. Queasy roy is an india. Bring it thomas you tell you guy i one straight pride straight fuck yourself should be crowd They've done so much for a score and out. No i think there should be proud of who they are and what they've achieved

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Alec Mapa Shares His Thoughts on The 'Gays Over Covid' Movement

Homophilia

03:42 min | 3 d ago

Alec Mapa Shares His Thoughts on The 'Gays Over Covid' Movement

"Is your feeling about. The gaze of the the gays over kobe movements and The phenomenon of gaze having parties. And what if you read the velvet rage just about the party. It's any those parties. I've been to those parties. I used to work at those parties. I was in atlanta's comedian for using years. So i've been parties all over the world and it's phenomenon that as far as i'm concerned it's a great place to visit as like an anthropological study and i can say that i'm not patronizing. It's just that. I've never been one of those boys. I like being a part of the party and liked being invited to the party but when it came down to it i looked at everybody on. I'm not one of these boys. Just because that's never been my currency to be kind of a to have the body and to have the circuit party body and a to have that group of friends that is exclusively hot and and muscley. That's coming from a really. That's coming from a really am trying to find the appropriate word. Needy isn't the right word. But it's that's coming from a need to be accepted. Adopt seated need to be accepted. And when i when. I said to you know nobody feels like there are enough. That's doubly true for queer kids growing up. It's like you're never accepted essentially as who you are. And so a lot of queer people grow up with the need. I have to be gaga. I have to be a superstar amazing. It's not enough for me to be me. And i can say that because that was me for most of my adult life then you come to l. a. and then you don't work for three years and then you have to figure out who you are. You know you have to figure out who you are without a job without the car without the body without any of those things and then you find out what your currency is just as just as a human being and So when i see those things. I'm i i get it. I'm strangely not judgmental. I get that because when you go to those parties who who's been was circuit party. Raise your hand just to. I've been to the white party. Wants beloved by choice. Yeah you didn't go there bunch. You work like a dave holmes. No no no. No i am about to combust from self consciousness at all times just everywhere in the world so there i feel like i just. There's no way that it would be anything other than well area. Certainly but it is fun. And then there's there's you add on top of the drugs you add a top booze or whatever you're taking and it's it's a euphoric experience. You know it's kind of like it is. It is the closest you'll feel to being kind of young and beautiful and amazing and you get the high off of that but you know like most heiser. It doesn't last and it doesn't really ever kind of penetrate the the real need to interdict engage a lonely way you can still attend those things and have a billion people around you and still feel sad. You know it's it's It's it's a thing. And so when i saw the gays and covid as like well here we go. I mean that outweigh that need outweighs. The need to be safe. But you know it's nothing new. I mean i was in new york during the eighties and there were people who were still going bath houses. There are people who are still having unsafe sex or people who still you know who who would not participate in any of the safe sex guidelines because they still wanted to engage in that way.

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229. Nutritionist Laura Thomas, PhD - fatshaming babies, intuitive eating and a traumatic birth

Made Of Human with Sofie Hagen

00:57 sec | 5 d ago

229. Nutritionist Laura Thomas, PhD - fatshaming babies, intuitive eating and a traumatic birth

"We learned from the world that there is something fundamentally wrong with us and what we need in that moment is for an adult to step in and be like. There is nothing wrong with you. You are good and you are whole anywhere complete person just as you are. It's the world that's fucked up. That's my job is to step in and say that to him and to be holy accepting of whoever he turns out to be or they turn out to be in the world you listening to made of women also known as the mole pod podcast hosted by sophie and who is a danish comedian law. Oh in january

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Foster Care and Kiddos

If These Ovaries Could Talk

04:57 min | Last week

Foster Care and Kiddos

"Pandemic apartments are ovaries runneth. Over our ovaries or ovaries are over here. We are jamie ovaries over here. We are you know talking. Lgbtq families and speaking of lgbtq families. You like what i did there. Robyn nice transition jamie. We an email from a listener recently. An guarding one of our most recent episodes the episode freya. She's correspond she has two game and then she's also second-generation. Yeah so she and she just had a baby with a sperm donor and this email is just so wonderful and totally the reason why we created this podcast and so we just thought it would be great to read you her email so all right. Here's here's hanna. I just listened to your podcast for the first time. It was the episode with freya. The new mom first of all your podcast is great. Thanks thank you thank you. I'll definitely definitely be listening to more but second. That was the most affirming podcast experience i've ever had. I'm also second-generation. Queer spawn actually fourth generation. But that's not the point. Which i'm that's interesting right hat. Cool reach out to us although she did say she was shy but she had ridiculously similar experiences to what freya described except my dad really is a street. Performer is jamie that to me. It's so rare that i hear adult children of lgbtq parents interviewed in even rarer that i hear second-generation people interviewed especially when their parents aren't still together to demonstrate some ideal nuclear except for the same sex part family. So i guess. I just wanted to thank you and freya too. I mean how greatest freya. That's that's me the bath and coolest. Thanks for making a show that identified with like that for the first. Maybe second time. In my life i got to be like. Yeah that's strangers. Life makes sense to me. Oh i love that. That's the whole point of it right at the whole point right that people can see themselves mirrored in these stories. So thank you so much. Hannah for writing in one of my favorite emails. I have personally read in the past month. And we're not mustang favorites but phrase episode was one of my faves love phraya. Just cool just was so awesome. But like what's so interesting about that. Email is like phrase situation is oddly specific right. Oddly specific yet. Here's hanna out there with a very similar experience. Like i love that and she has never ever ever heard a story like her. So that's the beauty guy so keep writing in keep coming and telling us your stories because you never know. It might help someone else out. There is true it's really true and while you're out there why don't you pick up a copy of our blockbuster new york times bestseller book. Not that it's not that jamie did you like by transition. And then i went right into a bold faced lie about our book can't blockbuster new york times bestselling the lies need to start. I don't think they do nothing in this country. There's two things that don't need to stop shorts all day long and our blockbuster new york times bestseller if these guitar things that we learned about making g btcu family. I think that little lie the blockbuster not bestseller. I think that one is like the field of dreams. If you dream it it will happen. We'll call yes. That's that's the that's the actual phrase. If you build it will come. It is a new york times bestseller a blockbuster chancellor maybe one hundred years and also one hundred years from now. We all read and review our book on amazon google and could read. Okay jada going to be around. That's still going to be around so yeah go buy it rate and review it. Listen to our audio books. You can hear us read it to. You would want more of us jamie. We should have recorded more of our neighbors well. We should've had mary and an record it and then have them talk about all the things that they felt like they get their voices and be like That's how robin feels. Let me tell you how i feel. That would've been funny. Oh my god all right. Join our patriot community to help us. Make this show and for bonus content. You're going to get video interviews of most the episodes and they drop a day early and it's the full video interview. There's no ads. So you get that. At the justice national carrier level. And you just need to head over to patriot dot com slash overstock p. a. t. r. e. n. dot com. Okay all right. Let's talk about yes helen. We're getting to the guest okay. Helen maybe helping shopping. Told you still mean mark. I don't know. I was gonna say a more harsh word by raising sons outside the door. Also i'm just glad you're not going to say really harsh words but because we do we do love we love. How do we love high us with right. We would've everybody now. I did fire her. Jamie doesn't leave. Okay go ahead to introduce our guest. Okay nathan nathan. He's oh my god that is big beard Yeah he's the cutest just the cutest guy and he started. Fostering at the age the ripe old age of twenty one one on ever tell me. I can't be up to stuff at your life as a young person when nathan was out there being a dad at twenty one because guess what. He has five grandkids. Now he's younger than us. Play the

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Embracing sexuality as a person of faith with Pastor Alex Pittaway

The Gays Are Revolting

04:19 min | Last week

Embracing sexuality as a person of faith with Pastor Alex Pittaway

"We're joined by alex piece away. Who is a gay passer from. He's been alex welcome. Thanks so much. I wanna ask you now. You are a reverend. what do we call you. Is it like the queen. Reverend i after all look just postures just alex titles such ranks so called. Alex lit for the lord. Sure what god one bless you. I've never heard that you discover the podcast through gay christian bible study. I think there has to be the first time anyone had about the gays revolting through a christian bible. Study that you know of in a positive It was actually It was the first month that i moved to brisbane and someone who's a really great Sort of leader in our church. He was running a group. A bible study for gay christians and he affectionately called homo group and he invited me along one night because a lot of people in my church go there. And so we We're looking at a pace of scripture which talks about being counter cultural as a reference point. It was this podcast And people were discussing. What gaza garage in the vein of being sort of counter cultural. And they're sort of version of counter. Cultural will being counter cultural by being quia by being gay by being lgbt. I and Being christian being spiritual at the same time And so yeah it was. it was through here that That i i had it Gosh that would have been way back in two thousand eighteen. I think july august. And how long have we been doing show by we've shed a lot of biblical moments on. It's not a surprise to me that they might be studying your trips to wait on. Wellington dotting the alex. You're the possible for church. Made up mostly of lgbt on people who've been rejected from mainstream churches yes so Mcc has been around in brisbane for forty five years And you know we've been cold at the church For gay people We've been cold especially during the eighties and nineties. The the church that has aids We have an aids quilt by sydney congregation in brisbane congregation. And for a while we were the only people who would do funerals for people who died of aids in nineteen eighty s and ninety s And we lost about one third of all of pastas globally. hiv aids. Yes so we're very much a church run by the people. It's called dumb. If you're a church history node like me then Congregational model of church. Which means that the church decides the pasta is the church decides what direction even what beliefs the church has is very much a grassroots organization. And it's not so much sort of top heavy pasta decides everything Organizations is much more much more grassroots than that overall. Unfortunately in australia the landscape spiritually is very very tough for gay people. I think melbourne is probably the most a gay affirming city in terms of church. Wise there are just many many more gay affirming congregations. When i say affirming it means you don't just have to sit at the back and we'll take your money but don't you think that you can get married or anything else. It's people know we will do your marriage. We will Support your relationships we. We're not trying to secretly ten. You straight we don't think you're going to hell. And we fully welcome you. So there's many of those In melbourne including mcc melbourne including several anglican churches several uniting churches in sydney. This probably about five or six in brisbane. There's just three out of hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of churches. And it's it's sad because you know in america despite america being a much more conservative place in indianapolis the city that i studied in to be a pasta. There are something like thirty five. Well affirming churches

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The Boys in the Band

Queer as Fact

01:41 min | Last week

The Boys in the Band

"Hello and welcome to queries fiction where we talk about queer historical media. I'm jason. i'm alice. And i may lie. And today we're talking about mark rallies. Nine hundred sixty eight play twice adapted into film. The boys in the band saw before we get started. We have clinton warnings for this. Episode episode contains the use of quarterback racist and anti semitic language in courts mentions of homophobic assault discussions of the aids epidemic and death. It also contains pensions of alcohol and drug use. If any of that sounds like something you to listen to you. Please feel free to check out one of our other episodes so the boys in the band was as i mentioned those dot originally a play written by rally performed off broadway. Nineteen sixty eight. Ten is a birthday party held for a gay man harold by six of his closest friends. All of whom gay the potties interrupted by the presence of extensively strike college friend of the host michael and as the guest become increasingly intoxicated. The tensions between them rise culminating in a game where each man must call someone whom he has loved and tell them about it in this episode. I wanna talk about the history of the place production it's occasions sequel and reception of the past fifty years. I think that it offers an interesting parallel to the history of gay rights in the united states coming out as did just a year before the stonewall riots and being revived in the nineties receiving a sequel in two thousand and two being revived again on broadway for the time in thousand eighteen. Then of course there. The film adaptations fifty is a pot both of which featured the cost from the respective productions of the play. I'm really intrigued Talk about but i'm really intrigued. About this sequel. It is not a film or play the needs single. No it doesn't and i'm very convinced that this will be best.

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Great Books for TGNC Youth/Parents

Is It Transphobic Podcast

07:04 min | Last week

Great Books for TGNC Youth/Parents

"All right patriots shadow time apologies. If i mispronounced your name. Let me know. I will fix it for next time But thank you so much to jewel's gabrielle. Cheyenne and blair for your new patronage is for this month and thank you again. Returning patrons mary. Jade drew kate. Becca donna lindsay. Kirsten brian tia. Alex janelle mortgage and woman. You are all amazing. Thank you so much trying to get our patriot number up to two fifty a month by june so that we can see if the podcast is going to go somewhere and if not then we'll talk about that we'll figure that out we'll come back to it but thank you so much. Keep pushing keep sharing. Keep listening you're all wonderful. Hey everyone i just want to apologize to my patriots. Schreiber's for this episode coming out late for them Those who were part of the patriot. I did send out a message letting you know This is supposed to go out yesterday. January seventh to patriotic and because of issues throughout the country throughout the united states On the sixth. I didn't feel like. I should work on it and i decided to go with that feeling. I would have a lot of choice words to say about those. Who did what they did in dc on the sex. But we're doing an episode all about kids books and we're doing an episode all about learning and we're doing an episode all about growth. So i am going to leave those choice. Words behind in favor of the episode ahead with that stated and On a different apology level Is sounded like i was in a tin can in this episode. I don't know what happened It might have been the program that it was using switch to my webcam mike without my knowing it might have been a who knows what i tried. Very hard to make it sound okay And in lieu of that. I just tried to remove as much of my audio as i possibly can from my own interview with with seth and There's a lot of really good from seth so i didn't want to scrap the episode or have Set come back and do it again. but that said i apologize. I tried i really did. I am not an audio engineer. There are moments where the background noise just sounds like scr elects remixing the wind Which sounds like it could be an album that would work but absolutely does not in a podcast setting so that said my apologies for that. It's a great episode. Though when i really really hope that you enjoy it and Yeah all right well. Here's the episode. Is it transphobic will be addressing issues of trans phobia and trans massage. Any we may also address issues of racism. Classism able ism and various other intersectional issues in this podcast so this is a trigger warning. The panelists on is it transphobic. Strong language so listener discretion is advised. Hobo rogers they use she her they them and today i m being joined by. Hi i'm seth day i use here. They pronounce And i'm primarily anani entity today life but i also am a podcast host Who's podcast called red tiled podcast which is about like how to talk to kids about tricky things like we covered things like gender race disability Unaccounted fund stuff that kids ask you about and Yeah we also talk about our favorite kids books for each topic. So i'm here to talk a little bit about kids buckskin. I'm really excited like we did For for the holiday season last year we talked about the holiday toy guide with my friend. Jonathan alex and so. I'm really excited. Because i feel like we have a lot of listeners who are writers and who are interested in media creation and media analysis and books in general. Have not been something that we've been able to tackle a lot of especially children's books and children's media is an entire other. Sean wrote that mission. That really delved into so no. I'm really stoked. Honestly i'm excited. I think it's It's a good thing that i'm anne because i am like we are obsessed with children. Folks it gives me an excuse to purchase them I just love diverse. Like davis book kids books on like a focus on social justice. Themes i just like. I don't know i think that like i my sort of mentality is like there's no adult topics you think. Eric quotes here. Like i don't think they'll topics exists. I think the topic is about anything in an age appropriate way on really interested in books and tackle those kinds of things for kids and especially because kids. Like i shared on the podcast before i share with people like i started realizing my gender identity was not aligned with what i was assigned at birth in preschool. Like i look back at these things. I'm like alec. These are when i started really asking those questions and i didn't have resources to kind of figure that out and so for me like especially seeing children's books i guess miss could have been the thing that i now helped me. Yeah i wish we had obviously at least yeah because now like like yeah. I more than anything else for me. Personally i just want no one to have to go through what i did and while people it's working i feel like working towards a world. Where knowing to do that so we can only hope right exactly. Do you mind talking a little bit about your experience as a nanny. I have always sort of worked with kids. Like i feel like it kind of formerly started when i was in high school We had some next door neighbors. Who had young kids. And i would always like hang out with them and play with them and then they would hire me to babysit And so. I just really liked working with kids and even when i was in high school like i worked at a preschool. Actually the preschool. That i went to And you know would you like after school program and so it was always kind of giving my chosen to that world and so i decided to go to college for education And then got out of college and was like i'm a transfer student in the middle of rural pennsylvania. I don't think that transitioning is like the best thing to do in my first year as a tenured teacher. So i was like. I'm just gonna you know. Get a nanny for a year and see how for the summer. I gave it. My thought was like a nanny for the summer like search industry. Or whatever and then. I'll get a job teaching in september. I love nanny so much. I was just like jane now. Great there's like no red tape. I just have to get along with like probably about two people to adults and some kids.

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Enby People Don't Owe You Androgyny

Is It Transphobic Podcast

05:24 min | Last month

Enby People Don't Owe You Androgyny

"What we're talking about today. Is this idea of and rajini and that Tran or that trans nonbinary folk. But specifically non binary folk half to feel the pressure to conform to androgen e Now we're gonna be talking a little bit about that. But how do we define androgen. I'm sure that we can find it in a dictionary but like what does androgen e what is the definition of androgen e that we can work with that. The audience can sort of understand a little bit easier. I always think of like the the way androgen. He is generally portrayed in media where it's like a. It's generally like i think of you know like bowie or someone like that. That's you know very like and it's usually usually are either an Assigned male person or an aside female person with a smaller chest. It's usually about being very small and kind of like lake Ethereal looking. I guess thing and it's a it's more about like not having any defining gender caracteristics in your appearance than like actually being any any you know. Form of non binary Me like a good example. That i like to Exactly what kind of looting to somebody. Purely neutral in their appearance right. So oftentimes that means that they're lending or attributes of the two sides of the binary. Right so somebody be in a suit wearing make right you know for the rest of piety. That's a combination of two sides of one coin that everybody else kind of sees whereas you know internally especially for folks who are non binary sometimes. It's it's not about the appearance. It's about how you feel or how you act so i know like for me I enjoy wearing a tux in getting dressed up. But i also really enjoy playing on my skintight floral chance or you know or I do do make up every now. And then and sundays depending on how the winds blowing. I really enjoy that or sometimes. I don't care you know so. I think that there needs to be understanding for the audience that what the world thinks is android genie versus what i think nonbinary people think is android need. There's a slight deviation there In that the we don't have to work so hard to show the world androgynous in the way that you expected right like i said i don't know if that helps the audience understand. What makes it even more vague. But i think that's kind of yeah. It's that like that like It expects you have aspects of both ends of the gender spectrum as opposed to like it they want you to be like right in the middle of it as opposed to like like ashley was saying. It's a whole a whole bag. And i think that was for me. roadblock came to was that i am very comfortable being sam presenting like You know i. I like where closed from the men's section occasionally and just kind of grungy but like overall i'm presenting which really was Like even even in the queer community. I felt like i. You know i like appeared as a woman and i wasn't sure how to make that distinction and that was it ended up being. I just talk about and say it all the time which works. But yeah i felt like because i wasn't interested in appearing like a man and especially because i i wasn't you know necessarily thinking about any actual medical transitioning that i was excluded from that world The as i was like well. If i'm comfortable appearing like this then. I can't actually mean it. I was gonna offer one other examples. So i mean some of the examples. We've talked about about what the world sees androgen. He said like bowie stuff of that. Where it's like taking a little bit from both sides Another really good example. I mean If anybody's watched the show sheron a huge fan of sheron. I think the queer community inherently lows. She raw for reasons. Hail yeah Double trouble in a perfectly neutral character and it was it wasn't even it wasn't ever questioned or considered you know what side right of the historical binary that you know that person would all on and the characters only ever used day to address double trouble so you know dole troubles like a perfect example of somebody. That's perfectly on that neutral line that doesn't waiver to either side. And even that's a form of androgen that i think is a high expectation but it's another good example of just perfectly right there in the middle and so i figured i'd offer that or that helps the audience

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Interview With Leonard Matlovich

Making Gay History

04:28 min | Last month

Interview With Leonard Matlovich

"I'm eric. Marcus and this is making a history in september. Nineteen seventy five. A stunning issue of time magazine. Hit the newsstands. On the cover. Was the photo of a young man wearing his air force uniform. His name tag said lich and the huge headline read. I am a homosexual. I had just started my senior year at hillcrest. High school in queens new york. By then i knew i was gay too but i would have died before admitting to anyone and i sure wouldn't have announced it on a cover of a magazine with millions of readers. I'd like to think. I admired leonard math for his. But it's more likely than i thought he was crazy. I never got to interview leonard. He died by the time. I started work on the original making a history book but studs did. And i'm glad we get to share. Leonard's voice thanks to our work with this radio archive one of the things i love about our history is. How many threads come together at different times. One of those threads was the tireless work of gay rights activists and firebrand. Frank cami frank is featured in his own making gay history episode but his name comes up and plenty of other episodes two and he played a pivotal role in leonard story. Frank had been looking for a test. Court case to challenge the military's ban against gay servicemembers in nineteen seventy five. Leonard stepped up to the plate. The thirty one year old air force tech sergeant declared his homosexuality to his commanding officer and when he was discharged he sued for reinstatement. It was the first case of its kind. And leonard instantly became the public face of a bitter fight for equal treatment of lgbtq servicemembers that continues to this day. Leonard was a picture perfect spokesman. He had an exemplary record was a decorated vietnam vet and taught classes designed to ease racial tensions in the armed forces. He was a patriot a conservative and a believer. He grew up catholic and later became an elder in the mormon church. But before. Leonard became champion for equality he. I had to overcome his homophobia and racism as you'll hear in his conversation with studs terkel which was first broadcast on november fourteenth nineteen seventy five. Just a heads up. Some listeners may find what leonard says about his past racist beliefs to be shocking cases. Obviously to be a member of the one. Of course. we're breaking through something involving what is more macho than the military army in this case the air force and this is of course this. You're right in the heart of heart of machismo. Are you not to say the least. And they want to keep that image. And i think it's a crazy mixed up world. We live in when we're rewarded for killing hating and punished for loving macho image. It's a wrong image. It tends to make people want to kill into murder. So we gotta go back to the beginnings without madam who are you. Where'd you come from. Well i usually tell people that My father spent thirty two years in the air force. So i tell people that i was born in georgia. Raising alaska joined the air force in england. I'm a resident florida virginia. Visiting chicago today. When i say that everything that i am and everything i hope to be out of the united states air force i was born here. Air force base and graduated from air force high school and most of my higher education has been through the air force so it's been military and even the ability to do what i'm doing today to fight the regulations that are considered unconstitutional. I have to that the air force to they gave me the courage because they kept telling me over and over again. And i kept telling the classes i taught and human relations and race relations that anything less than equality injustice is not tolerated in this country. You were of a different political entirely confederate flag. I idolize for many years. it was a symbol of on. I don't have words for a symbol similar to the past and the way things were they should still be necessary. Slavery but the white of the right of white oppression dedicated for barry goldwater door to door handing out literature for him. I oppose a sixty four civil rights act with fervor just went and of course no questions about vietnam war oh absolutely i spent three tours over there just like my country or fight the war for my country for equality. It's strange vietnam. The fight for a yellow man's equality. I hated blacks in this country.

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Jennifer Finney Boylan: Has Had a Front Seat to Trans History

LGBTQ&A

04:27 min | Last month

Jennifer Finney Boylan: Has Had a Front Seat to Trans History

"So i want to jump into the book in many ways. I think good and bad in the media. We perpetuate this narrative that trans lives only begin with transportation and everything else is off limits. And i think that the book was really necessary reminder that trans people's lives actually star at birth and that transfer very like valid childhoods and youths. Also i want to be very careful when i talk about translates and my own life in terms of the language that i use but that i mean that i'm aware that there are many transgender women who would not refer to the first part of their life as boyhood and it's really important to respect that having said that i can tell you so. Look i came out publicly as trance. When i was forty. It is a fact that i've always been the same person in my heart. But i did have lived experience in which my way being the world was very different. Maybe i don't need to apologize for the way. I view the world. But i'm going on like this because they're one of your respectful of transgender women who reject the idea of talking about their boyhood and i don't mean to be disrespectful to my sisters. I hope it's okay for me to say that the way i look at the first half of by for the first two thirds of my life. There was a time when i experienced boyhood and experienced manhood. It wasn't something that i was particularly good at or something that i particularly wanted but i did experience it and it seems like a long time ago. Now jeffrey. it's like. I mean it's at least twenty years in the past and i'm sixty sixty one now. In fact what does it mean to be. A middle aged woman who had a boyhood at least as far as other people are concerned. How do i make peace with that child. When that child seems to be so different from the person i became. What are the lessons of boyhood that i took with me. Not every lesson that i took with me from boyhood was necessarily a bad one and i think that looking at the trans movement. You really got your star in it when were still educating the public about what trans meant and i think that we've now entered the phase of it for now in the phase where we are talking more about how every trans story is different and not everybody experiences being trans in the same way. Yeah and it's it's different generation. Only my daughter's trans and no one was more surprised than i was when she came out to me. I think she will be the first person to tell you i was. I was not the perfect transgender parent poster child at that moment. I was really concerned for her. There was a lot of work ahead to be done and most of it by me but one of the things that i really learned in that experience was that being trance for someone coming out twenty years later than i did and almost twenty years younger than i am is. It means something different and so. Here's what i mean by that. When i came out as trans i felt like i had to spend a couple of years explaining myself. Educating people around me. Because i was the first trans person that a lot of people ever heard of a lot of people thought that made the whole thing myself. You know for my daughter's generation. It's a whole other thing being transferred means that you can celebrate. You can be happy you can be and you can be trans exactly as you feel like. That's really interesting. And so twenty years ago celebrating. Being trans wasn't even part the conversation. I felt like i had to be apologetic. I felt like i had to say. I'm so sorry but this is who i am. I hope you'll understand me now. If you read. She's not there continues to be book. I'm tremendously proud of but there's the faint aroma of apology about some parts of that book and that is not how how many people experience being trans now it. Forgive me one of the reasons. I think people feel better about being transferred more. Celebratory can i say this through the work. That's been done by a lot of writers including me. There's been a lot of people doing the work. And there are people who've had a bigger influence than i have but it does mean that sometimes there's a bit of melancholy for me that the world which seems to be more forgiving and there's that word again forgetting a world would which is more understanding and celebratory is a world that has even though i helped bring about. It's still a world that has come a little bit too late for me.

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Jennifer Finney Boylan: A Front Seat to Trans History

LGBTQ&A

04:26 min | Last month

Jennifer Finney Boylan: A Front Seat to Trans History

"So i want to jump into the book in many ways. I think good and bad in the media. We perpetuate this narrative that trans lives only begin with transportation and everything else is off limits. And i think that the book was really necessary reminder that trans people's lives actually star at birth and that transfer very like valid childhoods and youths. Also i want to be very careful when i talk about translates and my own life in terms of the language that i use but that i mean that i'm aware that there are many transgender women who would not refer to the first part of their life as boyhood and it's really important to respect that having said that i can tell you so. Look i came out publicly as trance. When i was forty. It is a fact that i've always been the same person in my heart. But i did have lived experience in which my way being the world was very different. Maybe i don't need to apologize for the way. I view the world. But i'm going on like this because they're one of your respectful of transgender women who reject the idea of talking about their boyhood and i don't mean to be disrespectful to my sisters. I hope it's okay for me to say that the way i look at the first half of by for the first two thirds of my life. There was a time when i experienced boyhood and experienced manhood. It wasn't something that i was particularly good at or something that i particularly wanted but i did experience it and it seems like a long time ago. Now jeffrey. it's like. I mean it's at least twenty years in the past and i'm sixty sixty one now. In fact what does it mean to be. A middle aged woman who had a boyhood at least as far as other people are concerned. How do i make peace with that child. When that child seems to be so different from the person i became. What are the lessons of boyhood that i took with me. Not every lesson that i took with me from boyhood was necessarily a bad one and i think that looking at the trans movement. You really got your star in it when were still educating the public about what trans meant and i think that we've now entered the phase of it for now in the phase where we are talking more about how every trans story is different and not everybody experiences being trans in the same way. Yeah and it's it's different generation. Only my daughter's trans and no one was more surprised than i was when she came out to me. I think she will be the first person to tell you i was. I was not the perfect transgender parent poster child at that moment. I was really concerned for her. There was a lot of work ahead to be done and most of it by me but one of the things that i really learned in that experience was that being trance for someone coming out twenty years later than i did and almost twenty years younger than i am is. It means something different and so. Here's what i mean by that. When i came out as trans i felt like i had to spend a couple of years explaining myself. Educating people around me. Because i was the first trans person that a lot of people ever heard of a lot of people thought that made the whole thing myself. You know for my daughter's generation. It's a whole other thing being transferred means that you can celebrate. You can be happy you can be and you can be trans exactly as you feel like. That's really interesting. And so twenty years ago celebrating. Being trans wasn't even part the conversation. I felt like i had to be apologetic. I felt like i had to say. I'm so sorry but this is who i am. I hope you'll understand me now. If you read. She's not there continues to be book. I'm tremendously proud of but there's the faint aroma of apology about some parts of that book and that is not how how many people experience being trans now it. Forgive me one of the reasons. I think people feel better about being transferred more. Celebratory can i say this through the work. That's been done by a lot of writers including me. There's been a lot of people doing the work. And there are people who've had a bigger influence than i have but it does mean that sometimes there's a bit of melancholy for me that the world which seems to be more forgiving and there's that word again forgetting a world would which is more understanding and celebratory is a world that has even though i helped bring about. It's still a world that has come a little bit too late for me.

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The First Of The Three Spirits

Our Life In Transition

03:16 min | Last month

The First Of The Three Spirits

"When scrooge awoke it was so dark that looking out of bed he could scarcely distinguish the transparent window from the opaque walls of his changing. He was endeavoring to pierce the darkness with his favorite. Is the chimes of a neighboring church struck for quarters so he listened for the our to great astonishment. The heavy bell went from six to seven from seven to eight and regularly up to twelve and stop twelve ms past two when he went to bed. The clock was wrong in high school must have gotten into the works twelve. He touches this spring of his repeater. Took correct. it's most preposterous clock. It's reputable pulse. B twelve stopped. Why it is impossible. Said screwed slept through a whole day. In far to another night it is it possible to anything has happened to the sun and this new the idea of being an alarming one he scrambled out of bed in groped his way to the window supplies to rub the frost off this. Leave of dressing down before you see anything very little. Then all i could make out was that was still very foggy in extremely cold and that there was no noise of people running to and fro making a great stir as their unquestionably would have been if he had beaten off break day and taking possession of the world. This was a great relief. Because three days after sight of this first of exchange pay tavern screwed or his order and so forth vic become a myriad united states security there were no days to count by scrooge went to again thought and thought and thought it over and over make nothing of it the more he thought the more perplexed he was the more he endeavoured. Not think the more thought barney's bothered him exceedingly every time he resolved within himself after mature inquiry that it was all a dream. His mind flew back again a strong spring. The least twits first position in presented. The same problem to be worked author. Who was it a dream or not screwed soleil in his in this state until the chimes had gone three quarters more remembered on a sudden goes had warned him a visitation when the bell tolled one result. Lie wait until the hour was passed and considering that he could no more go to sleep. Then go to heaven. This was perhaps the wisest resolution in his power. The quarter was so long that he was more than once convinced that he must have sunk into a does unconsciously and miss. The clock at length broke upon his listening year. Ding dong quarter pass through discounting ding-dong half its ding dong quarter to it said scrooge ding dong the ourself cisco triumphantly and nothing else.

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