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Do You Want to Write a Book?
"I everyone welcome to another episode of women worldwide. Thank you so much for showing up for tuning in for always sharing how you're doing what you're feeling this really help us to bring the gas that can inspire motivate in really offer you some help with your challenges. So let's get right to today's topic we're gonna take storytelling and the author to a whole new level. It's the legacy maker. So i have a legacy maker today. Who's helping to transform the publishing industry joining me. On the show with andrea albright l. andrea is a serial entrepreneur as she is publishing mogul. She's published twenty six bucks and she's helping other authors to find the same success. And i could say so much about andrea talk about her latest book which is visionary boss so andrea. I think it's time that you share your advice in your journey with us. Welcome welcome to women worldwide. Thank you so much gear drive for having me. I am thrilled to be here. I love what you're up to supporting women worldwide and. Thank you for having me. Your welcome will twenty. Six books is huge. So i've written a few books. I i know what. That's like an absolutely amazed and what you're doing. So maybe you can start off just by sharing a little bit about this past two serial entrepreneur punching absolutely while i started in corporate america right out of college and i had a nervous breakdown. I learned early on that making money without her business and meaning didn't fulfill me and went and started my own company. I became an entrepreneur. When i was twenty six years so i've been on this journey for a while. I decided i wanted to help people get and get fit and my mentor at the time said well you have to write a book in order to stand out as an authority and so i wrote my first book in two thousand six and i remember being so terrified that no one was going to read it. Only my mom was going to buy it. I could sound. But i said you know if i can help one percent then. It's worth it. So i released that book and it went on to create thousands of success stories around the world. People would write to me and say your book saved my life. I was going to kill myself. And then i found your book and now i love my body i love myself i love my else and so it was messages like that. That kept me going and everyone said fitness and weight loss is way too competitive. You can never compete. But this thing called. Youtube came along and i was like what's you so i was really part of that. Social media revolution back in two thousand six two thousand seven and because of social media. I was able to reach my audience. I learned internet marketing. And every time. I would publish a book for myself. I would use marketing to bring people to my website. I eventually got on the front page of google. Very important key. Words like weight loss. Secret and flash forward. I wrote over twenty five bucks and health and fitness. I reached over ten million views on youtube. One hundred thousand. Facebook fans and women's health and fitness magazine. Put me on the cover of their twenty first anniversary edition. So that's really what defined my authority as a thought leader in women's health. And i saw that. So many authors are struggling to get their audience to pay attention to their book. And that's when i became publisher i started beverly hills publishing so that i can help other authors to publish books in ninety days and reach their audience through marketing in ninety days. Tat's unbelievable so from somebody who works with traditional publishers. Absolutely unheard of now. Isn't it interesting that you had some push-back around you of the competition and you know you even yourself said a. maybe only. My mom will read my book now. Is that something. Do office come to you. And do you find those same topic. So i guess yours or challenges that they think they're going to face as absolutely being visionary is both a blessing and a curse because we can see the future. We can see a possibility for humanity. I believe that anyone who wants to write a book is truly coming from that place of being visionary and seeing something that they want to share with the world but then the curse is that we doubt ourselves. Who am i to bryn this vision on the planet who am i to tell society and culture that we can do better and so it comes with that inferiority complex
LEVEL UP: How to Approach Your Health Holistically
"Work together. Help us feel and be our best yummy. I i have to let everybody know how you and i know each other. Which is that i. I saw you on instagram. And i was like wait a second. Unlike yami move there cannot be more than one girl in america named yellow move. The and i was like so i d. I'm like. Are you from union city and what i saw union city i was like hold up. Who who creeping who screaming. 'cause our brothers were the same age and my younger brother. Your older brother went to school together. But i remember you. It's so weird to someone you haven't seen since they were a child as a full grown woman. I'd love to just start with a big question. Which is when it comes to your health and wellbeing. What does it mean to level up. I think it is in the simplest form is doing. What makes you feel good. When i started this whole journey it was very physical. It was very like what do i need to do to have a six pack work to do to be dishonest with way to do to be the smallest person in the room. I was that skinny girl competing. And i was one hundred and twenty nine pounds and actually shared a picture of that yesterday. And i saw that. No ma'am and when i was in that space i was like oh great. This is perfect but looking back. I honestly look famished. Until i stopped competing and i went through yoga teacher training and i did some soul searching it really is about what makes your body feel good of course not only your body but your soul as well it. It's all i think correlated. And i think it's when you get to that point that your body starts finding it's happy place. How do you assess where you are. And how do you figure out where it is that you want to go. You have to be super honest with yourself if you are completely rooted in the physical appearance than you have a lot of work to do. I'm thirty four. years old. Did not have the same thinking. When i was twenty two twenty four you know even even thirty being honest so this is all very new for me in the sense of learning to accept my body because it's very different to the body that's one hundred twenty five pounds but your body's actually fighting it then to be a body that's where your body wants to be an. It's supporting you and it's doing what it needs to be doing to keep you alive and then keep you moving. You do one on one coaching. So when you coach a client what do you use to assess where they are a tool that i use as macro counting where you figure out. How much protein fats hard. Your body needs at what i liked about. That is that it kind of educates you into knowing what foods have what. And then it's not meant for you to do forever. It's just a tool to help you. So that when you get a better grasp on what foods does what you are able to just live in. That lifestyle obviously had the strength program out the workouts. But then i give them questions and i have them do meditation every day and then what happens is in that time in like the twelve weeks that were together something starts to shift in their mind and it's not so much about i want to be the skinniest i wanna be the smallest. It's more like. I love where i'm at right now. I love the improvements that i've been making. I feel so much more connected to myself when you think about it. I'm not doing anything. It's the person next doing the work. It's like a guide and just kind of a reminder of what we have forgotten because throughout my entire life. I'm sure you can relate us you know. The the magazines are like twelve hundred calorie diet. Eat this to look skinny. Do this to be smaller. Do this and we forget what we want. How we feel and we're kind of just going with what society's kind of telling us to do and none of that gets to the underlying cause of so many of these things. What is your relationship with food. Right what are your triggers. what are your social triggers. What are your environmental triggers. When is it that your mind says. Let's go down to the refrigerator. open it and see what's in there because for me. It's everything is happiness is sadness. It is stress. I mean like there is not an emotion that is not associated with food. I agree with that completely back in the day. I i would use any emotion to go for food and be like this is why excuse. I could eat as much as i want to. But then you know what would happen is binge. So there's nothing wrong with eating food to celebrate. There's nothing wrong to eating ice cream when you're It's just understanding that that food is not going to bring you x. Right there are things that we grow from and our bodies in our minds just do things on automatic and then when you start to evolve and you start leveling up you start doing different things and your original so that program to do all. These things wants to do that. But you're healthier version of yourself is like i don't want to and there's that resistance there and it's when you absorb all of that is where you start to grow for someone who's listening who says i don't get it. My goal is to lose ten pounds. Fifty pounds twenty pounds. What are other ways of looking at a goal when it comes to health and fitness things that you can think about our how you feel higher body actually feels. One of my favorites is ability. So what can your body do what that means. How heavy can you lift. I love to lift heavy. And i feel super powerful when i'm lifting heavy and if you don't want to work out maybe it's playing with your children without ceiling out abreast when i said to take some time for yourself. That's really what i mean is like what do you wanna do. What interest you. It's we have to take the focus off of the food out of the scale. Because i think that's where the problems begin. I actually asked my clients to weigh themselves every day so that they can understand that your weight is going to fluctuate for ever because if you step on the scale on a monday and it's a one fifty and then tuesday it's one forty nine and then thursday it's one fifty two. You're like oh. I'd ruined everything. But it's actually not the case our weight ebbs and flows depending on how much asleep you're stressed or what you're eating assault. There's so much. So i think if you will yourself every single day it you stick it in your brain. It's going to ebb and flow all the time and the scale does not define you. So i think it's time that we take that Focus from the scale and apply it to how we feel. How a move things of that. You all know. I did not grow up speaking spanish. My husband did and it's really important to us that our girls have exposure to the language. When i interviewed suzy. How demille the creator of gandhi costs. She gave me a book for my girls and they love like we read it all the time. And now the older one is using. They're bilingual learning app. The use the same nursery rhymes from our childhood think voted to narrow and if antithesis and arrows to teach kids concepts like phonics letters math and emotional intelligence through song and play the games in the songs alternate between english and spanish. So it's super easy to learn languages. Plus the characters are adorable by ethos and if we can't get enough of one squeeze their little cheeks. They've also got beautiful box games and toys the just bring the lessons and punish from the app full circle if you wanna learn more about bringing language and culture to life for your little one. Visit antiques. World dot com slash latina. That's gonna pecos world
Sarah Thomas to be 1st woman to officiate at Super Bowl
"Executive Troy Vincent said Thomas's elite performance has earned her the right to referee Super Bowl 55. Thomas was the first woman to officiate in NFL playoff game That was two years ago. Super Bowl 55 played It's 6:30 P.m. eastern time. This year. It's in Tampa, and that is on February 7th. Now we're in the middle of a pandemic, and we deal with stress in different ways. Maybe sometimes you just want to scream. You go outside. You doing
6 essential lessons for women leaders
"And goes ten years ago. When i became prime minister of australia i assume that at the start they would be a strong reaction to me. Being the first woman about it would obeyed over time. And then i would be treated the same. As savory out. The prime minister head bain was so wrong. That didn't happen the longer. I governed the more visible the sexism became. I don't want any other woman to be blindsided like that. That's why i'm so excited about working with you to help. Women get ready to lead in what is still a sexist world. I share that sense of excitement. After i was finance minister of nigeria was overwhelmed by the number of women who wanted me to be the mental. It is terrific that aspiring young women are keen to learn from those who have gone before. But they're still too few female role models especially women of color now. As a result of the work we have done together. I can offer everyone. Class standout lessons. That tabbies just of my own experience. What on the global research on women and leadership and the candidate sites of leading women one of the things to share. Is that this joy in being a leader in having the opportunity to put your values into action emphasizing. The positive makes a real difference to the power of role modeling if we only focus on the sexist negative experiences. Women may decide that being a latest. Sound so grim. They don't want to do it on the other hand if we pretend it so rosy and easy women and girls can be put off because they decide. Leadership is only for super women who never have any problems. We all have to get the balance right but in ghozi. It's impossible to talk about role models right now without asking you. How does it make you feel to see. Camera harris elected as vice president. I'm delighted it's important to the association of girls and women that they see role models. They can relate to vice president-elect terrace exactly that kind of role model particularly for girls and women of color and every woman who steps forward makes small space for the women will come next of course both of us know from and experiences that even win women get to the top unfortunately too much time and attention will be spent on what they looked like rather than what they do and say and ghozi for women. Is it still all about the head. Certainly julia. I laughed when hillary clinton said she envied by dress style and particularly my signature scuff. So i don't need to worry about my hair. Like many of women leaders have effectively adopted a uniform. a colorful one. it's african. it's me. I have developed my own style that i wear every dan. I don't vary from it. That has helped protect me from endless discussion of my appearance. It's helped me to get people to listen to my words not look at my clothes. Hillary told us she lost the equivalent of twenty four four days of campaign time in the two thousand sixteen election getting her hair and makeup done every day but actually contemporary problems for women leaders go far deeper than anything to do with looks at better. Warn now about to use the would. Many people would find rude. My favorite funny moment. He now travels was discussing resting bitch. Face with prime minister earner solberg of norway. the global research shows that if a man comes across strong and bishops. Even so faking. That's fine but if a woman does it in the reactions against her can be as visceral as revulsion or contain. They pretty mind bogglingly. Strong words happy. They certainly are women. Lee does talk about intuitively understanding that to be viewed as acceptable as a leader. They have to stay balanced on a tightrope between strength an empathy if they come across as too tough there viewed as hard unlikable but if they come across as too soft there seemed to be lacking the backbone needed to lead the problem. Is we still all have sexist stereotypes wearing in the back of our brains. I was portrayed as out of touch. Because i don't have children as even compared to a barren cow in the bush. Distant to be killed for hamburger means. That's horrible at you. Face that stereotype. While i was worried that people will think i couldn't do my job. My family was young. I enjoyed token to new zealand's prime minister justin that dan about experience as its second woman ever to have a child while being national leader. I was very taken by. Has saying she doesn't think she gets the work life balance right
Wendi Blum -- Inspired Life and Business Strategist
"Yeah hello and welcome everyone to your life program where we live intentionally fabulous every day. I'm your host andrea hammer. Certified fitness trainer health and wellness coach and fitness nutrition. In life coach. And you're here on the air today with me on. Sob radio and the radio ear network projects today. My special guest is wendy bloom and she is phenomenal. Transformational leader mentor and high performance. Coach wendy's premier speaker on personal mastery in the neuroscience of success. She's devoted to empowering you to create in design your best life and business. She's guided thousands of people to elevate the way they think the way they live in the way they act and she has a signature program. Success blueprint that has inspired millions around the globe to step into the highest best versions of themselves rate through your limited beliefs to create your extraordinary life with wendy blue. Wendy thank you so much for coming here to be on the show today. I am so happy to be here with you. Yes i have been excited for for all this time to to have you come in share.
Young Republicans Have Something to Say
"As a seventh generation georgian. I feel strongly about local politics. But i also feel strongly about having candid conversations across the aisle so john. I started this conversation agreeing that we can disagree and i think gino was okay with that i enjoy having conversations with people who i don't always see eye to eye like we have disagreements. I prefer those conversations so much more than i do. The ones where we're all saying the same thing. In addition to being a policy consultant. For senator kelly. Leffler janelle appears regularly on tv to discuss politics and runs a construction business with her husband. You're an entrepreneur. You're the former deputy state director of the georgia republican party. Your co founder of speak georgia and i know you from your bipartisan weekly. Tv show. you're a panelist on atlanta fox. Five the georgia gang and i am from atlanta georgia. Mostly sandy springs georgia. That's the suburbs And i was born in new haven connecticut and we moved to north carolina when i was younger and then from north carolina. I moved to georgia. So i claim georgia. I've been here now for over ten years so in this georgia has definitely raised me so I definitely claimed georgia. And what i do right now. I am a media personality. And i do political commentating. A large part of who. I am is built in all of the mistakes that i made. You know you had said something to the effect of you know you feel like you are a combination of your mistakes and near learnings can you. Can you walk me through a formative experience you had when you were young. That you feel was like an aha moment for you. Yes oh what. A lot of people don't know is that i was raised in a hebrew household as hebrew. Israelites you know. We were taught that we are direct descendants from of the people israelites. in the bible So you know you have the jewish community and then you have the hebrew community. So i i like to say hebrews or simply black jews It's much deeper for us but for the sake of explaining it So we kept the holy days we didn't i didn't we didn't have like christmas or easter that stuff only the holy days we didn't even have hanukkah so because it wasn't tally a holy day. Right so i i like to say. I'm half jewish so you get it you get it Yeah def and our family was like you get one night of hannukah like yourself right so i think you know this is something is really small but i hated it when i was a child but now i understand the beauty of it where we didn't celebrate christmas and as a child that felt really lonely but as i got older it kind of prepared me to be the oddball out and it made me comfortable like so i was in malcolm. Glad while training hours ten thousand hours by the time you graduate high school exactly exactly and we didn't wear pants so i was like the girl in the skirt who never wore pants who debt. And you know. Celebrate any other holidays and It was just like training and being your own person and values based. I exactly exactly you know. We were taught that our hope is in. God are there's something greater apart in this world that has nothing to do with politics or what we see in the natural it kind of puts you in a position where you feel a boat to Be who you are. And and not me the acceptance of a lot of people in order to do it so that was a really formative time for me in my childhood and i think as am i became an adult. Something that was really really form to me is that i got married twice before having parents who were marry for now thirty eight years and they were the first each other's first boyfriend girlfriend they never dated anyone else and their parents are right so you had that ends example of a lot of laughter. Exactly that
238. Making it Happen with Alison Spittle, Amika George, Maya and Gemma Tutton
"But britney spears has hit me baby one more time is a chain and i wish i looked that good in a school uniform. I actually would. I would like to look like britney spears in the school uniform. If i'm entirely honest. I know that's not noble. Wouldn't normally confessed that even on armor feminist but fuck it that deep into lockdown. Now i'm just going to be honest with you and say love that i'd love to look cheap. See in adorable and do a little dance and everyone on. Isn't she cute and sexy. At the same time. I would just love the fluffy pen this very generous stationary from people's and a harris. Well look could be a brady can pull that off. I can't let that is as annoying. And i didn't look sexy. When i was a six four and i know we're not meant to infantilized and sexual six owns. Obviously we shouldn't do that but obviously sex forms of sexy to other six. Obviously some of them were like seventeen and stuff in free to be sexy in the way. That young women to be sexy. I'm getting myself into a corner here sexuality of every woman who is over age and in fact it completely ignoring of every woman who was underaged because that is in fact a girl. I've known girl not yet a woman. Please fucking do an i. Feminist by special. So i can stop talking about this. That is your both iva feminist. Ever like it doesn't. It doesn't count if you don't have to explain it for ten minutes after the truth is it is. I'd love once in my life to look that young in that hot and also to a bit like man knows is. I want to be able to kind of go. Ooh and people look at look sexy and not embarrassing. But it's never going to happen. It's too late is possibly by never looks like that anyway. I don't care. I've grown into my looks sharp alison. I'm a feminist book. Assault a picture of a mushroom. It looks like an ars. And i felt genesis of that monastery thought i wanted. I wanted my are still apply. That much when i saw about my self esteem that it's so fragile that by woodland fungus this way. I'm very did not mushroom shots from the mushroom and wasn't very special sort of mushroom and needs to be destroyed. Not good was a particularly sexy mushrooms. Feel better about my now. I think actually you know early. Britney is objectively heart so it's right without jealous of jennifer genesis of the young britney. Spears is different compete. Catch the fish from feeling sibling. Jealous sexually jealous fungi. But the thing is you know like the thing is. I can step on that muslim down. You can't do that with britney legend mushroom singing. Oops i've done it again. Yeah i'm desperately trying to think of some sort of mushroom brittany pun here or some sort of light now. China is china. Think of motion variety. Get poor bopper is not well not toxic a cool. Thanks gus yes. I did actually write down the words. I had a tv show. I'm not mushroom. Those which i think is a real good indicator of my son on a feminist but malania trump can fuck off and take her son casting jacket and a creepy fucking christmas trees with. I watched it today. I watch tears stage. Because i just wanted to see her sad like that is that it is towards like i think i. We were just like she just heard nothing we were like ooh does she need help. And all of that but now it's so clear. It's so clear now. She is a trump supporter. Now that should have been incredibly clear when she married ways yeah that she was going along with being first lady of stuff but it wasn't really clear now like of course it was clear of course it was clear she won't show dr biden round the white house. Michelle obama showed her run white house and she was one of those buses who used to go around. Saying obama wasn't born in america and yet she was like. Oh this is the guest. Bedroom she sucked. It's the fuck up great much heath and do the right thing because transference of power democracy blah blah blah yada yada yada noble thing and she can't even show. Jill ran the fucking say that lose. Go funny handle this. I don't trust donald trump not to shit assistant like i feel like he's just at a stinky somewhere hidden in the white house. If i was joe biden i would him. That has two weeks. I would not move in january two secret service to look around like say. Trump is the sheets under this. Like he does seem to serve is going to a lot more than look around they rapidly. They don't do a quick finger test to make sure. It's not very dusty. Did you not see people storming the capital. I took in bombs and things to keep that people with thing. I think they gotta do a pretty thorough job of that. It's not going to be like when you go into an airbnb and you go down the counters. Somebody's covets really. I think that donald directly it's not it's not gonna be like airbnb transfer. It's not hopefully someone i know. He's a womanizer. Okay phrase to use. probably. I wouldn't is also it's a he's thank you go. It's basically sky was with the woman who thought it was more and he ate didn't and he's a cat he's a cat. He's bound a rover if you will
And So We Begin
"Alexis. How are you. Oh i'm wonderful. How are you sean t. It's so good to see you again is so good to see you and i love the fact that you are. I repeat guests. Or what am i. Favor people. I know i was super ecstatic with they. Do the permanency yell a planned parenthood because vine while was there any other choice. I obviously can't tweet that. That's what a deke. So i just wanted to tweet my congratulations congratulations. Thank you thank you. I i didn't think it was gonna feel as different to become permanent. You know like when when somebody actually puts a ring on it When you live together for a long time and then you're like a that. I felt so honored and humbled that that organization in the boards would put that kind of faith in me to carry us. Forward won't the perfect well-deserved at twenty twenty was quite the year as we know in twenty twenty one is already giving twenty twenty a run for its money so i do have to get your thoughts on insurrection at the capitol because the fact is it was it is direction in way you and i had our first chat just our first girlfriend have i leading organizations chad. We talked a lot about what going on in the country particularly racially in how the trump administration was feeling a lot of the. How are you feeling about everything that has happened. It was devastating. And when you actually think about the the day of january six you know for most of us particularly i knew you were as i was like up all night watching the returns for the georgia senate race in trying to just hold onto that. Lash shred of hope. You know as you said. Twenty twenty just tried its level. Best to get rid of. And and like reverend warnock said Thirty five joy comes in the morning right. Joy will come in the morning and it did and it did by midday to watch that. Just full throated unapologetic demonstration of white supremacy and anti democracy and the weaponization of racial anxiety. Over and over again. And you you think about just like when they said win at all costs this is what they met right that they were really winning willing to destroy democracy to destroy the integrity in the belief in that just really underscores everything that america is right. We are at beth. You know we are. We are a nation state because we are imagine community right. We have to bind ourselves together with these notions and while so many particularly black women have been on the front line trying to claw our way into democracy right like foot in the door that we are not gonna let this door democracy close on as they were they're trying to destroy it and so it it. Just it's it's a wound you know to know after the november election. That half of america's still supports misogynistic patriarch girl racist. Yo pick at the same time that they are so willing to to fight for that last gas that it is just terrifying.
Do You Actually Miss the Yoga Studio?
"Kevin o'connor i'm chris vernon and where the mismatch and we have. A huge announcement today is about to be fifth. Nba season together. But this year's going to be a little bit different first of all spotify gave us millions and millions of dollars. Wait they paid you a million dollars. They are giving us our own podcast. Feed if you wanna keep on listening to the mismatch with me kevin. Follow the mismatch on spotify. And we'll see you. Every tuesday and friday the cut the cut the cut. So i've been doing a lot of yoga these days or i've been trying to you. It's one of my new year's resolutions used to be really consistent with my yoga practice back when i used to go to an actual studio in my neighborhood because it gave me this physical space carved out from the rest of my life where i could go and meditate and stretch and now that i do yoga at home. It's just so much easier to not do it because it's hard to commit to a time. Classes are constantly streaming. And so i can always just be like i'll do it later. Also it's hard to choose a teacher now that i could literally practice with anyone at any studio in the world. It's also hard not to like. Check my phone quickly before savannah. Cultivating your personal practice. It's really not about the tangible space that you're practicing in all the time it's really about the home and spaces within yourself. Amanda gloria does used to teach yoga brooklyn when i took a zoom class with her. She had just moved back to her parents. House assassin eggs hail forward full and as difficult as zoom. Yoga has become to practice. It's even harder to teach a lot of us are teaching a lot less. I know i am before covid. Amanda had to teach a ton of classes at a lot of different studios just to eke out a living in order to really make it in terms of all the things that have to pay for. I had to really stock my schedule. You think zoom would be a relief from running around the city from studio to studio all week long but zoom classes actually suck in a whole new way me personally popping up causes. I could probably more. But i think it'd be no way that i could physically be able to teach seventeen causes a week. When amanda used to teach in a studio she would call out cues for poses and walk around the room adjusting students and if students didn't know what a particular position was kind of look around at each other for guidance. The zuma static is physically doing the class and teaching and then maybe popping off the man to look at the screen and gallery locates. So it's physically a lot more demanding personnel and even those zoom classes are actually more labor students expect to pay less for them especially now that there are all these. Free prerecorded classes on youtube or donation based classes on twitch or an app with a robot teacher. Let's begin in childs pose set. Your knees lied. We've been surprised to find out how much of the usage is actually people who are brand new who might be like to intimidated studio. And so then they start off yoga with us completely. This yoga app called down. Dog came out in two thousand. Fifteen co founder. Ben simon said usage quadrupled in two thousand twenty. There's a lot of men who right into us who basically say. They didn't feel comfortable going to. You're the ceo especially like men who aren't themselves confident in their body or their yoga practice. Down dogs algorithms splices together a sequence of yoga poses which are companied bhai a perfectly shot video of a model doing each pose. You can make classes as long or short as you want or is easy or difficult as you want you can choose the voice you want to lead you. Can you can opt for a playlist of curated alternative beats so i think just in terms of the settings you can pick there are over. Like thirty thousand possible combinations. I do like to use down. Dog if i want to practice the time. We can't find a class. Or if i'm in a mood and i don't feel like interacting with other people because down dog definitely does not feel like you're practicing with the human tabletop. Bor bend your right knee and reach your left on back capturing your outer right-foot to whatever extent we can be. We can have a lot of users especially by making it more accessible and introduce people to yoga who wouldn't have tried it otherwise because of the high barriers i think in the end that should mean even higher attendance at your the studios because they do provide something that we can't and we can sort of like wide in the final of people who might eventually go to the other studios were not as much true competition with each other as it might seem but it's kind of funny that it's set up as a competition that we've come to this place where it's like yoga studio. Yoga is the real yoga and all other forms of yoga are cheap imitations an incorrect. When truly the invention of the american yoga studio is so recent within the long history of yoga and people have always been able to practice on their own has nothing to do with technology. I'm sitting here with my mom that stella be writer at large for new york magazine talking to her mom. I remembered being young kid. Have this vivid memories of you. Teaching yoga in our living room. This is what probably nineteen seventy. Nine hundred eighty. I'm remembering where did you even learn to do yoga. I went to the library and there was a book on yoga. I don't i. I can't remember library or maybe some kind of a book giveaway sale thing but there was a book on yoga and i picked it up and you just picked it up by was it. I know it wasn't popular all completely unknown to me. You know no one. You knew did yoga. No it just intrigues me. And i enjoyed it tremendously so i started doing it. How often doing it every day. But but we backup. You had no way of knowing whether you're doing this postures correctly right well. I looked at the book identifying exactly the way he said to do them. I learned. I still believe this to this day. That yoga is not something that you practice in a class with people. It is solitaire solitaire. A personal practice. You have to understand. It wasn't at all what it is now. When i got into it was really. It wasn't a big industry. They turned it into that and that to me sort of ruined it. And when stella's mom
Your Friendly Black Sidekick
"Pay nba parker. I'm a producer here at the cut. But before this humble brag i was a film professor. And i obsessed about every minute beautiful and infuriating thing in film and television to be fair. I still do so. I was recently watching. The netflix. miniseries the queen's gambit because as a former chess club kid. I expected it to be my jam. So i was overjoyed and then befuddled to see the character. Joe lean the protagonists childhood. Bff from the orphanage and black girl. Savior extraordinaire whose entire purpose is to be labeled as difficult while sacrificing huge parts of herself so that the porcelain white girl can play chess and it felt all too familiar to me. It reminded me of this film. I loved as a kid called a little princess dealer. Decent thought i would die till i heard you talk about the magic. I grew up faithfully watching the one thousand nine hundred five version of a little princess by alphonso croissant about a rich orphaned white girl who ends up being a servant all girls school and spencer evenings in the attic with the orphan servant. A little black girl who shares in her daydreams in fantasies but unlike the queen's gambit for this cold where he comes from in a little princess both girls free themselves together and truly become princesses in lace and curls allow to grow up sisters. But still there is this disconnect. The black girls still feels like the friend on the sidelines. Even if she's spunky and nothing awful or bad happens to her. This was the case with a lot of the movies. I grew up on. They all had interruptions of the sweet black sidekick there was also lavender the best friend matilda. It's much better than being out there. And jesse in the babysitters club really an idea might be brilliant. And the most classic example for black kids of the ninety s was a grown man. Lavar burton as star trek. The next generation sweet brainy sidekick jordi la forge computer as we increased our power levels. Was there any counterreaction. Affirmative him but listen. I'm not here to complain. I'm just sort of navigating my way. Through this trope. It is not entirely a bad thing at all as a brainy spunky little black kid i loved these characters. I mean. I needed them. One of the first things. I noticed about the next generation is that they have shorty fords. I remember as a little girl. I had like a brown suede hip band. And i used to put it over my eyes. So i could be jordan forge. George soros outspoken introverted. He makes amazing friends. Went the android on this. And i was like. This guy is still gave the nerve babies though cool that is none other than the actress. Zelda harris. When she was ten years old she played one of these classic sidekick characters jesse the only black babysitter in the baby sitters club. I did not grow up reading the baby sitters club books. I read every single one of those books. Jesse was a dancer who always related to her kids. She learned sign language for one of the kids. She babysat and taught dance. Moves and the film adaptation of the baby sitters club was totally formative for me growing up. Zelda definitely plays the sidekick the supporting role to a host of white girls but she also stole scenes left and right dropping like flies. She kinda had to that was what she was given to work with. Not just in the sitters club but in every role she dishes for. I would be bassey token friend but not necessarily get to read for the lead over and over again. Zelda would hit this wall. She knew her potential by casting directors saw her as the bouncy token friend it starts to wear on you as a kid because you have the power nation. You're working in an industry that can make anything happen. You got competence muppets. Cgi and all this stuff going on who still getting very consistent. Message that you're here to support and so okay Yeah the cameras going to be. Set up right here. You're gonna stand on the side. I'm not sure if you're gonna be in this shot. Whoa having mechanic realization was intense. This realization was extra intense for zelda. Because she knew it didn't have to be this way. She started her acting career in the leading role. Her very first film was spike. Lee's crooked where she starred as troy maybe other people with mommy and scream and yell at you can't do. It wasn't all inclusive set with women and people of color where she had the starring role in black and brown film.
Tamron Hall, journalist, television host, executive producer: You can't be afraid of losing it. Be afraid of not being prepared to lose it.
"Israel. I say all the time. It will come in some form. You're going to either be replaced or are you going to lose the job. Someone's going to hop scotch over you. I always tell people in business. You're going to quit them or they're going to quit you. Are you ready. You can't be afraid of losing it. Be afraid of not being prepared to lose it. I'm carly's aken. i'm danielle weisberg. Welcome to skin from the couch. This podcast is where we go deep on career advice from women who have lifted from the good stuff like hiring and growing a team to the rough stuff like negotiating your salary and giving or getting hard feedback. We started the skin from a couch. So what better place to talk it. All out that where it began on a couch carly my guest today. Is tamarind hall. She is an award-winning journalist. Who has been on. Tv for decades tamarin co hosted the third hour of the today show and today's take for three years and angered msnbc. Live with cameron hall. Now she is the host and executive producer of her own nationally. Syndicated talk show. And i'm so excited to have you join me on the couch or the virtual couch. I should say welcome to skin from the couch will thank you for having me on. Your couch is lovely. It's quite cozy for some reason. It feels like. I'm in the closet at my home but i feel like i'm in your room on your sofa and it's quite cozy make you. I'm so excited to have you. I would just love for you to skim your resume for me. It started a very important moment in my life. Age fourteen when i got my first job at toys r us. I was underage and convinced my father who was in the military. Let me apply. I worked there for about four months in the elevate my game to sears and roebuck in the mall. I guess the version of my life that you know now started in nineteen ninety-two as journalists at a cbs affiliate and bryan college station. Where i was there less than a year. After fudging my way or lying in pretending to be sick and got an interview at tv t as cbs station where. I was a reporter for four years covering various things that general assignment reporters do. I then landed a job at the fox affiliate in chicago where i worked for ten years and found my way to new york at msnbc and nbc for another ten years and currently. I'm in my second season as the host of a daytime talk show. That happens to bear my name tamron hall. How cool is that. That bears your name. Does that ever get no. It doesn't get old. It is surreal at times at other times. It represents a challenge that my prior work life never prepared four. But it's one i enjoy. What is something that you would be really surprised to know about you. Surprise to know about me. I think i wear my feelings on my sleeve particularly in my daytime. Talk show so i would love to say. Oh i cry a lot. But i think people know that from watching the show. I love to say oh. I have a pretty sizable shoe collection. But i think they can tell that. From the moment i walk out on stage. Maybe i think the. I don't watch myself on television often and i don't listen to interviews of myself when i watched myself on tv. I just see my big eyes and teeth. I looked like a puppet and radio interviews or podcasts. Like this i feel like. I sound very southern and i don't know kind of goofy so i'm probably i put on a good front but i. I think they'd be surprised. At how goofy. I feel that i am. I would not do not sound goofy. I you did mention the south. So it's the transition you grew up and small town in texas. What was your family dynamic like growing up. My mother was a single parent at the age of nineteen. She was in her freshman year at a. Hsbc you which is in the site guys with kamala harris and basically she went to historic black college called paul quinn. She met a guy and fell in love and she came home with a baby. My grandfather who was born in nineteen. Oh one was the first father figure in my life Stable father figure. I should say in my life. It was a beautiful childhood. I grew up pretty fearless. Pretty much encouraged to do things take on things. I was not a big fan of hanging out with children. Because i was picked on a lot because i wasn't only child which was rare many of my cousins and friends and our neighborhoods had siblings.
The one with Mary Carillo
"Talk welcome to yet another episode of the ladies room. Jane we seem to be back to doing these fast and furiously back back back to back again. But we've got so much stuff going on that we wanted to talk about Were just firing these things off so that we can get him out there before and changes and we have to do it all over again. There's a lot going on in. The world is forced right now as you may be aware so i think it gives us a lot of opportunity to talk about some good things happening in the news and the first thing. I think we probably should talk about. Is we have a super bowl matchup. Tom brady vs patrick mahomes. We're gonna get the whole narrative about the changing of the guard. The passing of the torch again the passing of the grass from the old goat to younger. The passing of the concussion. Water and the supplements and strawberries. Because you to not be able to play until you're fifty so that's a fun. Yeah but i mean it's a it's a great matchup. It's a really good story line going in. It makes you know this has been a really difficult environment for journalists. I think to be able to establish relationships in the same way. You can't maintain relationships in the same way you're not running into anybody and picking up stories here near the super bowl is going to be completely different. Usually at a super bowl you are. You're finding things out just by being out and about and that's going to be completely different this year and And i think it really. You know in some ways. It's helpful to have to have such a ready. Made storyline where you have two very well known quantities in homes and brady and the interest of the matchup where you really do think you have you know the one of the legends of the game vs a a real. You know somebody who could who could have that same sort of career and and so to me. Not only is interesting fans at home but at home. Not patrick mahomes getting. I'm getting my homes. I can have homes also interesting for them. But i think that it's I think that it's something that will be. you know. it will be a good a good easy list in some ways you don't have to necessarily You know approach this in a more tactful way the stories right there for you. Will you know. I thought it was interesting. Especially watching the packers matchup with the bucks yesterday because it just goes to show the nfc. North has pretty much been trash schism long at every year. It's been trash pretty much recently. And then we get this narrative about how great the packers are and now you see what the packers are when they match up against a team. That is a little bit tougher than some of their opponents. And i think we are going to talk about that matt lafleur deciding to kick a field goal rather than going for it on fourth. Down in Judy because i was like what are you doing. I mean if you can't go for it on fourth down in the nfc championship game with aaron rodgers as your quarterback. When are you going for it. There was that and then there was the weird decision on defense at the end of the first half that were radi ended up scoring again And so there were a couple of decisions you know track coverage man. That was bad scoop called that. Might i might deaden for her. Former jets for project should have been fired at halftime. Well saying so. Even though you have tom brady three interceptions in the second half. It's not enough. It's not enough to lose the game. Which is unusual right. Because i think everybody was ready to you know really to really heap praise of brady but then lethal love of pigs. It's hard to keep that energy going. Yeah that's true. And i'm just thinking. The bears beat the box. And tom brady. The backers couldn't do it sort of mind blowing and then after the game you've aaron rodgers being like wasn't my decision dogged about the decision to kick the field goal and i was like oh here we go now set. It is goats but you know how he got. There will be some discussions in that locker room later about about just exactly which people should say out loud. After a game like a- errands gonna cut a few more people out of his life
Table Talks Part 2 :: The Relational Power of the Gospel
"So back with my friends who i love so much. I was thinking about how john talks about. When we've come to life that we basically are placed into family and we all of a sudden go from people who didn't belong anywhere to people who belong to god and in that we've become brothers and sisters with people who also believed and so we are what we call the church. We are part of a body that is greater than ourselves and actually involved in a body we serve as part of the body and in that god accomplishes has perfect. Will i guess on earth through us which is a miracle. I think if if i was god. Y'all can speak to this too. But i might have thought some other way besides putting a bunch of people together and saying y'all work as family right. It seems like a kind of a broken idea. But in the redemption of god. He chose it as his idea. So just talk a little bit about family and what that means to you to be a part of something greater than yourself. I think it's important to remember that our culture places such an emphasis on like i want to own a find myself. I want to become myself. But according to the new testament you can't become yourself by yourself that it takes the context of each other for us to really discover truly who you are and so like if i'm a brick and europe brick. We're only at temple together. So there's a sense in which. I'll never find discover who i'm really meant to become outside of the rubbing against each other on days where that's pleasant on days. Where their sparks. Because of that but really you and i are going to help each other become who. We want to be deep down screaming. I love that because pulses that we are members of one another like we're all members of christ but we're members of each other and that's part of this that we're meant to be together and so he says that speaking the truth in love we will in all things grow into head of christ. It's the only way. I'm gonna look like christ is if i'm listening to you. Speak the truth to me in love. And that's i think part of what's the potential for us as a community is so different in the culture is people tend to think of speaking the truth as hostile thing right and love is full acceptance but we as a community get to say no. I accept you right where you're at but i love
Chef Mashama Bailey of The Grey in Savannah
"I'm your host carry diamond and welcome to our first episode of twenty twenty one. Today's guest is michelle obama belly the chef and co owner of the gray located in savannah georgia and what was once a segregated. Greyhound bus station. The gray has evolved into one of the most important restaurants in america today. The story behind the gray is the subject of a new book. Written by madame and her business partner john marsano titled black white and the gray the story of an unexpected friendship and a beloved restaurant. It is a unique memoir that delves into their relationship and of course it includes recipes important to both of them. Michelle also share some details about her latest project. She is taking part in intersect a virtual restaurant from lexus. Here in new york city kicks off this week and her menu will be featured through mid april if you live in new york and would love to try michelle ms food. Here's your chance as for what's going on at cherry bomb as usual. We have a lot of exciting things in the works.
Storytellers: Gabriela Mistral
"She was the first latin american author to win the nobel prize in literature. Please welcome gabriela mistral. Gabriella was born lucilla. Goi i'll kaga on april seventh eighteen eighty nine. She adopted the name. She was better known by gabriela mistral. As a pen name when she started publishing she grew up in a small village called monty. 'grande tucked away in the andes mountains. Growing up gabriella family was essential to the formation of identity as a writer. Her father was a schoolteacher who wrote poems and sang to her while playing guitar though he left the family when gabriella was just three years old he'd already inspired in her a love of literature. Gabrielle's mother instilled many of the young writers attachments to family. Sentimentality and home evident in her poems. Gabriella grandmother ignited a deep respect for poetic form. She encouraged young gabriella to memorize bible verses and recite psalms in her poems in later years. Gabriella recalled her childhood in monte 'grande fondly. When she turned eleven she left. The village to attend school in a nearby town. Called vicuna gabriela would later call her departure from monte guerande as her final moments of happiness a series of her chips awaited gabriella in vicuna. She come from a poor family and was subject to poor treatment her peers and teachers by the age of fifteen. She was working as a teacher's aid to help support her family and had published a few of her writings and local newspapers. One of them called the education of women criticized the limits placed on women's access to schooling when she was declined entry to a more prestigious school in one thousand nine hundred six. Gabriela found out it was because headmasters. They're found her writing problematic. They also post her stance on liberalising education and opening up schools to people of all social classes despite these setbacks or perhaps because of them gabriella had found her calling.
Entitled: How Male Privilege Hurts Women with Kate Manne
"New book by revisiting. The the bright cavenaugh confirmation hearings and christine wasi ford's testimony and you very aptly describe him and his behavior as the epitome of entitlement right and he was shouting his answer's yes he was very very clearly seemed to be above it all yes and so not only with his entitlement on display. But you describe that. Here's this perfect mixture of misogyny and empathy in tandem and when these things work in tandem so perfectly in the way that they did with testimony you can see how it kind of robs the victim or the person who's on the other end and that was christine before in this case kind of some of their humanity and they can't react in the same way. No cavanaugh was really angry. He's able to shout his answers and she was expected to be as non emotional as possible and she also was denied. The you know any feelings about whether she could or should be there or not right. And i think lindsey graham described him having to be there as hell but no one really talked about whether she should actually be there or not. Yes absolutely ni-. It's a great question. Yeah i love those those observations So i think there was this fascinating and really hot breaking contracts between his demeanor and her demeanor during the hearings so she had to be deferential and solicitous and she had these kind of poignant attempts to be quote unquote helpful as helpful as possible to the senate is who are questioning her and in contrast he was Just as you point out. He was a picture of entitlement Despite blasi fahd's credible to me you know highly credible sexual assault accusations against him. He embodied the sense of entitlement to one of the positions of highest moral authority land and to not be questioned despite the allegations against him in order to an order to take up that position and to me it was an extraordinary contrast between her com helpful and intensely humboldt demeanor and his arrogance and entitlement. And you also had as just as you point out this way of the misogyny directed against blasi forge his victim and this sense of of what i call him. Empathy this disproportionate or undue sympathy often extended to men who commit acts of sexual violence or misogyny over there female victims he had people like donald trump. And lindsey graham Bemoaning the fact that he was being put through hell. According to graham when in fact choose the one who had been through hell and was going through hell again in being effectively re traumatized by coming full it and bravely courageously volunteering to be questioned.
Gail Kelly - the first female CEO of an Australian Big Four bank
"My guest. Today is south. African born australian businesswoman. Guilloux kelly. She was the first female ceo of a major australian bank. The highest paid woman in an australian corporation and in twenty eighteen forbes. Nine hundred the eighth most powerful woman in the world one place above fiance. Oh how did it feel to come in above beyond side on the top ten most powerful women in the worldly swear rosewood we start except bad allergic junior to be here with you today. We must tune I family a lot of mary. My is the titular who thought this was accident in areas because As you mentioned beyond say was wearing on me one ahead of me i think was nettie gaga and retention and you kind of say you know what sort of this does this with politicians and commercial people and and then somehow in there is stranded banker so at least a costa craig nervous and still is. I think it's a fantastic story. You'll be able to take that with you. The day that i bake beyond say. It's a good one. I want now to take you back to the beginning though before the forbes list and to the tom you were growing up in nineteen sixty south africa l. listeners. Would of course be familiar with the epic struggle against apartheid. What are your memories of. That is a young girl. You were eight years old. When nelson mandela was sentenced to life imprisonment. Do you remember that moment. Don't actually julia. I don't grow as you say. Nine hundred sixty four eight years old. But what i do remember all of the symbols and signs of the of the pocket ear that we have did so i remember very distinctly feeding uncomfortable but also in a way amused oil or surprised quite expand understanding know why is it the impacts wasser shock said separate entrances for blacks watson and even within shops concerts of next and whites. Are memory kidding. Regular some holidays you be dumped to the beach in the eastern cape in our caravan with dogs and had a beautiful spot in in the park just on the beach and these amazing features just like straight white sandy beaches stretch miles and miles and none of those beaches being for for that people at all only one day of the year which was newsday and so unused. The pages were filled with that people from woolas surrounding areas. And of course we did go on that day so nets con very stock memory for me. It was a very controlling system so with that came significant propaganda and with that came a control of the media.
Episode 656: Us is Also the Country that the Poem is About
"Fifth. Twenty twenty one. It's the overthinking at podcast episode. Six hundred fifty six us is also the country that the poem is about. Welcome overthinking at where we subject the popular culture. To a level of scrutiny. It probably doesn't deserve. I'm matt and that's pete how are you doing. Hey i'm ready for a story to hinder you. Ready story deandre it is. It's a story. I mean the bard's will write poems will write long poems about it. They will and then we can hope that someone sits on a podcast analyzes the poem someone is written about our our storied two handers. Hey gang we're we're in kind of a unique situation and not just because we. We recently passed on the twenty second of january the thirteen th anniversary of the founding of over thinking it not exactly the founding. I suppose the founding was done at some indeterminate time before that but the first publication on over thinking it was january. Twenty second two thousand eight. So congratulations you were part of that original group in here here. We are men standing. No that's not that's not true but not only that but because you know there is a kind of fundamental irony in encoded into overthinking where we like took you know. I don't know how i met your mother and like wrote long. Scholarly articles about or dragon ball is probably a better example. Giving the composition of this panel right and and you know we subject them. To a level of scrutiny. They probably i mean we did deserve. It's ironic to say. They probably don't deserve a two two of scrutiny. That would be more appropriate. Let's say in college literature seminar right. Do you think that's that's fair. That was when our mission statement. That was yeah that was at the beginning well this week for popular culture. The culture has given us an actual honest to goodness poem. The hottest thing in popular culture right now That is the the idea that like. We're going to have to talk about as though we as we are in a college literature. And so for this episode of the podcast. We present the a close reading college literature. Seminar style conversation about the hillary clinton by amanda gorman who is the the this was kind of bobbled at the inauguration itself but i believe it is accurate to say. She is the youth poet laureate the youngest one of those ever. So designated and This was the inauguration. Palm the inaugural poem for President joe biden man. Sort of A a sort of secular and aesthetic benediction on his at though maybe that even as is assuming you're saying too much so so let's dive in kiev. Do you have a prologue nominee on. They want to That you went to establish for this before Before i dive in with some english seminar stuff. Yeah sure so. We are at least in part reacting to a lot of takes about this poem in the media that don't give it appropriate credit for being a palm and a good poem in the sense that it is complex. It is interesting it is sophisticated and also it is not easy. It has both the surface level which works. I believe that doesn't inspire and you hear it the first time and you know what it's about and you know what they're talking about but it does reward going into it and picking it apart so i would suggest that you try it if you want to go into this poem yourself. We're not going to exhaustively go through everything that this poem is about. Certainly one of the inconvenient truths about literature. is that when it enters into different circuits circles of leadership. The people who are discussing it have different frames of reference in different touch points. Different kind of perspectives. So so our particular take on this poem may not be your particular take this and is not the particular on the paul but it's ours and we figured that since you like listen to us talk about other things. Maybe we can talk about this day because it's a great ball so yeah so i just. I want to say that that. If you've heard that the poem is it worth it. I would strongly disagree. I think the poems worth it. I think it's an interesting palm shirt and sorry and then just also that it's also interesting for the occasion and that it is but it's also interesting even if it weren't the occasion. I think there's a lot going on in here. That is worth talking about that. That's i just wanted to put that out there up front. Because i definitely there's definitely a certain alien nation that happens when you encounter a poem that is really tightly constructed in says it has lots of sort of nested ambiguities references. And i would say this in particular. There are two things that make it a little bit difficult which has a lot of references as a lot of ambiguities. And so we're going to go through a bunch of those we're also gonna talk about enlargement smaller censure but these are not things that you might necessarily be able to pick up upon a curing. Somebody read it for the first time. It does seem to be a poem that benefits from having on on paper on a screen in front of you so we would also suggest that you find a copy of the and bring it up and read along with us. Because i think that that will make it easier to parse what's going on and you'll start to see how the pieces of this phone fit together. Perhaps the way that you see it and perhaps there is some consensus maybe or maybe not to be had about what other people might say so. That's my parole accommodate. One hundred percent agree to also in terms of like interest following along. I'm not aware of a text. It's been published that has been sort of blessed by amanda government by herself so You're going to be dealing with transcripts which may have like varying levels of fidelity to know punctuation or lineage that she might wish were there or not there in the poem but actually and there's like interesting syntactical.
EP151: Got Mylk? The Real Deal with Milk and Milk Alternatives with Brooke Rewa
"I am a momma to a beautiful baby boy born in august. I work fulltime wall so caring for my son. My name is pleased. I am hello. Welcome back to the miraculous mama's podcast i'm your host elizabeth joy and we believe in empowering women through storytelling and a k shen philly. We're already learning so much this year. I had so much fun last week. Talking with chelsea it was really great to be able to open up to her about my postpartum journey and just to get really raw and share some things that i haven't shared things that feel scary to share out loud like hey. Maybe i'm a bad mom for saying this but this is how i feel But she made it such a safe environment for me to be able to confide in her and she is a postpartum coach. So if you're struggling postpartum Definitely getting contact with her or if you just want to prepare beforehand. Get in contact with her. That's something that we don't really prepare for. You start preparing for baby and you know for having the baby and you get the baby clothes and set up the nursery but you really have to take things that are ation. yourself postpartum. It's really important for those first few days to try to do as little as possible. Just to nourish your body and take care of your baby and your self. I know when you have other kids. That might seem impossible to do. But it is really important to care for yourself and then the mental load comes with it. It's pretty i mean. It's i keep saying motherhood trip because it's changed my life drastically But it's beautiful. I'm having a great time with it. I think also. I shared last week. Job like wasn't sleeping for weeks. She was waking up six times a night but this last week she's been waking up once or twice a night and i know that some people are against sleep training and some people are four it. But i've been working with asleep training coach. Because i didn't feel like i could just let her cry it out or anything like that. I you know. I had a really hard time with some of the methods trying to To figure out what to do what worked for me. But i've been working with the cradle coach rachel from the cradle coach and we came up with a way that it was gentle that That wasn't very rough. I guess like it was a couple of nights. And jovi never screamed. She wasn't you know. I didn't feel like i am band. Her was very gentle and she's sleeping so much better. Which means that. I am sleeping so much better. I feel like it just got so much easier We drove down and then veto on. I watched a movie like cuddle up on the couch and watch the movie and and it was so nice because for a while like for over a month we'd put her down within thirty minutes to an hour she was up again and it was just so hard like trying to get those things at the end of the day on or just trying to connect with vito and i usually shower at the end of the day and get ready for bed and then i was getting ready for bed at like eleven o'clock at night i'd be going to bed at midnight and now i can actually go to bed at ten o'clock so it's it definitely. I feel like has gotten easier. Thanks to though cradle coach helping us out Sleep really does make a difference. And there's so many different resources out there and i know it can be overwhelming and that's why i just really loved talking with chelsea last week. Just how she was saying the importance of validating your experience. And i just want to remind you guys if you have a mom mama friend. Who's sharing with you. What she's going through just to validate her not to immediately be like. Oh yeah i did that like just kind of sharing your experiences definitely space and a time for that but making sure that when she sharing hers that she feels heard and validated. Like oh yeah that formats sleep. Progression really sucks. I remember that. How are you doing you know. And and then even being like. Can i give you some pointers to help me. Get through it or you know. Then you can kind of connects but being able to validate somebody who's in. It is so so important. Because i feel like in this motherhood community we often. It's we shared it last week. Like community by commiserate like you know building relationships in our community. Oh yeah this sucks. I've been there. Oh wait sold this this wait till the six month whatever then it really sucks than you know an and we're just trying to take it one day at a time. It's lemme rejoice in my victory. Right now that. I know there's going to be nights where jobe doesn't sleep. I know that you know she's already started teething. she's gonna have other sleep regressions but let me just rejoice in the fact that she is right now and be and feel good that she's sleeping. I'm sleeping. I feel like i can take care of Other things get some stuff done around the house then some work done and and be proud of that before the next you know sleep progression poop hits the fan so just a reminder to like. Nobody's done not to me. But i just know that it happened. So just a reminder to be validating other moms and connecting with them and helping build each other up in that community and it's not a comparison for who has it worse or
SMNTY Classics: Pantsuit Power Dressing
"So today is a friday january fifteenth twenty twenty one As we record this the inauguration is coming. And i know we've asked you before about power soups favorite pantsuit. And it doesn't necessarily have to be yours. It could be like a pantsuit of history You know what. I do actually have a story so i was drama. And one of the roles i got was from noises off which is a great little play And we had to choose our own wardrobe and one of the things one of the characters that i played which was a care with the character because noises office about a stage. Play is She were power suit or she wears a suit and i was instructed by drama teacher. Go get you a skirt and sued. And i went through and looked at the magazines and it was at that point that the power suit the pantsuit was pretty big deal and people were wearing it. It was during the era of bill. Clinton and hillary was in office. The first lady and she dawned on those pants sues. So i guess it became a fashion thing so it was around that time when we were trying to outfits and that was on all the magazines and because i am very self conscious and my legs i was like yes. Want a pantsuit and i had actual argument with my drama teacher. Cashews did not feel like it was gonna be feminine enough. Didn't think it was gonna work. 'cause she kept saying no no no and i went ahead and bought both the skirt and the pants and i won because when i put it on i look good in my little pantsuit for the whole night and she was like you. You're right you're right even bought me a candy bar because she lost that argument essentially but yeah so i thought to put in a pantsuit for feminine role because that she thought it wasn't going to be enough which is always argument. So yeah i fall for that. Because i thought it made me look better. I guess more conscious or comfortable less so caller was lack of course for the straight black with a white shirt pearls. All of that. I i went all in for it. Yeah i feel much triumphs with the pants. That's that is a triumph pants. I'm very happy and yeah. That's interesting because i remember i had to buy. My mom was so into when i was going to go intern with the european union. She was like roof. Gotta get you some professional efforts and she was like taking me all these places and at the time i did because i was in. I was young college at the time. And i did. I was sort of grappling with my ideas of feminism. And what it what. I thought it meant for me to be a woman and i did have those hangups about pantsuits. I was like i like them. But what message is it sending. That i'm like a man hating feminine in this vein of hillary clinton who i really had no no hatred for the time but i knew people did people associated with her and but i was like but i could sit so much i remember thinking that can sit and i want to worry about flat. Six we switch from ability. Yeah i think for me. It was kind of that. A self conscious be more comfortable because i could just walk and do what i needed to in it and plus it was comfortable because i feel sometimes the skirts especially like pencil skirts. You has very little movement. Yes yes and i. I bought some pencil skirts for that whole thing. And i like them and their acute on me. But they're definitely like i'd rather be wearing pants. The pencil skirt is a rarer occasion. So yeah given that we have commonly harris First woman vice-president being inaugurated and all this discussion about pant suits and power dressing. Yes which. I do still find a little silly alright checked. Yes antarctica which. I love that. Oh yeah that. Is this thing that i personally louis wanted to bring back this classic episode for you on pantsuit power
Feminist Movie Friday: The Mummy (and The Mummy Returns)
"This zanny and samantha an to stuff never told you production of iheartradio is time for another feminist movie friday the first twenty twenty one yes and we're starting it was one of my favorite of all time the nineteen ninety nine classic the mommy mommy and by samantha's insistence the mummy to it has to be there according to you you're very passionate about it. Yes and the mummy was a listener suggestion. So thank you kayla. I always love when listeners suggest something that i love anyway. So it's like. I get just rewatch something that really enjoy. And she says a link to a blog post by lena in a red dress that was really helpful in all. This made a lot of great points about the kind of feminist. Take on this movie will be getting into that later. Also recently ish watched this with co worker and friend. Lauren bogle ball and we kept saying how much rachel revises character still holds up. We kept being like well. Yes i feel like unlike a lot of movies on. Tv that we watched from twenty years ago years ago are now. It doesn't hold up and you cut it squirm and have to accept that it was made back when even though it shouldn't have been made back when and this one nine do that as much. So you're like okay. We're cool still although the second one. Yeah well i absolutely adore the mummy. I it's one of six movies. That i can quote the whole way through the egyptian and all which i i have no idea if that's actually addiction but i can say it similarly to how they say movie and i remember i had to campaign really hard to see this movie theaters with my dad. Might scare you. I was at as still my parents would go with me if g thirteen movies and i just i worked so hard convince them and then i was trying really really hard to hi. How scared because he was right. The beetle's scarab beetles really scared me. And i think i had a crush on pretty much half the people in this movie at one point in time. And i love the ride at universal. It is so fun that is a good right. I hope they don't take it down because it's funny. It's like about the making of the movie right. And i'm not sure. How much like the younger generation gets it. Right and definitely old. Brendon frazier twos. Definitely way back when brennan phaser right because when you today looks a little different as gone through a lot of stuff unfortunately or do try to come out of it on the other side. But it's definitely taking him a minute. I don't know how the so fine brendan brazier. I will say that. Although i will say he was one of my first crushes. Not because of this movie but because of movies like encino and school ties. Those two movies are the one things that made him for me. That's great oh. Yeah i've never seen any of those but i know that image like on the cover so the encino man my friend and i in high school we memorized that movie. We know all of everything to do with that. Even got the soundtrack to that movie. Yeah we were really into it. Oh well yes. I know stoking before about my my new year's tradition on this show where i very specifically choose the last movie. I want to end the year on in the first movie. I want to start the new year on and a couple of years ago. I was in south africa for work over new years and the last movie i saw was the new mummy with tom. Cruise on the plane. Oh no it was not good. It was bad bad bad bad movie. Go out on. So when i got home the first interview i with the new year was the nineteen ninety nine versions. Never had a desire to see the tom cruise version. Because what is trying to make something that was like. Yes but also fun to just action. Watch tom cruise get hurt and heart things. Okay cool yeah i mean. The ending was pretty weird to trying to set up. That whole like the new universal monster series. So it's like clearly meant to be a series but just new probably wasn't going to happen. What yeah yeah and also in the mummy to the mummy returns. I keep saying that returns. Correct the when that came out. There was this website for the movie. Which i actually re after we watched. You've got mail. I got really into that for a minute remembering those old. Remember when movies would come out and then we have these like websites and you can play games on them and stuff well. The mummy returns had one where you could see. What you you take this test and it would tell you what you were in a past life and i got dung beetle and i've never forgotten it. I have never forgotten it. I see i mean you've come out on top. Does the news. I guess so. Congratulations proud of you. Thank you thank you man. Yeah i have not a doug beatles young beetle proud of you thanks for being here but yes let's talk about the mummy and all the dung beetles so the mummy is a nineteen ninety nine twenty two years old. We are hold nineteen ninety nine american adventure movie remake of the nineteen thirty two film and it stars asked brendan fraser and rachel and has written and directed by steven summers. Apparently there are all kinds of issues while they filmed in morocco Like snakes and sand storms in yet. No thank you but also how they play into the rise but when the movie came out it was a financial success which is why we have three of them. The critics were so so on it but the audience obviously like us really love it. She know there's like a cartoon series too. So is there. Yeah there's a lot of so. I think it is something in twenty seventeen. Some serious came out so yeah people really really dug it. It's funny because a lot of reviews. I was reading of it. Like recent reviews. Said you know the. Cgi isn't great but it holds up pretty. There's clearly this is obviously for the first one tory asleep when the worst ever so the plot i could again i could just quote the whole movie. I could do the sound effects. I could do it all. But i know that you don't want it so i won't opens in ancient egypt and we learned that an oxygen and moon the faeroes mistress is having an affair with its high priest. Emo tip who's were lower alert is to mummy on one of their forbidden for as the pharaoh catches them making out and they both kill him. The guards are hammering down the door to get in so an oxygen. Moon convinces inventory. Leave telling him to use his abilities to resurrect her so he does Before the guards can arrest. Or knox kills her self image and his priests steeler body and take it to the lost city of the dead hamanaka imitate begins the ritual to bring her back but is interrupted by the message. I who are the pharaoh's bodyguards before he can complete the ritual so as punishment for this image is sentenced to the hyundai which is a punishment. So it's never been used before. Basically he's mummified alive. His tongue is cut out. He's wrapped tightly in bandages. Put an as our caucus and buried alive with those flesh. Eating beetles a curse placed on him to for good measure. That if he's ever brought back he would unleash the seven plagues of egypt. Like destroy everything so to top it off the message. I are sworn to guard him
Happy Hour #358 - Nate Knapper
"Why he started this wides important and how you can be a part of it if you're interested as we talk today. Nate is an attorney and he currently serves as a federal law enforcement officer. He investigates international terrorist laws. Which is now. are we talking about today. But i still think is very cool but he was previously assigned to the department of sex trafficking and that is where his whole journey with the joseph project started. We talked today about his experience and learning about domestic human trafficking. Which if you've never been exposed to the idea that human trafficking happening in our domestic borders. Your eyes are going to be open today. My eyes were open to this years ago. And i have never been the same. We talk today about what domestic sex trafficking is and what it is not which is sometimes helpful just to have some definitions to understand what we're talking about and again. We spent a lot of time talking about his nonprofit called the joseph project and how you can be a part of it as well friends. We are getting towards the end of january and our remind you again about our marriage. Challenge that my husband. Aaron and i are doing together with you and we would love to invite you to join us. If you're interested in join us text the word marriage to five five four four four. We're going to ban text. You back instructions on how you can be a part of this challenge with us and again. We're not experts here. We're just trying to do our best to love our spouses well to cheer for them to before each other. And we want to do that intentionally. And we'd love to provide resources to help you do that as well guys speaking of resources and speaking of marriage i have a very big announcement on monday. Yes a very big announcement comes on monday. It'll be in our newsletter so if you're not subscribe to our newsletter today would be a great day to do that. You can go to jamie ivy dot com slash newsletter. We're sending out a big announcement on monday. So i want you to be a part of it but on normal weeks we send you information on wednesdays and fridays with things that we think you will love and enjoy to know about again everything i mentioned. If you miss any of it you
Storytellers: Edna St. Vincent Millay
"She became a voice for the rebellious postwar generation. Let's talk about edna. St. vincent malay- edna st. Vincent millay was born on february twenty-second eighteen. Ninety two in rockland maine her mother. Cora raised edna and her two sisters largely on her own. Money was always tight but chorus still fed her daughters on a steady diet of art literature. Music and poetry. The oldest of the three girls edna who called herself vincent grew to theatrical teenager. She's spent hours by the sea. Learning the names of local flowers and medicinal herbs wrote prolifically often winning prizes from a local children's poetry magazine. One such poem reads world. I cannot hold the close enough. Thy winds those wide grey skies by the age of nineteen edna held a high school diploma but lacked money for college. She helped manage the household for her sisters and mother in the coastal maine town of camden. She also kept. Writing edna encouraged by her mother submitted. One of her poems to a contest titled rennaissance. It was made up one hundred and seven rhyming couplets. The poem didn't win but it was included in a nineteen twelve anthology called the lyric year. Many agreed at knows work was the standout piece. they also thought it had been written by a much. Older man edna had submitted it under the name evenson malay- later that summer edna recited her now celebrated poem renaissance at a local in in the audience was caroline tao head of the ywca national training school in new york charmed by the young poet's spirit and writing ability. She offered to help edna. Get into college edna. Thrilled chose vassar in nineteen. Thirteen edna headed to new york. Officially enrolling at vassar. She participated in plays and pageants some of her own creation and loved studying the classics. She did not however. Love vassar strict behavioral code. They trust us with everything but men. She wrote in a letter to a friend. After graduation edna move to new york city's greenwich village. It was nineteen seventeen and the lower manhattan neighborhood had begun. Attracting artists radicals and writers from across the world. Edna was all in on the bohemian lifestyle. Joined by her sister. Norma edna wrote poems for popular magazines like vanity fair and began publishing collections of her own. She performed on stage with the province town players undeveloped relationships with both men and women to make ends meet. She also penned short stories and satire under the name. Nancy boyd edna would later describe her time in new york as very very poor and very very mary in nineteen twenty one eager to give her poetry new grass to feed on edna set sail for europe for two years she served as a foreign correspondent for vanity fair publishing two pieces among when edna returned to the us in one thousand nine hundred eighty three. She experienced two major life changes. The i was becoming the second ever winner of the pulitzer prize for poetry for her poetry collection titled the ballad of the harp. Weaver a few figs from diesels eight sonnet in american poetry. The second was meeting her future. Husband eugen von. They married just a few months later in one thousand nine hundred. Five admit answered a newspaper ad selling an abandoned berry farm and austerlitz new york a few hours for manhattan. She named the seven hundred acre. Homestead steeple top. Edna's departure from greenwich village. Surprised her readers. She was after all darling of new york society the author of the iconic quatrieme about living life as a true bohemian. My candle burns at both ends. It will not last night but My foes and oh my friends. It gives a lovely light but aetna was ready to settle down and dedicate herself completely to writing she. Nugent turned steeple. Top into a sort of writers paradise. Pert working farm part artist. Retreat edna wrote in a small shed in the middle of a blueberry field. The couple often hosted elaborate days long parties filled with drinking skinny dipping and theater performances. Physical beauty of upstate. New york proved an endless source. Of inspiration for edna several of her poetry collections including steeple. Top the buck in the snow and fetal interview draw on the brutal lyricism of the natural world. For over a decade edna. And her husband eugen lived somewhat idyllic life at steeple. Top editor. wrote the libretto for an opera set in tenth century. England called the king's henchman on its opening night in nineteen twenty seven it earned seventeen curtain calls the new yorker called it the greatest american opera. So far edna also published six poetry collections. Several long poems and translations of baudelaire's flirt mall but in nineteen thirty. Six edna was involved in a car accident. It left her with chronic arm and back pain and a growing addiction to morphine. That would haunt her for the rest of her life in nineteen forty as world war. Two approached edna became deeply anti pacifist publishing a early written book of propaganda poems. Even her most loyal fans were alienated over the next few years. A series of death would push at towards the edge after the passing of her sister. Kathleen her editor. Jean saxton and her close friend arthur. Fiqh she was admitted to the hospital for mental and emotional exhaustion but the biggest blow was yet to come in one thousand nine hundred forty nine. Edna's husband eugen was diagnosed with lung cancer. He died unexpectedly following surgery. in boston. edna was devastated. She retreated to steeple top refusing to seek guests and unplugging her phone she relied on the postmistress to pay her bills and her handyman to keep up. the property. life without her partner was painful and lonely. But after a few months of mourning edna began to fill her notebooks with writing again. She was commissioned for thanksgiving poem by the saturday evening post and had begun to work on a new poetry. Collection edna was after all a seemingly unstoppable creative force despite a childhood of poverty and lifelong health problems. she'd become the poetic voice of a generation subverting gender norms and revelling in the mundane the bittersweet and the sensual impending romantic works from the perspective of women. She'd made female sexuality viable literary topic but edna's comeback was brief on october. Eighteenth nineteen fifty while home alone. She seemingly slipped and fell down a flight of stairs. She passed away at fifty eight years old crew. Pichu airy red critics agreed the greenwich village in basser plus a gypsy childhood on the rocky coast of maine produced one of the greatest american poets of her time. All month we're talking about storytellers for more on. Why doing what we're doing check out. Our newsletter manica. Weekly follow us on facebook and instagram. At encyclopedia will manica special. Thanks to lose kaplan my favorite sister and co-creator as always will be taking a break for the weekend. Talk to you on monday.
Transition of Power
"Oil. Oh i mean i. I'm really i'm really trying to have like some lake hopeful and happy feelings and focus on the good things focus on the moments. That were actually great from inauguration or like things that felt great by into the last four years. So it's like my migrate. metrics are really off Trying to lean in here. I mean nothing in the pandemic feels real. Even the inauguration like does not feel real. You know so. Am struggling a little bit with that. I have to confess that The night before inauguration. As i was doing my little skin care routine and going to bed excitedly told myself woo lasts a sleep in this regime and for some reason like that made me feel a little bit better and then i woke up the next day i was like no the dread is still here like that has not changed. Yeah i mean that's what's hard about it. I also think that. Like while. I felt a lot of feelings watching soda my or swear in kamala harris and j.lo's say libertad. Who like you know. There's like definitely like listen. Good little moments. There was something about garth brooks where i was like like this is what's happening like this. Air quotes unity. Moment is really struggle for me First of all garth brooks is a king of liberal america everywhere Love garth brooks. And i do think that that's one of the only like moments of genius of this whole thing for me. I was like that's right. Brain garth brooks forward. But i don't know like i since we're talking about the the celebrity moments i i have to say that there is something that was really discombobulating to me about accepting that. Okay sure we need to have a public display of the transition and it has to be like public moment because you cannot let the domestic terrorists win and also you know it's important to like mark transitions of power like i get it. I was like this is why we're doing it but there is something really discombobulating about like okay. You're claiming that this socially distance. I'm seeing the people high five each other. I'm rolling my eyes by the amount of like you know the the return to obama style. It's cool to be a democrat. Now that was on display today and the celebrities just like flooding and flooding. The zone made me really pause for a long time. Or it's like okay Is this necessary. I don't think so like my ideal transition. When i am you know like if i were king in charge of the transition if i were the amy klobuchar of transition this would have been like the roll call at the dnc right. It's like everyone do it from home. Send joe like a you know like a a docu sign. Do everything like please model for us. The behavior that you were asking us to have. But i had a really hard time like justifying all of these like you know famous not essential people being there that was just like that was something that was really hard to rock because one of the gripes that republicans always have that is i would say like ninety five percent dishonest but is rooted in a little bit of like honest. Truth is this charge of elitism and favoritism that happens on on on our side of politics. And today i was like no people are correct. We're telling everyone else that they have to stay at home to save lives. And you know it's it's essential that you only relieve your house or do xyz. And i'm like that is the case. Do i really need to hear. Let's get loud. At the inauguration you do you do not definitively you do not so that was. That was something that was like it was really. It was really hard. And i know that i'm like it can seem like such an empty complaint when we've been through the nightmare of the last four years but it's something that i definitely like took note of and i was like i don't feel good my body about this and i don't feel good about i. Just don't feel good about a return to you. Know like four years ago status quo because that was also knock grain. Yeah and it's interesting. Because like i do feel that it's important to have a moment. That feels like that feels big enough to feel like a moment for something like like this presidential transition. I actually think it was the right call to have a thing at all. But you're absolutely right about like who really needs to be here for that like we're used to doing all things on zoom now. We're used to like tight. Shot in like where there are not that many people in the room like it would have been totally fine to just be like okay. This is the people getting sworn in and the people doing the swearing in. And that's pretty much it. You know what i mean like. It does it. It didn't feel like it had more fanfare. Like oh my god like the field of flags or whatever like the things designed to make it like you know feel full. I was just like we don't need. We don't need that. I do appreciate a moment. But you're absolutely right. Like we did not need like a whole slate of performances. And i will say about some of the moments like i was definitely very effective and very touch anything. It was very important that there was an acknowledgement. That four hundred thousand people in this country have died in the pandemic and watching political leaders. Really take a moment to mark. That i was like.
WHEN YOU MET HIM HE WAS LIVING IN A STORAGE UNIT?
"Hey fuckers went up. Its christina hutchinson and karen fisher your about to listen to a clip from our show. Guys we fought the anti slut shaming podcasts with today's guests comedian and podcast host of good time. Gal caitlyn palu photo if you wanna listen to more of this incredible episode about drinking and about beaded products for larger women and about being stuck about getting fucked. Why firefighter is mean to you. You should just be like by later. You're going gonna head over to luminary. Podcast dot com where you can get a subscription of for as little as two ninety nine a month and you can hear other incredible voices. Like those of lena dunham roxane gay michael rapaport and russell brand. Thank you yeah. I worked at a restaurant. So i like so fans little fancier got a lot of free food Mostly because i was sleeping with a lot of the line cooks exclusive. Just they just give you the gnocchi when you sleep with them. So i can use okay and it was just like three years of just blacking out five days a week so fun. How now. how many line cooks did you fuck. I think five what you kaitlyn how. There's only four online line was shared one. This restaurant i worked at the same place for like six years. I died you know fun. How convenient that all those guys to fuck in one place and they're right there right there. They're gonna come back. You know where they work two blocks away from my work so literally just didn't bring the restaurant no class. Sorry sorry thank you yeah. It doesn't seem to fuck in the restaurant. Now you want a refill on your diet coke cocaine and the restaurant bar so much you drink deli container lexi. Exactly right restaurant. I know. I'm obsessed with restaurant culture and all i watch us food network right. I mean even when they're doing beep bobby flay. they'll do. Dull have a tequila. Shot out of delhi container little containers golic's for shirks coke. Coke gotta stay awake. Did you ever Who is the best line cook. And why in my last boyfriend dating dated to i mean i really just. That's nice type. And nothing sexier than a man who can cook that is i love it after dating a man who could not cook coming and i was like. I have to warn you in these times. Okay creek cold out. Went away actually good scare you re scaring me back. So e. So you dated. Wow so these are just not casual fox that well i mean a few of them were what what was the first one the first one who was the first one. I think it might have been billy He was technically. He was an oyster shuckers and a barbeque. Everything about the thank you. He was very very nice guy. No complaints about billy be he gave me. Hp it's not he won't know the doctors don't care it's not legal. Chad have a problem with that one. When he specifically gave the example of things. You couldn't say about a person by name he's like you can't say they gave you an sti if you're not sure that was literally example. He he's like well. Let me give these horror. Something that you legally understand belly did not give me. Hp how about that. Short ted a bleep bleep. He might have been the first one. And then i hooked up with. Oh i've even ivan was hard very young. I was like twenty six and he was twenty. One yeah yes. That was a see well. We dated for like six six months. My i was like that's a huge came up yesterday. We we dated for like six months but he didn't really speak very good english now. Plus or minus. It was a minus. It turned out to be a minus women doing it a lot. But you see men doing it all and damn times. I want a woman who does not speak. My language literally doesn't speak my language put. The problem is not so much that that you know. The person doesn't speak english as much as the other person doesn't speak whatever language. The other person doesn't want to understand that and tried to do like rosetta stone. To learn a little spanish already knew spanish because i took it in high school but it was still a barrier and he was so sweet who i have. Nothing bad to say about them but then We broke up because we couldn't communicate. How do you describe with you. Get out of a four year. Relationship goes celebrate for three months. And then you look at ivan who is a very man. let's figure it out actual loss no sub spanish to get an idea of your house. I know he started working at the restaurant when he was younger. To like. nine thousand nine hundred and then he turned twenty one and then like two days later. I just like fell on his stick. Fun wow that was great. Did he what he broke up with him was. He sat or very sad. He moved to chicago. No kaelin after. You broke the night that night. You're thinking what can i know. We need more. So he's a very sweet guy When he drinks a lot he can sometimes want to get into fights and so one night he got. You're saying he's a sweet guy like your mail. He's a sweet guy. he's like he but they would always be like bar fights who would get a little aggressive. And i think he just like it was sad. You know everybody anyway. He's like a very nice guy and then one time he got in a fight and he just didn't come to work and you got no no no he got into a fight and we were already on the downslope lake. I knew this wasn't going to be forever. And and so. He knew the next big conversation we have. You missed it kinda. Yeah gosh on the chopping block. K